So, I don't remember if you all remember way back when, when I was dealing with this strong attraction to this girl who wasn't showing it back really. Basically I was friend-zoned or whatever. So, even though it was hard, I distanced myself and basically got over her (though, I still get extremely anxious about seeing her in person now). I stopped texting her and all that. I basically cut off contact with her, and when she did text me, I was polite but never showed much of my old 'obsessive' self (because the people here told me that was unattractive, which I fully agreed with). I saw her the other night at a movie night, now that we're both home for the Christmas break. In the past, after every time we saw each other during the break, I would always text her afterwards, saying something like, "It was really nice seeing you tonight. You looked really great." I hadn't seen her since we both left for school back in late August, and I was so busy with school this semester that I really didn't think about her much. I got over her, tbh. The few times she texted me, the conversation ended the same day, and nothing really was really 'said', I guess. So I was surprised when she texted me after the movie night, saying that she was happy she got to see me, and that I had to come over and see her dog soon (I'm a big fan of dogs). I said that I definitely needed to see him before he got too big, and that it was nice seeing her, too. Today I get a text from one of her best friends, who is one of my best friend's girlfriend. She asked me if she could talk to me for a bit over text. I was like, "Heh, sure thing. What's up?" This is what she texted me: "So I was chatting with my friend [name] last night, and she was just talking about how she missed hanging with you. I think it takes her a long time to come around, which I'm sure you know firsthand, but I think she's done a lot of growing up this past year and she's able to handle things she wasn't quite ready to in the past. Anywho, she said it was really good seeing you at my house and wanted to chat, but she felt like there was just a wall or bubble there between you guys. So I wanted to see where you were at, and I totally understand if you're more guarded this time around, I truly do. But would you be up for hangin with her again, or the two of you chatting? I didn't know if I should encourage her to pursue it, or if she should drop it out of respect... Sorry this is so long, I just wanted to check in with you and see how things were in the [name] department, I guess." So, I may be out of this friend zone. We'll see. I'm confused right now because I don't know what I want. But I told my best friend's girlfriend that I'm a-okay with hanging out with this girl, but that she should understand why I hadn't taken the initiative. I mean, I've worked my ass off trying not to be obsessive and clingy. And I've definitely reached that point to where I'm not. Guess I wanted to write this down somewhere, since I made such a big deal about it in the past. Looks like distancing does work with certain relationships. :grin: