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"TABLE TURNS: CASINO GIVES LOCALS MILLIONS FOR CHRISTMAS"... :lol:

I wouldn't have locked the thread personally. However, I would have told him I didn't appreciate the personal information used against you, especially seeing as you thought he was a person who was capable of leaving it as water under the bridge. I would remind him that he can trust me enough not to dish out the dirt on him so I would like it if he could be equally as respectable. I would tell him that it isn't a personal attack and push the argument back to its original purpose. Say the argument was on oranges.... He says "Ha-ha you wouldn't know what you're talking about because you're fat and nobody likes you, go home and cry to your parents, oh that's right they don't care". You say "I'm sorry if I've offended you but I don't really see what my personal life has to do with oranges. You've been a good friend to me and I'm sure we're both just very angry at the moment. However, the point I'm trying to make is that oranges...." and so forth. (Taking away the defensiveness, you show him his hurtful comments have no effect on you, you find common ties, be positive and bring the topic back to its original point.) I would have edited that part and encouraged the debate to continue at a non personal level and if it couldn't happen, we would have to agree to disagree. If anything further happened, I would have asked the site creator to deal with it. That way, I've never taken away his freedom of speech, I've let him know what my boundaries are without restricting his, we're both on equal levels and if things did turn ugly, the end result wouldn't be lingering over my head. In short - You have all the right in the world not to have your personal details shown but you do not have the right to simply cut off his freedom of speech. If anything you've caused him to get other people to team with him against you, tell a lot more people about you for revenge and in the end with your background, you're going to eventually say enough is enough and totally abuse your powers or leave, which means he wins. Obviously you're unsure if you've done the right thing or not or you wouldn't be here which is a good thing, it means you have a conscience :P In all truth you've both been angry and you both did the wrong thing. He personally attacked you and you retaliated by removing his freedom of speech. An eye for an eye would make the whole world go blind and I'm sure you're both mature enough to ease the tension between you. Take a deep breath, go for a walk, then come back and see what you guys can do without making things worse than they already are. If your friendship was strong to begin with, I believe you can fix anything.

What about really fat men? Their [wagon]'s can be just as big mate. Newly found hate: When I'm trying to have a serious conversation about something that is really concerning me with my partner and he answers back with how upset he is, totally disregarding everything I just said about an online game :x :x :x

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Appeal it if you're that concerned. Or you can cop it on the chin, pay them back, apologise and let sleeping dogs lie. I feel bad for you but such is life, you haven't got many choices. What happened to the insurance anyway? Hit them up.

Yeah I was told the day after my friend committed suicide :wall: Let's just say I didn't cope very well for a few months there. Come to think of it our relationship has been downhill ever since... still trying to patch things up.

2007 in a nutshell: Bad things: Best childhood friend Jack committed suicide Was told my chances aren't good to have children Partner was told his chances weren't good either The house I wanted, someone beat me to it Won't be continuing to post grad Got told next year will probably be my Nan's last year Switching careers and study as quick as an eye blink Good things: Business is taking off so won't have to work soon Might be moving next to my best female friend who I don't get to see often I'm still alive Made some good new friends Had an alright 21st Got to video record Scooter

BEST: OMG SOOOOOOOOOOOO EXCITED :mrgreen: I've booked 4 (potentially 5) Christmas jewellery parties in the last 24 hours!!!! Considering an average sales night is between 200-300 AUS $ :shock: :o Christmas is looking very good indeed! WORST: Having to pull a 'sicky' at my other job so I can get the parties booked but it's worth 10x the pay so it was worth it... Although they didn't sound very impressed.. But if the parties keep going this well I can give it the boot anyway and just work for myself.

Black hair, brown eyes, olive complexion, skinny and medium height... let's see how I do

Quality... I don't mind waiting if it's fresh, hot and taste good.You might wanna try a different buger chain then. p.s The quote in bold is from a film called Poultrygeist. While a spoof horror/comedy it does deliver a serious message. If its ever in Aus near you, check it out. lol I don't eat there anyway I prefer hot home cooked meals.

No, i have aspergers myself and never found difficulty in people explaining things to me. :) Like I said, there are different levels of severity. For example my boyfriend is not very good with non verbals and I can rarely get him to talk about his feelings, where as another girl I know can only perform one task at a time, another doesn't even seem to show any sympoms other than her favourite topics.

Quality... I don't mind waiting if it's fresh, hot and taste good.

I'm so going to disagree with that. :anxious: Feel free to disagree I'm going by books and personal experience. Clearly you seem to know someone who isn't difficult and I'm happy for you. You do know there are different levels of severity? :?

Just as children have the very same right to choose which information they choose to listen to. Shoving something down your kids throat is more dangerous to their health than giving them choices. Dictating to a child after a certain age instead of negotiating is dangerous to their health and your relationship. There are many environmental factors to take in to consideration. Parental violation!!? Where's your facts? http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepage ... /adult.htm Check out the consequences.

