Love- a few ideas...

[Faux]

Does that include people who died before their 50th anniversary?

[issy2]

 

Love is just lust between a man and a woman

 

 

 

No, it is between 2 people. Any 2 people.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

@Striker - when I say love, I don't necessarily mean sexual love, because a woman can love a woman. I know I certainly love my closest friends. I would probably die for one or two... even if I'm not 'attracted' to them. Still, it depends on who they are.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Either way, I don't think it's up to someone on the outside of a relationship to criticize whether or not it's appropriate to say, "I love you" to someone, because it's almost impossible to know whether or not the person is saying it with meaning. I am by no means, judging you, Issy. You have the right to your opinion.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Interesting topic, btw.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thankyou and that's ok, all opinions are welcome.

 

 

 

I'm merely stating that, as yet I haven't met her 'boyfriend' I have absolutely no right to judge them in the first place. But would you really consider 9 weeks in separate classes and going out together a couple of times a sufficient time to get to know someone to say 'I love you' in a sexual way? (Not that they're planning on making out or anything... but let's stay on topic. :uhh: ) I could understand if she said the same way she says to me, as a close friend who she cares deeply for.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So that brings up yet another question; how long do you think it takes to get to know someone properly? Do you believe in love at first sight? I don't. I used to, though. :XD:

[Wachtwoord]

First, you don't know what real love is untill you feel it. You can think "this is true" love until you feel love even more and then think "this is true love". So maybe some people really mean it when they say it, cuz they just don't know better.

 

 

 

About people at our age, we're just exploring. I think it's normal we say it, although we're not right about the I-love-you, no matter it is on purpose or not. And what's wrong with that, as I said we're just exporing. Besides that, if this would be the only thing we did wrong, I would make my parents sooo happy :lol:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

About loving you're family, I think everybody "loves" his mum, no matter of age, or how bad she is. Although it's a totally different kind of love then a relationship.

[issy2]

 

 

 

About loving you're family, I think everybody "loves" his mum, no matter of age, or how bad she is. Although it's a totally different kind of love then a relationship.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ah, but why is that? Is that because you trust her? She loves you? She has a nice personality and is easy to be friendly to and love? She does most of the cooking and half the chores? Or because she created you and gave you life?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I don't believe you can ever tell anyone you love them without knowing why. And never assume you love someone until you get to know them, either.

[Ragen]

Do you believe in love at first sight? I don't. I used to, though. :XD:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I believe in lust at first sight. You can instantly want someone, but it takes a long time to realise that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, which is what love is IMO.

[issy2]

 

Do you believe in love at first sight? I don't. I used to, though. :XD:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I believe in lust at first sight. You can instantly want someone, but it takes a long time to realise that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, which is what love is IMO.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ha, another question.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What's the difference between love and lust?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I think love is caring for someone, caring about how they feel, what is happening to them, when they're alright. I tend to think lust is more physical.

[BlueLancer]

Does that include people who died before their 50th anniversary?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The median age of death is about 82 years, and according to the statistics people get married at approximately 26-27 years old. But surely some people die before that, some may die a day after the wedding, on a general scale the data is quite trustworthy as it samples all age groups.

[Fadfdfd]

 

However the love a man has for his God, now that is true love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That's nothing compared to the love a man has for a good bacon sandwich.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ahhh! Yes! I'm gunna siggeh that one too =]

[Faux]

 

Does that include people who died before their 50th anniversary?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The median age of death is about 82 years, and according to the statistics people get married at approximately 26-27 years old. But surely some people die before that, some may die a day after the wedding, on a general scale the data is quite trustworthy as it samples all age groups.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Link? I know only the females are set at above 80. Can't reach that gold anniversary if their spouse is dead can they...

[Wachtwoord]

 

 

 

 

About loving you're family, I think everybody "loves" his mum, no matter of age, or how bad she is. Although it's a totally different kind of love then a relationship.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ah, but why is that? Is that because you trust her? She loves you? She has a nice personality and is easy to be friendly to and love? She does most of the cooking and half the chores? Or because she created you and gave you life?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I don't believe you can ever tell anyone you love them without knowing why. And never assume you love someone until you get to know them, either.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

To be honest I don't really know why I love someone, but can you tell about someone, why you actually love them?? I mean that's pretty hard, it was the same with my last girlfriend. I can't tell why I had a crush on her, but surely I did. (She wasn't very beautifull or something)

 

 

 

But I think I love my mum, for only one reasons:

 

 

 

I have the feeling she just deserves it. I have to love, just because all the love she has given/gives to me. And I didn't pay any attention to it when I was young! (Don't say as a child you ever thought: "woow, it's very special what my mother does for me.") That's just unfair.

