Ok, so I was in my Mums wardrobe the other day looking for batteries, when I found a 1/10th scale radia control F1 Car. As I am the only guy in our family (apart from my Dad of course), I am assuming that it is for me for X-mas. Now, I don't want people flaming me saying 'OMG, be grateful!', but I'm 18, and have never expressed an interest in cars particularly. I am therefore pretty confused, there are quite a few other things my Mum could have got me. I am wondering if it is for me, and if it is, I can't help thinking that it will never get used...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have a bit of a complex about gratitude, I cannot bear the thought of people being ungrateful for gifts, or gifts being unwanted, but I'm really confused about this, anyone got any advice?

ooh... tough.... well, at least show gratitude, maybe mess around with it a bit, it doesnt have to be ur fav toy if its for u.. hmm...

just say it wasn't the particular model you wanted? take it back and go shopping for a new one...but then act like you see something else that you liked better

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

i dunno man...sticky situation. i never tell my parents what i want, i like suprises...but tbh this year i really didn't want ANYTHING. all i need is money for my college tuition...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

but yeah...if that happens to me my mom understands cause i never told them what i wanted...and she held the receipts

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

just make sure you show appreciation

Its not that I can't talk to my parents about suff like this, but at the moment things are a bit tricky, my Nan is dying, and she is going to die soon, so obviously my Mum is pretty upset and very pushed for time, as she is having to do a lot or her. I don't really want to tell her then, that the money would probably have been better spent somewhere else, as I should really be grateful she found the time at all to go out and get something.

Then keep the darned thing :shock:

I'd wait a bit. You might get worked up for nothing. :P

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What a coincidence BTW; I got a Ferari keyholder from my grandma for St. Nicholas this year. While I NEVER showed any interest in cars. :P

Then keep the darned thing :shock:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thats not what I asked, and that is not in the least constructive or helpful

Well, maybe Goodwill will appreciate it more than you? Otherwise as long as your mother isn't too eagle-eyed on the gifts, maybe you can trade it in without her knowing.

Its not the actual materialistic value of it, as I have a job and can afford to buy most things by myself if I want them, its the fact that she is really stressed and strapped for time at the moment, and I feel kinda guilty that she has put herself out and gone to get this for me, when it's not something that I partcularly want. As I said, I have a bit of a complex about unwanted gifts, so I guess this is part of whats bothering me. I guess I just need to sit it out, as you say How2PK, it may all be a misunderstanding anyway.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Does anyone else get to the point where they feel guilty about their parentsgoing out and spending a lot of time and money on them, when there is really no need, when you have got to the age that christmas is no longer about recieving presents?

Do your parents normally get presents for your cousins?

Maybe it's for a nephew, or a colleague is having a son or something. Anyway if it is for you, I suppose just act thankful. Especially if she's scraped for time right now it will give her alot of pleasure when she sees her son is happy. I know it's not nice to lie about stuff but it's Christmas! Spread the love and all that, she got it to make you happy and if it does she too will be happy, if that makes sense. It's a nice gift and hey, you could have some fun with it!

Issy, you always know how to put a shine on things! :thumbsup:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And no, we saw my Aunt and Uncle last week an they live about 100 miles away, so it won't be for that cousin, and we never see the other cousin so it won't be for him. There is no-one else I can think of to be honest tha it could be for.

Maybe tell it to her like this " A friend got this toy car for christmas, Hahah I wouldn't be happy with a present like that " maybe still sounds rude but I think its the best solution.

Issy, you always know how to put a shine on things! :thumbsup:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And no, we saw my Aunt and Uncle last week an they live about 100 miles away, so it won't be for that cousin, and we never see the other cousin so it won't be for him. There is no-one else I can think of to be honest tha it could be for.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh, I'm known for it. :thumbsup: Joking!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My mum often gets presents for the sons of her friends and colleagues. Still the fact that she is scraped for time points to the fact that maybe she was rushed and got you something quickly, rather than choose carefully?

