BlackDawn

Alright, so we've got another case of Paedophilia via the internet. Obviously it is a horrible thing, the guy is despicable, you know, all of that necessary stuff. He can stay locked up for life for all I care about the bastard. However, I'm quite amazed at the solid attitudes of some people here. I'm surprised that some of you cannot find even the TINIEST reason to give the girl even the TINIEST bit of blame. This was not a one man show, people. I realise it's been said countless times on previous pages, but she DID ALL BUT PUSH HERSELF AGAINST HIS [rooster]. Good God. She told him her name, where she lived, consented to meeting up, consented to SEX with the guy... Yeah, obviously it's a rape case and should indeed be treated as such. This is something that shouldn't happen, and I'm not saying she should be given a hefty punishment for being such an absolute [developmentally delayed]. The guy gets the punishment, the girl gets her own from her parents and via counselling. But for all that is holy, how can a person not blame her in the slightest?! She gave the guy EVERYTHING he needed, and CONSENTED to all of it! Even the God damn sex! THREE TIMES! People so young CAN have their own opinions, make decisions, and have minds that work as any adult's does. It can be fairly rare to find one so young who has the thinking capability of an adult, sure, but it's possible. Just because she's thirteen doesn't mean this wasn't at least PARTIALLY her own fault. Accept it, people. If she hadn't been to [developmentally delayed]ed then this wouldn't have happened. Honestly, today's youth isn't stupid enough to not know what would happen should they tell a fifty-four year old man so much about themselves, then meet them! Christ, people. Christ.

This. It's so damn soft! Other things include a bit of humour, witty conversations and fanta. Oh, let's not forget the usage of the word '[bleep]'. Good God I love that word, yet I don't know why. Anyway, long time no see, TIF. EDIT: Bah, the word is blocked here. I haven't missed the censor. :thumbdown:

I seem to be INTP, which seems rather accurate, surprisingly.

Oh ma Gawd... She be one 'o 'dem lesmiams!

Unless you can get someone else with you, it'll be weird. You can't really not feel weird when you're just sitting there next to your friend and her boyfriend doing their couple stuff, while you're on your own. I suggest just moving away and listening to music. :thumbup:

Ask her. NOW.

Well, here's a little. My own long-distance relationship goes strong and well. True, the distance isn't the worst, but hey, being able to see one another once a month is tough. (Not as tough as a certain somebody elses, but...) This saturday I may be visiting her again, so I'm in a pretty good mood this week.

You speak the truth. :thumbup: Believe me, even if they appreciate you and will remain loyal to only you, you still need to like their general personality to want to go out with them in the first place. Loyalty and respect are big things, that's for sure, but make sure you actually like the person. Harrinator, true, he probably doesn't know what love is at this point, but stating it as fact doesn't seem right. For all we know, it might actually be love he feels, but without having the feelings returned it's easy to point out he isn't in love. This probably doesn't help, I know, but I wanted to say that.

EMR retired. Point still stands though. EMR just got a new job: assassin. He takes jobs from Das. :ohnoes:

Can I have tea? Of course. *Hands a cup of tea* Would you like a crumpet with that? Oh, today I hereby dub myself the Keeper of the Tea and Crumpets. I would prefer to be known as that from this point on.

I would try and give another example, but I'm tired and too lazy to think of one. But I stand by what I said; murder CAN be justified, although the terms can be difficult to meet.

Have you explained all of that to her? To me it sounds like you have a great chance, even over summer. I'm assuming you have good conversations when you do talk, and I'm going to guess you get along well too. Females are confusing, aye? But don't worry man, TIF is here for you. *Hands a cup of tea*

In some situations it can be.

Would your first instinct be to think 'Hmm... If I shoot him in the leg he might drop the knife in shock and let the kid get away!' Or would it be something like 'OH JESUS I MUST SAVE THE KID! BANGBANGBANG' It's instinct, not a matter of thinking things over. Personally, I have no firearms experience. I'd just point at his body and pull the trigger a few times in panic, hoping I got him and saved the kid.

Care to explain the statement a little more clearly?

I'll give it a go. Let's say... Some middle aged guy was standing over a five year old kid with a knife in his hand, about to stab him in the neck. You have a gun, would you shoot the guy to save the kid? The kid is too young to know if he's done anything wrong, and hasn't had a chance to make his choices in life or anything. Innocent victim. If that isn't murder justification I don't know what is. Yes, I dub it murder, for it was still you who caused the loss of life.