 

 

 

Ofcourse I reject her a lot now, because I'm 16. But she still loves me, no matter what I do, if I come home much too late very drunk, she still loves me! It's very hard to not love someone, who gives that much love to you.

[BlueLancer]

 

 

Does that include people who died before their 50th anniversary?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The median age of death is about 82 years, and according to the statistics people get married at approximately 26-27 years old. But surely some people die before that, some may die a day after the wedding, on a general scale the data is quite trustworthy as it samples all age groups.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Link? I know only the females are set at above 80. Can't reach that gold anniversary if their spouse is dead can they...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I already listed the two sources, but I'll link it again:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I was giving rough estimates based on what I had memorised, in fact the median age of first marriage is 26.9 for males and 25.3 for females.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It doesn't list living expectancy, which is 77.85 years for males and 80.82 for females. You can find it here. https://cia.gov/cia/publications/factbook/geos/us.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Also, it's just a median, many males and females today live much longer than that, the statistics are also biased because it doesn't sample the average american, it samples everybody from the oldest living (over 100 years) to the shortest living (under 70).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Still, by those statistics most males, after being married for 50 years, would still have some of their life left, females having more obviously.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is quite safe to say the majority of divorces do not happen because of the death of either the husband or the wife.

[eric6669]

Love is just lust between a man and a woman, I don't think it goes deeper than that. However the love a man has for his God, now that is true love. There is nothing that runs deeper than that.

 

 

 

Love could be same sex too.

[killersushipunk]

 

Love is just lust between a man and a woman, I don't think it goes deeper than that. However the love a man has for his God, now that is true love. There is nothing that runs deeper than that.

 

 

 

Love could be same sex too.

 

 

 

I'm glad somebody agrees with me

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

(read previous posts plox?)

[deloriagod]

My first question...

 

 

 

For Instance, my friend (who's name I will not reveal...lol) started secondary school and has started 'going out' with since the beginning of term (6-7 weeks and 2 half-term weeks ago) with someone in her year. She says 'I love you' to him. She's known him less than 3 months, and they're in separate classes. She's gone out with him about three times, but she says she loves him. Sorry I just don't think it's enough time to really know someone and she doesn't seem sincere. It's the same thing with crushes... have a crush on someone because they're pretty, without really getting to know them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I've known my gf for 2 months and I tell her I love her. So maybe I don't mean it as in the way an engaged couple means it but I do love her (as a friend and a little more). I guess it all comes down to how you decide on what kind of love they mean.

[ryoushinn]

To me personally, love is Jesus. But now on to answer your questions...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I think love in today's world is half real, half fake. I love my family, because they care about me, they love me, they're my family. Of course i appreciate everything they do for me everyday, but still, they're my parents.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Society IS messed up. Sure, that one guy is really cute but do we know them? No. And i've had a personal experience, thinking that just because this one guy was hot, it made him nice. No, he was the jerkiest, rudest, nastiest kid ever.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I think it honestly takes awhile to get to know someone. To know how they are everyday, to know what they feel, think, act? Just not some fakie trying to get a good reputation. A lotta books, tv, stuff like that is just put on for entertainment, to grab our attention and hold it so they can get money, but in reality, problems can't be solved in "one show" or that quick. Reality is much tougher.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

To love somoene is to care for them...if you hate them, how can you care for them? I think that means that you don't really LOVE them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And personally, there is only one person i dont like. I dont hate anyone. Because to me, even though we are weak beings, Jesus still loved us, the sinners we are.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And please don't get mad at me if you don't have a religious view.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[Death_By_Pod]

 

 

 

So what is love, in our society, because it doesn't seem to be what I used to call 'true love'... not that I actually believed in true love as a concept... but nevermind.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

True love doesn't exist; the love that people describe as only coming from a long lasting relationship also doesn't exist (people change/fall in and out of love all the time). The only kind of love is that of the present. Love, like all other feelings/thoughts come and go; when you profess your love to someone it is a reaction to the feeling of love which came to your mind. Lust may or may not be love, depending on the type of feeling that comes to your mind (generally the difference between lust and love is how well/long you've known someone/something). Love doesn't even have to be induced by another person since it is based on feeling and thoughts rather then any single type of event or interaction.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I've known my gf for 2 months and I tell her I love her. So maybe I don't mean it as in the way an engaged couple means it but I do love her (as a friend and a little more). I guess it all comes down to how you decide on what kind of love they mean.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

No thats love. You love what you know about her, which is the exact same reason why engaged couples love each other.