destroyon2 Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 How do u get over the loss of someone close to u such as ur mom at a young age? or dose it just bother you for the rest of ur life? cuz i lost my mom 5 days ago and i just cant stop thinkin about the last time we talked cuz we argued and thats the last memory i have with her so that dosent help but is there anything i can do to make this go easier on me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diminished2b Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 You'll move on. It will just take a lot of time and grief. She'll always be.. well.. sacred to you, but you won't be enthralled in thoughts about her so intensively. That's very unfortunate about your mother. I know how you may have a not-so-good last memory, but think of the good times you had to gather. If there is an afterlife, I bet she will be thinking of all of the good times and looking after you. I'm sorry about your loss. Regards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
destroyon2 Posted December 18, 2006 Author Share Posted December 18, 2006 You'll move on. It will just take a lot of time and grief. She'll always be.. well.. sacred to you, but you won't be enthralled in thoughts about her so intensively. That's very unfortunate about your mother. I know how you may have a not-so-good last memory, but think of the good times you had to gather. If there is an afterlife, I bet she will be thinking of all of the good times and looking after you. I'm sorry about your loss. Regards. see thats also the thing all we did for the past 8 months was [bleep] at eachother and i barley saw her much before that so that kinda dosent help i have like 2 good memorys with her in the past 2 years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tigra00 Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 Don't dwell on the last thing you did, dwell on the better things. When she died, it's very likely the arguing wasn't on her mind, and she didn't care. The popularity of any given religion today depends on the victories of the wars they fought in the past. - Me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheLastTemplar Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 Don't dwell on the last thing you did, dwell on the better things. When she died, it's very likely the arguing wasn't on her mind, and she didn't care. yes, I agree with you. Try seeking a Church and seek guidence from God. http://siggy.draynor.net/goal/fletching ... cow101.gif[/img][/url] Nova Ordo Secularum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aijiru Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 Now it may look like impossible, buy you'll learn to deal with that. And on some days, or weeks, you'll remember the good times rather than the discussions. Trust me, that situations are so hard to pass on, but at the end they always pass... Try to get yourself distracted with something and not be all the time thinking on your mother... just hang out with friends, go to the cinema or theatre, try to talk with people and not to be alone all the time (don't know about you, but some people like to be alone when they are feeling bad, and now that's not good because you may be all the time thinking on your mother. Don't make an obsession of that) How old are you? I was 14 at the moment my father died (now i'm 17) Currently having a break from sig-making...Join the campaign for more F2P bank space!Avatar by Born2die, tyvm! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
welephant Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 Or you could use your friends and remaining family to get the support you need, if you aren't religious or don't want to go down that route, as not all people do. Me being one of them, my dad died a few years ago, I never ever saw him, and last time I did we talked for 5 minutes and then I called him a racist biggot and that was the end of it. Time heals all wounds, but this one will take alot of time. Seriously though, lean on your friends and family and make sure you don't distance them. That's what I did and it only lead to more grief. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaziek Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 Don't dwell on the last thing you did, dwell on the better things. When she died, it's very likely the arguing wasn't on her mind, and she didn't care. yes, I agree with you. Try seeking a Church and seek guidence from God. .................. anyway.... its OK to grieve. dont dwell on the bad times. she was ur mum she loved u and u love her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
destroyon2 Posted December 18, 2006 Author Share Posted December 18, 2006 Now it may look like impossible, buy you'll learn to deal with that. And on some days, or weeks, you'll remember the good times rather than the discussions. Trust me, that situations are so hard to pass on, but at the end they always pass... Try to get yourself distracted with something and not be all the time thinking on your mother... just hang out with friends, go to the cinema or theatre, try to talk with people and not to be alone all the time (don't know about you, but some people like to be alone when they are feeling bad, and now that's not good because you may be all the time thinking on your mother. Don't make an obsession of that) How old are you? I was 14 at the moment my father died (now i'm 17) I hope ur right im gonna try to keep my mind