It's all about confidence. It doesn't matter if you're nice or not, it's all about confidence. It just is assumed that being a jerk has a way of perceiving to be confident. Nice guys can be confident as well and have meaningful relationships. I speak from personal experience. I'm a very genuine nice guy and am super confident in myself and my abilities, and plenty of girls are attracted to that they tell me. Not just in personal relationships but also in social, work, and other contexts as well. I am also sarcastic and be a jerk in that sense, but it's all my personality and never truly mean it, that's where I hope people can draw the line, and not be genuinely mean and a jerk to women. I am currently in a happy and loving relationship with a girl right now, not because I was a jerk to her or anything like that, I just made her laugh and had confidence in myself which she told me made myself attractive. My advice, just be confident. It changes your world view for the better, you feel better about yourself, and just have fun in life. Nothing is worth over thinking or over doing. Just live. My other advice, college freshmen think they come to school looking for a ring. Use that to your advantage. That's how I got into the dating realm plus also some of my best friends. :)