RpgGamer

d'aww thanks Lang ;) I really want to relapse back into her - as is my pattern, but she isn't exactly the same as my ex. (shit how are we going to decipher which crazy ex I'll be referring to in the future?). Ring, you don't know the history of my relationships, your nativity made me smile a bit. I already blocked her from my feed but haven't deleted her entirely. I think I want to relapse, but it's sounding dumber and dumber as I'm typing that. There really wasn't much spark left between us, and I'm fairly certain her ex entered the picture at some point in the past couple days because she was always on the phone and her facebook status's would suggest so. So yeah, best thing for me to do would go full lock down and cut her out. Put it all behind me. I just have such trouble letting go, especially when I cared so much. (granted all the guys in her life pull that nonesense, so to really set myself apart, a solid cut off would at the very least set me apart from the scuzz bags she's usually around). Perhaps I could take advantage... bah. I don't even want to think about it anymore. I want to focus on school and drinking. Perhaps what I wanted most was a set summer fling, as I'll be done school in 4 weeks. And now she's only going to be hindering that desire.

broke up wioth my girl. mixed feelings. got drunk to suppress them. long story. trying to do homoework now. when did it start being otmorrow alread. bullocks.

You;ll all be plaseec to know that I dropped it with the girl. I told her I couldnt bare to add ot her strss levels and I wasn't the man i wante dt o be aound her. And it was true. She made me into simoethingI didnt like. So now I'm single, and semi drunk. Shit ha[pe[ns. I kinda miss her, but i know its for the besy. god she was sexy.

It's funny. Honestly, RPG, I kinda judged you super hard at first(and I apologize for this), but as you've explained more more I've realized how much we are alike. The whole like completely dedicating yourself to whoever the girl is when you're entirely infatuated is like me to a tee. And it sucks. Alot. Anyways, don't know why I said that but all of this has been really helpful. /back to lurking. Judging me how exactly? For science of course.

I've never laughed so hard in this thread holy crap guys hahahahahahha

Smoked a bit, experienced Tool's Lateralus then went to play some soccer. Good times, went to McDonalds for a McGangbang, bought some beer and was THIS close to convincing my friend to go to a party at his ex's house with me. But he was on the fence cause his girlfriend now would have killed him, then I got a text from a friend to register for my classes which I COMPLETELY forgot about...so now I'm on webreg sweating bullets trying to get the shit I need to graduate on time. Fingers crossed. #yolo

it's just so hard to explain to everyone at work when I haven't seen them in two weeks. I want to capture the intense happiness I felt, without invalidating the current state of things, but while bottom lining it with a "she's a lunatic and I'm nuts about her". I've decided that I'm not taking her seriously, but I still want to [bleep] her brains out. I can tell you're familiar with crazy though. Where every conversation can leave you head over heels lovedrunk, or spin you into a fit of rage, and you have no idea which way it's going to go. But the thrill is in the gamble. I think I need to stop talking about her entirely, at least to my real life friends. It would likely keep me from falling for all her fun traits again. Cause dammit I get hypnotized by her hip tattoos. And it's just so familiar to be so attracted to someone who infuriates me on such a high magnitude. I really need to stop enjoying hating people I want to bang. Or whatever twisted weirdness I've developed.

I was with my family today and my pop-pop told us a story. He had a flat tire going down the highway maybe 10 years ago and a strapping young lad stopped to help him out. He was about to report for duty at the semi-local military base, but stopped to help my pop-pop who was all grey haired and helpless. When he was done he saluted him and called him sir. My pop-pop was confused and said "I'm not even in uniform" and the Marine said "yes sir, but I can tell you once were". My pop-pop had the biggest sound of respect in his voice when he told this story. He served in WWII in the 83rd and 101st paratrooper divisions. He was once of the first waves to touch ground in Normandy, has a bronze star and 2 purple hearts. To hear him have such respect for this kid that helped him change his tire and salute him was really cool. made me smile.

People that text me when I'm trying to enjoy a rare moment of free time, usually with something banal like "I'm crying again." oh lord. Nothing pisses me off more than when I'm chilling with my friends, beer in one hand, cigar in the other, sitting in the sun when I get a text like "I'm crying". Or "we need to talk" total day killer.

I know that feel. My ex gave me crap for being too serious ALL the time. Now she's 'engaged' and I'm sitting here with my dick in my hand. Kinda makes you want to go nuts, doesn't it? today I'm being philosophical about my life, writing some papers for my religion class, and just trying to chill out. I've been far too high strung lately. [hide=crap you're all tired of hearing] riot girl and i had a nice sexual conversation, followed by 4 hours later - her blowing up on me for not driving an hour to see her when she knew I was asleep. She then called me again while I was actually asleep, I ignored it, and then I woke up to a very...colorful text message. She drives me up a damn wall. I'm so done taking her seriously.[/hide]

I'd like to hear more about this, because it is probably the weakest point in my "game". I have slight hiccups in attracting girls, but I'm confident in saying I'm quite capable of it. Keeping the girls around? I have trouble with. So, I'm not really sure where to begin so let's start simple. Does the initial attraction differ in any way if you're planning on keeping them around longer than a short period of time? That's a HUGE topic, but here's relationships in a nutshell :P [spoiler=Relationships Guide for Women] How to meet a man: 1. Look hot/cute 2. Be sweet to him How to keep a man: 1. Remain hot/cute 2. Remain sweet to him 3. Match his sex drive. (Credit: Blackdragon :P) [spoiler=Relationships Guide for Men] How to meet a girl: 1. Be confident 2. Be non-needy How to keep a girl: 1. Remain confident 2. Remain non-needy 3. Be good in bed It's very simple. But just because it's simple doesn't mean it's easy. If you skimp out on any one of those points, expect problems. In your case, RPG, you are unable to remain non-needy. There are ways to be romantic without sacrificing your non-neediness, mind you. But I'd ask myself why being a romantic is so important in the first place? I suspect you think you're doing women a favor somehow by being a hopeless romantic, when in reality you're just turning her off and disappointing yourself. I really need to not lose my head when I start getting infatuated. Sacrifice seems like such a good gesture, but it occurred to me last night it's not a good answer. I've been reading a lot of Erich Fromm lately, and basically the gist of it is: true pure religious sincerity comes from the individual, not a God that demands it. Obedience and sacrifice are not part of love. And then it hit me. That's exactly what I do when I get crazy over a girl. I demand mutual obedience and sacrifice until I have nothing left. That's not love, it's worship. And that's not healthy spiritually or in a relationship. I need to learn to keep the integrity of who I am, no matter how attracted to a girl I get. Or in your words - Don't be needy. I'm generally not a needy guy, but when I get real caught up in a girl I become a huge well...[bleep]. I was telling my friends the other night I'm already whipped like Django. And that's stupid. Especially for someone as relaxed as I am. Look at me....learning stuff and stuff.

I think doom was a her. I haven't seen her or dusty in a while though. I believe she goes by "Wisp" now

I think that's the most I've ever agreed with Muggiw in a single post. You've got me pegged quite well. I'd just like to clarify that 1) if there was no scarcity, I wouldn't give half as many shits as I do 2) identifying myself as Ted Mosby incarnate has not played to my advantage (especially the blue french horn my ex bought me) 3) i will grab that stove every damn time no matter how red hot it looks, eventually maybe I'll learn better 4) I've given up the thoughts of being in a serious relationship with this girl. she lies, she manipulates, she's vindictive, and she slaughters my savings account. My first clue to not take her seriously really should have been when she told me she listens to Blood On The Dancefloor without being ironic. (I'm not upset because you're not appeasing my desire for assurance, I'm upset because I realize no matter what I do I'm screwed) Now that I'm done peacefully defending myself, I'd like to propose a new direction for the thread: I'd like to hear more about this, because it is probably the weakest point in my "game". I have slight hiccups in attracting girls, but I'm confident in saying I'm quite capable of it. Keeping the girls around? I have trouble with. So, I'm not really sure where to begin so let's start simple. Does the initial attraction differ in any way if you're planning on keeping them around longer than a short period of time?

I've tried the whole juggling multiple girls thing, and I suppose there's not really been a time since my last real relationship where I didn't have more than one thing going on, but I prefer to focus on one girl. Even if that does mean putting all of my eggs in one basket and risking my satisfaction. After all, that places a lot of responsibility on that one girl. I've realized the logical fallacy in it, but it just feels....better? I like not feeling like I'm in a competition, or judging that competition. But maybe this is a temporary feeling. gftog and the like. I get hung up on nerdy girls too easy. And crazy girls.

I feel by subtracting the individuality of the subject, you overgeneralize the situation though. I mean you can say "do something to make them smile" all you like and be right, but it's not particularly helpful.

Which brings me to my next point: If I text/message you a reasonable amount of times when I know you're doing nothing, and I know you saw the message and you still ignore me*? ooo man that's a hot button. I go livid. *made 100x worse when we were messaging/texting back and forth and they suddenly just drop the conversation like they forgot you existed.

