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The word "evidence" should be used highly regarded and not from personal experiences. Try saying "It is my experience that..." or something similar. Not to be petty and anal but in future when you're referring to something with a solid foundation I'm going to think you're talking about an experience you had. Shy guys can attract women easily. Agreed, not as easily as someone with confidence but they have decided that is who they are in this point in time. If they want to be confident, they will learn to be confident, they would evolve. This evolve that takes place, is still being yourself. I was drawn to Brent because he was a highly intelligent, nerd stereotype. I don't like overly confident, dominant, in your face guys with big egos. I don't like sports jocks, guys with big muscles, who are very social and need to party or have large amounts of friends. Now also agreeably, these kinds of guys that I just pointed out above are liked by more women than the nerd stereotype. I actually really enjoy being in the company of an average joe, who is introvert, shy but friendly, smart and enjoys a small circle of friends. If Brent had evolved in to any previous category, I wouldn't want to be with him. I find myself an attractive woman who has never had trouble getting any attention from socially favorable men. Admittedly at your age Solidus (may I ask your real name?), I did enjoy those kind of guys, I wouldn't look twice at a nerd. I came to discover through personal experience, they (men more socially liked by women) were very shallow people and definitely didn't make husband material as I grew older. I couldn't see a future with those types of people and I was at a different stage in life. Very similarly, Brent only had experiences with more socially wanted women. He now cringes at the sight of those women. He said now that he is older he can't stand blondes on a stick, who have ultimate giggle power and intellectual instabilities. Through my own experiences, older women/men who end up staying with those type of men/women have more marriage problems/divorces. I also learned through my teen years that girls/boys who were more socially wanted by boys/girls, had lower school grades, were more likely to cheat on their partner, binge drink and engage in risky sexual activity. One fact I do know (and will provide evidence if wanted) is that successful marriages are based on the person who draws out approx. 90% of your past and helps you heal it (taking religion in to consideration.) That correlates very highly as to why I had so many friends of mine fall in love with me. It wasn't any tricks I learned in books, it was the fact that I was an easy person to self disclose to for them. Now something I found very funny, is a show I just finished watching on Dr Phil. He was actually critiquing the use of PUA today. By the end of the show he asked women and men to raise their hands if they found the use of the system acceptable. One person raised their hand. This person was a younger girl. Ginger is by far one of the most mature headed guys I have talked to for someone of his age. I have suspicions that is the reason he and I are on similar wave lengths. Perhaps age and mental age has a lot to do with this. An older audience and someone with a higher mental age has a much more different perception than the current one you value. So as I was saying, be yourself. There is someone for everyone. As you evolve, you will find the perfect girl/guy for you anyway. Being yourself is a concept of personality that evolved from many stimuli. Meaning, it is multifaceted and still learns to better itself.

Fair enough but you can't deny that it works for some people. You may view it like that but it only really matters how the person receiving the message perceives it. Two very shy people may find it quite acceptable and live happily ever after. P.S - Offtopic but bloodyhatchetbear your avatar and signature is very awesome, I love carebears.

What kind of trade would you like to get in to Jem?

Not to mention there are women who enjoy dating shy men, "nice guy" and abusive jerks. There is someone for everyone, even ego maniacs :lol: If you don't know someone in any of those categories I'd be very surprised. Some preferred over others but all comes down to personal preference. And obviously eventually people are going to fail, name someone who hasn't. You learn, pick yourself back up and try again. Those who try too hard at not failing are missing out on valuable lessons.

Wow I never knew over seas you celebrated fathers day in June :lol: I feel silly now. It's September in Oz.

Yeah I used to run all the time like 5 times a week kept fairly fit. Then I got pregnant and I now roll off the couch ;) I'll get fit again once bubs is born.

