Advice..

[Google90]

First of all, im 15 years old. Something is really bothering me. I can't even sleep. My dad is always talking about moving. Now I live in a town in Boston, Ma. He wants to move to the suburbs. I DO NOT WANT TO MOVE OUT OF MY TOWN.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The reason is mostly because the suburbs are like a total different culture. Its to quiet for me. I love civilized and very populated communities. The place he wants to go is called Newton. Its mostly very rich people who all own homes and have nice cars..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I don't want to change who I am. I love my school. I love my town. I have been in the same school for 5 years now. 5 Years of being together with the same 300 people in my grade is a long time. Ive become really close with each of them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My dad wants to move because its closer to his job. He has had his current job for about 3 years now, I dont see why he would wanna move now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Im asking for advice on how to get my dad to stay here. Im desperate..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

p.s please dont post somthing like "its for the best, the job is closer" or w.e. Hes been goin to work for 3 years now, he can go 3 more.

[Anesthesia]

Tell him why you want to stay. Hope he changes his mind. Other than that you're stuck, he holds all the cards.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That's life. I got moved when I was in school and it didn't kill me, in fact I'm very glad it happened.

[BlueLancer]

Tell him why you want to stay. Hope he changes his mind. Other than that you're stuck, he holds all the cards.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That's life. I got moved when I was in school and it didn't kill me, in fact I'm very glad it happened.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It depends a lot on the person. I was almost mentally crushed just by having to change schools, which crumbled most of my social network and demoralized my studies. Just "staying in touch" is not the same and if I contacted some of my old friends, they would barely even recognise me. But eventually, you can get over it. :)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your father indeed "holds all the cards", you have no chance of rebellion unless you could pay for your own rent, so try to explain it to him.

[Anesthesia]

Your father indeed "holds all the cards", you have no chance of rebellion unless you could pay for your own rent, so try to explain it to him.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I don't think even that would work. At least here you are under your parents control until you are 18. That is, unless you can prove they are mistreating you.

[Stoop111]

I don't think you have a choice, maybe cry and throw a fit every time he brings it up :wink:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Off Topic: I live 1 town away from Newton.

[Faux]

I understand where you're coming from. A year ago, my dad found a job about 2-3 hours away from here. Since then, my parents always talked about moving there. Well, my mom only partially. But I always said no. My girlfriend, my friends, and everything I liked is in here. Besides, the town my dad wanted to move to was so different. It isn't as busy or full of life compared to what I'm used to. So I stood my ground.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A few months ago, he found a better job that is only 45 (at the least, depends on traffic) minutes away and pays even better. So no, he doesn't have all the cards. Maybe he found a different reason to move there.

[deloriagod]

I have to say, this one hits close to home.. In the spring my parents put our home up for sale in hopes of moving to Branson, Missouri to be closer to my great grandparents. At the time I was all for the idea. I wasn't very close to anyone at my school so I didn't see a problem with losing all my friends. Well, our home didn't sell after a few months so we took it off the market. I figured fate had some reason for us to stay and I'd find out soon enough. Surely enough, I fell head over heels for my neighbor. Things seems good between us and all of a sudden a couple wanted to buy out house! I was outraged and hurt that my parents still wanted to sell it. Luckily they couldn't get the loan and so we didn't sell. Then school started, I met a new girl and, again, fell head of heels for her. I was closer than ever with my friends and suddenly the couple wanted to buy our house again. Thankfully my parents said no because we'd just put over $20,000 worth of improvements and such into the house.

 

 

 

The moral of this story? Things might work out for you. You should let your father know how you feel about moving. He was once a teenager and might have some sympathy for you. I've moved a few times in my life and can only remember one time. It's tough to make new friends but if you do end up moving things will be ok. If you don't like it there, you're only 3 years from being off on your own ;)

[ThurinEthir]

ROFL, Newton???? I know millions of people that live there! (Maybe not millions, but who cares?) Anyways, it used to be the safest city in the USA. Now it's 4th. Still good. Way better than Boston. It's actually no different than Boston, I've been there before. And believe me, there are not only people with nice houses and rich cars. That's only on Commenwealth and Chestnut, near the heart of Newton. If you're going to move to northern Newton, then you'll fit in. Newton Center is like a mini-version of Boston. Southern Newton? A little different, but still close enough. And isn't Newton just right next to Boston? You can look at that two ways...

 

 

 

1. It's so close, what's the point of moving?

 

 

 

2. It's so close, you can just visit your friends...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Think about it. Tell your dad those two reasons if you want. But since he has mre power on this decision than you, there's not much chance of you changing his mind. But if you have a pretty good argument, and if he's nice, there's a chance.

[Nadril]

I do understand where your coming from.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I, personaly, have moved around every 2 years roughly. Yup, my dad is in the army so we move constantly. Anyways, it always seems (at least to me) that whenever I really start to get good friends with people we move...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Try and talk to him about it. Tell him that you want to be able to finish out school, ect. ect.

[Google90]

I do understand where your coming from.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I, personaly, have moved around every 2 years roughly. Yup, my dad is in the army so we move constantly. Anyways, it always seems (at least to me) that whenever I really start to get good friends with people we move...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Try and talk to him about it. Tell him that you want to be able to finish out school, ect. ect.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thats the thing. I go to an exam school, and im not doing my best. He says he doesnt care wat school i go to anymore because of my grades. He won't listen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Quoting my dad..

 

 

 

By the time you're 18, you're outta this house

...harsh huh?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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and yea penguin i know its really close but if i move there i wont be able to go to boston public schools

[Fadfdfd]

First of all, im 15 years old. Something is really bothering me. I can't even sleep. My dad is always talking about moving. Now I live in a town in Boston, Ma. He wants to move to the suburbs. I DO NOT WANT TO MOVE OUT OF MY TOWN.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The reason is mostly because the suburbs are like a total different culture. Its to quiet for me. I love civilized and very populated communities. The place he wants to go is called Newton. Its mostly very rich people who all own homes and have nice cars..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I don't want to change who I am. I love my school. I love my town. I have been in the same school for 5 years now. 5 Years of being together with the same 300 people in my grade is a long time. Ive become really close with each of them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My dad wants to move because its closer to his job. He has had his current job for about 3 years now, I dont see why he would wanna move now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Im asking for advice on how to get my dad to stay here. Im desperate..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

p.s please dont post somthing like "its for the best, the job is closer" or w.e. Hes been goin to work for 3 years now, he can go 3 more.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Eww, those suburbs are gross. I know what you mean. Quincy? Yuck! Although, I always love this area, it's right on the side of the highway, and there's a storage place, and the brick wall is all painted to a scene. It's so cool looking. And the New Balance factory? That place is awesome. I see these places heading to Sox games allllllll the time! But it is a dump.

[jgrazotis]

i kinda no wat u meen, except we didnt move that far

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

we went from suburbs to like semi rural, farms and hills and that stuff

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

i didnt want to move coz i liked the area much better than where we moved to, but my mum did coz her loser boyfriend said he would build her a house the way she wanted it, so we lost since she got a dream house, which is set IN THE 30s, cmon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

anyways tell ur dad u dont wanna move and tell him about the 3 years thing and really i got nothin else.....tell him how great ur life is at boston say his life is great too its just his job is too far, then say how much worse life wil be if u move

[ThurinEthir]

You have what, 2 3/4 years left in school until college? So just high school, right? According to people I know, Newton South High School is one of the best high schools in the Boston area. It's also one of the newest. But on the other side of town is Newton North High School. Blech, I've heard there are no windows. And mold everywhere. Ask your dad where in Newton he wants to move to. Tell him to check out the school system. There are probably some pictures of NNHS out there, if he sees them, he MIGHT change his mind.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And from what I guess, the schools thing is the only reason you don't really want to move. Just say that you don't want to leave your friends, after being used to seeing them 5 days a week, for 5 years. But change is part of life, and we all have to deal with it. I better stop soon before I seem like some crazy guy from TV that I don't know the name of.

[PhaperPlane]

 

I do understand where your coming from.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I, personaly, have moved around every 2 years roughly. Yup, my dad is in the army so we move constantly. Anyways, it always seems (at least to me) that whenever I really start to get good friends with people we move...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Try and talk to him about it. Tell him that you want to be able to finish out school, ect. ect.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thats the thing. I go to an exam school, and im not doing my best. He says he doesnt care wat school i go to anymore because of my grades. He won't listen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Quoting my dad..

 

 

 

By the time you're 18, you're outta this house

...harsh huh?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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and yea penguin i know its really close but if i move there i wont be able to go to boston public schools

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your in a tight spot here, but this is a 50-50 chance of two things happening, life gets better or life gets worse, if you dosen't listen, just to tell about how you feel about this on a whole in a very serious way, not harshly, but be quite serious and hopefully he should listen to what you have to say. Good luck dude!

[bull912000]

I think that you should let go of your town. As of now, I live in the middle of nowhere pretty much and I am happy. In spaller towns and cities, you will know each person ALOT better and you will probably have just as many friends as you did in your old school. You are probably just scared of the change; if you do happen to move, it won't be the end of the world.

[Google90]

Im not scared of change. We're refugees from Bosnia. Ive lived in 4 different countries. Now im settled here and want to stay here...