Today my mum told me that her marriage is on the rocks because my dad is trying to drive her away or something stupid like that i don't really understand why my dad wants to leave my mum since he has it great, gets dinner cooked every night, they still showed love for each other until this week and if he leaves I'm pretty much going to ignore him for the rest of his life. i just would like some tip.it advice on how to cope with this stressful situation

There's not much you can do because its really their choice. Just hope they will stay together. Have a talk and tell them how you really feel. And I know how you feel because when my parents divorced, I was kinda sad but it was better staying with 1 happy parent at a time than staying with 2 grumpy parents at the same time.

My usual tactic of deny everything doesn't seem to apply here...so I'll actually try to give advice.

 

 

 

If they really don't like each other, learn to accept it, like both of them, and enjoy the attention they shower you with. If it's a passing phase, like you said, as they were happy last week, just try to keep them together and not set them off.

Sucks to hear that dude. Sorry I can't really give you any meaningful advice, I've just kind of grown into accepting the divorce of my parents. It was years and years ago for me now.

 

 

 

Just don't be afraid to talk to both of your parents about it. They will always love you. I don't know what it is, it's like a rule of life though it's always sincere, they will never not love you or be willing to help you through things, thier own divorce included.

 

 

 

Other than all that, I reccomed a creative output for your feelings. Helped me heaps.

First of all, try to get all the perspectives. Talk to both your parents individually, and maybe even try to get them to talk to each other about it while you observe.

Thats sucks to hear that dude. The only advice I can give you is to not blame either your mum, nor dad for this. As others have said, try to get both perspectives of the situation, but never take sides. Thats when separation gets nasty.

It may have looked like everything was fine in their relationship, but there is sometimes something private going on between couples that even the children don't see. It's possible something has been going on between them for a long time and it's finally come to a head.

 

 

 

It's always sad when a marriage breaks down, and usually has a bad effect on the children in the family. But consider one thing, if their relationship was working they wouldn't even be thinking of breaking up, so there must be a very good reason why this may be happening. I know it's hard and you need someone to blame, but don't lay all the blame on your father as a relationship is a union of two people, both sides contribute to its success.

 

 

 

Craiglowery is correct and you should try to have a chat to both of them. This may be difficult and quite awkward, but try and sit them both down together and have a civil chat. Ask them one simple question: Why?

 

 

 

My heart goes out to you, hugs.

Azi, your life seems very complicated right now lol! :lol:

 

 

 

At the end of the day, you don't really have power. It's their decision to break up if ever they do, so don't worry yourself silly about it. I know it's hard accepting that becuase you feel completely helpless and you just wanna help the both of them, but that's the way it is. Go out with your mates, play RS - just do anything that will keep your mind off this matter, because thinking too much about anything, espcially something as deeply emtional and complex as marriage and love, can make you go insane. :wink:

 

 

 

From what I read, I think your mum just needs to let go and let your dad be whoever he wants to be. I'm sure he'd appreciate that, but if he doesn't, at least your mum tried to respect his wishes. A marriage doesn't last unless you allow the other person to be what they want to be (straight from Heroes that ;)). Otherwise, you're just a slave to the other person, and there's no real thrill in that at all.

Azi, your life seems very complicated right now lol! :lol:

haha yeah i am feeling extreme love for a girl yet extreme angst for this situation i'm happy yet sad i hate it >.< but yeah I'm going to get my siblings to gather and have a good family chat to see what is happening, i was speaking to my brother and he said he has been expecting this to happen for over 7 years, gosh seems like the youngest child is always out of the loop >.

That sucks dude. The best that you can do is remember that it isn't your fault and that it's completely their decision. Do that and it won't be as worse.

i did that but then i realized it was sorta my fault for being born haha but i cant change that now can I

Let's hope you get more pity, victim presents than I did!

Today my mum told me that her marriage is on the rocks

 

 

 

Is your mum an alcoholic?

Today my mum told me that her marriage is on the rocks

 

 

 

Is your mum an alcoholic?

 

 

 

:shame: Mabye a Comedian Shouldnt be your profession in the future....To be a comedian you've got to know when to use some good jokes, this is not it!

 

 

 

Normally these things will sort out, If they Divorce, Well look on the brightside youll get double presents

 

 

 

Divorce is very common, so you wont be the only kid in your school to have divorced parents

Today my mum told me that her marriage is on the rocks

 

 

 

Is your mum an alcoholic?

 

 

 

:shame: Mabye a Comedian Shouldnt be your profession in the future....To be a comedian you've got to know when to use some good jokes, this is not it!

 

Actually, his joke made me laugh so hard that I split my sides.

get over it. its life

really? so everyones parents are going to divorce so i should feel normal right now? that what your trying to say?

My parents wouldnt break up cause they'd know Id kick their [wagon]

really? so everyones parents are going to divorce so i should feel normal right now? that what your trying to say?

 

 

 

pretend his post wasnt there. he usually flames in every boards. :P ive kind of gotten used to it.

 

 

 

My parents wouldnt break up cause they'd know Id kick their [wagon]

 

 

 

they have authority over you. :-w

i got a sort of positive update, they still plan to live together but they are going to stop the pretend love they have been putting on, still things are going to be weird

really? so everyones parents are going to divorce so i should feel normal right now? that what your trying to say?

 

 

 

It may upset you for a while, buyt you will get over it.

 

 

 

I was bloody relieved when my dad moved out.

why are you posting about your parents marrige on a runescape forum any way :\

why are you posting about your parents marrige on a runescape forum any way :\

really? so everyones parents are going to divorce so i should feel normal right now? that what your trying to say?

 

 

 

i dont see it as normal, its just terribly common. and yeah, im going through the same kind of situation. :|