Why stop at just hungry jacks? What about the coffee beans as well? You can purchase oxfam coffee beans where 81% of your dollar goes back in to helping developing communities become self efficient. Instead of giving my $4.80 to the coffee club I try to be fair and buy from both places. Afterall, wouldn't you agree it's equally just as unfair not to help your own country survive on their crappy award wages? That also depends on which country you're from! In Australia, it's 100% Australian Beef.

I try to view these things without emotion as horrible as it sounds... It's what we grow custom to in our society. Where someone is murdered in our country we usually want them to suffer, yet in other parts of the world where a similar thing has happened the social majority is happy to forgive and forget, with some counselling in social skills and rehabilitation... go figure. For those who are outraged just keep in mind he has 20 cases left to go and agreeing with what Mad has so cleverly said, I trust the people on the bench that day know more than I do.

No because you can't miss something you've never had.

darkmage, do some research on aspergers. Once they have something stuck in their mind, that is it. Unless you know how to speak to someone with it, you have no chance of changing their mind. Thankfully I've had 4 years experience with my boyfriend who also has it. Sometimes explaining things to them can be like smacking your head against a brick wall :wall: but they are some of the nicest people you could ever have as a friend, they would do anything for you. Although limited interests, they are extremely intelligent in their narrow interest fields. Sometimes I get jealous because I wish that special interest was our relationship instead of motorbikes and the army but what can ya do? lol If I had a dollar for everytime I lost my patience with him he'd be a millionaire. You just have to accept that it's not them as a person and they don't do it purposefully, it's the illness. I hate to confuse him but sometimes the only way to help him make a decision or to change his mind is to give him harsh automates. Change is very difficult they prefer for things to remain as they are... So you can imagine my frustration trying to help us move out in to a house...I've told him to piss off twice already over it, it's very stressful and involves so much patience.

A lot of people panic under stressful situations and don't know what they should do but you did an excellent job and I'm VERY proud of you. There is still that issue with your meds though and I'm sure you don't need me to tell you that, you will be clever enough to already have your own suspicions. If you're not reacting well under pressured situations, the med issue isn't going to do any favours in the long run. I'm just the annoying mother figure who clouts you behind the ears until you remember to get things done. You told me you had nothing to live for, it seems to me you have plenty of reasons to live for, people NEED you in their lives, you're special to them just as they are special to you. Sometimes you just need to be reminded O:) I'm sorry your parents don't tell you that enough but this mother figure would certaintly miss you if you were gone :(

Best: Sleeping in until 10am.... oh yeah Worst: Having to leave home soon, 2 hours earlier than usual because of the QLD train that derailed yesterday :x

Nice advice but you need to know someoneÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s full circumstances before you can throw a rope of advice to them. Sep's parents don't believe anything he says. The friend committing suicide is the only friend Sep considers his friend. He's also taking medication and still feels like committing suicide and has attempted it. If your medication isn't doing what it's supposed to be doing Sep, you need to change it. You've either been diagnosed wrongfully and your meds are exacerbating your problem, the side effects can sometimes be more life threatening than living a life without them and if you have a different mood disorder it could be triggering off severe hypomania which needs hospitalisation until it settles down to prevent suicide. Narcotic medicines really need to stop being handed out after 1st and 2nd doctor visits, thankfully QLD laws are changing soon :x It is impossible to look at someone the first time you've seen them, get them to describe their psychological distresses and match them against hundreds of similar DSM criteria and go AHUH, you have this, take these. For example before my degree I was shoved on effexor, resulting in 2 suicide attempts, anger outbursts and triggered off severe mania. Before then being shoved on Zoloft, which gave me severe anxiety and hullucinations. When all I needed was to take omega 3 fish oil, which isn't even a medication, it's a freaking vitamin tablet :shock:

Here are the facts Sep: You've been to a counsellor. You've been to see a psychologist, in fact several. Your parents won't have a bar of it. Hospitalisation is my only answer, stay in there until you can sort your head out and let the professionals in there help you. And considering you have aspersers, nothing anybody in here says can help you or be taken in the right way under the stress you're enduring. You're an attention seeker or you're on the wrong medications, which one is it Sep? Be true to yourself. If you have aspersers you shouldnÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢t be using narcotics! Medication such as that will reverse the effects (e.g. make you severely depressed, suicidal).

Felt the same way when my best friend died :( Just think he would want you to be happy. My mate was always positive, didn't like to be angry and then got angry that he would get angry hahaha... I try to remember that when I get upset, usually makes me smile.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I couldn't agree with you more. Especially when you're trying to sleep.... The amount of times I've booted my ex out of bed or stormed off to the couch.

:-k @ Trapical - If you lived in Australia I'd be hunting your fine [wagon] down :P Here are some photos of my ex (red and black jacket) (it would have been 4 years next month but we might be getting back together), our mutual best friend Murray (straight black jacket) and I on our all-day out ride through mount glorious, mount me and mount nemo.