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it's real

I never said it never happens. I said it happens rarely, which means it's not a big deal when it does happen. However, if you live in a special part of the world or have special traveling habits which makes sitting next to an extremely obese person a common occurrence for you, then obviously you either need to get used to it or change what you're doing such that this happens less often.

I don't think I've ever sat next to anyone who was so large they began to occupy my seat as well

But the odds are very low that the person next to you is so obese that they occupy two plane seats.

With that logic you could invalidate almost every problem we have in the modern world. "You're hungry because you didn't eat breakfast this morning? Well sometimes your ancestors might have gone weeks without a meal!" "You're annoyed that the government is spying on you through the phones and internet? You should be thankful that you're able to carry access to all the world's knowledge in your pocket!" "You've been shot? Well if you were shot before the 20th century if you survived the almost inevitable infection then you probably would have lost a limb!" I think you're forgetting the first half of my post. You only remind yourself that things could be worse when the discomfort you're currently experiencing is temporary and statistically improbable-- like sitting next to an obese person on a plane. If you're hungry because you didn't eat breakfast, that's probably your fault and you're making mountains out of molehills. If you're angry about government surveillance, it's your fault that you're angry and you can either move out of the country or learn to accept it (or do what everyone else does and try to petition against it, remaining angry and unhappy for years and years) I don't think that complaining about getting shot is even remotely similar to complaining about sitting next to a fat person for a few hours :P That kind of proves my point though since it's such an extreme example.

Here's the solution to the obese passenger dilemma: Ask yourself: what are the odds that you will be forced to sit next to someone so obese that they occupy more than one seat on your next flight? Would you bet money that your next flight will be next to an obese passenger? If the answer is no, and you somehow get put into that position, the solution is to bite your tongue, quit feeling sorry for yourself, and remind yourself that you get to experience the miracle of flight and you get to soar through the heavens at 500 mph to get across the country in less than a day. Imagine [bleep]ing about this to your ancestors who had to go on these grueling expeditions for months at a time, and half of their friends and family died along the way! Lol they'd probably be like, "Ok so you're telling me you had to be uncomfortable for a few hours and now your life has been ruined? Gotcha." If the answer is yes, then you arrange your flight in such a way that you minimize the odds of that happening. You use a different company that allows you to choose your seat or you get out of economy. This is where you say, "What?! But I shouldn't have to do that! That's not fair!" Tough shit. You do have to do that. And it's really not that big of a deal.

I never learned how to rollerblade/rollerskate. But fortunately nobody does that anymore :lol:

http://forum.tip.it/topic/192134-i-want-a-girlfriendboyfriend-and-other-such-relationship-advice/?view=findpost&p=5498785

Yeah. That's also true for OKC/POF/Match.

I thought wizard boots were from easy clues... Also how long has that monkey thing been in the game? I never knew that existed :o

Was doing squats this morning and when I was unracking the weight I slightly lost my balance and injured my back. Now it hurts to breathe :( The moral of the story is: always skip leg day

haven't played in months, just wondering how safe it is to go chinning at ape atoll this week. are disconnects and ddos attacks still really common right now? what happens to my items right now if I die? standard death rules or do they stick around for an hour, or what? I just don't wanna be that guy that willingly gets himself into a dangerous situation and then acts shocked when he gets disconnected and loses his stuff :lol:

yeah pretty much. weights are weights. only the gym noobies care about all the fancy gym amenities that they won't actually end up using lol

Saw Trainwreck tonight. Funny movie but [hide] It ended exactly as I predicted it would (unfortunately). The main character who grows up thinking that monogamy is unrealistic ends up settling down with the nice guy and the movie ends while they're still both wildly in love with each other. After their big fight before they predictably reunite at the end, she even tells her married sister "I'm broken. I need help. I'm afraid of commitment and the only reason I'm not settling down is because I'm afraid to. Please help me!" Ugh lol. Aside from the jokes, the movie's a gold mine full of misinformation about stuff like that. At one point she "romantically" tells the nice guy "I guess all this partying and casual sex with lots of dudes has just been practice for the big event. Now it's time for the real thing with you!" Yeah I'm sure she won't ever cheat on him or get bored of him... :| [/hide]

String ammys a very tolerable way to train magic. I got 99 magic for the 2nd time that way. Would get like 1m xp/day while doing homework at my desk

The other pet peeve I had was, while I was warming up on the treadmill I was asking him about his goals and his clients' goals. Me: So do your clients usually have their own goals when they approach you or do you have to make goals for them? Him: I have to make goals for them. Me: That sucks. I bet they all just say "I want to be healthy," as if that's a goal. Him: Haha yep. Me: So what's your goal? Him: Well I uh-- [starts rambling on about his routine without giving me a direct answer] Me: That's cool, but do you like have a specific weight you want to be able to lift or anything like that? Him: Nah not really. Me: Oh. God dammit, even the personal trainers don't have goals! :wall: It's like the blind leading the blind over here!

24 hour fitness

You guys probably won't appreciate this story as much as my lifting buddies did but I wanted to type it out because I thought it was amusing :P tl;dr: personal trainer at the gym tries to sell me; he has poor sales skills and I punish him for being a bad salesman :lol: So now that I'm no longer in college I usually only wear my fraternity t-shirts when I'm working out. A while back I noticed a guy's car at my gym parking lot with my fraternity letters on it, but I never knew who it belonged to. Finally a few months ago I was doing squats with my letters on and one of the gym's personal trainers walked up to me and introduced himself to me as a brother. Small world! Talked to him and lifted together for a while and then I went home. I haven't hung out with him outside of the gym but occasionally I'll bump into him while I'm lifting and he's training someone. On Wednesday I was walking out of the gym and crossed paths with him and he was like, "Hey what are you training on Friday?" I told him Friday's bench day (my favorite) and I asked him if he wanted to work out with me and spot me. He said sure, and then he opened up his schedule to set a time. Him: By the way have you done a fitness exam recently to test your strength and see how balanced your strength is? Me: No. Is it free? Him: Yeah! Cool I can give you a fitness exam then on Friday before we bench. Me: Awesome, sounds like fun. [At this point I thought it just sounded like a fun way to see how strong I am across the board. I already know what my strengths and weaknesses are but it'd be cool to get some "official" numbers and stats] Him: Ok man cool! So like, what's your bench routine like? Me: Right now I just do 5 sets of 5 with 185 lbs. My 1 rep max is somewhere around 215. I weigh 135. My goal main goals right now are to get up to about 160 lbs bodyweight and to bench press double my bodyweight Him: Wait what? Dude I weigh about 160 and if I'm maxing my bench I can only do about 250. Benching double your bodyweight at 160 is like 315 lbs! Are you sure that's what your goal is? I mean that doesn't even sound possible! Me: Well my two fraternity brothers who taught me how to lift can both bench double their bodyweight and they weigh 150 lbs and 200 lbs. So that's why it's always been my goal-- I want to be on their level. Him: [he gives me a blank stare] Me: So... yeah. That's my goal. Him: Alright man! Well on Friday I'll be able to give you the fitness test and then you know, we can take a look at what needs work and all that and then I we can come up with a workout plan for you Me: Alright cool! In my mind, I'm thinking, "Ok this guy probably just thinks I'm some scrawny wimp that doesn't know what he's doing" haha. I now realize that this "fitness test" is more of an introduction to his sales pitch so he can try and get me to pay him to train me after he'll tell me all the problems I have, even though I'm already satisfied with my current workout and gainz. I don't bother to say, "Dude you realize I just want you to spot me on Friday, right?" because I think it'll make for an amusing story. Also, being the [wagon] I am, I want to punish him for making a rookie sales mistake and I want him to learn the hard way :P At my first sales job, the actual sale had two closes. You first would get them on the phone to run a credit check and make sure they can actually be sold to; then you'd have to actually make the sale once they've been approved. It was very easy to get them onto the phone if they assume that they're just getting on the phone for shits and giggles. But it's a lot harder to get them on the phone when you basically tell them "Ok we're gonna do a credit check over the phone-- and if you get approved then you can purchase our product." When you lay it out that way, you're basically saying "If you get on the phone, which takes a lot of my time, then you're going to buy." Otherwise you're wasting a ton of time that could be spent pitching other customers if you're getting them all the way through the credit check, only to have them blow you off because you failed to set the expectations upfront. So Friday comes around and I text him on my way to the gym. He tells me to warm up for 5 minutes on the treadmill when I get there and then we'll get started. So I walk on