Maybe tell it to her like this " A friend got this toy car for christmas, Hahah I wouldn't be happy with a present like that " maybe still sounds rude but I think its the best solution.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hmm, the problem with this solution is that it gives her 2 options:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1. Take it back, which uses up more of her time, which is half of the reason I feel bad about it anyway

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2. Give it t me anyway, knowing what I had said about it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Listening to other people I think the only option really is to sit and wait, see what happens, and if it does turn out to be for me, seem grateful and appreciative. In the meantime though I think I need to do everything I can to make her life easier.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks for the help guys.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

EDIT: And Issy :P

I was in this situation last Christmas. I got a remote control car which I didn't really want. I accepted it gratefully though and played with it with my small cousins. Maybe you have some young relatives/ friends who would like to play with the toy? You could also conveiniently forget to leave it at there house when you go over sometime.

I was in this situation last Christmas. I got a remote control car which I didn't really want. I accepted it gratefully though and played with it with my small cousins. Maybe you have some young relatives/ friends who would like to play with the toy? You could also conveiniently forget to leave it at there house when you go over sometime.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Nice in theory, but my cousins are all at least 14, and we never see em! I simply don't have any young family, oranybody really that age.

Last year my parents bought me a hand held poker video game. You know the ones with a one inch dot-matrix screen on them. When I opened it up I said something along the lines of "oh, that's cool." I then left it in the living room, unopened, and three weeks later it was gone. I assume my mom returned it. I never got the money or any replacement, but that didn't bother me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your situation is a little different. You said "radia control", which I assume you meant radio controlled. Or maybe it is the same thing. Anyways, those things are awesome. Play around with it for a while, chase your cat around the house or something. I wouldn't mind getting one of those this year (I'm 20 btw). I bought one for my nephew last year just so I could play with it when I visit :P .

Well you're not even sure yet if it's for you. I would just wait it out until Christmas until you can find out officially. If it does turn out to be for you, I would keep it for a while and then give it away a few days/weeks later. This might not be the best thing to do, but it's not in my personality to admit to not liking presents. I always feel really bad about it since most parents try so hard to please their kids, I can't stand the look on their faces if I try to tell them I don't like it. Once the 'Christmas buzz' has worn down, give it to Goodwill or something, like someone previously suggested.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That's what I would do :oops:

just accept it kindly and maybe then just give it to your friend or a friends little brother

Well, I have a couple of solutions.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It might not be for you. It could be for your Dad. Maybe he likes cars.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If it is for you, try these.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1. You could sell it.

 

 

 

2. You could pretend to like it, and then sell it.

 

 

 

3. You could tell her on Christmas Day that you don't like it.

 

 

 

4. You could pretend to like it and just keep it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

By the way, did you give your mom a Christmas list?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'd pick number 1,2, or 3.

I hate it when that happens. My mum just bought me a magazine and when I told her that I don't have what a clue on what it's about, she just stormed off saying 'I'm not buying you anything until you leave this goddamned house!' What a drama queen -.-

I hate it when that happens. My mum just bought me a magazine and when I told her that I don't have what a clue on what it's about, she just stormed off saying 'I'm not buying you anything until you leave this goddamned house!' What a drama queen -.-

 

 

 

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I hate it when that happens. My mum just bought me a magazine and when I told her that I don't have what a clue on what it's about, she just stormed off saying 'I'm not buying you anything until you leave this goddamned house!' What a drama queen -.-

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lol! That sounds so much like my Mum at times, its untrue! Menopause eh!?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

rushrock, I think Im actually gunna go with 4. Maybe its the 2000m I just swam, I dunno, but I've somehow found optimism. I mean, I don't even know how good it is yet, it could be really cool. I'll wait and see. Man, I feel selfish now...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And no, I'm 18, I really don't expect presents anymore, I try to tell my Mum that but she's hell-bent on spending as much on me ad my twin sis as she does on my younger sister who is 14.

 

I hate it when that happens. My mum just bought me a magazine and when I told her that I don't have what a clue on what it's about, she just stormed off saying 'I'm not buying you anything until you leave this goddamned house!' What a drama queen -.-

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lol! That sounds so much like my Mum at times, its untrue! Menopause eh!?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

rushrock, I think Im actually gunna go with 4. Maybe its the 2000m I just swam, I dunno, but I've somehow found optimism. I mean, I don't even know how good it is yet, it could be really cool. I'll wait and see. Man, I feel selfish now...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And no, I'm 18, I really don't expect presents anymore, I try to tell my Mum that but she's hell-bent on spending as much on me ad my twin sis as she does on my younger sister who is 14.

 

 

 

Why do you feel selfish? :-s