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Working on retirement or at least very wealthy before the age of 30. I have a jewellery business that I get percentages of etc and in 9 years time working off the percentages of the people I've employed and their sales, I should earn up to 10+ grand a month without getting out of bed in the morning (if it all goes to plan). I graduated in the top 15% of the state for behavioural science but my heart just isn't in it anymore. I felt like I wasn't doing it for me. The one thing that truly makes me happy is expressing me creatively, so I'm thinking of taking up photography. Wow what a 360 :shock:

Huge celebration, bright colours and good music, funny stories and for Pete's sake crack open a bourbon or three. The only reason I'd want people to wear sunglasses at my funeral is if they're stonned, no crying 8-) Cremated and scattered over Victor Harbour bluff, with the penguins, seals and whales.

Don't forget to hook me up with his millionaire soon to be deceased brother :-w

That's why they have the swingers club :lol: Some couples are so comfortable and secure with each other that they can mutually agree to swing or have some 'fun' without the deceit of cheating etc It's not for everyone though.

It depends how much he reads? A book voucher might be a good idea? That way he can pick out the books he wants. Buy some cologne that you enjoy the smell of O:) You could plan something like maybe cook a roast dinner, invite him over, wear a beautiful dress, do your hair, wear your best underwear :wink: then go for a candle lit bath together in nice smelling oils, put his towel in the dryer to make it toasty warm and fluffy, leading to the bedroom with more candles, with a sensual back massage..... Mean while the house is burning down :XD:

Or you could go against the grain and propose to him? It would be a hell of huge surprise for Christmas. I'd love to ask him to marry me but I know his personality very well and I beating him to asking me to marry him would take away his manliness haha I just really hope for a miracle to be able to have children, I'm not very fertile and his sperm count is extremely low so the chances are extremely slim, especially since we've been trying for nearly a year. That would be the best Christmas present, ever.

For my wedding I'd like it to be very basic with a few close friends and family on the beach. I'm not wearing white; I'm riding in on the back of my babeÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s motorbike in an Indian maidenÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s outfit or some kind of medieval dress. The cake is going to be chocolate with cream - people might actually eat it then. Ride off in to the sunsetÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬ÃâæI'd much rather spend those 75,000 dollars at Vegas for the honey moon or Hawaii or something. That's your opinion which is fine but there are many people who don't think it is a waste of money and time, like me for example. There are lots of people who live in courtship quite happily and don't want to get married, despite your opinion.

For christmas I'd like my defacto to hurry up and ask me to marry him. Or to fall pregnant after god knows how long of trying :?

It doesn't prove they had sex but an emotional relationship is more dangerous than a 1 night stand in my opinion. If he was over there lots and shared a kiss my bet is they became pretty attached to one another. Even if they didn't have sex the man could still view 'an innocent kiss' as cheating. The word cheating has different boundaries for different people and in my books, pashing another bloke is cheating. Putting myself in the manÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s shoes I would probably look at all sorts of things, as it takes two to tango. A husband getting deployed for up to 2 years at a time and never being around can be bloody hard for a wife. My partner was in the army and I became a wreck after he left for just 6 months. But on that note the woman shouldn't have married him if she knew she couldn't handle it or at least had the ability to communicate with her husband more effectively to let him know she was missing him because he was barely around. I told my partner that and he went from full time army to reserves where he can't get deployed for that long. It's amazing what you can fix when two people will just talk to each other. If I was in his situation I would need some time to think whether I could forgive it and see if I could be around more for my wife so she didn't feel the need to find another emotional attatchment, or whether I just couldn't find it in my heart to give her another chance.

It takes two to tango. If his parents were approachable, don't you think he would help them understand it? His dad sounds like a real control freak (do some research) controlling parenting rather than authoritarian can lead to rebellious behaviour.

I'm thankful for a lot of things recently... I'm thankful my partner snuck me in to the office building after a big night out so I could get some sleep. I'm thankful that I'm going to see Scooter (Dj) perform tomorrow morning/night and get to meet him at the after party. I'm thankful that I found a sweet outfit for tomorrow. I'm thankful that pay day is soon. I'm thankful for the new motorbike gear my partner bought me and the concert tickets. I'm thankful that this will be my families first christmas in over 5 years where someone isn't in hospital with something life risking (so far so good... better not jinx it). I'm thankful that I found the cd I thought I lost. I'm thankful that tonight is going to be a bloody awesome night at work with all my favourite staff members. I'm thankful for the new digital camera I bought, tis going to be sweet for the huge festival tomorrow. I'm thankful that I'm having a good hair day. I'm thankful for bacon and eggs for breakfast mmm. I'm thankful that I'm moving out of home next weekend. I'm thankful that I might still be able to have kids. That'll do but the list is pretty long

Yes to all 3 and even with some wild imagination the grey blobs and shapes turn to finer detailed images :) I'd say it is normal just people who are more liberal, a bit of a dreamer or creative probably would have it occur more often, or should I say are more aware of it? Usually people who are musically gifted or artists etc, my 2 cents worth. Btw for number 3 I've decided they're mini panic/anxiety attacks, I know exactly what you're talking about.