the treadmill for a bit and then he gives me the first "exam." He just wants me to do some basic bodyweight squats with my hands in the air. I do that, and he tells me everything I did wrong. No surprises there since I know my lower body isn't as flexible as my upper body. Next up he has me do pushups for a minute. Before we get started I do a single push up. "So just like this?" I ask. "Yeah man perfect, just like that!" I go ahead and do pushups for a minute. I slowed down a little bit in the last 10 seconds since I started feeling kinda weak and I wanted to save my strength for benching rather than getting a good score on this fitness test, which I'm beginning to realize isn't very official or anything since he doesn't have any paperwork on him. Me: Sorry about slowing down towards the end there. I know my form looked bad at the end. I want to save my strength for bench. Him: Well your form sucked from the beginning. Me: ... [then why didn't you tell me that when I asked you to check my form for the very first pushup?] Him: Ok let's go bench. What do you normally do for a warmup on bench day? Me: I start out with just the bar and warm up with that for about 2 sets. Then I do about 2 sets of 95 lbs. Then I do 2 sets of 135. And then I start doing my 5 sets of 5. Him: Ok how much are you doing 5 sets of 5 with? Me: 185. Him: Wait. How much weight did you do last week when you benched? Me: I did 5 sets of 5 with 180. So now I'm going to do 5 sets of 5 with 185. Him: Like, how many weights on the bar is 180? [i don't think he believes me when I'm talking about my bench] Me: A 45, two 10s, and a 2 on each side. Him: .... OK. So we bench and I do a set with just the bar. Him: OK so what I'm gonna have you do is go straight to 135 now. Me: Uh... ok. We put on 135 and I warm up with 135 and perfect form for about 3 reps. When I warm up, I do enough reps to the point where I start to feel like I'm actually having to "work" to get up the weight. He critiques my bench form, telling me not to keep my back arched because that's lowering the range of the barbell. Yeah, no shit. That's why you arch your back. It allows you to bench heavier weights and it minimizes shoulder injuries. Keeping your back flat on the bench puts a lot more strain on your shoulders. (Perfect form looks like this: 1 2) Him: Ok so now you said you do 5 sets of 5? Me: Yeah. With 185. Him: What? You only did 3 reps with 135. Me: I know, I was just warming up. And I'm doing the shorter warmup that you suggested, not my normal warmup. Him: Ok, so 185 is a 45 and a 25 on each side... how much did you do last week? [Again he seems to doubt my strength] Me: A 45, two 10s, and a 2. Keep in mind, though, my form will no longer be perfect when I'm doing 185. Him. Huh? Why would you do 185 if you know your form's going to be bad? Me: In a nutshell, I get stronger faster with heavier weights and bad form than I do with lighter weights and perfect form. If I want to bench 185 with perfect form, then it's better to keep increasing the weight so by the time I'm repping 225 with bad form, I'll be able to easily do 185 with perfect form. Him: Yeah but dude that's gonna cause all kinds of problems for you down the road! Me: Nah. Every time I feel sore in a bad way like an injury might be coming up, I immediately lower the weights again and go back to using perfect form with light weights for a while and then I ease back into heavy weights with bad form. The last time I did this, I was struggling to rep 155 with bad form. Now I can do 155 with perfect form. I've never had any major injuries and I don't really see how I can just spontaneously cripple myself unless I'm ignoring the warning signs before hand. I bench 185 5 times, like a baws. He tells me everything I already know about how my form isn't perfect with this weight. I just look off into space and agree with everything he says since I don't want to argue lol Him: Ok how long do you usually rest between sets? Me: Five minutes. Him: What? Dude that's way too long. Ok I'm going to give you 1 and a half minutes rest so you can work on some endurance, that's gonna [starts rambling on about ATP and lactic acids and a bunch of random physiology terms yadda yadda yadda, I shut my brain off and agree] I only do about 3 reps on my 2nd set since I only had a minute and a half to rest. Him: Ok see how much weaker you are when you're not resting for a full 5 minutes? Me: Yeah [no shit!] We basically just keep benching at 1.5 minute intervals and he keeps saying the same things over and over again. Finally when we're done, he finally goes into his sales pitch as I was expecting [i work in sales, I can smell a sales pitch a mile away because he was saying things that I would've said if I had ulterior motives] Him: OK man so I think you should let me work out with you and give you an exercise program, you know, to correct all of those things I've pointed out. Me: Uh huh, sounds good. [in my mind, I'm totally fine with working out with him and possibly even incorporating a few new things into my workout to make me stronger overall, as long as it doesn't interfere with my bench gainz] Him: Ok so yeah right now we're actually doing a