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  1. I avoid cars as much as possible when I'm biking or walking around. I don't trust drivers to be looking out for me when there's a strong chance they're messing around on their phones
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    Laptop for me is more of a bonus for when holidays/vacation comes up and I can be more mobile. I don't think I would use it in class as I have to have an iPad as my program uses CompTracker.CompTracker looks funny. On their site: The whole site is like that; strange usage of emphasis to highlight buzzwords. E.g., CompTracker being 'greener'. I doubt that. Any digital device produces more pollution than all the paper you'd use in a decade. They are built from certain materials that are toxic to the environment (during collection/processing/manufacturing/etc), are of ethically dubious origins (like most products we use, sadly), and/or hard to recycle. Paper is easy to recycle and comes from a practically renewable source. And are their servers hosted in a datacenter that uses clean or renewable energy sources? Do the CDNs they use, if any, do so as well? ...Why did I even bother this analysis of how 'green' CompTracker is? It means they're 420-friendly
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    Definitely a laptop
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    No they don't have an obligation. However, they should anticipate massive drama in the future if they choose to keep it under the rug. I don't know why you wouldn't tell someone something like that ASAP
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    I feel like you missed the point of my example >_> If you assume personal responsibility for everything that bothers you, then you don't really need to worry about convincing other people to change. It's not about trying to convince people to become person A or person C; that's a waste of time and that's what B's and D's spend most of their lives doing. It's about focusing on transforming yourself into person A or person C. It takes a lot of conscious effort to focus on acting and thinking like A/C, since your natural response to unhappiness is usually to blame others for it instead of yourself. But it makes life a lot easier and less stressful in the long run. :)
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    Does that mean you disagree with Champion and Tylerelyt, who seem to be arguing that it isn't fine to use it consensually? You're preaching to the choir here. AFAIK nobody here is defending the word's usage in a malicious context. Personal responsibility is all relative and even a bit paradoxical, since not everyone believes in it. For example: let's say person A and person B are walking down the street and they use a slur between each other in a friendly manner, not trying to hurt each other's (or anyone else's) feelings. Person C and person D are walking nearby, overhear the conversation, and they get upset. Person C strongly believes in personal responsibility. Person C thinks: That word bothers me a lot when I hear it, and now I'm upset. Could I have expected to hear it walking down the street like this? Can I expect to hear it again if I come back here? If not, I guess I shouldn't worry about this since it was sort of an unlikely occurrence. If I can expect to hear this again when I come back here, maybe I should put my headphones in and listen to something pleasant so I don't hear that word and get upset again. Or maybe I should stop coming here. Or I could stop them next time and talk to them. Person D avoids personal responsibility. Person D thinks: That word bothers me a lot when I hear it, and now I'm upset. I can't believe those guys had the audacity to use that word in public. This happened to me because we live in a world where [wagon] like this can get away with saying stuff like that. This isn't fair, I've done nothing wrong to these people and now I'm upset because of their insensitivity. Persons C and D are both upset. But they're both thinking in a completely different way. Person C is focusing on things they can control, so they can prevent this from happening to them again in the future. Person D is focusing on things they can't control, which means they'll feel good about themselves right now since they're absolving themselves from personal responsibility... however they're now much more susceptible to experiencing this same feeling of sadness again in the future since they aren't actually changing their behaviors or anything. In the future, person C is now much less likely to get upset, whereas person D will continue to get upset. In other words, Person C blames himself; person D blames person A and person B. Person C is much less likely to experience this same unhappiness in the future; person D is probably going to keep experiencing this same unhappiness. But what about person A and B? Let's say person A believes in personal responsibility and person B doesn't. And let's say they both notice person C and D getting upset all of a sudden after they said that word, which in turn makes them both feel a bit guilty. Person A thinks, "Those guys are upset because of what I said. I should be mindful of my choice of words if I don't want to feel guilty like this again. Or maybe