Compared to you, yes I do have it easy. But compared to me, most others have it easy. When compared to you they have it placed on a bloody silver platter for them. I don't deny it's rough for you, much worse than for me, but hey, we're still in the same boat.

Do you believe murder could be justified if it was to save an innocent life? That's good justification if you asked me.

Did your brain melt? Thus far it seems to remain functional, so I'd assume it remains solid for now. :lol: EDIT: David, yes I realise your even more unfortunate predicament. You have it rougher, sure, but it isn't exactly easy for me either.

I get to see my girlfriend about once a month, if I'm lucky. Long distance sucks. :thumbdown: I'm sure you'll be fine though. Once a week seems bad, but hell, I'd give my laptop for that. Oh, and on topic: I bought a small feast of fizzy drinks and sweets, and have spent the day on the xbox and laptop. NOM NOM.

Why don't YOU return to your porridge, Scotsman? Oh, and don't forget to listen to Kaye more.

Oh yes, David. I have formed an alliance with the aussie, although we have not spoke a word of it, it is there. You cannot win.

I think Ryan might actually be more interested in you now. I say you go for him. [hide= For Ryan]This is for saying I should listen to Kaye more, you Judas.[/hide] You should. ;)

It would still be nice if we could have someone who's more interested in attracting for the long-term than for the short term. I made a long post about my feelings towards this topic a while ago. In a nutshell, it seems to me that most people on this thread are more interested in just dating or having sex with hot girls, rather than getting into relationships or falling in love (which is surprising since the topic title is "'I want a girlfriend,' and other relationship advice"). It also seems that a lot of people here have just become disenchanted with the idea of getting into a relationship or falling in love. Additionally, a few people have stated in the past that they have some pretty serious psychological problems (which makes maintaining a relationship pretty complicated). Picking up girls is easy. You can do that w/o being yourself-- you can have a cool (fake) personality and act like hot [cabbage] and they'll all flock to you. However, after you've been dating the same girl for over a year, trying to be someone you're not, it becomes pretty obvious to the girl that you're acting like someone you're not, and things begin to fall apart. The most important thing about being in a relationship is to be yourself... something which seems to be unrecommended around here, unfortunately. Though, being someone you're not isn't always a bad thing. A few years ago I did a lot of self-examination and basically thought of traits that I wished I had, and decided if they were really as important as they appeared to be. Then, if they were important, I focused on developing them. So, for a while I wasn't really "myself" until I had matured those traits and they became part of who I am now. Similarly, I also looked at all of my "flaws" and thought about them-- were they really flaws that would mess up my life or were they just imagined flaws? If they were serious flaws, was there anything I could do to fix them? If not, could I learn to deal with them? As I've said before, a lot of people around here seem to have some serious flaws and aren't doing anything about them. Instead of taking the long, difficult route of doing lots of self-examination and improvement, they're taking the easy way out of covering it up with a fake persona which they don't seem to be benefiting or learning from. Then again, though, as mentioned previously, not many people around here actually seem to mind being single, so I guess nothing's wrong :P Back to your original comment, though, I don't post much around here since I feel like I'm from a completely different "school of thought" than everyone else around here, so my advice always conflicts with theirs. It all depends on what the person asking for help wants, and how badly they want it. [/hide] I think you're right. Personally, I've been more interested in longer term relationships, and have actually had a few problems in the past, but I've never posted them here. I prefer to PM certain users about them, or ask people I know. Nothing against the people on this thread, of course, it's just I disagree with how they think. Perhaps it is those with the problems see the majority of the posts here and are driven away from posting them. If we go far enough back into the thread, there was other problems being posted, some during romantic relationships, whilst others to do with family members and maybe to do with friends a few times. Although I've posted on this thread maybe once or twice, I lurk a hell of a lot, and I remember those times. Back when the thread was at it's peak of glory, when the so called 'gurus' didn't only give advice on meeting girls for flings and short term relationships. I miss when people posted actual problems in their loving relationship, and the good natured people here gave some damn good advice. To be fair, pretty much all of those Tifers that gave such advice have moved on by now, and others have tried to fill their shoes. No offense meant to RPG or Dan, I know you try, but your advice really isn't the best for lasting relationships. I miss Goddess and Ginger. Oh, and those acronyms piss me off. Seriously.