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What's an ass-hand?

Have you read the part where they have sex yet?? Wait, that book is about sex? I thought it was about a colorblind guy :?

I won't go in depth like muggi already has, but I want to add that this concept of "the real you" is nonexistent and just serves as a crutch for you to deal with your guilt. Who you are is how you act, and if you act like a douche...well, sorry to break it to you, but "the real you" is a douche. That's not to say you can't change who you are; you can and should. Respect? Quite honestly, I don't really respect any of the regulars on this thread. The people who post here are generally so emotionally insecure that all advice is pretty much wasted anyway. This shouldn't be called the "relationship advice" thread really, it should be called "the relationship sympathy thread", because that's really all anyone wants around here. Anyway, there's my little rant.

The Avengers. As far as superhero movies go it was okay. Still not very good though. 5.5/10

The Silence of the Lambs: 7.5/10. Not my kind of movie but very well done. And Jodie Foster.....mmmmmhm.

And have you thought that perhaps going with "whatever you want" "blatantly recklessly" may have some affect on your future ability to lead a "vanilla white bread life"?

It's not a good thing...I don't know why you're proud of it. You claim to want a successful marriage yet you like girls who are "bat shit crazy". It's marriages like that which are basically doomed to divorce.

Independence day - not as good as people have made it out to be. 6.5/10 Cast Away - odd movie, but still good. 7.5/10

Our team is 3-3 also, despite half of us leaving mid season. Been scrimming with some UGC plat and esea open guys, might try to do open next season...

Apparently donald trump will donate 5m to charity if obama releases his college records and some other crap. Can't believe he's still flogging that dead horse lol. And even if obama was born in kenya it's a stupid rule in the first place.

don't worry, after a few days of seeing you prance around your apartment naked i'm sure they'll leave of their own accord :P

In a team sport the game rarely relies on one player - so by nature doping will not be as effective. But players in the big 4 leagues are subjected to drug tests.

I didn't say marriages today are more likely to succeed (the statistics clearly show otherwise). What I meant now is that due to the equality a marriage that is actually successful may well contain a much stronger bond than one in the past when, like you said, many women were not treated equally.

Just watched The Usual Suspects. Quite good. 8/10

Does it bring distrust into the relationship? I don't know - it might. And while that's probably more of an emotional reaction than a logical one there is some logic in the idea that having a backup plan means you aren't completely sure that the original plan will succeed. It's one kind of sacrifice...but however you want to look at it is fine.

That depends. If she really "can't understand why I'd want it", then that shows a complete inability to think logically, and I wouldn't be dating her in the first place. Yes, I realize there are risks associated with it. Not if your happiness comes through your partner's happiness.

Why are you undecided? Why do you want to co-own your assets? On the one hand, a pre-nup is obviously a good idea in the event of a divorce, which is of course a possibility in any marriage. On the other hand, I wonder if requesting it shows an element of mistrust in your partner....like I said I haven't made a firm decision about it. I'd want to discuss it with my future SO. I want to co-own my assets because I think there are financial benefits to doing so. Being able to easily pool assets give you more financial power, and having it centralized means decisions can be made more efficiently. I do realize there are certain issues that can arise because of this - and as a result I expect my partner to be as financially responsible as I am. I believe that you can tell whether or not someone will change their behavior towards you by looking at their personality. I've seen countless couples that are destined to fail or have already failed because their personality gave away that they were not truly committed to their partner. Likewise I have seen many people who are truly committed to their partner and will always put them first, no matter what.

Actually, I'm content with no sex at all. Yes, I'm still planning on traditional marriage. Yes, I'm planning on living with someone for the rest of my life. I'm undecided about a pre-nup. I imagine I will want to co-own the majority of my assets. Your last two questions are difficult to answer with no context. I'm entirely prepared to do what she wants to do if it makes sense, and I won't marry a woman who wouldn't do the same for me. Do you really think I've never thought about these questions?

Those are nothing but stereotypes.

Entirely possible, but the same question is just as valid when directed at the polyamorous.

That crowd is probably the only crowd that can afford them...

I don't agree with with that. I think that increased equality has made successful marriages slightly more difficult, and much more rewarding. But the biggest changes, I think, took place in the early 20th century rather than the 90's....and millions of lifelong marriages have happened since.

If that's what soft nexting means, I do it all the time. (Although I don't ignore people, I'll ignore the issue) My point is that it's entirely possible to avoid drama in a monogamous relationship the same way you claim you do. And stop with the "before 1990" point - it's such a crutch. There was no great enlightenment where all women sundenly refused traditional gender roles on a specific date. The way men and women view each other is constantly changing - women have been held in much higher esteem in some ancient societies than they are today, and vice versa.

So there would never be a need to give them the ultimatum that they were affecting your happiness and risked being cut off? So why can't the same thing happen in a monogamous relationship? In fact, it strikes me as odd that your parents would be so mature with you but then immediately act like children when dealing with each other....which must be the case, as if I understand your points correctly such unnecessary drama is unavoidable in monogamous relationships.

So how do you approach relationships with your parents if they "introduce unnecessary drama"?