muggiwhplar

If being "selfless" means you primarily care about others while still caring about yourself, then being "selfish" would be to primarily care about yourself while still caring about others. Happiness is either "shareable" or it isn't. Pick one and continue your argument.

Like Harry Browne once said... Ok, let's pretend my happiness is symbolized by a big red rubber ball. I have the ball in my hands, meaning I have the ability to be happy. But since I'm not going to be selfish, I quickly give you the ball. I've given up my happiness to you. What will you do? Since you're not selfish either, you won't keep the ball; you'll quickly pass it on to your friend. But he doesn't want to be selfish either so he gives it to his girlfriend, who then gives it to someone else. What's the point of being unselfish if the only person who actually benefits from such an act is the person who chooses to be selfish? To be frank, the society which instills these beliefs into your brain doesn't give a shit about your happiness. :P

Gatsby was a good movie, minus the soundtrack. I was really glad it was very colorful, since the use of colors for symbolism was huge in the novel.

You're falling into the trap of believing that selfishness is somehow bad, and that relationships are not inherently selfish to begin with. http://happysaint.wo...25/selfishness/ Why does "selfishness" cause relationships to fail? What exactly is wrong with being selfish? Again, there's a difference between being selfish and being inconsiderate. If you're unhappy in your relationship, then your relationship sucks. Following your logic, you're not allowed to help yourself because that would be "selfish." Are you supposed to depend on your partner to solve all of your problems for you? Even the problems which are caused by your partner in the first place?

I like how most of the people in that photo have skillcapes. You know, because that's demographic that this update was catered towards :lol:

http://happysaint.wordpress.com/2013/05/13/red-pill-important-questions-to-ask-yourself/

Sense great fear in you I do

Depends on: If im trying to make a point If im typing on my phone (like now) How long my post is

In Inappropriate Friend's case, yeah it's basically fear of not finding an equally awesome girl. In [kitty]whipped Friend's case it's basically fear of not finding another girl, period. BTW [kitty]whipped Friend got into the relationship in the first place when she got him drunk, high, and then asked him out :lol: I suppose I'd say the women my age are the ones "desperate" to settle down, whereas the men are the ones who feel like they have no choice but to settle down. Anyways, after I wrote that big post I made a more coherent post addressing the issue of what kinds of things to ask yourself before you dive into a relationship or marriage. I'll share it tomorrow

Inappropriate friend will most likely break up with her within the next month or so-- the reason he hasn't done so sooner was because they live together but after finals next week, they won't be living together anymore. He has no intention of marrying Cool Girlfriend unless she loses weight so he can be attracted to her again. He's more secure than most of our friends, but like I said he doesn't know if he'd be happier single. Also, every time we go out, hot girls flirt with him and he rebuffs them. He could've had a threesome with twins a few weeks ago. So things like that are another factor in his thought process lol Chill friend seems "content" (not necessarily happy) with his relationship. I don't really know much about his relationship though. [kitty]whipped friend is still a bit of an enigma. According to him, after dating for 3 years, he still hasn't told her he loves her. Though I find it a bit hard to believe that he hasn't developed feelings for her after spending so much time with her (whether his choice or not). I think he's slightly embarrassed about his relationship and his feelings. Anyway, he's a really attractive but unconfident guy. So when he drank and went out girls would do all the work for him. He was telling me earlier about how he can't even talk to girls drunk anymore. I inferred that he was suggesting he wouldn't be able to find another girlfriend so he feels trapped. I think he'd rather be unhappy than uncertain.

@ring I can almost guarantee that none of my friends will ever try poly regardless of how logical it may seem to their situation at the time. I figure poly would be better than breaking up since everyone gets the best of both worlds to a certain extent. But I imagine the smarter friends will cut their losses and break up while the dumber friends will remain in relationships they're unhappy with. Like I said, i ask them scary questions that require them to introspect and ask themselves what they really want. They either refuse to think about it, or they think about it but refuse to act on their conclusions @rpg yeah but the difference there is that my friends' previous relationships were good (more or less). Lots of sex and enjoyable times with really attractive, sweet girls. Now they're stuck with... Well, less-appealing women :P

Good call, Jamal. That'd be funny if his real name was "Chill Friend."

Skill capes were the worst update in RS history. We need less updates which say, "You won't feel good about playing this game without grinding for X thousand hours first!" and more updates which are actually fun with no strings attached. (Yes, I know that there's a very vocal minority of people out there who enjoy "grinding," or need Jagex to tell them what to want, but my point still stands and that's another topic altogether).

Last night was kind of interesting. Lots things to ponder as I slowly fell asleep while the room was spinning when the night was over. There's lots of "characters" in this story which ultimately goes nowhere but I'm just posting here as a reflection. What I'm saying is, you're wasting your time reading this, but you should read it anyway because I said so. K moving on... Chill friend: Close friend of mine who's dating "Successful" Girlfriend. "Successful" girlfriend (SG): Dating Chill friend. Most of our friends don't like her because she's very egotistical, judgmental, and disagreeable. She's achieved a lot in college, won numerous awards, and just got accepted into grad school. Which is impressive... but it's hard to like her when she doesn't treat others with respect unless they've also conformed to her subjective idea of "success." She's also really obese. >_> Hot ex: chill friend's really attractive ex girlfriend. long, dark hair; short, fit body; cute face. just my type. mmmmm... Inappropriate friend: Another very close friend of mine. He's generally my partner in crime/"wingman" whenever I go out. We've got very similar personalities and senses of humor so we're good at playing off of each other's absurdity. This basically sums up our attitudes. We used to go together back in the day. Good times. But I digress... Cool girlfriend: Dating Inappropriate friend for the past 4 years or so. She's overall a really cool, laid back girl. Very feminine, has a great sense of humor. She "understands" that girlfriends generally make things less fun for a group of guys. I feel sexist saying that, but it's true. So she lets me drag Inappropriate Friend out to the bars because she's awesome and secure. Of all of my friends' relationships, I've always admired this relationship the most. Mostly because, for the most part, they did things "right." But sadly, things fall apart... more on that later. :D So anyways, we were at a small party before we all headed out to the bars together. While at the party, there was a cute (albeit slightly chubby) girl who was drunk as [bleep]. While speaking to SG, I mentioned how the drunk girl was kind of cute. SG: Are you joking? She's so dumb! Me: Yeah, but she's still cute. SG: Muggi, are you saying you would actually be interested in a girl like that? Come on have some self-respect! Me: That's how my masculine brain works. Physical attractiveness precedes personality. I can't put my dick in a college degree. SG: Just because we have monkey brains doesn't mean we have to behave like monkeys! Me: We shouldn't have monkey brains. But that doesn't change the fact that we do have monkey brains; and that's something beyond our control. Fat girls are not attractive. She gets angry and storms off. I drink my beer. Later on, we all go out to eat before walking down to the bars. Inappropriate friend and I are notorious for having very uninhibited personalities and generally not giving a [bleep]. All of our male friends appreciate this. Their girlfriends... not always so. :P So we're all eating together-- me, Inappropriate friend, Chill friend, and SG. In a nutshell, Inappropriate friend and I just keep talking about sex and other "inappropriate" things. SG basically keeps saying, "I'm offended; if you keep offending me, I'm going to act more offended." So naturally we just laugh and TAKE IT UP A NOTCH. She's one of those girls whom it's hard to tell if she's genuinely offended or is just pretending to be offended because that's what some girls do. I say this because despite her protesting, she was struggling to keep a straight face the whole time. Probably a little bit of both. Dat cognitive dissonance. Also, at one point SG brought up another friend's relationship-- the one I posted about earlier. My friend who's completely [kitty] whipped by his girlfriend. SG remarked, "when's he gonna grow a pair and propose to her?" I just bit my tongue and was disappointed that she confirmed my notions of her. Anyways, we go to the bar and it turns out that Chill Friend's ex-girlfriend is there. And she's smoking hot. (Why do all of my friends date sweet, beautiful women for a while and then end up with really [bleep]y unattractive ones?) So me and inappropriate friend talk to the hot ex for like an hour, unaware that she's chill friend's ex. When she finally is like, "Oh btw I'm chill friend's ex!" I bail and go talk to chill friend to confirm this. He makes it sound like she's a succubus she-demon and hates her. So I don't really feel comfortable hitting on her anymore and I didn't have the nerve to ask chill friend, "so.... is it cool if I like, you know, mack on her like a mack daddy driving a mack truck while eating mack and cheese and mackdonalds?" So I go back to hot ex, grab inappropriate friend, and basically say, "Hey we're we're all gonna go play pool now. But you can't come-- no girls allowed, sorry. bros before [garden tools] and stuff" and we walk off. Shortly thereafter, hot ex shows up shortly after and is hitting on inappropriate friend-- rubbing his chest, grabbing his arm and putting it around her, etc. And so inappropriate friend's like, "fffffffuuuuuuu--" We're all really bad at pool, so inappropriate friend was trying to blow himself out by acting like some sort of pool god, hoping she'd think he was a loser and walk away. Well, inappropriate friend was about to shoot pool and goes, "ok. I'm gonna knock this ball over that ball, bank it off the side, and knock these two balls into that pocket." without lining up the shot or anything, he jabs the ball. It goes over one ball, banks off the side, and knocks two balls into the pockets that he called. He looks at me and we both go, "fffffffuuuuuu--" Meanwhile, SG has angrily left the bar because of hot ex's presence. things become slightly more happy. for inappropriate friend and I, at least. for chill friend... not so much. :P So, with that completely unnecessary and boring story in mind, here's some observations on Chill Friend and SG's relationship: Chill guy doesn't really have a family. He and SG seem to get along really well; but I don't think he's sexually attracted to her. Fortunately, though, I think he has a low sex drive. SG is very masculine and controlling. If he's happy with that, good for him. But it's definitely a relationship that I'd never want to be a part of. >_> Chill Friend also has been known to make out with other (hot) girls if he gets drunk. So there's that too. :-| I get the feeling that he's dating SG for the same reason that Inappropriate friend is dating Cool girlfriend... After playing pool, Inappropriate Friend and I excuse ourselves and go sit at the bar to drink and chat. We discuss his relationship. Like I said, for the first 2-3 years, I admired the relationship they had. They had a "good" relationship-- they're each other's best friends, always laughing and having fun together, and they're both attractive people. At one point, they decided to move in together and then things slowly started to fall apart. She gained about 50 lbs; they argued more and more; he lost attraction for her and they quit having sex. Inappropriate friend has a high sex drive, so he's not very happy right now. I keep telling him that he should try and convert his relationship into an open one-- he could remain emotionally exclusive with Cool girlfriend but occasionally hook up with other girls discretely when the opportunity arose. He of course doesn't think she'll go for it. Apparently cool girlfriend has said that if/when they ever break up, she doesn't want to be in contact with him anymore from then on (I don't believe that; what a person says is often not what they'd really do in cases like this). I imagine if he proposed an open relationship, she'd dump him... temporarily. And then return to him shortly after. I asked him if he's staying with her because he'd rather be in a sexless relationship than be single and "alone." He said that was a deep question and he doesn't know. :wall: School's almost over and she'll be living at home for about a month while he stays in the college town. So he's gonna see how things are while they're apart and then make a decision. Anyways. At the end of the night I just found myself thinking again... wondering why so many people don't bother to ask themselves if what they're doing is making them happy. It makes me really sad to see my friends lack the introspection and reflection necessary for happiness. Or worse, they know that what they're doing is making them unhappy but they're too afraid to change things. I'm at that age where all of my friends are getting full time jobs and desperately trying to settle down. Because that's what they've been told to do. They're all going through the motions because that's what everybody else is doing and that's what they think they have to do. They don't know that there's other options. They choose security and contentment over happiness. They don't understand the opportunity cost of staying in a bad or mediocre relationship. I fear that 10 years down the road, if/when their relationships haven't gotten any better, they're going to look back with regret at these "wasted years." Fortunately, though, I have a lot of very very close friends. They understand me more or less and why I do what I do, and how I view things. I make my friends feel good/happy/loved. So it's frustrating to see them hurt themselves like this. Oh well. At least when my friends and I are hanging out, for the most part our worries and problems take a backseat. :D