This is precisely how I met the girl I'm 'seeing" now. I call it "facebook roulette". I explained it in my vlog a little a couple weeks ago. Hey, this isn't completely true. Like, maybe recently it has, but I used to come here for a lot of advice. I used to be quite terrible about getting myself friendzoned (hell, I saw some quote about it in somebody's signature once). While I admittedly still have not been in a relationship/done anything remotely sexual in the past yearish since I've stopped posting about every girl I meet here, I at least have made enough progress that I attract girls now; there have been about three since this schoolyear started but I didn't pursue any of them because of distance/age gap (I'm in college, they were all still in high school at my hometown and a long-distance relationship seems kind of pointless to me). Still, thats a definite improvement from where I was prior to this thread, and I definitely learned a lot about motivation and self-improvement from here. Advice from here has really helped me increase my confidence overall, and this drive for self-improvement led to me learning a lot more about fashion, starting to lift, and just trying to be more approachable and better at flirting in general. So like, this thread's advice isn't completely useless. I'm sure there are other people like me here that it has helped; it just takes a long time to put some of this into motion. I'm sure I could have more success/things to talk about here if finding a girl was actually a priority for me currently, but it's taking a backseat to my self-improvement at this point and I am completely satisfied with that for the time being. I've learned tons of stuff in this thread, and I hope if nothing else people can learn from my mistakes. I might not be able to say exactly the right thing, but at least I can serve as an example. I'd rather make the mistake and post about it to prevent anyone else from doing it. Also, I feel the "advice" has drifted away from seeking a relationship after we decided that if you desire a relationship, you're already in the wrong mindset. This unfortunately derived into this sadistic advice giving style where we almost seem to tell each other to stay as single as possible for our on sanity. I for one am a romantic. If I want advice in wooing a girl, I'd like to hear advice about wooing said girl. Regardless if she's horrible for me. I'm well aware of what's good and what isn't. I just don't always care. When's the last time this thread actually helped someone succeed in helping a poster find themselves a significant other? It's been a while. Because we focus so hard on initial attraction. It's important, yes. But no one seems to be helping people with issues in phase 2. I learned to initiate properly from this thread, and it's been a huge help. But I find myself saying..."and then what" quite a lot after attracting a girl. I can accept this. You can't really help who you fall for, and once your heart is set on someone it's hard to change it's path . However, I need to ask you something. Before you met this girl, were you into drugs? Were you the the type of guy who drives his girl wherever she wants to go? Don't let her change you too much. Precisely one of my mistakes. I've never done hard drugs, nor did I have a strong desire to before meeting her. The whole taking care of her and driving her around thing is me though. I feel she takes advantage of it, but that's always been a flaw of mine I guess. I really need to not be a pushover when it comes to pretty girls. -- Not looking for advice, but more just something I'd like to post: She came to my friends house last night, we played out game, she was with-holding sex presumably because she's still mad at me for last weekend. I drove her home, she kissed me good night and said she had a lot of fun. Said something about asking me if I still had a desire to be with her legitimately and I said we'd talk about it when we're sober. I called her an hour ago and now I'm sitting here with my thumb up my ass waiting for her to call back. Learn from me: fight for your right to be what you are and do as you please. Don't just give in, cause if you give a girl an inch when you're getting to know eachother - they'll run you for miles and miles.

I'm not sure what I did since I last logged into good Ol' TIF. I remember getting really really drunk. Then swearing I'd never touch alcohol again. Then getting really really drunk. And then going to see my riot girl. And then got really really drunk. I remember last night I invited her to my friend's open house for a chill night of music and campfire. Of course, she being a rave promoter decided to call up all her raver friends, all her dj connections, and next thing I know my buddy's couch is in the backyard, people are setting off fireworks (illegal in my state), there's a huge gas-fueled open fire, and there's an internationally famous DJ in the basement (AlienFuel opened for Dr Jer-Z). So what was going to be a chill night of maybe 15 people ended up being potentially project X. But I contained it, and it all went better than expected. Nothing got stolen, or broken. Just a door frame fell off, and the kitchen was a mess. And they have to toss the couch in the garbage. But overall, not bad. I was actually quite happy by the end of the night. And now I'm waiting for the girl to call me back because she was drunkenly telling me something about relationships, but than decided we should talk about it when we're both sober. I called her a bit ago and she said she'd call me back in an hour. The waiting game is so silly. And awful. And I hate it. In less exciting news, I went to my cousin's bar mitzvah today, hungover as all hell. Not a good time, and the reception was just so lack luster by comparison to all the raves I've been going to the past fortnight. I'm tired as hell.

talked to my girl. has no interest in a full blown relationship with me apparently. quite diheartened. also drunk. i love my friends. i think i'm gonna quit drinking for a bit to prove a point. but I'll have a real answer by next week. Shit's crazy right now, things are changing by the second. can't keep up with it

and [bleep] me this super model gir i got in trouble for talking to at the club the other night commented my status in which i quoted Valencia about my quitting drinking which was directed at my girl for my commitment, but in my own way, so now shes only gonnna get more mad and I'm just stuck in this semi-drunk state siwshing i could drink more but feeling like I cant cause Itll only piiss my gidl off. [bleep] me.

ooo technically today I get to see my girl :D Hope shes not too mad at me or nothin. shit i should call my boy whos good at people/.//

I have approximately 12 beers and a shot of vodka in my possession. I hereby claim I will no longer purchase alcohol for self consumption. I'm doing this for my own health benefits, and because my girl hates it when I drink. Whatever. She makes me happy. I drink to be happy. I don't need it if I have her. also I've been drinking.

This analogy is perfect.

Talked to her a few minutes ago and shes hardcore judging me on my drinking habits. I'm ready to give up drinking for her, cause I made her give up cigs.... I want to have my fun. I realize it'll inevitably blow up in my face. And now I know alcohol will be the key to getting over everything if it ends. I just find it funny that she has no issue doing coke in front of me, but then she'll scold me on drinking. I'm so drinking myself retarded when she breaks me.

this is how good threads die boys, chill out.