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Baby don't hurt me In all seriousness, I agree. Love and lust have very little to do with each other.

I'm reading everything. Do you apply these harsh absolutes to other relationships you have? (Non-romantic ones). Because like Kim said, all relationships are give and take. The only possible way to maintain a relationship like you've described is if you really don't care about people at all. Would you give such absolutes to your parents, for instance?

I DEMAND EXCLUSIVITY

I remember your post, and it was somewhat correct. The dynamics of marriage have changed, yes, but humans have been changing since the beginning of time. Now is no different. Of course, because marriages that happened after 1990 haven't been long enough to qualify...

There are millions of marriages existing pre-1990. And I imagine at least some of them are "happy". I assure you my beliefs about monogamy are not in the slightest based on "what I see on TV". Here's an article you may find interesting (in particular, that stable happy marriages have a direct tie to life-span): http://www2.macleans.ca/2012/10/04/the-secrets-to-a-long-life-and-a-bigger-salary-and-why-nice-guys-do-finish-first/ So I assume you don't plan to live with any of your future girlfriends?

I don't remember saying that :?

How long is "long ago"? It's convenient that it takes a long time to determine whether or not a marriage will actually be a lifelong success, so you can continue to use this misleading point. I'm curious to know what your source is for your "low sex drives" statement? Have you been observing the bedroom activities of long-term married couples? I'd also like to know what will be different with your scenario. I know you don't want to have kids - will you not watch tv with (one of) your significant others? Will you not sit on the couch and do nothing? Or do you expect to be constantly entertained?

Have my babies obfuscator 1:1

Let me ask you a simple question. Are there instances of monogamy lasting forever(lifelong)? It's a yes or no question.

suddently, h2pm

I don't much like the idea of lawyers in politics to be honest.

Not to mention that if you can be emotionally mature in a polyamorous relationship you can be exactly the same in a monogamous one.

On the contrary, I think you're betting just as much on polyamory. It's not a guarantee of happiness.

@muggi: your issue is not that you think polyamory is superior to monogamy, it's that you have no conception of the fact that monogamy can and does work. You keep parroting the phrase "unkeepable promise" when it comes to exclusivity in a monogamous relationship; but you're ignoring the absolute fact that many people can and do keep the promises they've made to be exclusive in a monogamous relationship. You keep acting like your mindset is that of some superior, enlightened being who somehow knows that polyamory is the only way to acheive happiness, and that monogamy can never be successful - and then when the fact is pointed out to you that many people do acheive and mantain succesful exclusive monogamous relationships your only defence is to claim that despite all appearances to the contrary, you know, with your enlightened mind, that such people aren't actually happy. It's that which is so annoying about your polyamory crusade - you've taken it to the point where you're so convinced your theories are correct that you ignore fact completely.

Just because someone is willing to cheat doesn't mean you should facilitate it...

I think hitting on someone who has a boyfriend is a dick move regardless of whether or not they're into it.

does having over 9000 posts on an internet forum increase my SMV?????

I don't care where american cars are made, but I wouldn't call electric cars fuel-less.

Elaborate?

I was making a bad joke about the steering wheel :P

WTF THE WHEEL IS ON THE WRONG SIDE

Perhaps he meant not traditional?

Because you're too beautiful to need relationship advice

Oh sorry, I was talking to Noxx.

Agreed with muggi. Lying just makes things worse, and you've already done that....