promo, so it's only $400 this month and I can get you on a new routine, get all those problems sorted out and stuff. How's that sound? Me: Nah I'm good, thanks. :) [i wanted to say, "How about for a 30 minute consultation you can pay me $50 and I'll teach you how to sell!] Him: [blank stare] Me: I told you about my buddies who bench double their bodyweight. One of them's a physical therapist now so I just go to him for advice whenever I have issues. Him: Ok well you're gonna have to like, send him videos of yourself for form checks to see the stuff that I can just check for you right here like I did today. Me: Yep. Him: Alright man, well I'm gonna come check up with you again in about 8 weeks and I'll run you through those tests again. If you haven't changed at all then I'm gonna have to rip ya a new one haha! Me: Alright man sounds good! [Yeah I really don't give a shit if you disapprove with my lifting] So, when it comes to sales, IME it's always best to set the expectations upfront. If I'm trying to sell someone, I'm making it very clear to them that I'm trying to sell them something. Then if they're actually interested, I can talk about something we have in common and get to know them better since they're now worth my time. In the past I would see someone wearing a sweatshirt from my hometown on it and I'd comment on it and then I'd try and sell them. As soon as I tried to sell them, they'd immediately get defensive and think I was being disingenuous when talking about our hometown-- as if I was only pretending to be fond of it as a means to gain compliance from them. It's much better to try and sell them and if they're uninterested, then you walk away and never talk about your hometown or you try and sell them and once they're interested you can talk about your hometown which will pretty much guarantee the sale at that point since not only are they interested, they also now have something in common with you. So I was sort of disappointed in my fraternity brother here for not being upfront with me and just asking me if I was interested in paying to have him train me. If I'm going to be your client, treat me like a client not a friend. Friends offer services like this for free. Do you really think my physical therapist friend would charge me for advice and a workout plan like he does for his clients? No, because I'm his friend. The other thing is, when it comes to anything health or fitness related there's all kinds of misinformation out there. With business, if I read 10 books on business and how to solve a specific problem, each of the 10 different authors will more or less suggest the same advice and agree with each other. With fitness, the 10 different authors will all disagree with each other over which way's the best way and how every other author's wrong etc. Arguing about fitness is kind of like arguing about politics and religion in a way. Sometimes a friend of mine will come to the gym with me. He's inconsistent and whenever he lifts it's usually his first time in months. But as soon as we start lifting he'll start saying stuff like, "You should do this, you should do that." I just tell him the same thing I tell everybody else, "That sounds good but my current routine works fine for me. If I ever hit a plateau or anything I'll consider changing my routine." But considering I haven't really hit a plateau in the past 3 years, I don't foresee my routine changing any time soon. And if it does, I'll just consult my physical therapist buddy like I always do. When it comes to my fitness goals, there's a certain opportunity cost of pursuing a double bodyweight bench press. I can't say "Ok I want to be able to run a marathon and be able to bench double my bodyweight and remain at 8% bodyfat and also squat and deadlift triple my bodyweight by the end of the year." Not. Gonna. Happen. Pick one thing, and then focus solely on that and sacrifice your abilities in the other areas. Then when you hit your goal you can bring your other areas up to speed while you maintain your previous accomplishment. It's very easy to take any accomplished athlete and then criticize them for their weak areas that they haven't bothered to train. It's like going up to a marathon runner and saying "yeah well he can't even bench his own bodyweight, he's weak and unhealthy" or going up to a guy that can bench double their bodyweight and saying "yeah well he can't even run a 5k, he's out of shape and unhealthy." The trainer only takes 1.5 minute breaks between sets-- and as a result, his sets are a lot weaker than if he'd just do 5 minute breaks. But he has more endurance that way. More endurance, less strength. It's all relative. If you want to be at the top level of success then you've gotta make some sacrifices :P You can't be the best at everything. In other words, the first time I bench double it'll be with shitty form. But by the time I can bench 2.2x my bodyweight, I'll be benching 2x with perfect form. And by the time I'm benching double, I'll be able to relax on bench and focus on my weaknesses if I want to. Now it's time to go watch Whiplash for the billionth time for further self-assurance and motivation before I go HAM at the gym :D

