muggiwhplar

LOL @ relationships are a huge waste of your time. They prohibit my ability to travel and thusly are a waste of time. They contribute nothing to my desired lifestyle and only take away time I could use for more important things such as my self-study and art. A relationship takes away more than it gives and is thus an inefficient use of my time. To be somewhat on topic: How many 200ms do I need before I'm cool? :( Must... resist... urge... to respond

I don't consider those two terms to be interchangeable because it is entirely possible to be in love and emotionally available whilst remaining non-needy. It's just a matter of degree and moderation. She loses attraction for the men who love her because as a result of falling in love, they become needy. And she's repulsed by neediness. And most normal men instantly start becoming needy when they fall in love because they don't believe in seeing other women as long as they're in love. And as a result of not seeing other women besides her, they start to get needy. And since they get needy, this turns her off. Like I said, the only way for her to meet a man who is both non-needy and in love with her would be to date a man who's not only polyamorous, but also completely fine with her being polyamorous too. Very few men are capable of doing this, so I think it's unrealistic for her to expect to find a man like this outside of the seduction community.

As an introvert, I disagree. As an introvert, I disagree. :P

I don't think it's that she's attracted to guys who are "emotionally unavailable" necessarily. She's attracted to non-needy guys, and these guys are non-needy because she isn't the only girl in their lives.

This.^ Is runescape a waste of time? Of course not. It does not seem obvious. How about changing the question: Is having sex without the intention of procreation a waste of time? Now what do you think? In fact, why is anyone writing such a long answer to this question? Its really simple. Ask yourself, what do you want to achieve? What is your goal? How do I get there? Say if your goal is to be the best in runescape. Then go ahead and play it. Say if your goal is to be the best lawyer in the country. Then go study hard every single day. We have the same amount of hours in a day, same amount of hours in our lives. Approx ~700k hours. In that time, you are in control of how you want to spend it. There are trade off to everything so the hours are up to your own judicious planning. Last time I checked, there wasn't a group of people having sex for 18+ hours/day for years at a time (as amusing as that would be :lol:). Additionally, you're also ignoring the concept of opportunity cost.

just realized there's a misplaced comma in the title of this thread

Herb farming is different in 07 compared to later on too. Wouldn't surprise me if you're right

Of course, but then you run the risk of harming someone (or more) who really has nothing to do with the situation. I'd understand that you would care more about the safety of your family than the safety of total strangers in the streets, but those people have the right to safety too. If it's a stoplight at a busy intersection in the middle of the day I definitely agree. But if it's the middle of the night at a stoplight with no other people/cars in sight, Kant would still argue that you have to wait for the light to turn green lol

IIRC her ex-husband turned out to be gay or something lol (from an old, old post of hers) so that's why she said that :P

The way I see it is, the only way she can fulfill her desires would be to date one of the guys from that forum, since the type of guy she's looking for is a rare breed. And by that, I mean a guy that is capable of falling in love with a woman who will not be exclusive with him, while at the same time keeping her attracted to him. All the guys she's dating seem more or less pretty normal (for better or for worse)-- since she's promiscuous they see her as a [bleep] buddy and nothing more. And the men that are "in love" with her are the ones who probably hooked up with her once then immediately became attached and infatuated... which consequently turned her off. Sucks to be her though. I don't think she's ever going to find a guy that's willing to love her and allow her to see other men outside of the seduction community. Unless of course she were to "promise" monogamy to a guy, then a couple of years down the road, either start cheating on him or tell him she's going to start seeing other people. But then there's no guarantees that the guy would tolerate that and still want to see her, and there's no guarantees that she'd still love him at that point. Makes me grateful to be a man >_>

