Ginger_Warrior

Have to admit, watching Zaha play on Monday did wonders for my anxiety about Rooney (probably, some would even say hopefully) leaving. Difficult to see how Palace would have had any attacking thrust without him. Bale's going to Madrid, and it's the worst-kept secret in football, but imagine Bale, Zaha, van Persie, Hernandez and Welbeck.

References to euphoric states of mind typically induced by a Class A street drug isn't setting a very good ezksample, Tans.

Were the nude pics of Tans mishappropriated?

Duo QBD with Leik? Sounds legit.

Speak for yourself. "I think most young men would do EXACTLY what Neferast does"--I completely disagree with that statement.

Except you don't trust them. Because you haven't told them. Because you know they'd drop you like a sack of potatoes if they knew you'd been lying to them all that time. Sorry if you find my opinion offensive but I won't be apologising for it. I think you're treating those three women with total disrespect by not being honest with them, and I feel sorry for any person who takes relationship advice from a man who follows that philosophy towards their partners. Shoot me.

Oh, how lovely. You're just proving your credentials right there with "I just don't tell them." So you're completely disregarding their feelings and their values so you can hold three relationships down at the same time. Muggi, as much as I find faults with polyamory, at least recognises that that should be common knowledge between both partners. Clearly, it's a very trustworthy relationship if you haven't told them.

I didn't say that relationships shouldn't be mutually beneficial. That's obvious. What I said was that it shouldn't form the basis of a romantic relationship. The fact you said "I'm working with her to improve it" proves my point; it's an inherently unequal relationship, and one that is therefore doomed from the outset.

What will happen when you've "fixed" her, if the relationship is based on you "fixing" her? Wouldn't the premise of the relationship fall apart? Surely at that point, you'd have to admit to yourself that you can't offer anything more to her, and let her go to enjoy her life. I can understand the thrill and the satisfaction of helping people. I do it day in, day out; as a care assistant, as a student nurse, as a volunteer first aider, as a friend. It does my self-esteem absolute wonders. But it isn't something I'd do romantically, because a) it's expected that romantic partners act that way in the first place; and b) it isn't something that would keep me with another person in the long-term. As soon as I've helped them to the point that they no longer need my help, there's no longer a need for either of us to be in that relationship, unless there's something else keeping us together.

Hack someone's account, find out their bank details, and post them here for all of us to see. I bet we'll find out in minutes. (No seriously, don't do that)

I've never heard of anything more tragic than online pool.

How's your dg, though? Get on my level, please.

You made me spray tea all over my laptop in hysterics. Bastard.

:( I'm 5'0"...

If I use typical football fan logic: Nani got sent off wrongfully United lost the game United players would have lost confidence and that's why they drew to Chelsea in the Cup Therefore, that referee cost us a Treble in Fergie's last season.

Sir, please... If the ginger guy in the bar only made Draz think of you that implies that, indeed, the man in question was not you. Well played sir.

I get around, it's true.

I thought I had no soul?

Just be thankful it didn't go to penalties.

The best part about tonight of course is that, whoever won, a German team would be left crying. :)

Seems like if that's something that means a lot to her, that's probably where she's going to find self-confidence from. As far as college is concerned, how much of that is an assumption on your part, and how much of that has she said herself? I'd talk to her before second guessing each other.

What makes you say that? I know it sounds horrible to hear, but if she's going to leave you like that, it probably wasn't a relationship worth investing much into, and there's plenty of better girls who you could strike up a better relationship with. The inverse point of view is this: You try and stop this girl from leaving you, and spend a lot of time and a lot of effort trying to piece together a relationship which you know is cracking apart. Don't focus on what you're feeling right now, focus on your near future and the many happy opportunities it will offer.

One of my friends described it as "if you make girls feel shit about themselves first, they'll be more desperate to stay around you." Generally, I've found that to be true for girls in their teens who are very confused about what a healthy relationship looks like. What common interests do you have with each other? If I was looking for a way to build someone's confidence, it would be by exploring what kind of person they want to be, and what kind of things do they want to do, and generally encouraging them further down that direction.

Have a medal.

You think cross-contamination of blood is a "petty thing"... lol. Ahhh... go stick your hand in a sharps bin full of used needles if you're so confident about that theory. I mean, like, proper Saw II-style. Let's see how much crap you get your bloodstream. :wink: