You can't be uncaring. You made the post because you cared. In the specific example, you overreacted, but it was understandable. Living with someone who cares about you and fears for you but doesn't know how to act appropriately can be very hard, but you are definitely doing it wrong. If you really want things to get better, you need to show her that you understand and be as accommodating as you can. When you feel comfortable talking to her again, sit down and have a talk about her. Let her know that what she is doing is hurting you. Be sure to let her know you understand why she's so controlling. Of course, that's assuming the fault in communication is your own, and your refusal to communicate is harming your relationship. You understand that, for an overprotective person, trying to be independent without dealing with the problem is the worst thing you can do, right? You have to accommodate her fears as best you can, while making sure she understands that you need space. Communication is key here. Additionally, I expect your and her actions are affecting the rest of the family as well. If you have a good relationship with any other family members, talk to them about your issues with your mother. It's especially important that you keep your stepfather in the loop. It's easy to solve problems like these sitting at a keyboard. The real issues happen when you get up and realize you can't or don't want to help yourself, for whatever reason. You need to realize that right now, your problem is fairly simple. The fact that you have the option to walk away from her tells me that it hasn't spiraled out of control yet. The reins are entirely in your hands.