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It's mostly for the sake of both of our long term happiness. Like, about a week ago my low-end MLTR told me she wants us to go our separate ways because she's looking for a traditional monogamous relationship (she's a lot older than I am so she's at that point where she's being pressured hard to settle down lol). I'm unwilling to do that because I like being happy, so I just wished her the best and ended things on a positive note :P TBH though the sex w/ her wasn't amazing so it doesn't feel like a major loss for me lol. She was a ton of fun to hang out with otherwise though; she's a really good friend. So if I were to ever keep a girl around as a friend w/o sex, it'd be with a girl like her. But there'd still be sexual tension since she's hot. I'd just know that the sexual tension was "overrated" in a sense :P My brother on the other hand still remains close friends with most of his exes (the ones that didn't turn out to be total psychos haha) and it works out well for him. But my brother is also a lot more emotional and extroverted than I am so occasionally this backfires and gives him drama but he doesn't really seem to mind as much as I would. Plus all of his past relationships eventually ended up monogamously even if they started out as open relationships. But despite those differences, my brother's got a lot of experience under his belt so he's very confident and a lot more "outcome independent" than most people so he can get away with certain things. In other words, knowing your personality type, it'd probably be easier for you to handle things like my brother does but it'll require you to be on top of your game.

@Kalphite just keep asking open-ended questions (questions which aren't yes/no questions) and start holding her hand about 15-20 minutes into the date. Most girls have jewelry on their hands so if the thought of touching a girl scares the shit out of you because you're afraid of coming off as creepy or something, then you can just grab her hand and say "what's that ring?" or something and get her talking about that while you hold on to her hand. Then when you get comfortable doing this, you can start grabbing her hand naturally as if it's no big deal and keep the conversation going. Like I said, the first time I tried grabbing a girl's hand I accidentally knocked her beer over. Smooth. But that date also ended with her saying, "I would love it if we could hang out again soon" and then her blowing up my phone the next day. The second time I did it, my hands were freezing cold from holding on to my girly ice cold starbucks drink and the girl was like "WHAT THE [bleep] YOUR HANDS ARE SO COLD." And then she texted me as soon as the date was over, wanting to hang out again so she came over to my place the following night :P @Low no I don't really have any prepared stories, though I should :P It's really easy for me to make girls laugh so if I have to talk and I can't just respond with a brief answer, I'll say something to make her laugh instead before shifting the conversation back to her

I partially agree... I'd say that people of opposite genders can only be real friends as long as you're sleeping with them (unless both of you are genuinely unattracted to each other permanently for whatever reason) Hmm. Generally, I think it's easier for girls to view guys as just friends whereas guys have trouble viewing a girl as just a friend. Which is where the friendzone comes from. I have a good female friend I met in highschool; we're just friends and we're only ever going to be just friends. A huge part of this, however, is how in highschool she had both of us convinced she was asexual... It doesn't make sense to me that people of opposite genders can only be real friends as long as you're sleeping with them though. My limited understand on this subject has led me to the viewpoint that, well, the human brain is almost incapable of treating sex as just sex. (Especially for both parties to treat it as such.) Sex changes the dynamics of the relationship. @Noxx: Your second explanation of the situation gives a very, very different sounding story then the first. It's mostly a matter of perspectives. When I was younger, sex and love were the same thing. Now that I'm older, I understand that they're two completely different things. But not all of the women I date have made that distinction :P

I partially agree... I'd say that people of opposite genders can only be real friends as long as you're sleeping with them (unless both of you are genuinely unattracted to each other permanently for whatever reason)

all those schools are in engineering :P

You don't need to take any calculus courses in college unless you're in the school of business or engineering.

he should dump her asap because that wouldn't happen if it was polyamory :thumbup: sounds like your friend's just boring her though. women love attention so that other guy she's talking to is just giving her free attention. that guy's probably in her friendzone anyway though so he probably shouldn't feel threatened by him (and he shouldn't be going through her message log either; two wrongs don't make a right). and no I doubt she'll ever love him as much as she did her ex if she doesn't right now. passion rarely increases over the course of the relationship; it just starts out strong and then gradually fizzles out. this is why people allow themselves to remain in shitty relationships; because they have this false hope that eventually it'll somehow get better... and it never does

Awesome great job dude! :D

Yeah I've done a bit of research on it. As long as I'm not in there for more than 5 minutes or so it'll be ok.

I wanted to jump into the pool last winter when it was below freezing outside, but I didn't want to do it alone in case things went south lol. I figure in the mean time, I might as well get in the habit of doing this every morning so by the time it's freezing outside I'll have gradually adjusted to it.

I set my a/c to 65 degrees (F) when I sleep :D makes me sleep better but makes getting out of bed in the mornings more difficult

Woke up at around 5am this morning and jumped into the pool while it was still cold out. Felt amazing. Gonna go try the natural springs pool next time since the water there's usually freezing even if it's scorching hot outside.

When the light turns green but I can't go because someone's in the middle of the crosswalk

That click game was pretty fun till it got too grindy. At that point I Cheat Engined the [bleep] out of it and it became fun again :P Hooray for 500x game speed and infinite soul things :D

I lol'd at that pic. Though I generally feel that way about viewing anybody's RS achievements in general... including my own :D Edit: damn you're offline right now. Was gonna brag to you about hitting level 8 attack on my ironman.

Seeing people on your ignore list get BANNED :twisted:

The flip side is on OSRS you get every minority whining when they don't get their way in the polls. They believe that they're the majority and how the RS apocalypse is drawing near unless the polls are reversed.

Re: raw food discussion http://www.reddit.com/r/explainlikeimfive/comments/2cy503/eli5_why_are_humans_unable_to_consume_raw_meat/

Ultimate ironman mode: some say a waste of time; others say an incredible waste of time.

I mean, off the top of my head I can't really think of any other way to improve drop tables without causing a ton of gold inflation or giving every single monster some kind of unique useful drop. Unless monsters dropped temporary "buffs" or gave more XP instead of giving more valuable items.

Made an ironman account for schmidts and giggles. Got bored after 30 minutes and logged off lol

That's completely normal. You're supposed to feel even less happy as you start making changes to your life or when realize you're doing something wrong. You just have to stick with it long enough for your brain to adapt and make you happier than you originally were.

I'd also recommend reading these two books. I'm sure your local library will let you read them for free. http://www.amazon.com/Maximum-Achievement-Strategies-Skills-Succeed/dp/0684803313 http://www.amazon.com/The-Depression-Cure-Program-without/dp/0738213888

I realize that isn't what you want to hear, but think of it this way: If I'm right, then that means there's a very strong chance that you can permanently cure your depression and achieve more or less anything that you want to achieve out of life. If you're right, then you remain depressed for the rest of your life and never receive a woman's affection. Believe what you want to believe. The choice is yours.

But it's your choice that you're using that as an excuse to avoid learning how to interact with women. But it's your choice that you're still regularly interacting with them. But it's your choice that you're not spending your free time taking free courses online via Coursera, or going to the library to read educational nonfiction books for free. But it's your choice that you're not taking medications for that.