OP women have a tendency to start gaining weight and dressing like their moms as soon as they graduate college haha

sounds like drama :P

treat her like a dragon and you can transform into a donkey and marry her later if you want

Just treat her like an fb and you can upgrade her later if you want

they told me i could be anything so i sexually identify as pancakes

Self control doesn't "come standard" with anyone. It's something that you have to constantly work at. Just my opinion, but if you got to the point where you were actively discussing being in a relationship with another woman, you didn't have anywhere near a sufficient amount of self control. Eh, I'd agree with you here if it wasn't for the fact that they were just on a trip together. I think a lot of people would use the trip as an opportunity to cheat and then somehow convince themselves that it "doesn't matter" or "doesn't count." Since it's impossible for him to really stay in contact with her, and he never actually made any moves or anything like that, I don't really see anything wrong here-- no lapse of self-control imo. It'd be different if he was acting this way towards a girl that he works with or frequently comes into contact with, but I imagine such a situation would never occur in the first place due to self-control. In other words, I think they both understood that there was no chance of anything real actually happening between them since they were just on a trip together. BUT, with that said, I won't be surprised if this has some subtle effects (for better or for worse) on Gabe's relationship now that he has proof that women besides his girlfriend would like to have him as a boyfriend. Certainly he did exhibit self control, but it seems as though it was more "the opportunity not being right" than anything. Directly acknowledging your feelings for someone is a big step...and that doesn't come without a lot of flirting and shared intimacy, which is what should have been avoided. As for the effect on his current relationship, that's up to how he acts. I think some of you are really reading into this too much. Like way too much. We weren't really actually considering doing anything either. We didn't consider dating. We just acknowledged the fact that we were compatible. I Only did it because it was the end of the trip and I speak my mind. It has no effect on my relationship and I already know I can get other women. I was the guy surrounded by women during that trip. I'm also a sexy man :twss: but did you have proof (not evidence) that other women want to be your girlfriend prior to this?

Self control doesn't "come standard" with anyone. It's something that you have to constantly work at. Just my opinion, but if you got to the point where you were actively discussing being in a relationship with another woman, you didn't have anywhere near a sufficient amount of self control. Eh, I'd agree with you here if it wasn't for the fact that they were just on a trip together. I think a lot of people would use the trip as an opportunity to cheat and then somehow convince themselves that it "doesn't matter" or "doesn't count." Since it's impossible for him to really stay in contact with her, and he never actually made any moves or anything like that, I don't really see anything wrong here-- no lapse of self-control imo. It'd be different if he was acting this way towards a girl that he works with or frequently comes into contact with, but I imagine such a situation would never occur in the first place due to self-control. In other words, I think they both understood that there was no chance of anything real actually happening between them since they were just on a trip together. BUT, with that said, I won't be surprised if this has some subtle effects (for better or for worse) on Gabe's relationship now that he has proof that women besides his girlfriend would like to have him as a boyfriend.