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I can tell you about the worst week I've had... In one week I was told: a) my boyfriend and I couldn't have children B) my best childhood friend committed suicide c)I lost my job because they had to fire 30 of the 40 staff members due to costs d) I couldn't pay my rent e)I was in debt f) I went to hospital because I'm allergic to high doses of potato starch and I drank my friends home brew instead of pre mixed. I've had plenty of worst days: a) When my ex decided he was going to use the rent money I gave him for drugs, then later bashing me to a nice shade of mauve. B) When I was told I missed the deans scholarship by 1% which would have paid for my whole degree c) When my best friend died in a car accident, the day before I got to tell him I was in love with him. d) The day doctors told me my brother had polychrondritus and if his body wouldn't stop rejecting the antidote, he'd die. e) The day I found my boyfriend slept in the same bed as someone else after we had just been told we couldn't have children. I've had plenty of crap days in my time lol but at least I can pick myself back up and do it all over again the next day.

I broke it off with my partner for good. He has too many issues and he refuses to talk about them with me. I can't have conversations with him, because I do all the talking and he doesn't know what to say. He can't tell me about his feelings, what's going on in his life, why he's upset, what's bothering him. He runs away everytime it comes down to talking. The other reason I'm leaving is because he wants to go back to the army. I can't stand being up to 2 years away from my partner, especially when I'm ready to have a family soon. He has lied to me so many times and I've always turned a blind eye to it but I can't do it anymore. 4 years of trying to get him to open up and talk to me, even with a degree up your sleeve you can't make someone talk who doesn't want to talk. I stayed by his side when he told me he couldn't have children and said we could adopt, stayed by his side even after the compulsive lying, picked up the broken pieces when he got thrown out the army. I just can't be with someone who says they can't open up to me because everyone has hurt him and he doesn't know how (my stance, is get over it or one day you'll miss the best thing that's ever happened to you). End of my rant... This is going to absolutely kill me, especially because I know this chick is coming down from Cairns to see him. He told her to piss off because he was with me but now I know they're going to see each other..... Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh this is going to be the most hurtful break up I've had so far. I love him soooooooo much but after 4 years, we can't even talk to each other and it is really damaging our relationship. I can't marry someone and have kids to someone I can't talk to. When your kids move out and you're old and grey, conversation skills are going to be needed more than ever. My heart feels like it's been stabbed :cry: I know we both love each other more than anything but I can't be with someone who doesn't know how to communicate. He makes me feel safe and I have faith in him and I'll always be there for him if he needs me in the future. I do love him with all my heart but I can't do it anymore, he's not my soul mate.

Or blow up :twisted:

Very useful information :D I have phone anxiety :ohnoes: I can't talk on the phone unless I really really know someone well.

My partner and I have been together for 4 years. We're both bisexual. While the thought has definitely crossed my mind and his mind to partner swap, we've never decided to go through with it. We even made a profile at one stage, then looked at each other and said it was ridiculous and that we didn't need anyone else in our lives and deleted it. So we haven't actually been involved with multiple partners, nor have we decided to do so in the future. Even though the thought could be a little kinky, I still get jealous of other females invading my territory, vice verser. The thought of it actually makes me sick, I'm very territorial and I'd probably give the chick a black eye if she laid a finger on my man lol Even though I am bisexual myself, I would still be more jealous of a female touching my partner, than another male. Even though I fancy both sexes, I slightly still prefer men. The weird thing is though, even though I slightly prefer men, if I was with another woman, I'd get jealous if a man or a woman were to get involved. Go figure, seriously. :-k I'd be willing to experiment with 2 men but then I'd have paranoia of him being gay :XD: So I think it's best that we leave it up to the porn :P I've already given one woman an ear bashing today for telling my boyfriend she loved him on our anniversary.... :twisted: Even though she was [bleep]ing gorgeous, she can keep her mitts off my property!!

Go in to 10 of your local computer stores, ask them the very same things and then compare them all and make a decision. It will take you a whole day to 2 whole day tops. If you're really clever you can even ring stores up after you compare the prices and go "well this store here will give me x for x amount of dollars less, will you better the offer etc". I got a whole heap of extra crap built in to my computer for lower price, a free keyboard and matching mouse, extra ram, price taken off the dvd burner and everything lol

HA... wedding crashers.... MUUUUUM WERE HUNGRYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOW MUM!!!!!!!!!!!! where the hell is she anyway?

Well could have been better but it's better than anything else he's done so I'll give him credit for trying. 1. He was late but at least he still turned up. 2. He bought me orange roses because they're my favourite colour, only my favourite colour isn't orange, it's yellow but at least he got the rose part right. 3. Two of them died but I'm willing to put the blame down to the heat. 4. He pulled a necklace out of his pocket, but it was the necklace I threw at him that he gave me for Christmas. 5. We never went out for lunch, even after I suggested it 3 times but I ended up making ham and cheese toasted sandwiches. 6. I only made those toasted sandwiches coz he picked up my brothers guitar and started playing "Nothing else matters" by Metallica and singing it to me. 7. He bought me a card about having sex which he thought was hilarious and I didn't but at least he wrote something sweet on the inside. -- Overall he survived the door slammed in his face, I'm left a little disappointed but what can you do? I love him for trying *sigh* I can never stay mad at him :x @ Plectrum I can see how you would be mad. See, I'm a jealous person and I would hate it if my boyfriend had a guyÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s night out and 2 of his ex's were there. On the other hand, all my friends are nearly all male and there's at least 4 of them that consist of being ex's and I hate jealous people, even though I am one myself. I would go nuts at my boyfriend if he told me I couldn't go out and have a beer with 2 of my ex's (which we're all still good friends). Kind of selfish but what can ya do? I go absolutely nuts at him if he goes out with a female friend of his that I haven't met yet, I am as jealous as you get. He's almost cheated on me twice and that doesn't help the situation but being the walking contradiction I am, would tell him where to shove it if he told me I couldn't go out to see one of my guy friends. I let him read stuff on my phone whenever he feels like it, give him my email password etc and let him meet all of my male friends though. If he would just stop lying and introduce me to his female friends, I wouldn't mind or have a problem with it. We aren't exactly stable but we love each other too much to get rid of the other, so we kind of just really put up with each others crap. To be honest, I know noone would put up with my crap and he knows noone else would put up with him either :P

Wow what a convenient article, today is my boyfriend and I's anniversary (big one, nothing like months etc) He never asked to have the day off work or swap it with someone when he's only had unlimited amount of months to figure something out. So, he starts work today at 3pm. He tells me he's going to come see me at 10am (how nice, the guy even wants to have a late night to play computer games with the boys and sleep in on our anniversary), then rings me at 20 past 10 and says he's late. He pretty much told me last night he's not going to take me to lunch or dinner or anything like that. And if he doesn't even turn up with a bunch of flowers, he'll be getting the door closed on his face and told to go home. Especially, considering he told me about 3 months ago he had something big planned for 9am this morning. Well, unfortunately for him I have a good memory on times and dates and It's way past 9am and he has nothing planned at all :evil: He's either going to pull something out of his [wagon] at the last minute, or go home with the door slammed in his face. He's done nothing for me ALL year, he bought me a necklace but that's only because it was Christmas. He never got me anything for my 21st and when he bought my new motorbike gear, turned around and told me it wasn't mine, he only bought it so I could use it. So I threw the [bleep]ing kit in his car boot and sent him home. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I love him but he is the worlds STINGIEST BOYFRIEND! I'll come back after he's gone to work and let you know if he made up for it or not :(

If the flies were to be born like that, it would also be manipulation to try and get them to become heterosexual. God can kiss my [wagon] too, before people want to attempt to play with my neurotransmitters to help me become straight. I was born the way I know and I'm happy with having the best of both worlds :

You can biologically play with fliesÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢ genes and make them become bisexual :D http://scienceblogs.com/pharyngula/2007 ... euroch.php

Err that is kind of wrong... You don't have to attend a meeting just because you were referred, you can say no and goodbye. He can't allow your family to be involved without your own free will... He sounds unprofessional if you ask me. Go for someone who uses psychotherapy, cognitive or behavioural, anything else and the psychs tend to get a bit weird on you.

I'm bi and so is my partner, if you don't like it, honestly you can kiss my [wagon].

Oh yeah and never wearing a skirt on new years ever again. My friends girlfriend came up behind me, lifting it right up in the air and screamed happy new years to the row of guys at the bar behind us :evil:

Oh I've got loads... I've been walked in on...... you guess the rest. My friend has fallen over in the mall and clung to my pants to break her fall, only to keep falling and taking my pants with her #-o Drank out of the wrong coke can that someone had been ashing their cigarette in to. Got drunk and started talking to the butler statue in the casino, before realising it was a statue. Slapped a lady on the arse, realising it wasn't my mum. Sneezed while talking to a customer and something unpleasent went flying on to her face. Not being able to pronounce the words virgin and version. Jumping the fence (shortcut to the train station) because I was late, it was raining and didn't notice it left mud marks all over my arse until someone pointed it out to me. Selling someone a muffin at the old cafe' and telling them the flavour was chocolate [cabbage] instead of chocolate chip

Tell her exactly what you're looking for. I'd be mad if I was her but I'd appreciate your honesty. If you were never honest with me and lied to protect my feelings, I'd actually be angrier at you for lying/misleading me. I can't promise you she'll agree to have fun with you though. That really depends on what she wants too. One mistake women do make though is by thinking that if she has fun with you, she can make you fall in love with her. They become emotionally attached after telling you they wouldn't and you are still left with a problem :ohnoes: You're better off being blunt but if you really want to scare a chick off, be overly nice, always give in, go shopping with her and hold her bags, watch chick flicks with her and compliment her all the time.

I went looking for it but can't find it :P I think it was something like next time she asks you to do something (like the movies, or lunch) ask her playfully if she's asking you out on a date. If she says no, laugh it off (because you said it playfully, it was just flirty fun) and if she says yes, you just scored yourself a date and they actually think it was their idea :P I can't remember who I gave that advice to but they said it scored them a date and a kiss, so that was pretty cool.

First of all I would love to thank you Karisma for sharing your thoughts with us. Before we address any messy stuff I just wanted to point out that you have an absolutely amazing talent for creative writing, have you ever considered putting your feelings in to writing, rather than cutting? You express yourself perfectly and you are an absolute natural. I believe you could produce some beautiful poetry of some sort from within you. I can't make everything go away but I can certainly be there for you when you need me to. I noticed you don't like to be alone and to be honest I don't really like to be alone either, maybe we can talk and keep each other company? I always like to make new friends. You're another example that depression can hit anyone, no matter what qualifications you have, no matter how professional your family is, how high your IQ is etc My best friend Jack committed suicide last year, similar to your experience he was a medical student, the top of his class and both of his parents were also medical professionals. He never let anyone know what was going on and one day, ended it all much to everyoneÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s surprise. I noticed you mentioned this part was the most important part, so I thought we would start off with this first. First I'd like to introduce myself, my name is Melissa and I'm a 21 year old psychology graduate. I am registered with the QLD board of psychology but obviously nowhere near as qualified as clinical psychologists who have their PhD's and own private practise experience etc. To put it bluntly, your psychologist visit comes down to searching for the right person. Some people you won't be able to connect with, others will feel right for you. Much like a doctor, which I'm sure you're familiar with :) My first visit was with my high school counsellor about guy problems, I took his advice and things ended tragically much to my growing hate towards counsellors and psych people (believe it or not). Later I needed to see a different one when I was 17 and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and the OCD a large proportion of bipolar sufferers get with it. I later became fascinated by my own illness (although I had been infatuated with the mind and how it works for a long time) which made me want to complete a degree lol The guy I went to there was amazing and really helped my life out. I can promise you coming from self experience on both sides of the fence that there is no hidden agenda. Their main aim is to help you to become better and to find the parts of you that are well, to help heal the parts that are hurting, to make you whole again :D Obviously it's impossible to become completely whole. Metaphorically speaking, it's like a vase that has been smashed on the ground, you can fix it but it will still have cracks in it. However, it can still be used for its original purpose quite easily. Their job would be to help you pick each piece off the ground, piece by piece and glue them all back together again. You can tell them anything, much like a doctor. They are trained to see unconscious problems that you wouldn't necessarily see yourself, so lying wouldn't be beneficial, or they can't help you fix your parts. It is good that your friend is willing to be there for you and help you take these steps. The best part would be going inside and asking all the questions you want to know. With a visit, having a friend there would seem like a good idea but only for the first one or two times. Obviously there are even things you don't want your best friend to know about you and eventually it will be time for them to stop coming to visits with you. From my experience, it was free. I was referred by my doctor to one, free of charge. A psychologist has the same patient confidentiality as a doctor. He or she may not give any information to anybody else without your written consent. Even though you feel like committing suicide, they will not do anything against your will. Psycho therapy involves working together as a team to sort your problems out, never judged, never feeling pressured to say or do anything you don't want to do. You are free to remain silent or say no. I donÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢t recommend myself to instantly heal you or fix your problems but you may talk to me and maybe I can help with a couple of them before your new psychologist comes in. I have a person on my msn who even likes to inform me on how their psychologist visits go, which I feel flattered by. To be honest most of the time it just comes down to someone, wanting to be listened to without being frowned upon and without the immense pressure to perform well. Pressure can turn your body and mind in to a gas cooker, literally. To be honest, I love to feel important and know that other people need me in their life. Pretty much came from a family that always told me I was never good enough and under constant pressure to be the best. I lost 2 of the best friends, someone could ever ask for in my teenage years. Back then I would always feel like I needed someone in my life to feel worthy of myself. Without my partner, I feel lost. It's not that I'm desperate to be around people, I have a lot of friends, I just lacked that one special someone to let in to my life. It doesn't even have to be a person. I got depressed after I lost my CAT!! he was my best mate who needed me and I needed him. He actually wanted to be around me and I liked that. For the first time in my life I felt appreciated. Maybe all you need is a best friend?

That is true I was just explaining that feeling safe isn't every chicks necessity to Sol. You're right though, gotta be a team 8-) "We ride together, we die together"

As warrior just hit the nail on the head (usually does, switched on guy :D ) it totally depends on each girls personality. I seem like a tough biker chick with tattoos and an out spoken opinion but trust me on the inside I'm a marshmallow and would do anything to help someone. Double cross I and throw stones at me though and I'll cast a brick. That's my personality. I'm over protective; I take to a few people and put them under my wing. If anyone hurt them they would see a side of me, no one thought existed. I don't let anyone degrade me or say anything which means they're better than me. We're equal or I'll deflate your ego to bring you back down to Earth. I'm stubborn and too proud. That's why I chose one person that is equally (not more and not less) dominant than I, to trust and show the other side of me, no one else gets to. In return I feel protected and connected to him wholly. He is the only person who gets to see me upset, cry, admit that I've got a problem etc Funny thing is if I'm down, he's my rock. If he's down, I'm his rock. Even Hercules needed someone to temporarily hold the world on his shoulders before he came back to conquer it. Sometimes I cry on his shoulder, other days when he's not so proud, he cries on mine. He never lets anyone else see him down. I love that he makes me feel safe and I also love that he needs me too. If I yell at him and try to walk on him, he'll deflate my ego and bring me back down to an equal with him, just as I do. If I demand, he says no, just as I do. It balances out pretty smoothly, I have an ego that doesn't want to be ruined and I also have a need for a real man that needs to grow some balls and stick up for me no matter what, equal dominance for the win. Although, contrary to some people's beliefs on this board I believe it comes down to individual needs. Sensitive jerk comes to mind.

I know another one, THOSE CRAZY WOMEN DRIVERS!!!!!!!!!!!! :wink: :P

ROFL..... :XD: :XD: Um pretty much click on it if the topic heading sounds interesting, click on it, and quickly skim read the information in it. If it sounds interesting, go back to the beginning and read the whole thing. Then I read a couple of the replies and spell check before I post. Then usually edit it about 5 times before I'm happy with it.... :wall: When I'm looking through the posts, unfortunately I am bias. I usually have a couple of favourite posters who I like to read their replies on a regular basis and am more likely to read theirs over other peoples. I also start reading from the bottom of the page, so first top 5 posters; usually miss out unless they've landed in my bias list.

It'll do that to you :P that's when you need a cupboard full of cheese supreme doritos.

When you're like 6 years old, anything tastes good :D My personal favourite were cat biscuits back then :lol:

*shrug* 3 1/2 pizzas, 1L thickshake; and I didn't throw up or feel sick afterwards. That was when I was about 10 though... don't know if I could pull it off now :-? lol when I was younger and we went to sizzlers or pizza hut for all you can eat, I used to eat so much. Then I would throw up and go back for more =D>