Your worst social life slump

[kouaxiong123]

Back in 2002 when I was 13 years old, guess what...I hit puberty. The acne that I had was horrible, I could not go outside without a hat or anything on, would not talk to anyone, not even in school. I remember specifically this girl that I really liked, she was talking to my friend and she wanted to go out with me. Then one day, at lunch, I had this giant zit on my face and she was walking toward my table. I got up and RAN.

 

 

 

I never saw her again after that, because I always ignored, and never bothered to like her again.

 

 

 

Now 2 years later, I have no acne, you cant even tell I had it as a kid. I work out daily and my social life is great. On my free time, I like to play A LOT of basketball...and RuneScape.

[kelem_ryu]

Basicly..my slump has been this year and last year( unfortunatly I have to admit...IM YOUNG!!! 14 years old . Anyways my worst years were 7th and 6th grade, runescape actually became like"known" in my school around 4th grade, I didnt play but I knewit was there. 5th grade still knew it was there, kinda had a decent amount of freinds. 6th grade...everything fell apart. I got fat :( , freinds moved away, basicly I knew no one closely so I was kinda a loser . Then god told said" let this boy know about runescape :shock: ." Well this was more good and well...more bad. Most of the technically"cool" kids quit runescape within like a month or two of playing it so it was considered lame. I really didnt talk to anyone from school on runescape(even though I knew plenty of them played. School began for 7th grade...not many freinds, still fat etc etc. I began finally making more freinds!!! O:) , then came the thing that would make my school year horrible... One of my freinds did infact play rs( new to me cause i never knew). He saw me playing then of course told lots of other people I played. They added me, annoyed me etc. Then they figured out I was rich . Greeeeeeeeeeat....I got 50m and I got a buntch of nerds that just figured out I was rich( apparently other than me the only other rich kid in the school had like 1m tops). The next few weeks in school I was bombarded by nerds talking to me and asking for free stuff. Yup there goes whatever popularity I had left, there goes what little chance I have of getting some form of a girlfreind(yup sad eh?) for that year. Well the ignore button served handy cause I told everyone I quite and just ignored EVERYONE I knew. Saved me a bit cause most of them left me in peace. School never got better, I did average with grades as I finished my school year off. SUMMER TIME! Well...idk really what to do, or how I'm going to go about fixing this. I have been steadily losing weight(I am better than I was 2 years ago). I mean I hate to sound that sad but if anyone could give me a little advice I'd be all ears. I still have a few freinds I talk to and do stuff with but not how many I should really have.

 

 

 

THis may be sad but...Help plz? :pray:

 

 

 

1)you rock, because you are you

 

 

 

2)other then that what you do is cool, because you do it and you rock (remember?)

 

 

 

3)everybody hanging with you is cool, because you are cool, because you rock

 

 

 

4)now all you have to do is, to be you (see line 1), wich shouldn't be that hard, because you ARE you.

 

 

 

IF you can't believe in 1 & or 2 (although you really should) you could try to convince yourself:

 

 

 

-as a good patron to yourself you migth want to invest in some cool clothes and/or shoes. this might or might not work (it did for me a long, long time ago). as long as you got something that YOU really like on you, you'll be fine, otherwise it might backfire.

 

 

 

-have fun (you already have fun? then line 1 is definitely true. if not, then it is true as well, although you might not know it yet.)

 

 

 

-consider, whil you are doing your stuff, that you like doing it. (if not, then at least you chose doing it.) (see statement 2)

 

 

 

i could elaborate a little more, but i want to post my story to =P

 

 

 

btw people asking for free stuff, just because you are rich are pathetic

 

 

 

if i knew you in rl, i'd give you some of my coolness. i don't need it anymore. 8-)

[kelem_ryu]

here's my sweet little story. sit back and enjoy (i didn't =P)

 

 

 

when i was 17 or 18 everybody who knew me liked me. (i had to think back,because that statement sounds too unliekly to be true to me, but it is.) i hang with the cool people, who also were the troublemakers (most of all thomas and peter) and by being part of this trio they were kept from making too much trouble. the other people in my class liked me because i was easy going and respected even those, peter (who is and probably always will be a jerk) would mock at. peter respected me, although he always considered me to be a little hm.. gay? because a) i hang out with him and smoked tons of pot nevertheless, B) i respected him, c) i could (if i had wanted to) outsmart him and everybody else in his family (including his oldest brother) with ease and d) although i could hardly ever score a goal at table soccer (wich we played a lot), because i hit very weak, i hold shots, that were almost impossible to get. (i guess he never knew how i could. peter had such a zeal at everything he did, including table soccer, it was almost tangible. standing next to him i basically absorbed his will to win. the combined will to win, of most opponents w played against < then that of peter. besides that he believed in me. so i didn't have to dissapoint him.)

