Ginger_Warrior

If what Mish says is true, then Mish must be Mr. Corona Addict 2013.

Today my phone decided not to turn on, for no good reason, so it's had to be sent in for repairs which will take two weeks. In related news, I also discovered today just how much I'm addicted to Facebook... :? Hopefully two weeks cold turkey will help.

You don't know anything about her lifestyle... I think his posting this thread in the first place is evidence he cares about her well-being. You're making an argument where there isn't one.

Naabe... y u no pay attention to your "Solve PC Issues" notifications?

I don't think you really expressed that post strongly enough, for the lack of exclamation marks... Happy Birthday Clare, hope you have a great day! :)

She's gained 15 lbs over 26 weeks and she's still a perfectly healthy weight. We're hardly talking about someone in the verge of chronic heart failure. I would intuitively be thinking "16 year old, weight gain... pregnancy?" but there's no evidence of that either. I'm not so concerned about her physical health in relation to her eating habits. I'd be more focused about her psychological health and her perceptions around body image, and whether that's contributing to what the OP described as a "lack of self confidence". I'm not saying it is contributing, but it's definitely an avenue I'd explore.

Girl doesn't normally consume alcohol and drugs Girl enters successive string of bad relationships ("every one of them ended up hurting her really bad") Girl has started taking pot and drinking to excess It's understandable that someone in that situation would find their personal life very stressful, but from an outside view looking in, it doesn't appear that she's coping very well with that stress. On the other hand she seems to find it much easier relaxing and being herself around you, which is a positive thing. I'd be asking two questions if I were you. Firstly, how much of this "good feeling" is actually a flashback of when you were going out? Be very careful not to confuse what's happening now with emotions you felt back then, even if it seems to be following the same pattern, because it isn't the same as back then and things have changed. Secondly, just as you would with anyone you meet in life, try and work out why she seems to have singled out you specifically. Does she just need comfort? Is she looking for someone to give her ego a boost because after lots of failed relationships, she's perhaps lacking self-esteem? Has she gone back in time looking for the last boyfriend who made her feel good? When answering those questions, really try and focus on things which you know actually exist, rather than things you might think or feel exist.

BMI fails to distinguish between lean/muscle mass and fat mass, I agree, but it does still correlate with body fat percentage (BF%), albeit unreliably. Some half of BF%-defined obesity cases are missed by BMI. However, what isn't clear from any quick literature search I perform is any evidence that body composition measurements are any better at diagnosing overweight or obesity, which is what I was actually asking you for. Although what you say about body composition measurement is intuitive and sounds logical, the scientific evidence for it is not strong enough to say it's definitely better than BMI as a measurement towards diagnosing obesity, and more studies need to be performed before claiming it's a better measurement. In any case, what we seem to be dealing with here is someone who has a perfectly healthy weight by all conventional measures, and the influence of puberty should be considered for any fluctuations in BMI or BF% before jumping to conclusions in the first place. It's a wise idea to eat healthier foods anyway, but that should be within the scope of eating healthily, which carries its own benefits in addition to weight loss.

Says who? Accurate at measuring what? Fat % or morbidity?

No you're right, my brain's frazzled after a long and stressful day writing assignments. I know the BMI limits off-by-heart usually but for whatever reason at that moment I recalled 20 as overweight and 25 as obese. Yeah 21.7 is perfectly fine. It's 18 to 25. It's not really meant to be used in a strict or diagnostic way, and it allows for professional discretion so factors like fat:muscle ratios and bone mass can be taken into account. The tool is still very much useful, though; for the vast majority of people is still remains the most accurate way to predict someone's chances of developing weight-related illnesses and diseases. If you have a measure which is better at predicting the risks of morbidity in overweight patients, please feel free to post one with evidence of its improved accuracy over the BMI model.

It's a BMI of 21.7. As said, it's not black and white, but BMI > 20 wouldn't be defined as healthy.

Well... it does matter in terms of body image if she's uncomfortable about being overweight, which is why I was trying to ask about her perceptions on exercise and her body in my last post. Also, being overweight is linked to a whole load of chronic illnesses; the causal relationship is very well established by now. I agree that lecturing is not the way to do it because that would harm her self-esteem, although part of any intervention is to inform about the consequences of being overweight and allow people to make their own minds and to explore their own perceptions around food, weight and exercise.

The weird thing is I had to go two weeks on my own before Christmas for similar reasons, and they always say being on your own at Christmas is absolutely the worst situation, but I wasn't really bothered back then. Not sure why it's bothering me so much this time. Whether it's because of the stuff with my Dad's girlfriend's family. Maybe because I'll move house when I get back? I'm not sure but I'm sure it'll be fine. :/ Thank-you for the support. :)

Today I almost broke down on the street and starting crying two or three times before pulling myself together before anyone got to see. Nursing students have to stay further behind at university than most other students because our term dates last longer. So most of my friends moved away a week ago now. I'm a member of two societies and I used to go out twice per week for those meetings but they've obviously quit for summer so I won't be going to them until the new academic year starts in September. Since last Wednesday when I said goodbye to my friends who were leaving, I've only been out once with one friend, for a fundraiser charity 5K run (apart from going to the library for uni work). Me and that friend are quite close but... it's definitely a more one-to-one thing; she's got her own friends so we don't really hang out much. Being in my flat only reminds me that there's no-one really here to be around. The normal university services which offer emotional support aren't operating over the summer, so even that safety net has gone. If I'm being really straight-up and honest, I see that one friend with her mates as well as other people hanging around each other, posting all-sorts of jolly status updates and photos on Facebook, and while normally I'd be really happy for them and going all generous with the likes, now my reaction is: "shit, I'm so lonely". It's not really jealousy about my friend having other friends in the possessive sense of "Oh, why does she like being around other people more than me?", because I'm secure enough in our friendship, and also mature enough on a personal level, to understand that it isn't a measure of that. It's more that, right now, I don't have a group of friends like she does because mine have all left... not because they dislike me or anything I've done but just because of circumstances; their terms ended earlier than mine so they went home earlier; the term time for normal university students has ended so clubs and societies aren't running now... it's as simple as that. So my solution really was to just hold on until the end of term, and go home at the earliest to spend time with friends and family. Well... yeah, but... My brother's working all the time so I can't really spend time with him, and my Dad's girlfriend's nan just died so he's busy making sure his girlfriend and her family are alright. Which is definitely understandable and I'd kick him if he did otherwise, but it means I can't rely on him for support either right now. And that kind of leaves me with... no-one. Even though I have friends and family that I know care about me, I feel like they just aren't here right now. And the only reason I'm posting this here is exactly because of that and I'm being a bit cathartic. I'll probably edit-delete it in a week or so. :)

You've already lectured her on healthy eating so you can rule out ignorance. How much exercise does she do, and does she enjoy exercise generally? EDIT: Just to be clear, I wasn't going to follow this on with "Tell her to do exercise"

Two of those are blatantly the same message scrolled further up the chat bar, to be fair. :P

watching u irl. Erm... the [bleep]? How??

Oh yes, the adrenaline coursing through your veins at that moment in time will certainly prevent the spread of HIV, Hep B and Hep C. I mean, I'm sure those diseases only need some painkillers and a few days rest, you'll be fine...

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No. It's only for the Attacker role, replacing the options that were attached to the weapons beforehand.

Is this really the problem though? Surely the problem there is that T60 crossbow = tormented demons, T70 crossbow = Barrows. Who the [bleep] came up with that scale?

Let's allow things to calm down before jumping to rash conclusions about prices. There's very little in the way of evidence to suggest prices will stay that high. There's a post on the RSOF claiming they sold an ascension MH for 850m, which makes 100m look a bit meager, although obviously that can't be verified. Things are always bad immediately after an update because silly people spend silly money on new items.

Where does the 100m+ price tag on the dragon crossbow come from?

Not a problem if you don't care. :)

What is beauty? If you mean sexy, say sexy. If you mean pretty, say pretty. If you mean a personality trait or a characteristic... you get the message. 'Beauty' is a weasel word, like 'talented' or 'able'. I'd generally agree more with the first one. Firstly, it says that compliments mean more when they're authentic and altruistic; no doubt about that whatsoever. Secondly, it says compliments mean less the more times they are repeated; this refers to habituation which is also true. It also says "unexpected" though... not really sure about that one. Does it mean any less when you do expect the compliment, and therefore all that happens is that your own self-concept is reinforced? I find it difficult to agree with that last statement. The second one seems to be a reference to body image vs self-esteem but it misses the point. Even if the media aren't manipulating my perception of an ideal body, if my perception of the ideal body (which would still be influenced by factors excepting the media) is somewhat different to reality, I will still suffer low self-esteem. Feel free to reject media portrayals of beauty. In fact, I'd would encourage you to do so, but if you still have low self-esteem even after doing that, then accept that you're either being too hard on your perceived 'real' body, or too unrealistic about your 'ideal' body.