muggiwhplar

I don't know if it's fair to say you have NO control. Extremely minimal control, sure (at least from a single vote perspective). When you add in the effect you can have from volunteering/campaigning/running, it can be significant. Extremely minimal, yeah, that's my point. I'd draw the opposite conclusion as you, though... when you factor in volunteering and campaigning, you, as an individual, have a very insignificant amount of control. When it comes to anything you want out of life, there's direct options and indirect options to pursue what you want. Direct options mean that you can achieve what you want by yourself. Indirect options mean you have to make someone else do what is necessary to get what you want. If you feel that taxes are too high, an indirect option would be to start a campaign to lower taxes. A direct option would be to do a bit of research and look for ways to avoid having to pay them. Or if you join a club and its rules and activities change such that you no longer enjoy the club, you can try to change the minds of enough members such that the club returns to its previously enjoyable conditions (indirect)... or you can just quit the club to find a better one (direct) The bottom line is: whenever you join a group in hopes of getting something you want, you're pursuing an indirect option. You're hoping that the other people in the group will all act in ways that will benefit you. But since each of the group's members has their own individual goals and their own means of achieving those goals, the result will never simply be a multiplication of your own strength and personal interests So yeah... that's why I look for solutions to obstacles on my own rather than trying to join or organize a group to solve them :P

FTFY shieeeeet u got me

eh that's irrelevant to me since afaik I have no control over what goes on in the world of politics, so there's no point in worrying about it. better to worry about the things I can personally control myself w/o having to influence other people

am I the only one who goes out of his way to remain blissfully ignorant about politics :D

I've never really felt that way, but then again I'm a bit of a pariah among my friends and that's something I became used to long ago :) A lot of my friends changed (for the worse) after college graduation. They started working 9-5 in cubicles as "financial analysts" and they all got engaged to their significant others and gained a lot of weight :P For a while they gave me a few odd looks, wondering why I wasn't in a rush to settle down or why I didn't want the security of a 9-5 job (I went into 100% commission sales instead). But now I think they're gradually beginning to realize why I chose the path that I did :D It's kind of sad and frustrating seeing them place such a low value on their major life decisions, and gradually become depressed as a result of it, but that's what happens when you don't have specific long-term goals... There's the friend of mine who keeps dipping his toe into the online dating world but hasn't been on a date in 2 years and is still a virgin. Whenever he asks me for advice, his response to my advice is, "But I shouldn't have to do that!" So he will continue to remain a virgin w/o any dates. There's the friend of mine who's been working 80 hours/week now for the past few years with no signs of letting up, constantly stressed out. I ask him what his career goal is-- why is he working so hard. He says his only goal right now is to "work less hours." I tell him that's not a goal. A goal is "to work 40 hours a week, while still making X money per year, by June 2016." I ask him what he'd be willing to sacrifice and prioritize in order to achieve a goal like that, he doesn't know. So he will continue to work 80 hours/week for the next several years until he sits down and makes up his mind about his future. There's the friend of mine who's starting to get successful at dating, but he doesn't know what he wants as far as relationships go. He doesn't know if he just wants to mess around, or if he wants a serious non-exclusive relationship, or if he wants to get traditionally married. So he sleeps with a girl and the next day she calls him and demands to know "what are we?" He doesn't know, he hurts her feelings because he's been leading her on. He calls me and tells me about how bad he feels for hurting her feelings... because he has no goals and failed to set up the proper expectations with her upfront. That's just a few of them, there's about a dozen more friends/stories like that haha. Oh well, they'll learn some day :P

just got solicited a 3some on OKCupid by a dude :(

yeah I was watching youtube for at least half an hour. I kept getting text messages from AT&T warning me that I was nearing my limit but I assumed they were just spam texts from someone else and ignored them lol

got charged $20 because I forgot to turn my wifi back on while watching youtube videos in bed. feelsbadman

In other news... On OKC whenever I message a girl I "hide" her profile from my search results since there's no point in having her pop up again if I've already messaged her. Sometimes I'll be left with only unattractive girls on my search results so I hide them too. Interestingly, as soon as I hide the last girl so there's 0 girls left in the search results, suddenly OKC will show me about a dozen new girls I've never seen before >_> I've yet to run out of hot women to message by abusing this lol

i dont get it :(

Go get an on-campus cashiering job and/or join a club. Also read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Cold approaching people to make friends when your social skills haven't matured doesn't sound very effective

can anyone recommend any fun, easy-to-learn co-op ps3 games? my brother and I already beat portal 2 and little big planet 2. we don't live near each other so split screen isn't an option. we tried borderlands 2 but it was too complicated.

I have to Fix Or Repair Daily

About to start shopping for a new car since mine is no longer reliable. Had my mustang for about 10 years now. It's nearing 150k miles and it keeps breaking down :\

Pretty much this. Good job touching/kissing her and asking for her number. Bad job doing romantic stuff like watching the sunset w/ a girl who you haven't slept with yet-- you kinda just friend zoned yourself by doing girly, wimpy shit like that lol Was her idea. Not mine. She invited me inside the day I walked her home, but you know, sleeping with a drunk girl is bad on so many levels. in the future if a girl suggests stupid stuff like that, just say no :D

Pretty much this. Good job touching/kissing her and asking for her number. Bad job doing romantic stuff like watching the sunset w/ a girl who you haven't slept with yet-- you kinda just friend zoned yourself by doing girly, wimpy shit like that lol

be more specific, you're probably doing something wrong :P

I dont think I'll be hearing back from her. I think I should've declined her offer to go back to her place, and instead gone for the 2nd date lay. I think since we didnt hook up on the first date, that ship has sailed. Oh well :|

yeah that's probably why I went home w/ blue balls D:

ended up going out with this girl last night. met her at a "kava" bar (her suggestion). drank some weird stuff that tasted like dirt water. she had dark hair in her OKC profile pic but when we met up she'd dyed her hair blonde. she asked me if I liked her hair, I gave her the usual too-cool-for-school "meh, ask me again later :)" response while I ran my fingers through her hair. I didn't really do a whole lot of touching on this date-- maybe I was just exhausted or maybe it was the dirt water but I was a lot quieter and chill than I normally am on my dates. I guess it worked out for the better. there were a lot of silences in the conversation, we didn't really talk a whole lot. I was kind of zoning out so the silences didn't bother me, I'd just wait for her to try and continue the conversation. I asked her the usual, "so have you been dating a lot or a little lately?" then I asked her when her last serious relationship was, how long it lasted, etc. Then I asked her if the sex got boring after a while, if he made her [bleep] very often, how she usually cums, what her favorite positions are, etc. I could tell she was getting turned on talking about that stuff. She asked me if I was a "sexual person." uhh, yeah! she asked me if I was just looking for sex, I told her a relationship w/o sex isn't a very healthy relationship she agreed. After a few moments of silence, she said, "Whew, well I'm glad we talked about this! :)" I looked at her again and ran my fingers through her hair and moved her hair so I could touch her earrings and asked her about them while I caressed her ear. She gave me a look and said, "I kinda wanna get out of here." I agreed, she asked me what I wanted to do. she'd been talking about how much she loves horror movies earlier so I said "let's go watch a horror movie." she asked where, I said my place. She said ok. :D I went to the bathroom and came back, she proposed we go to her house instead. I agreed, she started rubbing my shoulder and then we headed out and I followed her back to her place. got to her place, I played w/ her pet bird for a little bit, then we went out on her balcony and she put her arm around me so I kissed her for a little bit... except I was about to pee my pants so I awkwardly was like "so uh where's your bathroom :D" I used her bathroom and that annoying thing happened where two streams of piss came out so I was like peeing all over her toilet, on the floor, on her bathtub, on my face, etc. had to wipe it all up afterwards. I made myself lol ANYWAYS. sat next to her on the couch while she put on a scary movie. since we'd already been touching and I'd already briefly kissed her I pretty much just grabbed her and started making out w/ her as soon as the movie started. everytime I'd go for her boob she'd resist, though. so I'd just go back to watching the movie until she'd try and make out again. Eventually the movie was over and I wasn't getting anywhere so I said "it's getting late, I should head out." she tried kissing me again before I left, so I figured "Alright maybe now I'll get somewhere" nope. still didn't make any progress. so I was about to head out and she invited me to stay the night. once again I was thinking, "alright maybe now I'll get somewhere" nope. we're in bed together and she's cuddling against me, falling asleep. ffffuuuuu-- I have vivid flashbacks to my inexperienced youth when I was in the same situation. As much as I'd love to spend the night cuddling with her since she's really hot, I've learned that that's the kiss of death lol. she's going to be an FB which means spending the night is BAAAAAD and I don't want to lead her on. so I just get up out of bed and say "I'm really not that tired, I'm gonna go home so I'm not stuck laying awake for the next couple of hours." she says ok. I give her a kiss goodbye and then I head out. she was giving me this "I'm so into you" look when I left her place. feels good man. got a text from her while I was driving home, "you left one of your condoms here." I respond "lol whoops." I'll shoot her a text later today and try to meet up w/ her again either tomorrow or monday Things that worked: - running my fingers through her hair - remaining relaxed and non-needy, almost to the point where I was just completely apathetic - getting her talking about her sex life and her sexual preferences, in detail - pitching the horror movie instead of just going to a bar or something stupid - assuming that she's interested in me - being unapologetically sexual

Had a first date from OKC and she invited me back to her place. :D just got home

just got a text from a girl "hey muggi it's Alyssa. so i definitely thought you meant next week and I just saw this and you probably think I'm the literal worst" WOW. what a [bleep]. so sick and tired of this shit. lol jk, I don't remember which one she is >_> Yeah I definitely need to go back to using my calendar :lol:

I used to always keep my dates on my spreadsheet, idk why I stopped using it. I guess I just overestimated my memory lol

Accidentally flaked on a girl-- totally forgot I had a date tonight. She had to drive like 30 minutes to come to my part of town too >_>

I saw two spiders mating outside my apartment this morning... the male got eaten afterwards. That's a bummer. It made me wonder what that male spider was thinking-- if the night before, he was out at the bars w/ his spider buddy... "Hey man, so I think I'm finally gonna mate with Sally tomorrow!" "What? Are you [bleep]ing insane? Haven't you seen the stats? 99% of guys get EATEN by their mates!" "Naw, man. That won't happen to me. Sally's special. She's not like all the other lady spiders..."