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Don't think I've ever posted here... First job was delivering papers. Second job was working as a cashier/cook/eventually assistant manager at a pizza place. After that I worked in the automotive parts section of a Canadian Tire (hardware store for those non-canadians) I worked as an intern/junior programmer for a local municipal government after that. And currently I'm a programmer analyst for a trucking company. HOORAY

I'm just basing my questions on what you've said in the past. You've said that you're not interested simply in flings, but in romantic relationships. What is a romantic relationship to you? Is it the kind of relationship where you spend a large amount of time with someone and do things together? Or is it simply having sex once a week? That's what your previous post seems to imply - and I don't see the difference between that and a simple FWB.

It's also quite feasible to need own more than one gun. Most avid hunters will probably have at least one shotgun and a rifle, for instance.

My love knows No Limits, y_guy :P Basically as long as I can get laid whenever I want, without seeing the same girl twice a week, I'm happy. So 3-4 girls is pretty much a bare minimum requirement. So you want to be romantic with them while never seeing them more than once a week? Sounds like FWB, not an actual relationship...

Do you have a magic number, then? Is there some limit to the number of people you can realistically maintain a relationship with?

Is four your "magic number", muggi?

Liberal Arts. I'll possibly go there if I don't get accepted to UNC Chapel Hill. Cool, congrats on getting in. If you do end up going there, and have any questions about anything, let me know. How the hell do you people deal with the weather? Please tell me this. Two main things to help with cold weather: 1) suck it up 2) grow a pair

?? Of course. But a minority, not a majority. Debt affects people of all ages. Many people are still in debt throughout their middle age and even into their old age. Emotional maturity has very little to do with age, period. I agree that men's peak physical attractiveness is probably later than women's. "Taking care of yourself" is not something that specifically affects a certain age group. There are people who take care of themselves at our age, and people who take care of themselves at older ages. But there are some biological changes that are going to happen regardless of how much you take care of yourself. Not to mention that as you age and your metabolism slows down, achieving the same fitness goals you had as a twenty year old takes exponentially more work.

If I couldn't use contraception (assuming you're including the "pull out method" which doesn't require condoms or the pill or anything :P), I would probably remain single until I researched my "options" to choose the best choice for my long-term happiness. You do realise that semenal release occurs prior to orgasm and the "pull out method" is nothing but male fantasy in terms of contraception, don't you? :blink: That's not entirely true...not that it's effective, but it does lessen the chances. Just clarifying.

And when it comes to having kids? Are you going to be able to find a woman who wants to have kids with you when you've made (relatively) no commitment to her? Oh? Then why? Yes, because in the long term someone your own age is going to be able to provide for you all your life. A sixty year old will provide for you for twenty years, and then die. They won't leave you enough to provide for yourself unless they are (like I said) filthy rich. Older men are physically less attractive. And growing old is not an immediate confidence boost, nor is it a guarantee of success. Things that make men appealing don't necessarily come with age. As an aside, just a question for you. Would you still engage in a polyamorous lifestyle if you couldn't use contraception?

You've also said it wasn't an ideal situation for living in polyamorous relationships as it ties you down - something you're apparently trying to avoid by avoiding monogamy. I never said it was impossible, I said it was unlikely. The logic of what people want and why people enter relationships is against your theory that you're going to be pulling hot young women as an old man. The main reason young women enter into relationships with older men is for security purposes - and (like I said) unless you have become extremely rich you aren't going to be able to offer them the kind of security a young (and sexually attractive) man will be able to. If they're only looking for a fling, then why would they deliberately chose someone who isn't attractive when they likely have their pick of people in their age group? I'll add that 50 shades is a bad example: the woman is 22 and the man is 27. Hardly matching your situation...

You admitted in an earlier post that your polyamorous lifestyle is not suitable for raising children. You also are (still) under this constant delusion that you're going to be pulling 24 year old models as a sixty year old man. Unless you become very rich and famous your odds of that happening are low....much lower than your chance at a successful marriage, for instance.

And you aren't by choosing not to? What if you turn fifty, suddenly change your mind, and decide you want to have kids?

Responsible gun ownership also can help prevent incidents like that. Children should not have access to guns even if the parents own them - in fact the canadian firearms training course (which is mandatory for anyone wanting a PAL) has an entire section on socially responsible gun ownership.

It seems to me that choosing someone with morals and ideals necessary to sustain a happy marriage over someone who puts their sexual gratification ahead of all else is the the definition of a rational decision based on granting long-term happiness.

All of that is irrelevant. If she (or he) has made a commitment to monogamy, that's a commitment they should keep.

How is her boyfriend responsible for her cheating?

That's like saying only the person pulling the trigger is responsible for the murder, not the guy who set it up and planned everything.

I agree that I don't think you should immediately write people off. But I disagree that you should bang anyone who seems remotely interested.

People who had premarital sex also used to be socially ostracized...that was probably a contributing factor.

Watched Rust and Bone. Great movie - 9/10

Agreed, which is what I'd have done...but some of the reactions on here made it seem like these people were encouraging her to join the KKK or something equally ridiculous.

Of course. Yet she's clearly already made a decision, so rather than using facebook to lecture her about her lack of judgement, you might as well be positive.

God forbid anyone offer encouragement or positivity to someone going through a difficult time...

Seems a little overzealous to accuse him of that when his only point was that most gun related deaths are not from assault rifles.