Omar

Actually, revenge doesn't look like a desire which overrides other desires (smoking is a good example of one). In a study where vengeance was given a cost (i.e. to get revenge, you had to pay), the severity of the punishment was inversely proportional to the amount of money it cost. If vengeance was indeed a passion, this wouldn't be the case. Money loss is easier to quantify than regret though, but in that case he still tried to act rationally with whatever info he had on hand, or at least more rationally than you might think; for all you know it might have been the best course of action for his own ends. [Edit] Looked for studies which try to figure out how likely regret is, none found. I'll make a thread and see what happens.

@Squab: duh! You said something was wrong with the way he acted. I expected there was a personal reason for that--something like "this kind of behaviour may feel good now but it won't teach you any lessons" rather than "this behaviour is disrespectful of others", which is clearly not going to convince anyone with a chip on their shoulder.

It's for cosplaying? Should have said so before! [Edit] Wait. It isn't it, is it?

There's nothing wrong with feeling the way he felt. HOWEVER, there is something wrong when he chooses to act on the way he feels... Namely?

That's a good one. For me, there are certain trigger phrases that cause certain responses as a result of my time in the service industry, especially since taller was one of my jobs. More than once I have found myself accidently reversing the role of teller and customer, where I guess I am essentially thanking them for letting me shop there. I'm not even sure if they notice, or if I just seem ridiculously polite or what, but it embarrasses me. I say thank you to cashiers. I've always viewed that as more of a "Thanks for helping me" kind of thing than a "Thanks for letting me shop here." I greet and thank bus drivers and cashiers, and well, pretty much anyone I (indirectly) pay to do something. I figure it doesn't cost me anything and it might make their day just a bit brighter.

When the front wheels of your skateboard catches onto some irregularity in the pavement and your body subsequently catches onto all the irregularities in the pavement. It's especially bad when you just got on.

How did I miss this guy? :mellow:

I think Ralph is right in that even if we tell you to keep a minimum distance, you never will. RIGHT RALPH? But yeah, the botanical garden sounds pretty cool. It's a good place to talk, whereas a movie for example isn't great.

You guys are talking past each other. Gabe's faith is felt, whereas you're asking for evidence.

I was talking about those clouds but whatever, the joke worked...

I could be interpreting this wrong, but I don't see how you could conclude that man presupposing the idea of 'god' (i.e. man creating 'god') independently as 'weird'. "It" refers to the fact that we're discussing god's existence, not the proposition that men invented gods.

That's not at all what I said.

Yeah, as much as I think the US would be better off without firearms I don't think it can be done.

Is that sheep heaven right behind you?

Let's make this presupposition, for the sake of the argument: God exists. In this case, it's possible our ancestors couldn't have imagined a flying ninja monkey being their creator, and that the source of the image they think of is God himself. Then it would not be weird at all for us to be discussing this. In fact it couldn't have happened any other way. It's only weird if you presuppose men came up with the idea independently, which is a decidedly atheistic claim. In the Bible for example, God chit-chats with people.

I know, just letting you know. The MTM/"bespoke"/bespoke clothing market is booming at the moment but it's mostly shit. Suitsupply is the lowest I've seen recommended, and that was a 500$ suit. 180$ is not a lot for a suit. It's not even a lot for a sport coat. You really will get what you pay for.

This. I really can't believe that at least once a year something like this happens, and every year everyone pretends to be absolutely shocked. Maybe this reflects poorly on my mental state (and I'm sorry if I somehow offend someone by saying this) but I actually have trouble caring about things like this anymore. Hearing about it just seems to have no effect on me. Same. If I think about it for a while, it gets to me, but I have to make the effort. It might have more to do with having lost someone dear than simply being apathetic though. It's never happened to me.

Sounds solid. I have money laying around right now, but I might need it for textbooks. I'll try to remember this.

Independent. Girly girls make no sense to me. Be a man and text me.

I can't tell you if that's too much or too little, but the middle button (or top if there are two) should be at your belly-button. If you can invest in a good pair of shoes (scroll), do it.

Small revelation: these texts I don't understand are badly written.

Hold the phone! a) 180$ for a suit is cheap. What company is this? Done any research on them? Some of these custom garments come out really awful. b) Brown is an appropriate color, but you're much better off starting with gray or navy, without a pattern. Black is a no-no. c) Two buttons, not three, unless it's 3/2 roll (top button not functional, rolls as part of the lapel). This guy doesn't have enough shirt space. d) That belt at the back of the jacket is not what you want for one of your first suit. Keep it simple. e) Don't wear a suit in casual situations. Not until you've built your wardrobe enough, and even then, be careful. No sneakers allowed. Keep money around for shoes. Really basic ones. Brown or black oxfords, brown derbies are good too. You'll also need a shirt or two.

The idea isn't to make them compete and make yourself like the catch, Kimberly, or at least that has nothing to do with the problem of nerves. It's just that if you don't worry too much about being alone or not having alternatives you'll be better off because you,re not in a do-or-die situation.

What's the logic behind that? Less worrying about what could happen with one of them?

Tut tut tut. Why you drunkvising people? On a different note. I had my date tonight. I have no idea what to feel about it. I'm going to be honest. it's the first time in a VERY VERY VERY VERY long time that i've been out on a "first date". What's even worse is that it's the first time in a VERY VERY VERY VERY long time that i've actually been out on a "real date". The stuff with the French girl i saw from school was a lot different because we saw each other pretty much every day, we spoke face to face every day. It made things a lot different. It made the situation a lot easier to read. And whenever i went out with her it never REALLY felt like well...an actual date. It's weird. I don't think we ever really had a "first date" (maybe the time we went to West Palm, but again that felt very different). I already pretty much knew her before we started "dating". Anyway to get back on topic. I went on a date with this girl tonight. I met her last week Friday. We've been texting/talking a lot during the week, so i thought things would go pretty well. We got to the restaurant at around 7pm. We went in separate cars because she went there directly after work. Anyway. So we had dinner, we talked and talked and talked for what seemed like ages. When we decided to leave i walked her to her car. We stood by her car and talked for a minute or two. She asked me what i was doing this weekend. I told her probably not much. She said we should try and make some plans to go out. Okay so that all sounds good right? Here's when my heart stopped. As i walked to my car i look at my phone and i notice it's 9:15-ish. That mean's we only spent about 2 hours and 15 minutes there. And that's when my mind started overclocking. I'm not sure if that's a bad thing or a good thing. 2 hours seems kinda....short. Now she did ask me (and texted me earlier) if i wanted to hang out again. But still, something in the back of my mind is telling me that 2 hours is not a good thing..... Stop flipping your shit, you're fine. Maddy, I think you're over-analyzing his speech. At any rate, whatever he meant to say, we're definitely not going to be better at interpreting it than you, and you'll never know for sure unless you ask. Whether that's a good idea or not, again, is not really for us to tell you.