*sigh*..

[hockEynfish]

Forgive me if this is spam... But things are hard right now. And no one seems to care. I got in a terrible fight with my parents.. I hate it. On top of that, I have this best friend, and I think I'm losing her. We barely ever talk or tell each other any personal info anymore.. It's hard. I used to do EVERYTHING with her and tell her EVERYTHING. It's not just these problems. There are others. But I just don't like the way life is right now.. I don't know what to do about it. I try talking to people but I never know the right words to say exactly.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Can anybody give me some advice.. I know it's stupid to put this on the internet... but please. :cry:

[Guest GhostRanger]

I think if you need advice (which Tip.it'ers are usually happy to give) you need to give some more information. What do your parents fight about? Do you know why you and the girl are growing apart?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Its not stupid to put it on the internet...we all need an outlet. :P

[Anesthesia]

Hint: don't play RS or use these forums as much.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

As for not knowing what to say, that's just life. Almost everyone doesn't know what to say, and if you do then it makes you a smartalec.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Its not stupid to put it on the internet...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is stupid if you don't take all the replies with a pinch of salt, a community consisting primarily of <15 year olds is not the best place to seek advice.

[TheRealist]

keep ya head up/

[Guest GhostRanger]

Hint: don't play RS or use these forums as much.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

As for not knowing what to say, that's just life. Almost everyone doesn't know what to say, and if you do then it makes you a smartalec.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Its not stupid to put it on the internet...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is stupid if you don't take all the replies with a pinch of salt, a community consisting primarily of <15 year olds is not the best place to seek advice.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Right. I do hope you didn't miss the end of my sentence that you forgot to quote. I was specifically saying its not stupid to put it on the internet because we all need to vent sometimes, and what better place than somewhere that no one knows you?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Well. I don't know why me and her (my friend) are growing apart. I honestly don't. It's like me and her aren't best freinds anymore... in a way.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And with my parents, it was my attitude. That was it. We ended up getting in a terrible fight... I know that's really not enough info.. but sorry... I really don't wanna be anymore specific.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Any more advice

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are you all the same person?

[TheRealist]

Yeah. Sry.^

[Guest GhostRanger]

Yeah. Sry.^

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Haha no problem.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Have you tried talking to the girl? Maybe she is stressed out about something and/or is distracted and doesn't even realize what's going on.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

As for the parents, fighting with parents happens a lot. It will probably blow over and you all will be fine. Its what parents and kids do. Next time though, remember what made them mad and avoid it, even if you think you were right.

[Anesthesia]

Right. I do hope you didn't miss the end of my sentence that you forgot to quote.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I didn't quote it on purpose because it's not relevant.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

He posted asking for advice, which you should know because you did quote it. That goes beyond being just an outlet.

[TheRealist]

Thanks for the help so far Ghost. But it's like she's started to talk to other friends and hang out with them more than me and my friends. Growing apart is the exact words actually.

[TheRealist]

gahh..that hockeynfish account if from when i couldn't get on this account from when i lived in chicago for the summer :roll: i rememberd the password the other day.

[Guest GhostRanger]

 

Right. I do hope you didn't miss the end of my sentence that you forgot to quote.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I didn't quote it on purpose because it's not relevant.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

He posted asking for advice, which you should know because you did quote it. That goes beyond being just an outlet.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Its relevant to my point about the internet being a decent outlet. That's all I was commenting on and by only quoting HALF of my sentence you are not getting my point across. Obviously I'm aware he's asking for advice, but that's not the part I was responding to in that sentence. I was only responding to him acting semi-ashamed for posting it here - reassuring him that there is no harm in it. How you took that out of context and tried to argue with it I don't know, but clearly you're not helping.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks for the help so far Ghost. But it's like she's started to talk to other friends and hang out with them more than me and my friends. Growing apart is the exact words actually.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hmm... well I'd talk to her about it. Ask her whats up. If she can't talk to you about it or tells you that you all are growing apart than I'm sorry for that. It happens and it sucks, trust me, I've been there before.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But trust me on this, if not her, someone else will come along. You'll grow close to a lot of people at different times and for different reasons. I'm not saying that this friendship is over, but if it is, it will turn out fine.

[woopidoo2]

where did the author went?

 

 

 

i hope he read all this good advices...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

im sure evrything will be fine, evryone has a period when he/she feels down...

[xXru1n3dXx]

Forgive me if this is spam... But things are hard right now. And no one seems to care. I got in a terrible fight with my parents.. I hate it. On top of that, I have this best friend, and I think I'm losing her. We barely ever talk or tell each other any personal info anymore.. It's hard. I used to do EVERYTHING with her and tell her EVERYTHING. It's not just these problems. There are others. But I just don't like the way life is right now.. I don't know what to do about it. I try talking to people but I never know the right words to say exactly.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Can anybody give me some advice.. I know it's stupid to put this on the internet... but please. :cry:

 

 

 

Im like you at the moment, my parents are fighting and there threatening to divorce. Im really annoyed cause they had an arguement 2 or 3 days ago aswell. 2006 to me isnt looking like a very good year :?

[TheRealist]

Yeah, I'm here and I liked the advice thank you very much. It's just I'm not happy anymore lately...I'm lonely... :cry: (Sorry. It's just true.)

[knives669]

You have to talk to your friend. Ask her why she's being so distant.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We all get stressed out occasionally, and sometimes we just tend to take it out on other people. Remember to look on the bright side of things, keep your head up, and you'll do fine. You can always work out your problems.

[Bubsa]

It's tough when you can't really talk to someone about it. We here can subsidise and support you all you want, but it doesn't beat talking to someone in the flesh; or at least hearing their voice.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You need to keep trying to talk to people, though. It's hard, but it's the only way to express yourself, no-one can read your thoughts. Perhaps you could give a help line a call? In Britain we have phone lines like Samaritans. They're free and it's basically someone to talk to if you feel bad. It's not gonna replace your friend, but its a start. I don't know of any equivalents for where you're from though. Any help with that guys?

[Lionheart_0]

It's not gonna replace your friend, but its a start. I don't know of any equivalents for where you're from though. Any help with that guys?

 

 

 

We have kids chat line her ein canada, and i think it might also be for the US, not sure.

[TheRealist]

Never heard of those things to be honest.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But the problem with my lonliness is my friends always make plans in front of my face and rarely invite me to anything :cry: Then they talk about it the next day.

[Zippi08]

But the problem with my lonliness is my friends always make plans in front of my face and rarely invite me to anything :cry: Then they talk about it the next day.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why don't you ask them if you could come then? To me they don't sound like very good friends, I mean discussing about something in front of you and not even inviting you... :/

[x_bow80]

u will get through it.... some time :D

[stan18]

a community consisting primarily of <15 year olds is not the best place to seek advice.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So would 30 year olds be better? Really, <15 year old kids are the ones who go through these problems. What better place to talk about it than with people who may have gone through the same thing?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I uesd to argue with my parents often. The best thing to do is apologize. Problems won't just go away, I've tried that and it does not work. Have you tried talking to your parents? Maybe you'll get somewhere doing that. Always be responsive, otherwise, it looks a lot like arrogance. Whenever you feel like snapping on them, don't. Think about the consequences, and just let them have their way. Again, talk to them about it, but never, ever, ever shout.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

As for your friend, I suggest you talk to her. Is she in any classes with you? I have some friends that I don't have classes with, but I still keep contact with them, either online, or just by waving hi in the hallway.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

offtopic: Anesthesia, when you say with a pinch of salt, what do you mean by that? Its the first time i've heard it used :?

[Anesthesia]

So would 30 year olds be better? Really, <15 year old kids are the ones who go through these problems. What better place to talk about it than with people who may have gone through the same thing?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

30 year olds will have gone through it too... But they have dealt with it and come out the other end.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Taking something with a pinch of salt means not taking it too seriously.

[Hotnoodles]

I don't know whether you've made up with your parents yet, but if your attitude is a reoccurring problem with your parents, apologising isn't enough, talk to your parents about why you have such an attitude and what catalyses it when both you and they are in a good mood. Let them understand you more, I think that's what most parents really need from their teenage kids.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

With your friend, sometimes people just grow apart and that's just life. The longevity of my "best friends forever" relationships are usually short because of this reason. People change, but maybe your friend doesn't know the effect she's having on you, tell her how you're feeling (you don't have to be good with words with this) see her response. The worst thing you can do is force her to still be on "best friend" terms with you when she doesn't want to.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Maybe when you've patched things up with your parents you can sub them in as your best friends and tell them (almost) everything. It may seem like a silly idea, but it benefits both sides - they'll trust you more (since they know you can trust them) and in return may give you more freedom to do more things independently.