All you have to ask yourself is this question: Would you be happier being what they want and sacrifice yourself, or be what you want despite what others think? Pick what would make you happier and believe in it 100%. I know what I'd pick, and I think you know really what you prefer. Your job, in that case, is to make people accept who you are, not to be afraid of you, or judge you, but to accept you. That, I'm afraid, can only be done by the person themselves. Good luck.