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I never knew you were in my area Jeff :/ Hey it's only early Tim, I haven't even got pants on yet. You have my number don't you?

Didn't you two start off as [bleep]-buddies though? Nah that would have been a different girl, we were physical before we got together but never decided on being casual. I just went along to see how things worked out and she ended up being an amazing girl. By the way if we don't hang soon I'm going to have to start cheating on you.

This is a women, she doesn't think the same way you do. When she said that she could mean you were suffocating her or a number of other things. A women who wants a 1 night stand with a guy will agree to go back to his house to check out his fish. That way, whatever else may happen isn't her fault because she went to check out the fish and not have sex. What I'm trying to say, is a women will tend to make an emotional choice and use whatever logic will fit to justify it. I'm not saying it's wrong, but it's not how men work so many don't get it. I've seen many guys piss off their girlfriends and get into easily avoided fights because they listen to the logic and reasoning, and don't think about core values and emotions she has. She says that because she didn't want a serious relationship with you at this time. This doesn't mean she doesn't want one for 3 years full stop. If her and this new guy click, they may very well end up together. My girlfriend told herself she wouldn't get into a relationship, or have sex until later on based on her experiences with guys. Just months later I met her and she changed her mind. I was having a casual thing with a girl for months, (who was originally 'against that')and she had long pushed out her feelings for me because I didn't want a relationship. I started developing feelings for her, she wasn't interested in a serious relationship. Less than a month later, she started dating another guy and it got serious. Things like that happen all the time. At least keep that in mind. Every time you let a women walk past you without talking to her, you're doing the same thing. Every one is a missed experience and opportunity, whether you would have been shot down by her or married her. I've been with my girlfriend a whole year now o.O Living together a lot of that time and no fights or anything.

I wouldn't recommend this Disney way of thinking. She is telling you she is attracted to another guy, how much clearer can she be? It's time to move on. As for no girls wanting a serious relationship at 19, that's far from true. This may sound harsh, but keeping the girl attracted and interested in you is the problem. Blaming them won't fix anything. Be honest with yourself and think about the real reasons why you want something serious. It seems like you want something serious for the sake of it, not because of a particular girl, which imo can only stem from bad reasons. Rather than talk to girls with the intention of having a serious relationship, why not do so because it's fun? If it develops into attraction, sex and then a relationship then it's a bonus.

If you tell him you're enrolled in a license which makes it easy to find work he might consider extending it. Seriously, I got a fork ticket on a friday, applied for 1 job on Saturday and started on the Monday.

Agreement with who? Could you renegotiate? It's not reasonable to expect someone to find work that quickly. Even applications often take longer.

You can just bring them in when you start, they have a photocopier. Why the 2 week deadline?

Everyone thinks they will earn 100k until they get out into the real world

I don't know of any, maybe see if you can do a gov subsidized bartending course. Are you enrolled for the fork ticket? Up to anything exciting today? Everyone is either studying or too far of a drive

Money is important to me, not so I can participate in consumerism but mostly because it removes financial stress. I decided a while back that anything over 80k a year would be a bonus, and found it interesting when I read an article suggesting that happiness comes with money and starts to level out at about that much. I'd rather eat cheaper food and spend less money when I go out so I can do things like get a pilots license, learn another language, snowboard, join a theater group etc. My job makes a bit of money later on and a lot of the guys at work are talking about cars etc but I'd be happy with a 10 year old hilux.

Rpg, it's time for shots.

That would be sick. I'm going to do something similar when I finish my trade and elec engineering study. Apparently ski resorts are screaming out for sparkies. But I also want to get a work visa in england too. So much [cabbage] to do and so little time D:

That would be sick. I'm going to do something similar when I finish my trade and elec engineering study. Apparently ski resorts are screaming out for sparkies. But I also want to get a work visa in england too. So much [cabbage] to do and so little time D:

I think he is just trying to get over her rather then attract her, but in any case letting her come to you is the way to go. Giving her your attention/approval and then taking it away is the bread and butter of attraction. Many girls have brought up specific times to me where I didn't give them the attention they wanted, from not going to their checkout at the shop or not saying hi when she arrives at the group and told me it worked well.

I decided to go to nz next year to hit the slopes in queenstown. Any other suggestions of what to do there Jeff and other nz oters?

If you're in a pub then just go and talk to people. Don't hit on girls, start by disqualifying yourself and have fun. No girl spends an hour getting ready to go out, hoping no guy will talk to her. The more things you get involved in, the more stuff you have to talk about. Universities are gold. Full of stuff you can sign up for, and full of young women that you can talk to while you're there. I also think I prefer meeting women during the day rather than at night, because it's simplified.

Yeah don't lie, but you can word things better, like not saying you were doing nothing because you were reading. Is it a book about something you're passionate about? Show her you're passionate about it. If you don't have anything in your day that is interesting to talk about, then do something that is.

Adrenal, attract the girl first. Then the way you play your cards will determine whether it will be a casual thing or not. There are some tricks to point it in the direction you want earlier but it's not necessary.

I would like an eyepatch photoshopped onto a picture of me (I can't find a real one), with my head turned to the side slightly. It needs to be real looking under scrutiny. In return if you want, I can write a bit on attraction about a topic of your choice. Check out my blog for samples.

At least you recognise that you would feel like you are exploiting a loophole because of your frame. If you feel that way, then it would show and she would feel used if you did that. If you would be upset if she got with someone else, then I assume you want a relationship? If so then you've done well. Rather than have the talk with her, transition into being her boyfriend so it happens naturally. Start seeing her a bit more often, don't have sex every time you see her etc. As for flirting with the other girl, it's also about your frame. If you wouldn't flirt with a girl in front of her then she might not be comfortable with it either.

You call that past the dating stage? You can have sex for months and not get past the dating stage. If you want to pick one of them as a personal choice then go ahead, though we can't help you. if you feel as though you aught to pick one because "that's the rules," then you have some limiting beliefs to get past.

Duff, if you were trying to attract her then telling her that you do nothing during the day wasn't' helpful. As a general rule, be having more fun than she is when you text. Hakaan I feel much closer to my girlfriend than I do with my other friends, and it means I always have someone. The downside being that it's easy to get used to and you miss it when it's gone. Jeff, I don't see a problem. why can't you flirt with more than 1 girl? Why can't you date more than one either? If you frame it properly and be honest then chances are both will be fine with it.

Oh it was like 40 mins from where I live And I found out last night that all the girls at my highschool used to check out my junk through my pants regularly. I was completely oblivious and nobody thought to tell me until 3 years later. Girls are such sexual predators :(

Confidence comes from success which comes from confidence. Until then, change your lifestyle to be one that the type of girls you like will want to be a part of, and fake confidence until you are confident. You can also read my blog with specifics on a couple topics.