What Should I Do?

[Maze]

Okay, I have a little problem in a class at school. It's a class where you work on a computer with a partner. The problem is: My partner is a mentally challenged person.

 

 

 

I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but he is really holding me up on my work. The class is strict on deadlines, so that means you must work hard to get things done. I try to get him to do his work, because your partner must move at the same pace as you, you have to complete things at the same time to get it graded. It's really frustrating because he often will not do his work, even when it's simple. He will often say things like, "I don't get this!".

 

 

 

What should I do? I want to pass this class, but this person is holding me up to where I cannot complete my work.

[Robert_de_Sable]

Kill him.

 

Barring that, ask the teacher for a new group or do all the work yourself. Or yell at him.

[Maze]

Kill him.

 

Barring that, ask the teacher for a new group or do all the work yourself. Or yell at him.

 

 

 

The problem is is that I do not want to hurt his feelings. If I ask for a new group, then he (and I) will feel bad.

[gago]

Do all the work yourself and let him copy it.

 

or

 

Try to help him as much as you can, maybe then he will get it.

 

if that doesn't work

 

Talk to the teacher about it and try to figure out a solution that's good for all.

[Tim_Finch]

Talk to your teacher, he/she won't let you fail because of something like this, they'll be more than willing to work something out. I have yet to meet a teacher that's not like this.

[angryjoe]

yep just speak to the teacher :thumbup:

[Lionheart_0]

Ya do speak to your teacher. It is their job to accommodate you. If they don't they are not doing their job.

 

 

 

That being said, why is this person in the same class? Is there no special needs program at your school?

[llcoolguy972]

Ya do speak to your teacher. It is their job to accommodate you. If they don't they are not doing their job.

 

 

 

That being said, why is this person in the same class? Is there no special needs program at your school?

 

I'm curious, too. It seems very odd that someone with special needs would be without an aid, let alone in a software/programming class.

[Lenin64]

Oh Fat Jesus, man. If I were you, I would rectify that situation immediately with a swift transfer of partners. "Feelings" or not, you have to do it.

[Chained_life]

If he's mentally challenged he should have an aid with him in the class at all times... She usually would help you with it. I've experienced this. If there is no aid, just do the work, sometimes you will find things in the world "unfair". Best to get over it now.

[Lenin64]

If he's mentally challenged he should have an aid with him in the class at all times... She usually would help you with it. I've experienced this. If there is no aid, just do the work, sometimes you will find things in the world "unfair". Best to get over it now.

 

Or, you know, grow a pair and do something about it.

[Chained_life]

If he's mentally challenged he should have an aid with him in the class at all times... She usually would help you with it. I've experienced this. If there is no aid, just do the work, sometimes you will find things in the world "unfair". Best to get over it now.

 

Or, you know, grow a pair and do something about it.

 

 

 

That is doing something about, I say man up, stop [bleep]ing about it being unfair and do the work like you're supposed to do. That's why I hate this team crap, kids in school could care less about the work and you need to deal with them. The OP sounds like a sensitive guy who wants to do his work but not piss the kid off. I personally would just tell my teacher that I cannot work with him, and I will be doing my work alone. Another kid is not my responsibility, it's the parents or the aid's. I offered the OP a convenient solution to his personal problem.

[IGoddessI]

Before I tell you my opinion is the person really mentally challenged or are you labeling them as mentally challenged because they don't get things as quickly as you do?

[Lenin64]

If he's mentally challenged he should have an aid with him in the class at all times... She usually would help you with it. I've experienced this. If there is no aid, just do the work, sometimes you will find things in the world "unfair". Best to get over it now.

 

Or, you know, grow a pair and do something about it.

 

 

 

That is doing something about, I say man up, stop [bleep] about it being unfair and do the work like you're supposed to do. That's why I hate this team crap, kids in school could care less about the work and you need to deal with them. The OP sounds like a sensitive guy who wants to do his work but not piss the kid off. I personally would just tell my teacher that I cannot work with him, and I will be doing my work alone. Another kid is not my responsibility, it's the parents or the aid's. I offered the OP a convenient solution to his personal problem.

 

This is essentially what I just said. Getting a new partner or, failing that, abandoning the old one.

[Chained_life]

If he's mentally challenged he should have an aid with him in the class at all times... She usually would help you with it. I've experienced this. If there is no aid, just do the work, sometimes you will find things in the world "unfair". Best to get over it now.

 

Or, you know, grow a pair and do something about it.

 

 

 

That is doing something about, I say man up, stop [bleep] about it being unfair and do the work like you're supposed to do. That's why I hate this team crap, kids in school could care less about the work and you need to deal with them. The OP sounds like a sensitive guy who wants to do his work but not piss the kid off. I personally would just tell my teacher that I cannot work with him, and I will be doing my work alone. Another kid is not my responsibility, it's the parents or the aid's. I offered the OP a convenient solution to his personal problem.

 

This is essentially what I just said. Getting a new partner or, failing that, abandoning the old one.

 

 

 

 

 

Then we agree, I was looking at it from the OPs Perspective originally :P

 

 

 

 

 

Before I tell you my opinion is the person really mentally challenged or are you labeling them as mentally challenged because they don't get things as quickly as you do?

 

 

 

Good point, this kid SHOULD have an aid with him at all times if he's mentally challenged, sometimes a kid would go nuts start screaming and hitting random people, that's when the aid comes in.

[IGoddessI]

If the guy is seriously mentally challenged not just "slow" then talk to him and ask him whether or not he has an aid with him. The school needs to organize one for him if he hasn't already got one. Admittedly, his parents/guardians should have already organized one for him, and if they haven't the school should have, if the school didn't then the teacher should have but since there seems to be a chain of lazy people going on, it's now your responsibility to act on it and help him find out where one is. Please don't sweep this under the rug or you'll add to the chain of ignorance and this poor kid is not going to be getting the help he needs.

 

 

 

Secondly, have patience. No, don't try to do all the work yourself because you'll just stress yourself out and you don't need to. A good thing about team work is it teaches you to think "outside the box" to problem solve. You might have to spend extra time explaining things with him and getting him involved, although an aid should be doing most of this for the both of you.

 

 

 

Thirdly, speak with your teacher. Don't sulk about who you're with or you won't achieve what you want. But you can say that you don't have a problem working with someone mentally challenged but it's going to take extra time to help him out so whether an extension could be negotiated, or whether you could organize an aid to help your partnership.

 

 

 

If your teacher refuses to do this, go to your school's counsellor and they will hook you up with the help you need.

 

 

 

If this person is not really mentally challenged just "slow" then put yourself in his shoes, say that hypothetically you aren't very good at mathematics and unless someone in your team sits down with you and explains it to you, you're going to fail the up-coming exam. One guy who is a math whiz doesn't have the patience to teach you anything so instead does all the work and hands it in from the both of you. You now have resentment towards him, you haven't learnt anything at all and you're most likely going to fail anything else that comes up on the same topic.

 

 

 

If after having the patience to sit with him and show him how to do something he shows signs of genuinely just being lazy go to your teacher and explain that you have taken the time to teach him and he is not showing your team the willingness to work.

 

 

 

If your teacher refuses to do this, once more knock on your school counsellor's door and they will help you.

 

 

 

We had a few people like this in university and as you could probably imagine I was stressed out to the point where I wanted to rip my hair out. In the long run, nobody wants to work with these people. The smart people hook up with the smart people and who are the lazy people left to work with? the lazy people... and then they find out that they have even more work to do. They then usually drop off like flies and don't end up coming back.

[Star_Fox]

ask the teacher or whoever is in charge of your class.

 

 

 

 

 

*wow*...