I should only talk like that in private. Or not talk like that at all. Or maybe most people wouldn't be bothered by what I said; maybe this was such an unlikely occurrence that I can probably keep doing this without feeling guilty." Person B thinks, "Those guys are upset because they're too sensitive. They shouldn't have been eavesdropping if they didn't want to get upset. If they don't want to hear words like that then they should just stay home." Person A's probably going to reform their behavior and is less likely to experience guilt like that again. Person B's going to keep feeling guilty. It's interesting to note that once person A assumes personal responsibility, suddenly he no longer has to worry about person C and D. But for person B, he's dependent upon the behavior of person's C and D. Similarly, this problem has now resolved itself for person C due to his personal responsibility, whereas person D is still going to remain unhappy until person A and B decide to change. Fortunately for him, person A is no longer an issue. And fortunately for person B, person C is no longer an issue. Person A and Person C are now fine. But person B and D will continue arguing and pointing fingers at each other, and their problems will never go away until they make the transition into accepting personal responsibility. Or maybe they'll get lucky and somehow convince everybody except for themselves to be more like persons A and C, so everyone else accepts responsibility for them :P I enjoy the rare heavy argument on here. It's hard to find a place where you can discuss these things calmly with people who have opposing views, who are open to defending their beliefs. Though sometimes I feel like more people on TIF wish this place was more like reddit-- an echo chamber where dissenting views are silenced and pushed out of the discussion, rather than examined and discussed.
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    Why do you think that using the word consensually somehow indicates an inclination towards homophobia? Where's your evidence to support that claim? And are all of my gay friends "homophobic" too? Don't you think your argument is a bit of a slippery slope-- arguing that consensually using the word between two friends will somehow lead to them devolving into actual bigots? Am I prejudiced against the mentally handicapped if I say "retarded" instead of "stupid?" Am I misogynistic if I call my friend a "[kitty]" instead of a coward? Am I a misandrist if I call my friend a "dick" instead of a jerk? If not, where do you draw the line?
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    If person A is jokingly using the word with person B, and they both "consent" to the term, then who, specifically, is that hurting? Especially if person A and person B never use the term maliciously and exclusively use it "consensually?"
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    1. See my response to Kalphite; it's not homophobia. However, to take things a step further, I don't really see why we're splitting hairs here when the end result is the same regardless of their sexual orientation. They still feel bad about themselves either way. With that said, why does one group get sympathy whereas the other doesn't? It's hypocritical. Either tell both groups to grow a pair, or lend your sympathy to both groups since they're both getting their feelings hurt. 3. I have no clue what you're trying to say here, can you rephrase that? 1. Honestly, if you can't understand the difference between feeling persecuted and feeling mislabeled, I don't know what to say. 3. Your friends might let you call them [bleep] because they're afraid to stand up to you. 1. For the sake of this discussion, please clearly define both of those terms. Right now it looks like you're trying to opt out of the discussion and that's not doing anyone any favors :P 3. Considering they throw that word around constantly, I strongly doubt that. I feel like you guys are grasping for straws trying to argue against my "context matters" argument >_>
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    How do you explain all my gay friends who not only throw around that word constantly, but also tease my politically correct straight friends who are afraid to use that word in their presence? Are my gay friends just masochistic and they're somehow making life harder for themselves and they just don't seem to realize it? Or do they simply not give a shit because words don't hurt their feelings? You need to understand that literally all of my gay friends find the word hilarious, and the only people I know who get offended by that word are, ironically, straight :P Similarly, I have a difficult time understanding parts of your claims because they're really vague and they seem to be unfalsifiable. When you say using the word "strengthens systematic discrimination against homosexual men subconsciously," how do you provide evidence/proof for or against a claim like that? Give me data! Give me specifics! :D We'll have to agree to disagree regarding the masculinity discussion, as that's a completely subjective topic
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    But the reason why calling a straight white male a f*g is offensive is because it likens them to a gay man, which is seen as a negative. I disagree. That may be true with some other people, but in my case, I didn't want to be called a f*g simply because I wasn't gay; it was an inaccurate label. More specifically, being called a f*g as a straight dude basically meant you were repulsive to women and couldn't get laid to save your life... which was true back in the day :P It's not like I was thinking, "I'm not one of those people! Don't you dare call me that! I hate those people and don't want to be grouped in as one!" That would be homophobia. If I were gay, I'd be upset for different reasons, as other posters have mentioned. 1. See my response to Kalphite; it's not homophobia. However, to take things a step further, I don't really see why we're splitting hairs here when the end result is the same regardless of their sexual orientation. They still feel bad about themselves either way. With that said, why does one group get sympathy whereas the other doesn't? It's hypocritical. Either tell both groups to grow a pair, or lend your sympathy to both groups since they're both getting their feelings hurt. 3. I have no clue what you're trying to say here, can you rephrase that? Unless I'm misunderstanding you guys' points... Do you both agree that getting murdered is worse than not going to the bathroom where you desire? If so, you're in agreement. Do you both agree that the bathroom bill is an issue worth discussing? If so, you're in agreement. Do you both agree that members of the LGBT are discriminated against in the US? If so, you're in agreement.
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    Now that I'm sober :lol: here's a summation of my thoughts on the matter: 1. You don't have to be gay to get called a f*g and you don't have to be gay to get your feelings hurt getting called a f*g. Myself and plenty of people I know have been called that when we were younger and it wasn't pleasant. Therefore, to tell straight white males "Oh you got called a f*g? Deal with it, ya [kitty]!" and then turning to a gay person and saying "Oh you got called a f*g? That's terrible! We should do something about that!" is sort of hypocritical. 2. There aren't any specific straight white male slurs (e.g. cracker) that I'd get offended over in the US. I don't know of anyone who's been called a white racial slur and taken it seriously. I'm sure it'd be different if I lived somewhere where being white meant I was in the minority though. If I were in another country or if I went to a mostly-black school, then I'd probably get my feelings hurt for being called that. 3. Context matters. If someone calls a person a f*g, with the intention of making them feel bad, that's not cool. However if you're playfully calling your friend a f*g, then there's nothing wrong with that. I think if you get your feelings hurt from hearing the word f*g being playfully used by two people, and it's not being directed at you, then you're being a bit silly. 4. The "mere annoyance" thing is just a miscommunication/misunderstanding of each others points. I think you guys are in agreement but semantics are getting in the way.
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    yer gonna have to do a lil censor evasion for me to be able to answer this oneF*g
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    You've never been called a [bleep] in your life? If you were, it never bothered you?
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    What makes you think that?
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    You're saying that straight white men never get called [bleep], or get their feelings hurt for being called [bleep]?
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    So are only gay people allowed to use that word? In fact yes, for all intents and purposes I can't think of a circumstance where a straight person saying that would be okay.That's a bit extreme. I can't get on board with that argument lol Edit: you edited your post. I still disagree, I think you're making mountains out of molehills here
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    All of the gay guys I know call everyone a [bleep] all the time lol
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    Let's hold hands and sing kum ba yah
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    It's completely normal to feel romantic feelings, albeit rarely. I think you're clinging a bit too heavily to this obscure terminology and it's messing with your sense of identity and human sexuality. Relax, there's nothing wrong with developing feelings for people you feel close to. It's healthy and normal. :)
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    BEWD isn't a Pokemon. My favorite Pokemon is Agumon. Agumon isn't a Pokemon. My favorite Pokemon is Gold Slime
  22. But Zulrah's a really inefficient moneymaker compared to MTK and bonds so I never do it. I can just go to clan wars if I ever need a stat restore.
  23. That'd be silly; it was a player killing everyone, not TzTok-Jad. That's part of what made it such a memorable event. Having an actual player running around killing everyone was way spookier and more exciting than an NPC would've been
  24. You should post more pics of just scarlett since she's way behind
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