 

 

 

the teachers liked me, because i was smart and calm (at least i appeared to be calm). everybody knew i basically never learned at all wich got me some respect, considering that i usally got 3s at tests. (the austrian school grades are 1,2,3,4&5. if you got a 5 in any subject in the end of the year, you have to repeat the whole year (all the subjects, even those you would have a 1 in.) all in all nobody cares if you got a 1 or a 4. well so not true, but it sems to be much less a topic, then it appears to be in us.)

 

 

 

when we were in the 3rd grade (i attended a chemical school, wich has 5 grades, usually you enter at the age of 14 and graduate with 19, although i once had a guy in the class who would be 25, when he finally was forced to quit, because technically you are only allowed to repeat twice. with all teachers turning at least two blind eyes and using some sort of tricks, he was able to spent 10 years there.) peter and thomas moved to the flat, where my grandma used to live (they rented it from my parents.). i could have joined them, but i didn't want to. peter had to repeat the 3rd class and that's where the trouble started.

 

 

 

the situation was the following: thomas and me where in the 4th class, peter in the 3rd. most of the time we hang at their place and consumed more pot, then would us do any good. (especially would me do any good, as you will soon find out.) when we still went into the same class we would spent most breaks smoking pot, but now peter spent his breaks smoking pot with his new classmates, including one, that would later couse me a lot of pain. during lunch break i often went to the local chinese restaurant with my labratory mate, susi, with whom i became good friends and her friends. once i was eating my spring roll, thinking nothing bad, when it suddenly occured to me, that of the 8 people sitting at the table i was the only guy, but that has nothing to do with the story.

 

 

 

well once, while i was sitting with peter at their place at a nice game of chess, he asked me the following: "there is this girl in my class, dominique, do you know her?" he went to explain how she looks, but i assured im, that i know that. he elaboratedt that he might get close with her. "do you think she looks good?" he asked. now that was somekind of question. as if he wanted my opinion on his new pants or shoes. i think i answered with "yes". he might as well have asked: "do you find your favourite dish tasty?"

 

 

 

one week later they were together. peter explained, that he [bleep]ed (knowing, that it will get censored anyway) another girl two days before that, because he wasn't sure how long it would take, before he could do dominique. i knew this d. must be an incredible stupid chick, to fall for a jerk like peter. (you have to know, that even the hottest chick becomes incredible unsexy, once i find out, that she's dumb.) over the time she became (of course) a common guest at peter&toms place. i learned two things: 1) she wasn't dumb, 2) i didn't like peters attitued towards girls.

 

 

 

well the years passed. i quitted school (at easter in the 4th grade), because i figured school was an inefficient way of learning. i'd be better off, graduating at a common "high school", if i would just teach myself. besides that i found smoking pot more entertaining, then attending class. i got a job and spent my nights answering calls for the phone number of the nearest taxi service reading school books. also i quitted dancing (was a little into jazz dance), because i felt a little wierd as the only guy besides the teacher and because i was declined at the dancing colleage, wich got to me. instead of that i started capoeira. still i spent much time at the by then infamous place of tom and peter. (incidently this place was only five minutes from one of the hottest night clubs of vienna (at least back then), the "flex".) there i could watch the more then frequent quarrels of peter and dominique. basically i was on dominiques side, for i grew quite fond of her and we understood each other quite well. also i found peter didn't respect her at all. i didn't show, because i still felt loyality towards peter.

 

 

 

what would mark the end of their relationship would be the incident, when after a major quarrel, dominique took some siccors and cut down all the mariuhana plants peter and thomas were growing. much to thomas dismay.

 

 

 

after they broke up, i went out with dominique quite a lot and showed her, that if i try really hard, i could not only be a pathetic whimp, and creep, but quite a jerk as well. i showed her my affection in a way, tat would make any stalker proud. when i first picked her up from school, she was looking at me as if i was the greatest hero, with eyes shingin like the sun. when her mother firstmet me, she said: "ah! the famous klemens" when i accidently met her on mariahilfer street three years later she told me: "i want you to never ever contact me in any way again." looking back the charm and wits i displayed towards her could easily be matched by a dead amoeba. Back then however i didn't really notice.

 

 

 

i moved to the house of my grandfather (wo died a very good death at the age of 89) in autume 2002, basically counting on her eventually to show up. by autume 2003 i heard voices and saw things that weren't there. the psychiatrist called it: "drug induced paranoid-psychotic schizophrenia". most people will visit you only for so long, when everytime they do, the only thing you do, is to try to figure out, how they fit into the conspiary of illuminated beeings, that secretly rule the world and what they want from you. also i think a person, that smashes half it's furniture, the tv set and all the instruments and beats itself up after each nervous breakdown (wich happens about daily) makes people around feel a little uneasy.