Very, very true.

Agreeing with Warrior here, although you were only retaliating, you could have handled the situation better than what you did. I know your father both purposefully and inappropriately yelled that out when he saw it on the TV, probably hoping that you'd hear. However, times like that are best left ignored, unless they were clearly directed at you. It could have saved you the whole heart ache of everything that happened. In the case that something like that is directly said about you, I would suggest a much more calm approach which minimises defence of the other personÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s feelings. You have to remember you are both hurting a lot and while he is dealing with his feelings in an inappropriate manner, you are better than that. You could say something like, "Dad, while I realise this obviously affects you a lot, I would appreciate that you didn't speak to me like that. While I also realise you're feeling pretty betrayed and hurt, you're hurting me a lot with the things you say too. I really think that it's probably best if we both keep our opinions to ourselves while the both of us are feeling the way we do." So in that paragraph, you're acknowledging the way your father is feeling, you're also telling him how you're feeling and to minimise defence you are finding common grounds saying you both feel the same inside. But to be honest, your father portrays a lot of signs of 'the abuser' and in their minds, while you can minimise defence they will always believe theyÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢re always right. Within saying all of that however, your dad still deep down loves you or he wouldn't keep the roof over your head, or keep providing the food that you eat or the bed you sleep in at night. And this isn't going to be healthy for you mentally because you potentially have aspersers. Telling somebody with aspersers that they can no longer talk about their favourite subjects is like putting duct tape around their mouth and telling them they can no longer speak for the rest of their life. While these two personalities exist in the same house, I honestly don't think it's worth the hassle of learning these communication skills with your psychologist. However, if you're still interested there are a lot of books on interpersonal skills out there. Referring back to my aforementioned post, I suggest talking with your psychologist about finding ways to remove yourself safely from the environment you're in. It seems as though you really don't want to be there and as unfortunate as it is, I really don't think your father will decide to approve of the person you truly are. Successfully finding a mends around this could help you to freely live your life again, without the verbal abuse of your dad. Something I need you to keep in mind though is, that there are many people like your dad in this world who aren't going to make it easy for you. You can't escape all of those people. So somehow within yourself, you will still need to develop the strength to get past it all.

Your mum was even more scared that you'd be suicidal right? Tell her the thing your dad says makes you feel that way not anything else. Then get out of there, go to a more liberal aunt or uncle, friend etc and go live with them. Verbal abuse and being put down for years is worse than being hit in my opinion. The suicide rate is horrible. Talk to your psychologist about safe ways you can get around your dad. You're doing really well if I was in your position I would have told him exactly what I think of him and his opinions, exactly how they make me feel and tell him, "your god, your hell, not mine buddy" and to kiss my [wagon] on the way out the door. But that's me... you shouldn't put up with this crap ash or people will do it your whole life. You've already taken the first step and gotten help so I know you will get through this with a happy ending. And more importantly, never stay silent; it diminishes your inner self. Imagine it as a bottle; eventually under too much pressure it will shatter, itÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s beneficial on your health to let it out. NOBODY has the right to force you to listen to what they have to say while withdrawing your say. The first signs of a control freak. I say this a lot Sep, because it's very true. People see their own strengths and insecurities in others. Your father has poor self control and lack of control over his own life, so he tries to control yours. He likes to say 'you'll go to hell' a lot. It's my bet he's done something really bad in his life that was quite 'sinful' and has unsuccessfully pulled a blind eye to it. Unconsciously however, weaknesses always surface and now that you've done something 'sinful', you're the one copping the crap for his own insecurities. You can tell so much about a person by the things they say :-k

Yeah I slam dunk 10 foot things all the freaking time :^o You should blur out your face because of the no rl pic rule.

"An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind" summed up my thoughts pretty much too but I'm also a hippy :lol: Some people just don't get the 'put yourself in the other persons shoes' part though, so sometimes I feel I have to let them be that person.

It's like customer service at a restaurant, full house from open to close, under staffed. People threaten the airline check in assistants, spit on them, abuse them because THEY were late, drunk, you name it and this happens in EVERY air port, not just BrisbaneÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s. People can be so self centred and not able put themselves in other peopleÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s shoes for a lousy 2 seconds and realise things from another persons prospective. People are quite happy to become outraged before finding explanations. I point my finger at QANTAS itself, they need to treat their staff better if they're going to be "the face of the company".

Try online audio books for meditation as well, great to put on your ipod and fall asleep to.

Ungrateful people.. sheesh at least they're not freakin dead.

I wonder if they're playing insane or were actually insane for better sentencing :? :uhh:

Nah he's alright in small doses, I get over things easily.

^^ I'd really love to go there too. Also, I wouldn't mind India either because I'm a huge fan of learning about eastern religions, medicine and philosophy.

Thanks to Mercs reply with solutions to my concerns about facebook, I'm willing to give it another go. Thanks Matt.

Anytime, in fact you're the only person on these boards I don't like. Quit following my posts around and we'll be sweet.