Day 2: Feelings Are Unexplainable.

[Bloodredsword]

i've always tried to think about this kinda stuff...and always failed miserably

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks for the great topic

 

 

 

looking forward to next 8 days

[Korskin]

Describing emotions with single words is pointless. You must experience the feelings in order to fully grasp what they are about. It's very common in professional sports, when the reporter asks an athlete how it felt winning the cup or similar. They never seem to able to come up with an adequate answer to describe their feelings. This is not due to the puny vocabulary of the avarage pro sportsman, it's because you must have been there and experienced it to understand.

 

 

 

Thanks for sharing your story with us. It was a delightful read and I think I can relate to what you felt, the lament of love lost. But you can always throw in the old clicḫ̩̉̉ - "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".

[trapical]

highlanders - Good point, I never thought of that before

 

 

 

"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".

 

Aye, this is true, but the question is, was I really in love? Love is a two way street and I I believe the feeling of love in a relationship is much different than the feeling of 'love' in a a relationship that never really solidified.

[andufusthebronze]

This is really deep and emotional. The whole you where practically forced to be together thing I can relate too. But, I don't intend to bore people with how. Trapical, if you want to know PM me.

 

 

 

But yeah, great post, can't wait for day 10.

[Kwisatz]

I don't really assign names to my feelings because words cannot adequately describe them, because they're internal gut kinda sensations.

 

 

 

For instance, if you have read a few of my angst-ridden posts, you know there's this girl that I've liked very much for quite some time because she is a) very beautiful and B) the nicest, most understanding person I've ever met in my entire life. Problem is that although I can hold a steady conversation with her and we share some common interests, I never seem to truly hit it off with her, and she ends up paying attention more and being slightly flirtatious with the absolute idiot freshman on my bus and such, despite the fact they cross the line now and then by making sexual jokes about her, leading to her ignoring them for the duration of the ride. What really makes me have this particular feeling is that she a) hasn't gone out with anybody, ever, and B) that despite how nice she is she seems to pay more attention to absolute arseholes than me, and I have no idea how to approach her, given her standing - all her friends are "in," and I'm kinda not (but by no means an outcast XD). Somebody I know who talks to her more than I keeps telling me "oh she doesn't have time for boys," but my observations think otherwise. So basically it's a matter of me wondering what is really going on in her head and a terrible realization that I will really never ever be able to say anything to her about how I feel, tempered by a glimmer of hope that maybe one day things will magically work themselves out. If I had to assign this feeling a name, I would call it "awfully desperate confused kid syndrome."

 

 

 

Too bad nobody can wait forever.

[trapical]

BTTF don't wait. Waiting leads to someone else stepping in, or she will get to know you by proxy and then you won't be someone she wants to date. Realize that girls don't like to date people that know, they want someone new and unknown. Senior year in HS we had a foreign exchange student. Almost every girl wanted to date this guy... but from what I can tell he really wasn't that attractive. The entire basketball team were without dates, as was the class president, the captain of the football team, and the most popular kid in school. They were all looking for dates, but none of the girls in our grade wanted to date them since they were "old news" and the girls already "knew them" :roll:

 

 

 

Don't wait. I did.

[assassin_696]

"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".

 

Aye, this is true, but the question is, was I really in love? Love is a two way street and I I believe the feeling of love in a relationship is much different than the feeling of 'love' in a a relationship that never really solidified.

 

 

 

I can't pretend to know you you feel/felt, but I would say that with absolute conviction you can be in love on your own. It's unrequited love, it's painful, it can be uplifting and it's ultimately desperate and full of sadness. That doesn't make the love any less strong though, of that I can assure you, and if anything it can lead to some of the rawest expressions of love that you will ever see/hear/feel.

 

 

 

Just to listen to Layla by Clapton for example.

[Kwisatz]

BTTF don't wait. Waiting leads to someone else stepping in, or she will get to know you by proxy and then you won't be someone she wants to date. Realize that girls don't like to date people that know, they want someone new and unknown. Senior year in HS we had a foreign exchange student. Almost every girl wanted to date this guy... but from what I can tell he really wasn't that attractive. The entire basketball team were without dates, as was the class president, the captain of the football team, and the most popular kid in school. They were all looking for dates, but none of the girls in our grade wanted to date them since they were "old news" and the girls already "knew them" :roll:

 

 

 

Don't wait. I did.

 

 

 

Yeah, but how do you approach someone like that? Srsly.

 

 

 

She doesn't know me well at all, so I suppose that's good, but we've known of each other for... 7 years now? But only as people in periphery, not like best friends forever or anything like that. Plus I think I've changed considerably from the 4th grade XD.

[One Too Far]

Wow, realy made me think!

 

 

 

 

 

Wow. ^_^ Great read. ^_^

 

 

 

Life would be a lot easier if feelings could be explained.

 

 

 

And probaly a lot more dul wouldn't it, if you knew what emotions exactly happen in differtent situations live would lose all its suprises.

[Korskin]

highlanders - Good point, I never thought of that before

 

 

 

"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".

 

Aye, this is true, but the question is, was I really in love? Love is a two way street and I I believe the feeling of love in a relationship is much different than the feeling of 'love' in a a relationship that never really solidified.

 

Yeah, I suppose the quote is more suitable for solidified love. Because if you never really had the one you loved, you can't lose that person. However, I don't think love is necessarily a two way street.

[dangeresque]

wow...this sounded like a dumb topic at first but, it was...it was...beautiful *cries* great job on this topic, i never though that much about feelings until now... =D>

 

 

 

P.S. You should write books...

[loaf2000]

BTTF sounds like me. thats almost the exact same situation I have with a girl I like (exept we've known each other for 2 years instead of 7).the guys she talks to are jerks.

 

 

 

Its like they say: nice guys finish last. :(

 

 

 

also .Trapical, this is probably the best thread iv'e read in OT, (actually left room for real discussion, and had some really interesting points)

 

 

 

Im really looking forward to the rest of them . :D

[Stilev]

i've taken a year of pyshcolgy, and will be going into AP pysch just kuz i need another class for the hell of it.

 

 

 

from what i have learned from basic pyshc no emtion is exactly identcal to another, although when you see the same event twice in a row, the first time its new, the second time you seen it, but it might still be shocking. the other thing is, when we witness the stimli to create the emtion, the amount of each chemical, be it dop, adrline, etc; amount of it determines what you feel, so not eating enough food to realse enough food might lower the amount of dop or w\e you can realse will also affect it. second party drugs like alchol can also play a role

 

 

 

i cant remember the name, but there is a wheel of emotions in which you can place most emotions, and sometimes place emtions imbetween 2, but the problem is, some situations trigger alot more then 1 or 2 of these emtions, and that is where the wheel breaks apart.

 

 

 

the other type would be to make a list off around 50-100 different emtions, but then the problem is, you could probaly find 3-5 different thats described the emtion. so it really doesn't work that well either.

 

 

 

emtions orginally started for evolution not for all this stree, mainly it was scared, run, dont die; sex, fun, do again, your DNA is passed on; but as evolution continued, our emtions devloped furhter and futher till today.

 

 

 

these awnsers cannot, and will not be determined until futher reseach in our brain is done, so its not a good idea to make definte awnsers, or to worry about it too much

 

 

 

to much typing

[Lovelydude]

I must say, I would rather have my emotions left unexplained.

 

 

 

The only normal indication of my emotions when nothing happens to trigger them is whether I smile or not. I can't even place that as happy because it's so much more.

 

 

 

Yesterday, it was raining and there was a crazy wind. I was walking home from school and I saw the park nearby. All I could focus on was the picnic tables, lubricated by all the rain. I ran to them and practiced certain grinds and cess slides on the picnic tables, it was just exhilarating. Then I went to the little playground area and practiced spins, I did some 720s in crazy rain and wind pushing down on me with my cast on, which leads me to believe I could do 9s. ;D

 

 

 

I know that probably sounds really lame, but keep in mind I have a broken hand so I can't even put my skates on, let alone skate. I haven't skated for two weeks now, and I can't skate for another six weeks. D:

 

 

 

I have no real words to explain the emotions I felt. All I can say is that it was a blast.

 

 

 

Edit: I was at that park in the rain from about two hours. ;P

[trapical]

 

Its like they say: nice guys finish last. :(

 

 

 

also .Trapical, this is probably the best thread iv'e read in OT, (actually left room for real discussion, and had some really interesting points)

 

 

 

Wow, thats, that's quite a compliment. Thank you :

 

 

 

As for "nice guys finish last". I will go into this is a segment of the last, June 16th, thread. I promise you won't be disappointed.

[The Dark Lord]

BTTF sounds like me. thats almost the exact same situation I have with a girl I like (exept we've known each other for 2 years instead of 7).the guys she talks to are jerks.

 

 

 

Its like they say: nice guys finish last. :(

 

 

 

also .Trapical, this is probably the best thread iv'e read in OT, (actually left room for real discussion, and had some really interesting points)

 

 

 

Im really looking forward to the rest of them . :D

 

 

 

That may be true. But they finish, don't they? I'm a bit of a 'nice guy' myself but I still have a good social status and I'm the kind of person that gets along with everybody and the kind that people like.

 

 

 

My friend told me once (when I asked her out) that she just wanted to be a friend of mine, and only that. She knew I felt sad about that but she just started encouraging me and told me some things.

 

 

 

Her ex (she was a freshman, he was a junior) told her once that she was his first girlfriend...ever. Then she said she told me that to show me that relationships 'just happen' and that you just wait and you'll find a good one.

 

 

 

So, never give up hope and always keep a positive attitude. There are plenty of nice, attractive girls out there that don't like the 'jerks' and you'll find them.

 

 

 

(By the way, isn't this going a wee bit off-topic?)

[Kwisatz]

 

Its like they say: nice guys finish last. :(

 

 

 

also .Trapical, this is probably the best thread iv'e read in OT, (actually left room for real discussion, and had some really interesting points)

 

 

 

Wow, thats, that's quite a compliment. Thank you :

 

 

 

As for "nice guys finish last". I will go into this is a segment of the last, June 16th, thread. I promise you won't be disappointed.

 

 

 

Heh, from what I gather that applies until you reach the age of 25 or so and people start wising up XD.

[The Dark Lord]

Twenty-five is not a bad age to marry at.

[Make7upu101]

Man what a great start off.

 

 

 

Remember to tell us what happens.

[darkmage099]

Interesting read. The analogy is great. So how do we know what emotions we are feeling? It is all relative.

 

 

 

Think you still have a chance? By the way, I know a few girls like that in my high school. Shocking...they've got everything going for them (as far as I can tell). Good luck and maybe you were just meant to be friends. Buy pshh dating a guy 3 years younger...what a waste of time.

[trapical]

Interesting read. The analogy is great. So how do we know what emotions we are feeling? It is all relative.

 

 

 

Think you still have a chance? By the way, I know a few girls like that in my high school. Shocking...they've got everything going for them (as far as I can tell). Good luck and maybe you were just meant to be friends. Buy pshh dating a guy 3 years younger...what a waste of time.

 

Do I still have a chance? I don't know, doubtful. After that last episode I think I subconsciously let some of my feelings for her go. She is still defiantly more than a friend though, but I think our only chance is if we stumble upon each other again after about 5 years of being apart.

[Tigra00]

Can't wait to see the "nice guys finish last" post.

 

 

 

It's pretty true, though. But you also have to take into consideration that all the "not-so-nice" guys are also hooking up with "not-so-nice" girls. :P As a whole, though, I pity women because of how silly they are. A guy can do whatever he wants and just say a few words and have her hooked, it's really quite comical. Have to feel sorry for 'em. :P Very confusing topic, I've actually never been with a girl who was that gullible, so I consider myself kinda' lucky.