Omar

What are everyone's thoughts on whether that's a dick move?

The obvious answer to that is "economists". I'm not against the idea, that supply/demand argument was just fallacious. http://www.economistsdoitwithmodels.com/2012/08/05/when-economists-play-matchmaker/

http://putthison.com/post/811624289/start-by-simplifying Buy basics. Not necessarily the ones outlined by Jesse, but for whatever style you're going for.

Any data on sex drive in a poly setting? "The rational for why a woman's sex drive declines may be down to supply and demand. If something is in infinite supply, the perceived value would drop." Herp. The price drops, not the value. Just because air is virtually infinite, doesn't mean you don't value it.

Basically it's any case where you're best off being the only one not following a law (free rider), but if every one behaves that way, everyone is worse off. For example, if there's a fire in a building, casualties are minimized when people line up to exit. Your chances of getting out are highest if you run straight through the line while everyone waits. But everyone takes that approach, and so everyone tramples each other and less people make it out alive. Also, on the topic of résumés, being capable of making yourself look good can be something your employer looks for. You'd expect someone in marketing (another collective action problem) to know how to do this for example.

That's called a collective action problem, Randox, aka arms race. Just saying, because you'll probably find it interesting.

I'm sort of cool with it. I figure you have to have the flashiest profile for your actual personality to be given a chance during the chat, so it's legitimate.

Probably not, actually. I think the most deceptive part about this is that you're not a jerk, but you act like one on your profile. Or at least, that's what bugs me most about this.

You're being rational about it. Relationships feel like something that shouldn't go through optimisation processes.

What they're saying, I think, is that people who need to fake confidence overplay it and effectively display arrogance.

When I started playing, I got off tutorial island and I had no idea what to do. The concept of goals only hit me later. Am I wrong to think players are immediately guided nowadays?

Does qualifying not get a little résumé-y?

I think one of my first posts was something like "sorry im only a chicken feather!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Just read Philosophie Magazine's approach the mono/poly question. I might translate the good parts when I have time. Also, even if I had knowledge, I wouldn't help with a TIF compendium of love wisdom. I come here because I'm bored, not to help people.

You look at those candles like they're an incarnation of the intrinsic hollowness of life or something.

[bleep] that. This is a game. Go have some fun.

Saw Shahman (post-metal), Protestant (heavy hardcore) and a tiny bit of Alaskan (post-metal/sludge) tonight. They got booted off stage after like 15 minutes because past 11pm noise complaints are legitimate. Why they didn't start the show earlier, I don't know.

Told.

I think that was a general you, replaceable by "one". This is not the way to think about this. They came for help. That's not our responsibility to begin with. Sure, people would be better off taking this advice, but if we want to help them we have to work with their irrational behaviour. This would sound very good in a Powerpoint presentation, but how does this work when you try apply it to practice? Like this:

This is not the way to think about this. They came for help. That's not our responsibility to begin with. Sure, people would be better off taking this advice, but if we want to help them we have to work with their irrational behaviour.

@Muggi: Sure, but most advice asked here is in the short term, not long. People are asking about a specific person, not about their happiness in the long run. If you tell them to run headfirst into it and pretty much actively seek rejection they'll have a oneitis-esque reflex and they won't listen.

People come here looking for "how-to" advice, and they're not entirely wrong to do so. Most of the time people are aware of their lack of confidence, so they need a routine they can use as a crutch. If someone asks you how to talk to their crush, you're not helping if you just tell them to go talk to their crush. That part is assumed, as far as I'm concerned.

http://putthison.com/post/10982496454/the-shady-series-part-iii-models-to-consider There's no guideline for handsome, so failing that, I'd say you're an oval. Ovals wear whatever they want when it comes to shades.

It's bad advice because it doesn't help, not because it's untrue.

What's your face like?