Changing Ourselves

[Rebdragon]

Tim, kudos to you. I must say that it's quite disturbing that you figured out the exact same thing I did in high school, paragraphs of thought verbatim.

 

 

 

If there's anything I've learned, it's that you shouldn't try and change who you are- it just doesn't work, and it's unhealthy. All you can really do is improve your skills and confidence.

[Tim]

I believe that wanting to change your image is more of an immaturity issue. I did that when I was around 12-13 and it made my life miserable. My advice, be yourself and be happy for who you are :thumbup: .

 

I dunno, people go thru changes not only to improve their life, but to feel different and live differently.

 

 

 

But yeah, just be more confident, focus on your goals and dont let people get to ya.

 

 

 

Body-wise im trying to get a 6 pack because all my life i've always been labeled as weak (Souly because I never fight anyone without a VERY good reason.) so they've never seen my other side. plus it works good on my self-confidence and to not be shy so much. :wall:

[Rebdragon]

It's good that you want a six pack, but don't get too goal oriented about it. Go to the gym and workout for more than just "getting a six pack" or "getting ripped", go for the daily rewards, like stress relief, improved mood, and overall just feeling physically better. Trust me, you'll actually stick with it that way, and thus become one of the few men among Lord knows how many who want a six pack, and actually get it.

 

 

 

Oh, and workout everything. Nothing looks more awkward than a guy with ripped abs who can barely bench 80 lbs.

[Racheya]

I want to change myself. I'm fun and excitable and outgoing but only when I'm around the few friends I have. I need to become more outgoing and change myself like that but in my mind I know that people don't change...

 

 

 

My thoughts generally switch between 'Why am I spending this time on the computer, what's the point?', 'If this is what I want to do, then I'll do it.' 'Things are going to change when I go to uni.' 'Things won't change when I go to uni.' 'What is the point of all this? Why don't I just kill myself now to get it done with.' :wall: Why can't I be mindlessly happy and my life have the sole meaning of catching up with gossip and hanging around on street corners? :wall:

[Zierro]

My thoughts generally switch between 'Why am I spending this time on the computer, what's the point?', 'If this is what I want to do, then I'll do it.' 'Things are going to change when I go to uni.' 'Things won't change when I go to uni.' 'What is the point of all this? Why don't I just kill myself now to get it done with.' :wall: Why can't I be mindlessly happy and my life have the sole meaning of catching up with gossip and hanging around on street corners? :wall:

 

 

 

Too many questions. That could be the problem.

 

 

 

Oh and I know this sounds like a troll post, but I'm serious. Don't worry about how you're living your life that much - just live it. Things should come naturally.

[Returned3]

The girl I like thinks I'm disgusting.

 

 

 

Yea, still pondering on what to do. As of now I really enjoy my life in what I do and I wonder if it's worth changing for a girl. And I do not do stuff that annoys/angers people, I'm just the geeky wrestling fan that plays Runescape in class.

[Zierro]

Yea, still pondering on what to do. As of now I really enjoy my life in what I do and I wonder if it's worth changing for a girl.

 

 

 

Being alone sucks... that is until you realize how much you miss it after you've had a ball and chain tied to your feet for a few months. But, if you dump her, you'll miss not being lonely. It's a cycle of dissatisfaction. Relationships.. :|

[unkn0wnwarrior]

Be yourself, be true to yourself and be who you are and you will be a shining star.

 

This always has worked for me. I have never tried to be something I'm not yet I was amazingly popular in school. I'm not saying I was the "cool kid" but I had more friends than anyone could have predicted. Even today, most of my coworkers seem to enjoy working with me, and have even invited me out to their after work get togethers. I didn't go, though, since I don't drink and that's all they do.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Highschool sucks, I took alot of [cabbage] in highschool for my interests but I stayed true to the friends I have and used some advice that still sticks true to this day "who cares what other people think".

 

So true. Unfortunately, the only way to survive high school is to be a [puncture]. It's either that or get walked on. I learned the hard way.

 

I never had problems in high school, and I was not a [puncture]. Maybe my school was tame? But I live by those words that Das used... "who cares what other people think"?

 

 

 

As for me changing myself, I have slowly changed over the years since school ended for me. I went from never speaking to speaking a little. I didn't intend to change, but it happened. I would never try to force any non-physical changes. Physically, I have gained strength but nothing else.

[fastortoise]

Oh, and workout everything. Nothing looks more awkward than a guy with ripped abs who can barely bench 80 lbs.

 

Those guys with their skinny arms and crazy six packs at the beaches are so weird.. I think it's the prominent rib cage that makes them look off.

 

 

 

On topic, I think improving yourself (which, according to recent posts, should be the topic title) is always a good idea. It doesn't necessarily mean you're drastically changing who you are - just making you better. This improvement after birth really fascinates me. Instead of country leaders deciding to 'make' the perfect 'race' by eugenics, they could implement programs for self-improvement instead, which would be much more successful.

[Mirror]

I don't understand how people say changing your personality is impossible or that I can't willingly change it. I have done it myself. I made the decision at the end of Jr. High to change how I was viewed, my own character traits, the whole she-bang. By the time I got into University 4 years later, I looked back and saw the radical difference in my life. Every year I progressed and eventually and almost totally different than who I was.

 

 

 

Now the question is, do I enjoy this change in my life? For the most part, yes, I savor it every day I can. But then there is the part of me that longs to wonder what I was to be if I didn't change myself, what kind of path I could have taken, etc. But my philosophy on life is that everything happens for a reason, so I know there this is who i was supposed to be and I continue walking on my path.

 

 

 

Now when people say they want to change over the summer, that is high hopes. For me, it took a good 4 years to notice majorly in my life. I am still changing, I don't think it will stop. I hope it does soon, (after a few tweaks) but I hope one understands where I am coming from. One can make a change, you just need the heart and want to change it. Also time is another thing. One summer isn't even to pull a 180. Maybe it can help cut bad habits or maybe a mind set or two, but it is still possible to change.

 

 

 

Side note - I never did realize how many comments about self-confidence there were. I look at my change and that was something that did change, I just failed to realize it. Haha.