Here's how I scheduled my last 5 dates. [hide=Exhibit A] Me: [opener] Her: Hey there :) hows your day been? Me: Today was fun-- went to the pool for a couple of hours to read and relax. What would you say your best quality is that doesn't have anything to do with your looks? I've got my own guesses but you'd probably know better than I would. :) Muggi Her: What were you reading? And i dont know, im so bad at talking about myself. Haha. I think i have good taste in music and smart. I'd love to here your guesses though :) Me: I just was re-reading parts of The Four Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss and taking notes. I was going to say that you seem to have a good taste in movies (Fight Club is one of my favorites), but then again, I could be wrong and you could actually be a psycho lunatic serial killer... are you a psycho lunatic serial killer? :) Her: Luckily enough, i am not. Haha. Everyone always gives me crap for fight club! What other movies do you like? Me: My favorite movies are probably Dumb and Dumber, American Beauty, Wet Hot American Summer, and just about anything by Quentin Tarantino or Judd Apatow. Ok you seem safe enough then. :) We should meet up-- something simple like coffee or dessert. I'm free tomorrow night at 7pm and Tuesday night at 8pm. If you're up for it, let me know if either of those work for you and I'll give you a time and a place. Muggi Her: I could do tuesday :) Me: Ok cool. There's a Starbucks near xxxxxxxxxx. Let's meet there on Tuesday night at 8pm. My number's xxxxxxxxxxx Her: Sweet, my names xxxxxx, by the way [24 hours prior to our date] Me: Hey just confirming that we're still on for Starbucks tomorrow night at 8 Her: Yeah, i'll be there! [/hide] [hide=Exhibit B] Me: [opener] Her: Lol you're funny. I haven't written much on my profile so I either come off as bland or ambiguous [her profile description was completely blank but she had pictures and looked hot] Me: Lol, what would you say your best quality is that doesn't have anything to do with your looks? I've got my own guesses but you'd probably know better than I would. :) Her: What would you guess? uh I say that I am driven and creative are my best quality. What's yours? Me: I'm actually a terrible person with no positive qualities. :) Haha but seriously it's my carefree personality. I never get stressed out or angry. You seem pretty down to earth, but then again, I could be wrong and you could be a psycho lunatic serial killer... you're not a psycho lunatic serial killer, are you? :) Her: no, not yet. Lol everyone always appear normal on the internet. I met my ex roommate on craigslist.. perfectly normal person until I lived with her. That's good that you're carefree. I think my worst trait is I have a hard time relaxing when I am focused on something. I need that balance lol. Me: Lol ok I think you seem safe enough then. We should meet up sometime-- something simple like coffee or drinks after work. I'm free tomorrow night at 6pm and Monday night at 7:30pm. If you're up for it, let me know if either of those work for you and I'll give you a time and a place. Muggi Her: That sounds awesome! I can meet Sunday at 6 PM Me: Ok cool, there's a small coffee shop at xxxxxxxx called xxxxxx. Let's meet up there tomorrow night at 6. My number's xxxxxxxxxxx Her: sounds great. I'll be there. here's my number xxxxxxxxxxx [/hide] [hide=Exhibit C] Me: [opener] Her: I went ahead and read it. Not sure what is suppose to sway women away Me: Haha thanks. I think some women are just intimidated by its straightforwardness. What would you say your best quality is that doesn't have anything to do with your looks? I've got my own guesses but you'd probably know better than I would. :) Her: I can accommodate to most settings fairly easy. You? Me: I'm actually a terrible person with no positive qualities. :) Haha but seriously it's my carefree personality. I never get stressed out or angry. You seem safe enough-- we should meet up sometime. Something simple like coffee or drinks. I'm free on Monday and Tuesday at 6pm. If you're up for it, let me know if either of those work and I'll give you a time and a place. Muggi Her: Alright well I'm not sure on the times to meet just yet because my schedule is pretty hectic at the moment but I think Tuesday may work Me: Ok cool, what part of town are you coming from? Her: xxxx, you? Me: I live on xxxxxx. Let's do Tuesday at 6pm at the Starbucks at xxxxxxx. My number's xxxxxxxxx. Her: ok that works. my number is xxxxxxxxx. [/hide] [hide=Exhibit D] Me: [opener] Her: Well, herro! There was absolutely nothing off-putting in your profile. I really enjoyed and appreciated reading all of it and respect your honesty. You seem to really know what you want and what you're looking for... Me: Haha thanks I'm glad you appreciated it. What would you say your best quality is that doesn't have anything to do with your looks? I've got my own guesses but you'd probably know better than I would. :) Her: I definitely am a spunky, energetic, and active person. I dork out all the time and am a no drama, no fuss sorta person. Save that drama shit for your mama. For real, though. Me: Lol I'm stealing that drama mama quote. So you're not like a psycho lunatic serial killer then? :) Her: How funny, I just now read your previous message. My message was not in response to your question, but I guess definitely could be. Haha! Me: Well that's convenient. And don't think I haven't noticed that you seem to be dodging the serial killer question haha Her: But, yeah. My best quality is my sense of humor. I acknowledge and am fully aware that life is full of highs and lows, my sense of humor has gotten me through so much. Sometimes it is nice to just throw your head back and laugh at any circumstance. I believe that life is too short and precious to walk astound pissed off at the world trying to blame everybody and everything. Laughter and a sense of humor is by far the best medicine. :P Haha! How about you? What would you say is your greatest asset other than physically? Me: I'm actually a terrible person with no positive qualities. :) Haha but seriously it's my carefree personality. I never get stressed out or angry. You seem safe enough (even though I'm still relatively sure you're trying to kill me). We should meet up sometime-- something simple like coffee or drinks. I'm free on Monday night at 8pm and Wednesday night at 6pm. If you're up for it, let me know if either of those work for you and I'll give you a time and a place. Muggi Her: Yeah, you sound like a pretty tuuuuurrrrrrible humanoid. ;) That's the beauty and thrill of meeting someone you barely know. Ya never know if they are gonna pull a Dhamer or Helter Skelter on you, but that's why you need to know some kick ass ninja moves. Wednesday might actually work, but this is my final full week of school so my schedule is going to be a bit unpredictable based on the amount of projects I complete. So, maybe we can exchange numbers to remain better connected until then? My number is xxxxxx. Hit me up. My name is xxxxx by the way. [/hide] [hide=Exhibit E] Me: [opener] Her: What was supposed to be off putting about it? I thought it was just honest, straight forward which is good =} Me: Haha I'm glad you appreciated it-- its straightforwardness can be intimidating to some women. What would you say your best quality is that doesn't have anything to do with your looks? I've got my own guesses but you'd probably know better than I would. :) Her: I would say my sense of honesty and being understanding...I try to be as open minded and accepting of other things as much as possible. You? Me: I'm actually a terrible person with no positive qualities. :) Haha but seriously it's my carefree personality-- I never get stressed out or angry. You seem safe enough. We should meet up-- something simple like coffee or drinks. I'm free on Friday at 8pm and Sunday at 7pm. If you're up for it, let me know if either of those work for you and I'll give you a time and a place. Muggi Her: That's cool, I can't say I never get stressed but it is hard to make me angry like you really have to be trying. Yea sounds good, I'll actually be free Friday so that works Me: Ok cool, there's a Starbucks on xxxxxxx. Let's meet up there on Friday at 8pm. My number's xxxxxx. Her: Yea I know where that is I live in xxxxxx and it's right down the road. Ok then Muggi, my name's xxxxxxx by the way =} Me: Awesome, see you on Friday (24 hours prior to the date) Me: Hey just confirming that we're still on for Starbucks tomorrow night at 8 Her: Yes we are [/hide] So in case you didn't notice, I follow the same system every time. Open them, ask them about their best qualities, confirm they're not a serial killer, pitch the meet. When I pitch the meet, if they're 21+ (legal drinking age in the US) I pitch "coffee or drinks," and if they're under 21 then I just say "coffee or dessert." After I pitch the meet, if they say something along the lines of "I'll have to check my schedule" or "let me get back to you" or "can we just talk some more first" I abandon them and move on unless they give me their phone number and start texting me. At which point I nail down a meet ASAP or else I move on. If a girl isn't making it easy for you to set up a date with her, she probably has no interest in ever meeting up with you. After I schedule the meet I either message them on the dating site or I text them ~24 hours prior to our date to confirm. If the date is scheduled 2+ days away, I try to have a brief text conversation with her between when I scheduled the date and when the date is happening so that she won't forget and/or get cold feet.