Well first of all you're 13, you may be mature in those aspects you describe, but if you really were mature you would realize that relationships aren't everything. You claim to be intelligent and athletic, so instead of trying to pursue girls, why not just focus on school assignments and sports activities? I think I can confidently say that most girls are not thinking about having sex at your age. At this time, you should be increasing your pool of friends, so it becomes less awkward when changing schools. If you have friends to hang out with, then that is one way of spending your time "productively." Also, it wouldn't hurt for you to befriend some girls for more then the purpose of sex. You can't expect to have intimate relations with a girl right after you meet her. These things take time, and being 13, you will have plenty of it. I wholeheartedly realize that relationships are not everything, and that overall success is more important. I feel the need to go beyond school assignments(I scored highest possible in language arts standardized testing, AP for math) and sports(I run track, exercise in a school fitness club). The reason I desire a relationship is so I can have someone to trust/talk to while returning the favor. Let me stress that sex is not what I desire the most(there has to be some to be normal). I do in fact have female friends that I would never associate with sex. I need to go beyond and I need it to be something positive, unlike drugs(which I have thought about).