I obviously don't know what it's like to be in your shoes but I would argue that when it comes to a situation like your family, in the long run you will be happy you did it. There's nothing wrong with choosing to be unhappy as long as it's temporary for the purpose of becoming happier in the long run. In case I wasn't clear, I also want to clarify that being "selfish" (by my definition) isn't mutually exclusive with being selfless. In other words, you can be selfish and still be contributing to the lives of others. I don't think society as a whole will ever reach a "utopia state," simply because we are human beings who operate primarily based on our emotions instead of rationality. And as a result, there will always exist "evil" and tragedies in the world because it is impossible for everybody to operate primarily from rationality. However it's definitely possible to reach your own personal utopia before you die. You're right that basic necessities which we take for granted today wouldn't exist without contributions to society. But I would argue that the advances in these fields were a byproduct of people pursuing things selfishly AND possibly selflessly. For example, I also can't go into too much detail about this, but the #1 happiest experience of my life which I mentioned here earlier was a byproduct of me creating something larger than myself that will continue to exist long after I'm gone. As a rule of thumb, I think that sometimes in order to give, you have to be more or less completely happy yourself first in order to have something of value to give. I guess a simpler way of stating my argument would be that everyone's #1 priority should be their own happiness. That doesn't mean that setting a priority like that will make you a heartless [wagon] or anything :P But if you can make yourself happy without directly making other people unhappy, then you'll find that from that point forward it is very easy and fulfilling to start being "selfless." So I guess I'd say that selfishness precedes selflessness. And once again, those two things are not mutually exclusive :P Ideally you're operating from both perspectives simultaneously.

I know. And I think that's insane. Not really a fan of Kant. I recall he argued that one should ALWAYS obey the law 100% of the time. Even if there's a guy at your house threatening your family with a bomb and you have less than a minute to get home, he would argue that you shouldn't run a stoplight to get there.

@Veiva, I disagree with just about everything you said :P I believe that EVERYTHING you do is selfish. If you decide to quit your job and give all of your money and possessions to charity, you're being selfish. Why? Because you're doing that in order to make yourself feel good. Whether you realize it or not, everything you do is an attempt to bring you closer to what you think will make you feel either happier or less unhappy. With that said, there's a difference between being selfish (which is completely acceptable and normal, despite what society would like you to think) and being inconsiderate. However, I don't believe it is psychologically possible to be consistently happy in the long-term as a result of directly making others unhappy. Also keep in mind that just because you're being selfish does not mean you're doing society or anyone a disservice. If I were to give all my money to charity, it would be selfish, but despite being selfish, I would be helping others become happier. I think a lot of people end up unhappy because they sacrifice their own personal happiness for society's happiness. A lot of people don't seem to understand that despite all of humanity's ups and downs and despite all of the "selfish" and "selfless" people in the world, humanity is still doing just fine, and it will continue to do just fine. You have no obligation to contribute society. You do, however have a massive obligation to contribute to yourself. If you can make yourself happy (without directly violating someone else's happiness), then you're a "good" person. If staying in your room all day playing video games makes you happy, you're actually doing a favor to society by being a happy, friendly person. I would much rather have a society full of happy people than people who are miserable and mean because they've chosen to sacrifice their own happiness in order to make the mythical collective a happier entity. Whenever I get on Facebook, there are always a few people getting upset over current events or social issues. Sometimes these issues affect me too. But they don’t bother me like they bother my friends. Why? Because at the end of the day, I know deep down that regardless of what life throws at me, I’m still going to be happy. I may not want what life throws at me, I may not think that life is being fair to me, but these “injustices” ultimately have no impact on my happiness. I’ve been through enough bad experiences whilst still remaining happy somehow to finally understand that even life’s harshest challenges will only make me happier in the long run as a result of learning from these experiences, rather than trying to fight and resist them. The difference between me and my friends like that is: I depend only on myself for happiness. My friends depend on society for happiness. And as a result, I'm extremely happy, and unsurprisingly, most people that I meet love my company because I'm such a happy, loving person to them. You might argue, "Well what happens if everyone was to be 'selfish' like you describe?" First of all, I don't think that's realistic or possible. There will always be enough people out there willing to sacrifice their own happiness in vain in order to keep society chugging along. But even if that were not the case and everybody started acting with their own interests in mind and ignoring society's interests, it would be irrelevant simply because a clever man makes the woes of society irrelevant to his own life and happiness. As Harry Browne said, "A great burden was lifted from my shoulders the day I realized that no one owes me anything. For so long as I’d thought there were things I was entitled to, I’d been wearing myself out — physically and emotionally — trying to collect them. No one owes me moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, courtesy, or intelligence. And once I recognized that, all my relationships became far more satisfying. I’ve focused on being with people who want to do the things I want them to do. That understanding has served me well with friends, business associates, lovers, sales prospects, and strangers. It constantly reminds me that I can get what I want only if I can enter the other person’s world. I must try to understand how he thinks, what he believes to be important, what he wants. Only then can I appeal to someone in ways that will bring me what I want."

It's only a waste of time if: - you're not enjoying your time spent playing - you're making serious compromises to other areas of your life in order to enjoy your time spent playing; which in turn makes you overall a less happy person

I think she's definitely right, most guys like that do eventually settle down. Sometimes it's because they incorrectly believe they've found "the one" and they can "make it work" because "they know what they're doing." Sometimes that one girl's just different enough to make them compromise their values and settle down because they don't know any better :P Either way, the end result is usually the same: for men who are used to sexual variety, they usually find themselves unfit for monogamy eventually. Then they go back to lots of sex with various women until they find another "special" girl, and they repeat the process over and over. If any of you watched the HIMYM finale a couple of weeks ago, it was nice that they took the realistic approach in making Barney Stinson realize that he simply cannot do monogamy, even if he's in love. It's simply incompatible with his personality. There's a lot of reasons. Sometimes they intentionally choose to do so because deep down they believe in "the one" and settling down and living happily ever after. Or maybe they've just got "oneitis" and now they're compromising their values in order to keep the girl from leaving him because prior to meeting the "special girl," they've never had real feelings for any of the women they're hooking up with. Or maybe they don't even want to settle down and get monogamous at all, but they're doing it anyway because that's what society demands of them. After all, men like that are generally viewed as shallow, immature, insecure, and lonely; especially if they continue to live such a lifestyle into their 30s and beyond. Or maybe they've fallen in love and they incorrectly believe that the only way to keep that girl around is to settle down with her. For what it's worth, the "players" I know who choose to never settle down usually remain as happy as they were in their 20s. The ones who choose to settle down-- either voluntarily or involuntarily-- all seem to end up regretting their decision because understandably it is a difficult transition to go from getting sex from whoever you want whenever you want; to only getting sex when your significant other allows it. I imagine your housemate could snag a guy like that if she simply got him to fall in love with her and then told him she was going to quit seeing him unless he promised exclusivity to her :P You might find this thread interesting to read. It's a polyamorous woman who's frustrated that she can't get any men to fall in love with her. More evidence that if you know what you're doing, it's way better to be a man in the dating world than a woman.

Meanwhile, on OKC... A random cute 19 year old with long dark hair, baby blue eyes, and most importantly, huge boobies, randomly started a conversation with me. Her: How completely out of line is it for me to say that I want to jump your bones Ok my profile is cool, but not *that* cool. My iPhone's bullshit detector app IMMEDIATELY starts vibrating like crazy. Me: I don't think it's out of line as long as you're not a psycho lunatic serial killer... are you a psycho lunatic serial killer? :) Her: Maybe only a little bit, but you will have to hang out with me to really find that out for yourself. :) I go straight for the close Me: Yeah you're right. Let's meet up-- something simple like coffee or dessert. Then I can decide how safe you are. :) I'm free tonight and tomorrow at 7pm. If you're up for it, let me know and I'll give you a time and a place. Her: Here's my number. xxxxxxxxxx. Text me and I will look into tonight. :) Uhh, no. My bullshit detector is still going off so I'm going to make *her* do all the work. Me: My number's xxxxxxxxxx Surprisingly, she texts me. Her: Well hello :) Me: Hey. I'm guessing your name is xxxxxxxx? Her: Wow you are really good at guessing :) Her OKC username was her full name, lol Me: Yeah I'm psychic and stuff. No big deal. Doing anything exciting today? Her: Well that's a cool talent I am very impressed! I'm about to hop into an amazing bubble bath! What about you? Any big plans? So at this point, the #1 thing in my mind is the fact that she still hasn't officially agreed to meet up for anything yet. In other words, right now she's a "maybe" and I need to get a definite YES or NO out of her ASAP. Me: I'm about to go to the gym. After that I'll probably go rob a bank and go skydiving-- nothing too exciting, just my usual routine. Have fun in your bath, shoot me a text if you're serious about meeting up tonight or tomorrow. Her: Yeah that sounds like my typical Sunday routine! Tomorrow I get out of class at 7:20 so I don't know if after that is okay and tonight I want to but my roommate gets back from this whole funeral thing for her grandmother so I need to to make sure she doesn't need me for anything before I say yes. Me: I understand, hope your roommate's ok. There's a small coffee shop near xxxxxxxx. Let's meet up there tomorrow night at 8pm. Her: Mm that does sound like fun. I'm very excited :) Me: Cool, see you tomorrow night Her: You are so attractive by the way Me: Thanks I get that a lot lol Her: Haha oh someone is very confident. Good that's an attractive quality Me: :) So at this point, my bullshit detector's still vibrating. I really need to replace the batteries on that thing. Anyways. It won't surprise me at all if tomorrow evening I get a text from her saying that she needs to cancel/reschedule. No big deal, I've got a girl coming over tonight and I've got another date tomorrow evening anyways. :D Assuming things actually work out with this girl, it wouldn't surprise me if she was just [bleep]ing with me to begin with but after I made it clear that I'm not going to be giving her any attention unless she puts in some effort, she actually became attracted. Or maybe she was genuinely interested from the start and I'm overanalyzing this. Probably the latter but hey that's irrelevant at this point :P Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go to the gym and rob a bank and go skydiving afterwards. :lol:

I have no clue how many points I actually get per monster. But like you said, that's the main reason why I grab powerups-- to get more points and pay for the p pots. I use the orion client and it automatically tells me what my XP/hr is. If you're gonna be grabbing the spec powerup in the future, DDS gives more xp/hr than maul. Though in your case you might want to look into getting an ancient mace so you could refill on prayer with it every time. Not sure if that'd be enough to allow you to use str-boosting prayers the whole time though

How much XP/hr are you getting with Dharoks and 81 str there? I haven't done any trips in a while but I get like 75k str xp/hr with 60 att 81 str. I use DDS and all the powerups with 15% strength prayer

There's been two times in my life where I chose to pour all of my focus and energy into one big project for 10+ hours/day for months on end. I sacrificed sleep, health, grades, and my social/romantic life in order to do so. The irony is, those two time periods were easily hands down the happiest, most fulfilling times of my entire life because I was getting to work on something that made me feel more alive than my "normal," traditional daily routine of sleeping, studying, and socializing. So if these people genuinely feel as passionate about their RS goals as I felt about my RL projects, then their devotion is completely understandable. The question is: how much of their devotion is derived from passion, and how much of it is a form of escape from reality? Considering that they are the only ones who truly know the answer to that question, it's a waste of time for everyone else to speculate and pass judgment on them.

According to a thorough, scientific, Yahoo answer search: No, your balls could still hit her clapper. To reiterate, a condom could reduce the chance of picking up HSV but as it can be passed through via skin-to-skin contact. (according to the Internets) No sexual actorinos for RPGino. Lol "clapper" *pictures an infomercial with a guy clapping his hands twice, causing a woman to spread her legs*

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Ok, but then you go on to say: So which is it? Do you believe that the only two options in that kind of situation are to either do nothing at all or to go batshit crazy and start attacking people? Considering that you just said: ...I'm willing to guess that you know there is a better middle-ground option, but you didn't choose it because you were blinded by your emotions. There's a difference between pulling those two people off him (peacefully resolving the conflict) and pulling those two people off him, and then proceeding to beat the shit out of them (using unnecessary violence to resolve the conflict). Twice must be a ridiculous amount then, lol. Because twice i've posted about me resorting to physical violence. "Twice," in this context, is a lot. For some things, once is too many.

We've already had this discussion. You know where I stand on this. That was a fun read. Now we just need to check back on her 10 years into the marriage and see what's changed :P If she's still experiencing marital bliss then perhaps she's found the key to a successful long-term monogamous relationship.

I mean, intentionally making things harder on yourself just to make the people judging you feel better is kind of insane lol

Like i said, i call the bouncer, he escorts the guy out, next weekend he's back at the same club doing the same shit. The only way to get him actually thrown out like the scum he is, is to cause a scene. Why is it my problem? Because it is. You're telling me i should just stand there and watch a drunk [bleep] touch other girls? You forget i'm from South Africa where rape is in the news every day, where rape occurs ever 17 minutes. Family members of mine have been raped. And to me, touching a girl without her consent is rape. You really expect me to just stand there and watch some drunk tosser touch other girls? Nah....I care because no one else does. It's my problem because ever other guy is too shit scared or spineless to make it their problem. If you want, Muggi, want to just stand there and watch girls get felt up by some drunk then you're more than welcome to do it. If you want to turn your back on the situation and pretend you didn't see anything because you "don't want to get involved" then by all means do it. I'm just not that guy. You seem to think your only two options are to either stand there and do nothing or beat the shit out of someone. As I already said, and like Ginger said, there are other, better options.