Chocolate because he doesn't drink beer anymore :D

Talked over msn for about 4 months before finally agreeing to meet and have lunch as friends. He was leaving for the army in 2 weeks time. I told him when he passed out of Kapooka to call me and we'd organize a date if I was still single. He resigned from the army 2 months in and came home to me. We started dating from then and are still together, about to have our first son together. Maybe think about getting married when son is old enough to be the page boy. The rest is history ;) misplacedme - That is so romantic give Brent some ideas :)

Sounds like he had a stroke or an aneurysm. If you could find out exactly what it is, it might pay to do a little research on it and work out the best/worst outcomes/news to prepare yourself for the situation. That being said, may your god be with him and I hope he recovers.

Waiting for this kid to pop out :D Then I can either go back to uni or take a whole 360 and do massage therapy/natural medicine. Annnnd getting a new car =D>

Because I don't already know that... :P

Tommy - Then spend the summer getting to know the girl you barely talk to. 10 years is a long time to know someone without ever really talking to them. Since you don't know anybody it's a good time to start getting to know this girl and maybe she has some friends she could introduce you to. You clearly have gotten over the first girl you really liked and you don't seem desperate to date the only girl you know. You would like a girlfriend though and at 17 I don't blame you. So use it as a gateway to get to know others and her at the same time. You might develop a relationship with the girl or you may not. Maybe she has a hot friend instead? At least spend your summer having fun rather than concentrating on getting a girlfriend. There are no special tricks you need to know other than common sense. Don't come across desperate for a girlfriend, be yourself and have fun.

Does anybody else see a pattern here? The part where guardians are no longer letting their kids anywhere near John pattern? I don't know how obvious it is to anybody else but to me that pretty much screams that the problem begins with you and not them. I think it is very contradicting to call Cheyenna a psycho [bleep] while you were the one who resorted to self mutilation and wanted a child with her. Also, if you love someone you don't go looking for something else the very next day you work on your problems. You are very immature for your age and the first girl you mentioned is very wise. I don't think she has the problem, I think the person who has the problem is you. You have been your own worst enemy for a very long time. If you can't learn something from this girl and choose to leave her, enjoy your downhill battle. I think she has potential to knock some sense in to you. She has only been saying what everybody on this forum has been trying to tell you for the past year. Keep being your own worst enemy or make a life changing decision and be influenced by somebody who is intelligent, wise and sensible. I think 90% of the people on here hope that you come around 100%.

They will get them back never fear!! :)

Well done to those who fixed the forums and contributed with its return :) Just wanted to pop by and post what I was trying to post the day the forums went kaboom. Scans of my son at 20 weeks (5 months) :D The top one is his head, some of you can make out his ear, nose, chin, lips, eye and where his arm starts. He's got his mummy's surf board forehead and big nose so far :lol: The bottom one you can see his head, one hand up in the air behind his head, the other arm raised a little and a part of his leg that looks like it's kicking. So far the little bugger has me craving chocolate milk in large quantities. And when he has his favourite meal (roast chicken) or hears his favourite song (feel good inc by the Gorillas and ravers fantasy *shrugs*) he does little laps around my belly and can feel him kicking everywhere. He's quite a kicker, we might have a little soccer star on our hands <3

Is it difficult for you to read, then perform written instructions? I think anybody can put words in to practical, if they try hard enough and read the steps correctly.

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No. I can never control my dreams. I really hate the ones where you're fighting someone and you can't seem to hit hard, it comes out as a soft tap, no matter how hard you go to hit them haha Won't say how I managed to obtain it but I was out of it for almost 2 weeks :uhh:

I'm listening to meditation sound tracks to try and even myself out. Have had a horrible high (hypomania) this week and have had really bad insomnia as a result.

It really depends on the woman too; personally I despise guys who are overly confident and dress over the top. Do they actually think I'm going to impress them? Yeah right lol I have a real problem with men who try to basically tell me or act like they're more dominant than I. I have never been with a blokey bloke if you get my drift. I'm pretty hardcore on women being equal to men :lol:

That's what I thought too lol.... "Omg I r smart, now my time to shine" :lol:

Put... the... bottle... down :P

The "honey moon" period doesn't last for a life time, trust me :) For most after a few years, it becomes a debate whose turn it is to go on top, yet alone gazing, longingly in to each others eyes :lol: