MuffinMaddy

It's over thank God

Well, I have never felt like more of a passenger in my own life than right now. There's a series of heated exchanges going on over twitter perpetuated by the girl. Couple of my friends trolling her, a couple making sarcastic tweets up. They're all angry on my behalf and it's not helping anybody. I literally don't have Twitter, I haven't said anything on facebook, I've spoken to select friends in a venting fashion but otherwise I don't think I've directly fed the explosion. I had blocked basically everybody related by that point, but the number keeps on growing and now she thinks people have accused her of being racist it's just a shambles. Friends who have them on facebook say they've seen the facebook official thing go up with all the comments but she's still ranting and raving on twitter. It just needs to blow over. The quieter I stay, the better. I really hate social media drama that involves me, I can't hack it.

I know, right. I can be dramatic but I do think she genuinely has the mental age of a teenager. I can't wait to go back to campus to see all my friends again but for now things have to calm down a bit.

Sorry I should have clarified it's his new girlfriend tweeting indirectly about me telling me to address her directly if I have a problem with her and my ex being together. My next course of action is literally to ignore ignore ignore the situation until it goes away. The situation will go away eventually, hopefully soon but I just need to block it out and remove his name from my vocabulary. I just need to remember she's being defensive. It looks like she's attacking me but she's just trying to defend her reputation but the more defensive things she posts online, the worse things will get as people eventually forget about things on their own and they will clear up. She's the one with the murky reputation, not me. If I engage, I'll mess myself up more. There can only be one loser here and it'll be me if I don't just disengage. It just means I have to block a lot more people than I thought I did but that's fine

Our uni is such Small world as well Boris lol, everyone knows each other and now the girl is tweeting about me lol. I just have to keep a dignified silence for long enough for it to blow over tbh. I would literally have to sort this out in person but I'd really rather not. I blocked him and all his friends but I'll probably need to block her too because my friends keep linking me her pictures of herself and my ex lol. Thankfully that didn't actually hurt me as much as I expected it to. You're completely right that the best way forward is looking after myself and that's definitely the focus now

Man that was rough. I blocked /deleted all of my ex boyfriend's friends except for one that I consider a friend of mine. She messaged me to ask what happened since she only knew that we'd broken up. I pretty much said barely anything in detail I just vaguely said things weren't working. She then attacked me pretty hard and it really upset me, not that she was defending him but I never realised how annoying it is for people to give unwanted opinions on something so raw and is a bit of an emotional hot topic for me so I try to avoid talking about him. We ended up resolving the issue but I literally will never answer any questions about my ex anymore. It's still volatile for me and I've actually had some progress working on myself and making myself happier but in that moment of being attacked it just felt like going back to square one.

I might legit try this tbh

Mate I believe in doing your research and finding out the actual age of someone. There's something about me that makes me not really want to get involved with people younger than me. It's not a maturity thing, it's just me. The oldest person I've ever had a connection with was 24 (if he was telling the truth lol i'm kinda suspicious of whether his name was actually the name he told me tbh lol)

I'm so sorry to hear that Saq :(

On my way to the airport in about 45 minutes. My heart's beating pretty fast, first time ever flying completely on my own (no family, no friends) let's do this!

How do I stop myself being the twisted bitter ex girlfriend? Yes I ended the relationship, yes I don't regret ending it. I'm generally happy although sometimes I feel a sharp pain when I think about some of the shenanigans of the past two years. However I find myself happy that he's being humiliated on social media (because that's the kind of girl he's picked for himself) His new girlfriend is embarrassing him on Twitter, responding to claims about my ex being a "downgrade" from her past boyfriends, and yeah I'll be honest and say I mentally think "Yes. [bleep] him" and that he deserves being humiliated like this. I'm not sure she realises responding to "criticism" on a public forum only opens the door to more criticism or more taunts. She's periodically mocked on Yik Yak and whatever else, but I just want to get moving on with my life to be honest. My ex's sister messaged me last night saying she still loved me, and that the family still think I'm a "wonderful" person and that they're sad we're not together anymore. They want me to come and visit - I'm really unsure if that would be too awkward, but it breaks my heart that I may never see their dog run up to me again. The sister asked if I'll be friends with her brother still. I was hopeful but it's looking incredibly unlikely day by day. We're more or less ignoring each other, I have absolutely no idea how it'll be in person. Either way, I'm far too invested in the humiliation of my ex for my own liking. I'm not really sure how I'll move on if I'm still gloating every time he's humiliated publicly.

I need to pack my suitcase because I leave Canada in two days' time but it hasn't quite registered yet and I don't want to go :mellow: :mellow: :mellow: :mellow: :mellow:

Chicks before dicksHoes before bros.

Don't worry, they'll forgive you. At one point or another we've all been in a relationship that everyone but us knew was a train wreck. ;) Right? Life is much better without a poisonous millstone around your neck. If only dating as an adult wasn't so damn ridiculous. <_< Great, now I need a drink. :lol: Not intending a defense or attack on anyone (just to be clear), I think sometimes people just feel the need to disengage from a situation. That is, we all have problems, and sometimes we just find ourselves in a place where we can't take on other peoples problems in addition to our own, or we find ourselves in a position where people close to us have problems we just can't deal with. I find that the reposes tend to manifest as either anger, or apathy, and I think how the reaction manifests tends to point at someone perceives the heart of the problem to be (apathetic people feel they aren't able to take on the burden, angry people feel like you are creating the burden). I'll use a different example though, where I have more experience. Someone I am very close to has cancer, and has had cancer for many years now (not the whole time, and different kinds). The people they worked with, many of whom this person counted as friends, have by and large not been there for them at all. A lot of them I would say have gone the apathetic route. They'll still be polite and cheery if talked to, but they never reach out. Others have gone the anger route with anger, usually criticizing them for their choice of treatment options (they've done a lot of alternative stuff). At the same time, at least as far as people at work go, it's been those that barely know this person who have been by far the most supportive. And I feel like I've figured out what their friends have basically turned their back, and strangers have opened their arms. There has been a lot of cancer at the office, and it's claimed a fair few lives in recent years, so I think because this person wont follow the standard treatment protocol, their coworkers are frustrated. At the same time, the really helpful and also supportive people they've recently dealt with I think can afford to be that way, because they aren't really assuming a major burden, because they aren't friends, or acquaintances. At the end of the day, they aren't deeply invested in the final outcome. That's the gist of how I see the situation anyway. That said, even though I feel like you need care to get angry, I wouldn't continue to count those who get angry as friends. Anger is as much a way of creating emotional distance as apathy is, and if someone feels like you created the emotional burden they were being asked to carry, there is probably going to be resentment there. At the end of the day, I don't think there is anything you can do about that except try to build more friendships with the kind of people who can just be supportive, because those are the kinds of people you need around you when things aren't right. Also, it seems we have decided to skip summer and fall, and go right back to winter, because it was freaking snowing yesterday, after several days of almost shorts and t-shirt weather. One of the Friends had the right to be mad. My ex was rude about her regarding her sex life and he didn't even know her. I make clear that I never defended my ex for being a douche but dating him was symbolic. They thought I valued penis over friendship

This is gonna sound crazy but I voted without looking at the pictures and automatically picked Stone based off of what I vaguely remembered them looking like. I scroll through your pictures and Rajatkowski is bloody gorgeous so I deleted my vote and reassigned it.

Don't worry, they'll forgive you. At one point or another we've all been in a relationship that everyone but us knew was a train wreck. ;) Right? Life is much better without a poisonous millstone around your neck. If only dating as an adult wasn't so damn ridiculous. <_< Great, now I need a drink. :lol: Personally I don't think I'm suited to a relationship right now. I probably wasn't for the last two years, but I was so embarrassed that I'd told my friends about this amazing guy, or so I thought, and I didn't want to look like a fool for breaking up soon after realising he wasn't good for me at all. He was also pretty good at convincing me to stay as well, for which I can only really blame myself. I think my family will be relieved as well

He's saying it's his new girlfriend "frape" ing him and writing all that stuff. I don't care who it is, it's really infuriating me but I'm trying so hard not to bite. Social media drama is something I laugh at, not participate in. That's the thing, we used to laugh at people like that together. It was a bad relationship but I did think we were really similar in lifestyle, it sucks that it might have all been fake. He used to say how much he hated limelight and overly amorous couples on social media, but everything he does now screams "look how happy I am". I blocked him for the vast majority of April then thought last week that I could bring myself to be at least civil. We always thought we'd be civil in the event of me breaking up with him, but he's making it very challenging. I've given up trying and just "unfollowed" his Facebook posts. I don't even have Twitter or anything like that, it's just my friends who didn't know we were done contacting me and asking what's been up. It's okay I just have to let himself make himself look stupid and not respond I guess.

Whoa, whoa. Drinking by yourself is nothing to be ashamed of. I bartend, and more often than not I would prefer to drink alone without the social aspect that most people feel needs to coincide with drinking. I don't necessarily drink to get drunk, but I drink recreational as a way to unwind. Yeah I drink to get drunk. It's pretty problematic to be honest. I had the realisation that my drinking is a problem a while ago, but I don't think I drink often enough for me to seek help yet. * Actually, that's a lie. I've used telephone alcohol counselling on two occasions (momentary success the first time) but the second time I got really angry and hung up. At this point though I was drinking to numb the pain of some stuff that happened in my last relationship, I went out and met some friends though and overall had a good night out at least. Overall I'm happy I don't have to babysit a man anymore, but having said that I'm gutted I lost the respect of two of my friends for putting up with him for two years lol He's using social media to torment me and I'm keeping silent on it but I want to punch him. It's probably a good thing I'm still in Canada but I fly back on Monday and I don't want to face reality. I'm such a sad excuse for a person sometimes although I forgot being single can be really refreshing when you were in a toxic relationship for so long

Today I got a job as a teacher for the summer in Sicily. Feeling pretty fabulous. Also did amazingly in my Microbiology class. Also drank by myself last night like a saddo

Calling them their usernames lol

June Part of that is feeling like I grew up with some of the people I've been in social circles with, like skilling, clans to skype conversations that have been going since as early as 2009. I think you kind of get to know people beyond their RSNs in that respect, although I have a habit of letting it slip out in conversation at times with certain people that I've only ever known as their username for the longest time. Year abroad finished in a week's time. This time next week I'll be all alone in my flat, everyone moved out until I finally pack up my stuff and stay with a friend till I fly out.

Well I mean I've never met any friends from tif from the UK even though I've lived in the same city as a couple for years but I guess with my Canada trip I have a new sense of adventure These friends I'm meeting have been friends of mine for a minimum of six years actually, so it's not any old person so it's been little to no awkwardness at all. I don't feel like I don't know them which is weird. It did play a part in me choosing this part of the world to study in. But obviously I made my own experience and fully engaged in all social activities I wanted to take part in. Meeting rs people has just been a nice aside.

Chilled by one of the world's natural wonders and met yet another tif member. Number 3 now.

Said goodbye to one of my best friends here yesterday. I'll miss him a lot, he's from a city called Hangzhou in China and I keep forgetting that he can't access Facebook or Gmail from China so I've written down his Chinese assigned email which is a little weird looking but I hope he gets the video I'm going to send him of all our memories. It's a little project I've been working on, partially why I've come back to the Niagara Falls to capture some footage for my video and also because nature is just amazing. So the goodbyes have begun and my German roomie leaves tomorrow afternoon - he wasn't around when I came to say goodbye so that's another person who's just vanished into thin air. One week left from Monday, going to be a very quiet week with my last two exams followed by a Lord of the Rings marathon and laser quest. I think that's it for my plans in the great white north.

Sangria is the one. I also drank a lot of Sangria yesterday, the weather is beautiful. Sat at a bar and had some nachos, was sweet. Came back, played Ring of Fire also known out here as King's Cup. Same rules, I really enjoyed being Question Master for a good chunk of the game. Going home in exactly two weeks. Pretty happy about it, but will probably leave Canada on a high which is good too. Looking for summer work now and slowly studying for my final two exams. This might well be my longest summer in the entirety of my educational history. I won't start my final year of University until October and I normally finish University around early June. At high school this would be July and at the end of high school this would be by the middle of June.