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IS what i though :D We pretty much are together, just not like officially ya know. but talking with her is never a problem :D Are you really asking for a validation of your relationship? Worse yet - on the internet? Your relationship's title can be whatever you want it to be. It could be label-less forever if you really want. That's up to you. And the girl of course. If what your label is now is working - don't screw with it. Don't fix something that don't need fixin'. If a problem arises between you too (like she finds another guy or whatever) then you can ask her for something more serious. If you really want that. You too sound like you are together. If you don't want to be called such, whatever. Calling a relationship one thing or another doesn't change the bond between the two people.

Try greasing the insides of the wheels after loosening them. Maybe evern loosen the trucks a bit. If that doesn't help, you're gonna have to buy new parts.

There are ways of escaping the friend zone yes. However it is often very ugly. There's also a very large chance that you'll fail. There's a decent size chance that something completely unrelated in your life will be meesed up because of it. it also takes a lot of time. Time and effort. So before you even begin this process you have to ask yourself if its truly worth it. No joke, it could take years. And that's /IF/ it succeeds. It entirely depends on the girl and how deep yyour already in. The bright side is if you do succeed the chances of having a good healthy relationship are through the roofs. There's no real rules (barely even guidlines) to really pull from for these situations. Flirting is one thing yes, but its not going to help as much as you'd think. You need to figure out what the key to her heart is. Every girl has one. Every girl.

My opinion on NASCAR is this: THEY'RE MAKING A LEFT TURN!!!! But some people are fascinated by it. like my uncle. I just don't get it. Seems like a waste of fuel to me. I must admit though, people crashing at 200mph flying into one another looks pretty cool. Other than that....It's about as boring as watching poker.

Something along the lines of "Hey, there isn't enough time between periods to talk...wanna go out some time?" would probably suffice. This seems like a rather simple situation in comparison to most. Your lack of details suggest you two are attracted towards one another but barely know each other. The time is now.

Every connection with a person is a relationship. Yes this is a relationship topic, but from the 250+ pages I've experienced 90% of all discussions were of romantic relationships. All others were told to make seperate topics in the OT section of TIF. Hence all the "My dad won't let..." and "What's up with my brother" topics outside of this sticky. With a real explained issue, their more than welcome, but simply stating "you have no idea how annoying my ___ (insert family member here) is" is spam in my eyes.

I'm going to agree with everyone and tell you thats a terrible thing to say, and a horrible thing to think. I suggest you refer back to my old advice for you (give up asap). I really don't think what you're doing is healthy. and for the rest of the topic, little sisters are annoying, yes, but they have little to do with the thread at hand. Not that I'm mini-modding, but I practically live on this thread, I'd appreciate some more 'on-topic' posts.

It's never that easy. Hey (person of the opposite sex who I know really well and am comfortable with), wanna go out? DIFFICULT. God, stop overcomplicating this [cabbage] in your head. What if they don't have any friends of the opposite sex that they want to go out with? I know that personally I would never date any of my friends. Or if there is someone, but there's a group of friends that you always hang out with and you don't want to make things awkward for yourself and her if she says no, or for the rest of them if you do go out? I will agree though, that there are plenty of guys who do overcomplicate the [cabbage] out of relationships. Same can be said for girls too. There is no way that I'd ever date any of my female friends. Way to immature. Along with other reasons. Anyway, if you truly were interested in your friend of the oposite sex, I can't imagine asking them out would be THAT hard. Unless you go through the whole "I don't want to screw up our friendship" thing. That's the only obsticle. Firends make the best "fun" buddys

Always gt her a gift. Always. You do NOT want to see the consequences of not getting her anything. However, do not shove it in her face. Bring the gift to her, but do not mention it. Eventually she'll ask about it, and then you can give it to her. The anger resulting in you not listening to her is far more easily handled than the anger of her after you didn't get her something on a holiday. It's not a pretty thing. Try not to make a big deal out of it. I'd also recommend not doing anything that pisses her off.

Dude...thats awesome. Send me the video. Godammit, another Valentine's day with no girl, and no getting laid. How I wish I wasn't such a lazy a-hole. What's with all the fourteen/fifteen-year-olds saying they're going to get laid? cause they want to impress random people they don't know over the interwebz? I can fairly be lumped into the crowd of those whom are bragging no question, but I for one am not a 15 year old man-[bleep]. I am only days away from being 17. I felt the need to justify that a bit. I'm disappointed that my second piece of conversation on this thread was "cleaned" ... ah well.

Ever hear the phrase: "Step up to bat before someone else does for you" ? This applies to your situation well. Your friend should have done something about it if he really liked this girl. It' s his fault. You're allowed to feel sorry for him, maybe even feel a little pity, but do not apologize for your actions, as you did nothing wrong, or to intentionally hurt him. Oh wow, 1 hour, she's totally in love with you. Dude, during the Winter Holidays, I was up to around 2:30-4am (latest time) talking to one girl. 1 hour is nothing. That's amazing. We all care. Have fun on your bragging parade around the interwebz. Please refrain from insulting those who are trying to help you. After all, they're here to help. 1 hour of IMing could mean alot, or nothing depending what you were talking about. I myself have had some very in depth IM convos. Other times they just consist of: "hey" "hey, whats up?" "nm u?" "nothing lol" I used to feel that way about relationships. Then I got in one. Now I realize just how awesome they are. Yes some are pointless, but having a companion of any kind is always a good thing. Girlfriends just happen to be excellent companions. This is exactly how I met my girlfriend. First summer fling. Now she loves me. Funny how that works, even after 4 months of post break up. Truth be told you may never forget her. I suggest you move on, contrary to my approach. There's a lot of fish in the sea as they say. Chances are she wasn't right for you anyway. Go catch a good one, tiger :)

My mind is so sick I must respond with this; what, no camcorder? quote] You're mind is no sicker than my life. The camera doubles as video/still. And no I will not post said pics/vids, lol.

I have to admit, I'd be about as pissed as you are if I were you. On the other hand, you and Brent have a child now (an a cute one at that) and in his position, I wouldn't want to piss off my boss either. I would have immidiatly apologized to you, if not called you back, but he's just being responsible. Getting in good wit hthe boss increases probablility of raises/promotions. And when you have kid, opurtunities like that are best taken advantage of. You're both right. Fighting isn't going to prove anything. Sorry about the surgery thing too, I hope you make a full recovery soon (if there's anything there to recover from).

My valentines day is gonna rock. (although looking at the previos posts, I don't think my bragging is really going to be of any good) Camera + Girlfriend of 1.2 years + Empty House + Weekend. Should be fun.

Well that's good. Now all you gotta do is stick it out until your dream girl and your friend break up. It's against my better judgment to encourage you chasing this girl, but if you really insist...Wait til they break up. You'll be ebetter off if your friend dumps her cause then two things will happen: 1 - he won't care if you start seeing her, she's not his problem anymore 2 - she needs someone to comfort her, ie. YOU If she dumps him though, it's a whole different ball game. You got to give your buddy a grace period, and I'd suggest making sure he's okay with you seeing her. That's as much as I'm going to budge on the subject. i can't in all good concience tell you to break them up or anything of that sort.

Living in the moment, while fun, can lead to lots of regrets. I like living in the moment, but I make sure that before I make any decision I think of the consequences. I have trouble coping with regret, so I avoid it at all costs. I regret nothing in my life. I may have screwed up a few times, but I'm content with my life at the moment, so even my darker times have proven their worth in the long run. A life with regret is one not wirth living to me.

Both my pieces of advice were shot down by the seekers of said advice. I'm feelin' the love. I stand by what i said to Runeman231. Especially since I got a few supporters in my statement. I wasn't merely saying "grow a pair". "Growing a pair" implies acting as a stereotypical hyped up boorish type fellow. I was saying that you should man up in that you need to take responsibility. As further explained by another poster, if your'e feeling that she's just a friend, chances are she's gonna feel the same. My advice is to avoid that if you want to keep your girlfriend. To do this you have to take responsibilty, and man up. I'm starting to feel IgoddessI 's frustration when people don't take the advice they ask for. and roccodog25...I'm confused. You want to be with this girl. and now you just want to be friends? And how close are you and your guy-friend exactly?

You need more cowbell. and by cowbell I mean testastorone. Don't wait for her to start something. e a man and kiss her in the hallway before she goes to class. Walk up to her and hug her. Everytime you see her. You can't expect her to start everything for you. My advice is get over that girl asap. You'll only cause problems if you pursue these feelings in any way shape or form. Unless they break up, and you wait 6 months (standard man law) and ask your friends permission, she's undatable to both you and your other friend. or atleast should be if you respect your friend at all.

I have to agree I thought they [cabbage]-ed this game. Oh absolutlely, it was getting rediculous ou there. it seemed like every play had a flag thrown...and 9/10 times it was against the cards. The only advantage the Cards had from the refs was the first touchdown callback. It's a good thing the challenged that. Steelers deserved to win over all though. The Cards really should have used Larry Fitzgerald more. That dude can run like a squirrel on crack.

i remember you telling stories of your siblings before. Sometimes I forget how (for lack of better term) bad things can get. On the plus side, your brother, as well as alot of other experiences, have caused you to become the person you are now. and from the way you present yourself here on TIF...you're the best person I've ever encountered, filled with wisdom and experience. So although you and you're brother don't get along, that's not really your fault. No one said it was right, or that it could ever be righted. My point was that in most cases, sibling tiffs are usually very insignificant. I tend to speak in generalizations. You just happen to be an exception to my generalization.

That counds like a virtual purge of all government as we know it. Almost in a communist manner to with all that money balancing. Only more peaceful, due to the recall of troops. The problem is...it is destined to fail. Recalling troops would leave us rediculously vulnerable...the government purge would leave us with inexperienced representatives. So, on the positive side, everynoe would be financially better off. On the down side...we'd probably all be killed by a foreign nation.

Well that's true, you definiatly don't wanna just walk up and ask "hey...can i have your number" (although I have personally seen that work on complete strangers numerous times surprisingly). I say just throw it in a casual conversation. Like when your talking in class and the teacher yells at you for talking, jsut tell her that you should "continue this discussion on the phone". Somewhere down the line numbers will be exchanged.

I'm only happy cause i am one of the idiots who isn't prepared. :twss:

I agree and disagree with your post. I agree with the fact that theres probably about a 95% chance there's something that gets him angry and he takes it out on you, and I agree most siblings have their own quarrels. The only part I disagree with is the part where you said because from personal experience (not with me, but with my step dad) he and his brother haven't talked since he was 19 and his brother was 17 he said. The bad thing is, he can't even remember what they fought about. True, not every sibling gets along after they go off on their own. But as you said, your stepdad forgot what the fight was even about. Now all that's needed is someone to step foreward and admit that, and the old companionship can hopefully resume (assuming there was one). Time fixes all problems, even if it needs a little assistance along the way.

I'm going to regurgitate every answer to this problem I've seen on this thread to save time. 1. Have Confidence! 2. Don't plan a conversation, planning causes failing 3. 3 second rule...if you see her and can mentally count to 3; you missed your chance. 4. Start with a simple hello did I miss anything?