 

 

 

by the time i had recovered a little (i didn't take medication, well i tried it once. it felt like somebody would have painted the whole world grey. i watched a movie (hero btw) and it was as exciting as watching a wall. so what i did was, i learned latin, wich i needed for my high scholl graduation. in the beginning i read dicionarys like others rewould read a bottle post (thanks to my unusal state of mind), they were full of messages and storys, but that was of course not very helpful for learning a language. so i had to pull myself together and just use a dictionary as it was meant for. somehow it workd.) dominique was heavy into the goa/trance/acid tekkno scene, most of the time heavy on drugs and also her belly grew heavier since she was pregnant.

 

 

 

while i was away for a year, my former friends form the chemical school added acid, speed and ectasy to the weed on their diet. and they hated me. they wished me to suicide i heard across a few corners. obviously for some reason i didn't do them this favour. either i'm too stubborn, or too much a coward to suicide, because during the bad time i was in pain and i was scared to go a sleep, because of the dreams. i wanted not only to be dead, i wanted to not exist. maybe i was just scared, that after death i'd still exist and my efforts would have been in vain. well so i tortured myself with standing up each day.

 

 

 

not only my peers from the chemical school had turned their back on me, but also those froom the neighborhood i lived, when i still lived at my parents and my old school. they all were on university (for some reason most of the study architecture) and busy with their projects in that and their art projects besides that. (photography is no1, but also music, installations, and the like.) so i was mostly on my own.

 

 

 

in summer 2005 i finally finished high school and started studying in autum (philosophy). i got an internet connection in the same summer and soon discovered rs, what i played harcore for months. i don't feel i already have fully recoverd. i got visitors (besides my mom) about every other month, but started to roleplay again (D&D). found a group over the internet. also my health isn't the best since i quitted capoeira i lost all muscle and am very thin now. also i smoke about 2 boxes of cigarettes every day. about a month ago i more or the less accidently met dominique again. straigth form a techno festival, with her little son on her shoulders. didn't talk too much.

 

 

 

well thank you for reading, hope you enjoyed my little story.

[Drealfreak]

Worst year? Erm last year? Which was 10th grade. It was the first year of high school n i got into the most [cabbage]tiest class u could imagine. Ok not that bad but i really didnt like it and i still don't like it. It was a bunch of people that I could never associate with since we had different sense of humor, different lifestyle, different personality, different opinions on what is annoying and what is not,... yeah. For example we had the most stupid discussions ever in class, where i just sat there doing nothing or else i would just skip the class and never missed anything important since there was nothing important in the first place. So, basically i never talked in class cause all the comments and questions made by fellow classmates were so extremely stupid! That's how i became quieter and even with old friends or friends outside class i would be quieter than before and not so enthusiastic anymore. (I was VERY loud before). That's why I've not made any good friends in the past year since I am so cold to people. It's just all very stupid and annoying and i get pissed off by my class about 10 times a day. There is nothing I can do about it because I am probably alone in the class since nobody else thinks the way i do, or understands me so there is nobody to support me. Well now it's the summer holidays and I've looked back and I know now that I shouldn't just complain and I should be more open to everyone, be A LOT nicer to everyone, not just on the outside but really be nicer. Only that way I can start making good friends again. As for my class I will hope that it gets better next year. Otherwise I can just screw them completely and make friends outside class. And also thank god I have good friends from before. Not many but that's alright.

 

 

 

Generally I am pretty optimistic, would never dwell on one something for long and would never just sit there being depressed. I generally find a solution one way or the other and I learn from the past so, I am a happy person :)

[Pandaman115]

I'm reading this and thinking:

 

 

 

Why does this make me want to go outside at 10:53 pm on a sunday night with no one to do things with?

 

 

 

:-o

[DragonFirenze]

Id say this year (year 11 for australia) has been my slump. My workload has tripled, last year was so easy compared. I guess im lucky ive got lots of friends to talk to.

[WutangFlu]

Since 1st grade.... -.- :anxious:

[Faux]

I started to avoid most social events I'm invited to since a few months ago. Almost started to like a girl I danced with in a school dance, but the problem is that I already had a gf. I feel guilty so even though I'm allowed to go anywhere by my gf, I try to stay away if girls are going to be there, except if she's with me. I don't want her to worry anymore :( -.-

[FuBai]

the day i started playing runescape.

[Beamo26]

When I started going out with this girl only recently, she's not really friends with most of my friends so I sorta drifted out of the 'group' but it's all good now :thumbsup:

[zaquierming]

the day i started playing runescape.

 

 

 

Hehe, Suprised you're the first person to say that.

 

 

 

I haven't really had a complete 'slump' I guess when I started RS back in September, I really started playing more in the Winter, wasn't much to do but even I admit I played too much. It was like: home from school > RS > bed repeate. Most days. 5/7 anyways...

[l3il2die]

probably year 12, that was like 2003 i think, i was having fun, playing football(soccer) then got an injury, and i couldnt care less, cut myself a few times, asking myself why am i doing this,...

 

 

 

4 years on, havent played a game of football yet, but slowly getting back into training,, just ball work with myself against a wall, i think i do have the talent, i just gotta make it usefull, i might try and get into the AIS :? :) :lol: