Spoiled.

[Shiny]

I'm from a higher middle class family. I like to say I don't get spoiled but I do. I try not to act spoiled. And I intensely dislike people who act spoiled.

 

 

 

Blimming spoiled brats :|

 

 

 

*cough* Paris Hilton *cough*

[urbestfreind]

//response to an earlier statement I made//

 

 

 

Why would I refuse a chore? Because my dad can wash his own damn truck, and I absolutely loathe mowing the lawn. For one, it's 100 degrees outside with 90% humidity. Not fun. There are ants all over, the lawnmower can only move at a very slow pace or it stops working, one has blown up before...I don't trust it. Some chores are, unbelievably, not "women's work" -.-

 

 

 

I'll do things like clean my room, because I like to have things organized and easily accessible, and I will feed my dogs every night because I love them, but there are some chores I will not do unless I have no other option.

 

 

 

I'm glad you can ask for money to go out with friends, it's just that some of us don't have that luxury.

[rushrock]

I'm glad you can ask for money to go out with friends, it's just that some of us don't have that luxury.

 

But I still don't consider myself spoiled. That's all I was getting at.

 

 

 

And it still seems to me that you think of me as a happy-go-lucky teenager who gets to ask for money all the time and gets it. That's not the case.

[deloriagod]

Why would I refuse a chore? Because my dad can wash his own damn truck, and I absolutely loathe mowing the lawn. For one, it's 100 degrees outside with 90% humidity. Not fun. There are ants all over, the lawnmower can only move at a very slow pace or it stops working, one has blown up before...I don't trust it. Some chores are, unbelievably, not "women's work" -.-

 

 

 

I generally don't mow the lawn until I get those conditions.. Then I can throw off my shirt, sweat off a little weight, get a nice tan, and maybe even hop in the pool to cool off when I'm done. If I wait for it to be 75 degrees, low humidity and a good cloud cover I don't feel like I really did much besides end up smelling like gas..

 

 

 

On topic: I'm spoiled but I try not to act like it. I drive a 2008 Mitsubishi Eclipse and don't have to pay for gas or insurance. My parents give me money when I go out with friends but we're filing bankrupcy so I try to stay home, drive as little as possible, and I'm not going to [bleep] and moan when I lose my car (gotta get my stuff outta there before the repo guys come for it :| ). I haven't always been this spoiled though. Last spring I had a job to pay for gas/insurance on my '00 Firebird (which I wrecked around the end of June last year). I saved up a decent amount of money so when I quit just after the start of summer I could keep paying for gas/insurance. I worked a couple of other jobs during that summer to in order to keep paying for other little things.

[urbestfreind]

I'm glad you can ask for money to go out with friends, it's just that some of us don't have that luxury.

 

But I still don't consider myself spoiled. That's all I was getting at.

 

 

 

And it still seems to me that you think of me as a happy-go-lucky teenager who gets to ask for money all the time and gets it. That's not the case.

 

 

 

Not true. If you were, it would have been easier to tell, and you probably would have said so. I don't know how to explain it, and at the risk of making more of an [wagon] of myself, I wont try.

 

 

 

deloriagod:

 

I could throw off my shirt, but I'm relatively sure it's indecent exposure. And it's never 75 degrees here. In the summer its 102, in the winter its 33 or 85, depending on the cold front...lol.

 

 

 

And we aren't far from the whole bankruptcy situation either, but it's not too far off if things keep going the way they are. Sucks, doesn't it?

[limpbizkit]

Yes I am .. and at times act it ..

 

Wish I didn't tho ... Causes some big arguments. :(

[Denismage]

I believe I'm not spoiled, tell me if I'm wrong.

 

 

 

I don't have a cellphone, don't ask for money to go out with friends, don't have xbox or ps3, my computer is 6 years old, the thing is that my family isn't close to being poor. They just don't like to spend money on me or my brother. My dad can blow thousands of dollars on his hobby yet he refuses to buy me anything and what is worse is that he is a hypocrite. Oh well, only 1 year until I live by myself, only 1 year.

[rushrock]

I don't know how to explain it, and at the risk of making more of an [wagon] of myself, I wont try.

 

Well, since you word it like that, to be honest, I hope I didn't sound like an [wagon]. :P

 

 

 

I'll admit that I have it fairly well off. I'm kind of like Denismage, I guess, maybe not to that extreme. I don't know exactly what being spoiled is, exactly, the exact definition, maybe I am a little, maybe not, I don't know. But to be honest, I wouldn't like to consider myself spoiled, partly because I hate being labeled as that, and partly because my parents don't spoil me.

[rushrock]

Okay, to be honest, I looked through my posts and I realized that I was being a bit defensive and I was the one who was acting like an [wagon]. To be honest, I probably am a little spoiled. My parents give me money when I go out with friends, I get a weekly allowance, I get Christmas and Birthday, and that's it. That might be getting spoiled. I was probably trying to protect my image a bit here.

[knives669]

I think I'm the same as speed. :P I'm certainly spoiled. I'm not going to lie. :P But, I like to think that I don't act it.

[IGoddessI]

I believe I'm not spoiled, tell me if I'm wrong.

 

 

 

I don't have a cellphone, don't ask for money to go out with friends, don't have xbox or ps3, my computer is 6 years old, the thing is that my family isn't close to being poor. They just don't like to spend money on me or my brother. My dad can blow thousands of dollars on his hobby yet he refuses to buy me anything and what is worse is that he is a hypocrite. Oh well, only 1 year until I live by myself, only 1 year.

 

 

 

A similar situation to Brent. I won't be discussing just how well off his parents are but let's just say "nice". It's a very hard predicament to judge... I'm a bit of a fence sitter but only because it's hard for me not to be empathic. I have this habit of putting myself in other peoples shoes, pressing play and stop. On one side, it's their money, it belongs to them, not him they can spend it on whatever they like because technically they don't owe a cent to you, they earnt it. When they pass over someday you will have all this money and won't know how to manage it unless you've been taught some hard lessons in life.

 

 

 

On the other side if I had as much money as they did, I would be paying off my child's university bills, buy them their first family car but not their first car (they have to learn to save money and it doesn't grow on trees), I would buy their first house as a wedding present to make sure my sons wife isn't a gold digger and loves him for who he is. The rest they can manage themselves.

 

 

 

Personally, I don't really like the people they are. A few years ago they banned me from the house, they wouldn't speak to me, they wouldn't get to know me, they instantly came to the decision that I was using Brent and was a bad influence on his life. They don't have friends because they're paranoid about people taking advantage of them and they don't even visit their family. Money has taken over their life.

 

 

 

Out of nowhere, 4 months in to my pregnancy after treating me like a bag of dirt, they want to know all about me, they laugh and smile with me, want to help us buy things for their grand child, want us to go on holidays with them, his mum took me out on my birthday and bought me nearly a thousand dollars worth of clothes.

 

 

 

I'm very confused at the moment... I know they're either getting along with me because they have to or have decided to get to know me and like me now. They're just trying to be nice but putting me in a shop and asking me to go crazy makes me feel uncomfortable coming from a family who can't afford to take me shopping.

 

 

 

I don't want their money or for them to buy my love. I just want them to be decent people who talk to me and make me feel welcome and comfortable in their house.

 

 

 

Once upon a time they would threaten my defacto that if he stayed with me or came to visit me, his name would be taken out of the will. It angered me sooooo much and now they decide to be nice to us.

 

 

 

Sometimes I wonder if they're trying to bribe me because they fear I'm taking their son away from them.

[sohkmj1]

If there is something i ever want, i just wait until my parents talk about it.

 

I hardly ever ask them for stuff that i don't really need until i do.

[Tim]

dunno. we have a good house for our family but inside it we struggle to upgrade: old fridge, old washing machine, old dryer, very old computer. its only recently that i've had to work my arse off to get what i need. ie, new computer for myself, my work and my activities, my car they purchased but i gotta pay them back over time. personally i want to move out as not only this but the rules they set for me compaired to my younger sister are stupid. but its too darn expensive to live now. GF Australia, Epic Fail for Rudd.

[IGoddessI]

Naturally though you could argue that of course rules are going to be different for your sister than they were for you. It may seem unfair at the time but it usually always works out that way for many families. Why? times change and if you're the first born they make the most mistakes on you. The first time I took a day off school, I was grounded for 3 months!! no computer games, no social life, no phone calls and it was circled on the calendar!! Do I think that is unfair? YES! Especially when my youngest brother took his first day off school and was laughed at for making a stupid excuse and told to at least come up with something convincing next time. That's the way life goes, the younger seems to get away with murder but logically, they had to make all their mistakes with you first.

 

 

 

It worked the other way around as well, I was allowed out whenever I wanted because my dad thought I was very mature for my age and trusted me. My brothers on the other hand, dad was very restricted on their venturing because they weren't as mature. Did they think it was unfair? YES!! but things even out and you don't even realize it.

 

 

 

Not only that it may seem that your sister gets special treatment. Taking 3 steps back here you could also argue that 2 different kids, with 2 different personalities need to be treated differently and can't be treated the same. It's a little like work, you can treat no 2 people the same. I once had a girl with severe autism who I had to treat differently to a girl who constantly needed praise to improve, a girl who needed her [wagon] kicked to do some work and another who I didn't bother giving instructions to because she worked her guts out and did it without asking anyway. Was I accused of treating people better than others? Yes but I was being as fair as possible because I knew what made which person work harder and improve.

 

 

 

It may not be as bad as you think, it took me around the age of 18 to figure out they weren't such bad parents after all and were being as fair as they could be.

[Jernlov]

Do I have good parents? Yes.

 

Do I consider myself spoiled? Maybe.

 

 

 

I'm basically going to reiterate what's been said - even if you are spoiled, it doesn't instantaneously mean you act like a stuck-up brat. In most cases, that never happens.

 

 

 

I know all too well that the 'spoiled little girl' stereotype does exist, for my kid sister is somewhat like that.. but not all the time. My Mum does indeed spoil the hell out of her, more so than my younger brother. She's basically making up for what their Dad shold be doing for them as well, as he's a tight bastard with no concept of sharing or helping out others.

 

 

 

Parents should treat their kids to things to an extent, but too much is ultimately bad for the child.

[blushenka]

Spoiled is definitely something I'm not, and I've never acted spoiled either. (yes, I realize being spoiled and acting spoiled are different things and even unrelated). Seeing someone act out like a spoiled brat usually earns an eye-roll from me and a look of amused pity.