Wonder if strength will eventually become the most common 99 like it used to be

LOL. oops. awkward. But yeah. Anyways on a more related note, I've finally gotten over a close friend who I've been having conflicting feelings about (that eventually scaled up to "oneitis") over the last ten months. Still friends with her but she did something incredibly immature that disillusioned me and helped me get over all of my romantic interest pretty much instantly. Should be a much better summer now that I don't have to waste time freaking out about that; now I just have to figure out how to meet people without school to help me out. Ah well, should be a pretty good summer anyways; not really going to focus on girls unless something comes up and just focus on myself for a while lol. Online dating. :thumbup:

Did they say if the new skill would be capped at 99 or 120?

Got on TIF this morning, thinking, "Man I haven't been on here for 2 days. It's gonna take a while to catch up on all the posts I haven't yet rea-- oh."

Call me pessimistic but I wouldn't be surprised if these "factions" somehow irrationally segregate the community further.

Glad I waited till F2P was released to sell these. They cost 190ea to obtain from MTK and that's about how much they were selling for over the past couple of months. Was hoping they'd go up to 300ea like they used to be. Hooray for Miscellania! :D

Back in the day, I trained on skeletons in the temple of Ikov, then skeletons in Yanille dungeon, then the giant skeletons in Damis' lair. Then I found out about the monkey zombies and trained there. Then eventually I trained at the monkey skeletons where people chin. Depends on your gear, stats, budget, and tolerance for non-AFK training. You might look into shades too. The undeads in the shilo gate are conveniently right next to the bank, but you can't really AFK them since when they die a gas cloud damages you

We're already running around with axes and picks for 99 levels--can't be worse of a grind than our current skills. Jagex has certainly learned a lot over the past few years as far as skills go, I have the feeling we're going to be in for a treat as far as the overall design concepts go for Divination. There's many ways they can approach this, but I think that they will pick the right one. Oh I'm fine with the grind :razz: I more of meant that I hope the skill doesn't involve running around with a dowsing stick, and that it would instead involve something more magical/arcane in that respect. Just not a dowsing stick. Would a runite dowsing stick be ok??

Science has never been about "proof." Only mathematics and logic require proof. Science is about evidence.

TBH they'd probably make a killing if SOF lamps worked on the new skill. Not sure if that'd justify the potential damage to the game's integrity if they did that though

Sold all of them this afternoon. For 200ea >_> Dat price fluctuation.