off it with swimin and friends and keepin active i hate bein alone when im sad also im 14 to Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hobgoblin11 Posted December 18, 2006 Share Posted December 18, 2006 Talk to a counsellor. Seriously, they are not all there for nutcases, a lot of people go to grievance counselling, to talk over things with someone who understands and can help. My nan is currently dying, and while I have a good relationship with her, the hospice has offered me counselling when she does ie, and I think I will probably take it. It's not easy to get over the death of someone so close, especially when you part on such bad terms, but in time, and possibly with counselling, the thoughts going through your head over and over will fade, and you will remember the happy times you had with her. If you don't go to counselling, at least talk it over with your Dad, family member or friend. A decent Counselling careline is supposed to be this: 0845 122 8622. Their website is http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/26739387/. Do you mind me asking how she died? 99/99 Fletching, 99/99 Cooking, 96/99 Strength Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
destroyon2 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 Talk to a counsellor. Seriously, they are not all there for nutcases, a lot of people go to grievance counselling, to talk over things with someone who understands and can help. My nan is currently dying, and while I have a good relationship with her, the hospice has offered me counselling when she does ie, and I think I will probably take it. It's not easy to get over the death of someone so close, especially when you part on such bad terms, but in time, and possibly with counselling, the thoughts going through your head over and over will fade, and you will remember the happy times you had with her. If you don't go to counselling, at least talk it over with your Dad, family member or friend. A decent Counselling careline is supposed to be this: 0845 122 8622. Their website is http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/26739387/. Do you mind me asking how she died? actaully im gonna talk to a councler my bro went to for his mom( were half bros he lost his mom 6 years ago=( ) She died from a anerism of the heart it was painless =( she was only 40 though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hobgoblin11 Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 actaully im gonna talk to a councler my bro went to for his mom( were half bros he lost his mom 6 years ago=( ) She died from a anerism of the heart it was painless =( she was only 40 though Oh good, you should know one that is local then. Thats very unlucky to have both your mums die within 6 years though. At least it was, like you say, painless. Let us know how things go. 99/99 Fletching, 99/99 Cooking, 96/99 Strength Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
destroyon2 Posted December 19, 2006 Author Share Posted December 19, 2006 things kinda got rougher today cuz it was the burial :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andufusthebronze Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 well, when my friends dad died. i was ill and he asked for the day off school, and so we talked on msn, ALL DAY. and apparently it was really comferting for him, he thinks that i'm like his dad :shock: and so my advice is, talk to your friends, they can be a great help. He thinks I'm cool know Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aijiru Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Yes, always talk to someone who understands you, never save those things inside because you might hurt yourself... Currently having a break from sig-making...Join the campaign for more F2P bank space!Avatar by Born2die, tyvm! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mad4u689 Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 I'm so sorry for your loss :( *hugs!!* Everybody hug and spread the love :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petey Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 Don't dwell on the last thing you did, dwell on the better things. When she died, it's very likely the arguing wasn't on her mind, and she didn't care. yes, I agree with you. Try seeking a Church and seek guidence from God. You could be there a while, try a priest. But yeah, much regards, but just focus on the road ahead, don't live in the past. (Btw, that wasn't an insensative thing to say, I was mainly telling him to not let his present life be ruined by the person that wanted him to be happy the most.) Again, sorry. Which Final Fantasy Character Are You?Final Fantasy Currently Listening To ~ Hotel California / The Eagles Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
runescapeloser22 Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 well, its good that her death was painless (not saying her death is a good thing #-o ) but be thankful that she didnt get murder or something. anyway u should find someone to talk to about it, and eventually u'll get over it, thats what i did when my cat died (not really the same but kinda) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rushrock Posted December 19, 2006 Share Posted December 19, 2006 I'd suggest going to a counselor, possibly with a friend. Counselors and friends can help a lot. :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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