Spoiled.

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Is there a difference between being spoiled and acting spoiled?

 

Do you think someone can be spoiled but not act spoiled?

 

 

 

I consider myself to be spoiled. Compared to the average 14 yr old, I have a lot more stuff than I need. My family isn't wealthy, I'd say were lower-middle class, but I've always been spoiled by my mom and dad. Eventhough I'm spoiled, I don't think I act spoiled. I always try to make use of everything I have, so as not to appear ungrateful. So yes, I do think you can be spoiled, but not act spoiled. Thats not to say that there arn't kids who are spoiled and act it. I just don't consider myself one of them.

[Cup Lion]

Being spoiled and acting spoiled are completely different. If you wanted to be literal, someone who is acting spoiled doesn't have to be spoiled. I would say that being spoiled is different from reacting in an immature matter towards being spoiled.

 

 

 

My family, as is yours, is lower-middle class. Though, I am spoiled in a sense, since I have a place to live, I am able to go to a great school, participate in lots of sports programs. I have loving parents who support me and guide me to making correct decisions. Yet, I do not act in an immature way towards this. I make sure to thank them for everything, to do my best in all the sports I participate in and work hard and make use of what I have. I don't go around screaming at them because they won't do something for me or they won't give me something. I don't pout when they ask me to do chores.

 

 

 

You get it, I think. The two are greatly different.

[ThurinEthir]

Both of you sound pretty similar to me, at least when it comes to this. My family isn't extremely wealthy either, especially compared to some of the people that live in my city. However, I've gotten plenty of things I haven't really needed...Only because I wanted them. My parents rarely say "no", so either they spoil me or I'm good at asking for things. I'd go with the first one.

 

And I normally try to work off something I get, other than presents for Christmas/my birthday. For example, I did an extra amount of chores after I got my Wii.

 

But yeah, there are people who act spoiled at my school, and I'm pretty sure they are spoiled. I don't think I act anything like them...They're the popular ones who wear "nice" clothes, have a bunch of unnecessary things, and basically act like jerks. I'm the somewhat unpopular geek who sits in the corner, with my T-shirt and calculator. 8-)

 

 

 

Edit: I forgot to note, we all act spoiled sometimes. It's natural that when we get something, we want to show it off...

[warren211]

My brother and I are complete opposites. we're both really spoiled. whenever we even hint unintentionally at something we want, our parents end up getting it (i.e. the iPod I barely use, the gamecube games I never play, the new camera left in my drawer. I tell my parents I don't need these but they insist.) My brother accepts everything he gets then wants more. When we got our gamecube he started browsing for tons of games and attachments. half of them we don't need. Meanwhile there's me, the guy who really wants to not waste money. I begged my parents NOT to give me anything for Christmas last year because I didn't want anything and I knew our relatives would get us stuff anyways. well my parents insisted and I ended up getting over 100$ in things I never asked for. My brother kept asking if there was anything else because he didn't like his gifts. I'm 14 and he's 10 so maybe its just a phase.

[The Observer]

My sister acts spoiled. She doesn't do anything and orders everyone else to do it for her. Including her friends. :?

[Errdoth]

My brother and I are complete opposites. we're both really spoiled. whenever we even hint unintentionally at something we want, our parents end up getting it (i.e. the iPod I barely use, the gamecube games I never play, the new camera left in my drawer. I tell my parents I don't need these but they insist.) My brother accepts everything he gets then wants more. When we got our gamecube he started browsing for tons of games and attachments. half of them we don't need. Meanwhile there's me, the guy who really wants to not waste money. I begged my parents NOT to give me anything for Christmas last year because I didn't want anything and I knew our relatives would get us stuff anyways. well my parents insisted and I ended up getting over 100$ in things I never asked for. My brother kept asking if there was anything else because he didn't like his gifts. I'm 14 and he's 10 so maybe its just a phase.

 

Replace the game cube with an xbox and that's my life. [cabbage] dude, even the ages are the same :shock:

[Zierro]

When I compare myself to other children around the world, it makes me realize how spoiled I really am. Sometimes there are children who work, go to school longer than us, spend plenty of time farming/searching for food, walking everywhere (no cars), etc. Those types of kids don't have the leisure time where they can spend a few hours on TIF, a few hours on Runescape, and then still go hang out. I consider myself lucky that I'm not.

 

 

 

On the other hand, when I look at most of the kids who go to my school, there are kids who literally get everything they want because of their rich parents. These kids usually aren't disciplined enough and they got handed everything throughout their childhood. They didn't learn responsibility which will make it harder for those spoiled kids to take care of themselves when their parents are gone. I consider myself lucky that I'm not them either.

[speedofsound]

My brother and I are complete opposites. we're both really spoiled. whenever we even hint unintentionally at something we want, our parents end up getting it (i.e. the iPod I barely use, the gamecube games I never play, the new camera left in my drawer. I tell my parents I don't need these but they insist.) My brother accepts everything he gets then wants more. When we got our gamecube he started browsing for tons of games and attachments. half of them we don't need. Meanwhile there's me, the guy who really wants to not waste money. I begged my parents NOT to give me anything for Christmas last year because I didn't want anything and I knew our relatives would get us stuff anyways. well my parents insisted and I ended up getting over 100$ in things I never asked for. My brother kept asking if there was anything else because he didn't like his gifts. I'm 14 and he's 10 so maybe its just a phase.

 

My parents are the same way with me. I get a lot of things I want eventhough I hardly ever ask for them. I don't get many items outside of my birthday or christmas, but when they come around, boy do I get a lot. I wish it wasn't this way, my family can't really afford it, and I like things simple. I'm not saying I don't enjoy my stuff but I can really live without it.

[urbestfreind]

Glad you people have it so easy. I have to either pay for what I want, wait for xmas/my birthday (which are within 1 month of each other), or beg continuously. Maybe it's because we have such a limited budget, but like my grandparents will buy things for me because they have a lot of money, but I either have to work it off or do something that makes it worth the money (like when I bowled my highest game [256], they bought me my new bag for breaking 250).

 

 

 

There is a definate difference between being spoiled and acting spoiled. One of my best friends is extremely spoiled. His mom is a head nurse, his dad is a pilot for his own business, so they make a considerable amount of money (what they're doing in this [cabbage] town, I'll never know). He can get almost anything he wants, but he doesn't try. He has a ps2, doesn't want a ps3 and really doesn't care about new games. He's fine with a slower internet connection, fine with a mediocre computer. He only gets really what he needs, although occasionally he'll ask for something a bit expensive, like a new higher-end fishing rod or bike parts (he does tricks and racing so he spends a lot on biking), or his new phone which was like $200.

 

 

 

Then there's this one girl at my school who I absolutely hate. She is spoiled and gets almost everything she wants, from her parents or "friends" and she always wants something else. She's rude and attempts to be controlling, typical "plastic." Never happy with what she had..After 2 years eventually you get tired of it, but I won't say what I did to her, or helped do.

 

 

 

So, there is a rather large difference. It just depends on how people act and how they let having things affect them. I really couldn't care less if what I was wearing came from the most expensive rack in the mall or the cheapest shelf in wal-mart. As long as it looks decent then I'm happy, but some people will never understand that POV.

[ididnotlol]

I'd say im not spoilt, though i could be biased.

 

 

 

It would be more accurate to say that my brother is more spoilt than me, in the sence that he is allowed to get away with everything ( including putting a butcher knife to my throat... ) , and i get the blame for everything, including what others clearly do.

 

 

 

So i'd say im not spoilt but my brother is.

 

 

 

And my parents wonder why i act so bad and be a loner...

 

 

 

You can't treat someone like the devil and expect them to act like jesus, and you cant treat someone like jesus and them to not want more.

 

Humanity is a wierd thing...

[Lenin64]

My situation is most like urbestfriend's, if I want something I have to pay for it myself or wait until a holiday. Even then sometimes i can't, this is especially true for video games.

[Faux]

Kids with no siblings tend to be spoiled. I'm not. I'm the eldest of three so yeah. The only time I was spoiled was by my grandma and that's because I'm the first grandson :thumbsup:

[speedofsound]

I help my parents out whenever I can just to "work off" all the things I have aquired over the years. I might have it easy, that's how I was raised, I don't have much of a say on that. This doesn't mean I cannot deal with hardship, and that definitely does not mean I don't appreciate what I have.

[Stilev]

at 18, you cant act spoiled unless your like paris hilton rich, the only thing im asking for right now is a mustang, and im trying to work a deal were my parents will help me buy it, not asking for it. if i want something i gotta buy it #-o really after i turned 10, if it wasn't x-mas or my birthday i bought it with the expections of a couple things. my computer i got becasue we got a new main computer so i got the old one, and my TV. beyond that though, bought my ipod, photoshop cs2, golf clubs, etc

 

 

 

being spoiled means your not greatful of the things you have, not having alot of things you dont need

[urbestfreind]

at 18, you cant act spoiled unless your like paris hilton rich, the only thing im asking for right now is a mustang, and im trying to work a deal were my parents will help me buy it, not asking for it. if i want something i gotta buy it #-o really after i turned 10, if it wasn't x-mas or my birthday i bought it with the expections of a couple things. my computer i got becasue we got a new main computer so i got the old one, and my TV. beyond that though, bought my ipod, photoshop cs2, golf clubs, etc

 

 

 

being spoiled means your not greatful of the things you have, not having alot of things you dont need

 

 

 

Isn't the amount of things you have, but don't need proportional to how grateful you are for what you have?

 

 

 

And your situation is almost exactly like mine lol, age, and almost all of the things too (I didn't buy photoshop though, and the tv was a hand-me-down).

[Nadril]

Kids with no siblings tend to be spoiled. I'm not. I'm the eldest of three so yeah. The only time I was spoiled was by my grandma and that's because I'm the first grandson :thumbsup:

 

 

 

I'm the eldest of three as well here. For a good while I wanna say I was spoiled, to an extent. Of course not near to the level some kids are these days, like when I wanted a new game console we usually ended up getting them near the end of their lifetime when they were cheaper.

 

 

 

However I certainly did get what I want within reason. Christmas / Birthdays / ect. were all good excuses to spoil all three of us. :thumbup:

 

 

 

 

 

I very much doubt I act spoiled though. I've had a lot of chances to get new things (new shoes, new phone) and I usually just turn the offer down until I need it. Plus now that I'm in college I, obviously, pay for what I need.

 

 

 

However I'm still incredibly spoiled in the fact that my parents are paying for a good chunk of my tuition. I still have to pay some of it (and work during the summer to help pay it) but I won't have to end up taking out a huge loan, which I'm incredibly grateful for.

[rushrock]

Besides Christmas and Birthdays, if I want something, I buy it myself through my own money. I get about $10 allowance a week, and I work for my dad for money. And of course, my parents pay for housing, food, the occasional night out with the family, when I go out with my friends (movies for example), etc. so I'm not spoiled but I can't complain.

[urbestfreind]

Nadril: You want to talk about getting game systems at the end of their life? The only systems I had was a Sega Genesis (still have it), a Nintendo64 (best game system ever), and a PlayStation One...And the PS1 broke like 5 years ago lol, haven't had a new game system since...I didn't get them at the end of their life, I got them at discontinuation

 

 

 

Besides Christmas and Birthdays, if I want something, I buy it myself through my own money. I get about $10 allowance a week, and I work for my dad for money. And of course, my parents pay for housing, food, the occasional night out with the family, when I go out with my friends (movies for example), etc. so I'm not spoiled but I can't complain.

 

 

 

I've never actually gotten an allowance or been paid to do housework. I either did the chores or I was banned from internet/tv/friends...I've had my whole pc removed from my room because I refused to mow the lawn.

 

 

 

And your parents give you an allowance and pay for you to go out with your friends, but you don't consider yourself at least a bit spoiled? If I want to go to the movies, I open limewire, because it's like $10 to just buy the damn ticket, let alone food and other stuff, and none of my friends work there anymore either...

[IGoddessI]

I was and am the result of being a spoiled brat. However, what I've been through in my life has been able to adjust my view point.

 

 

 

I was raised by a father who was on the streets at teenage years for reasons beyond his control so naturally when he owned a beach house in his 30's and had a family, great work ethic and what not, I got spoiled. He never got to experience a Christmas, an easter, a family who tucked him in to bed, or said I love you. My Christmas's were always huge, with all the latest gear, bikes, consoles, everything I ever wanted really. My easter was filled with the entire house and backyard being covered in chocolate eggs, I was always told he loved me, read me bedtime stories, kissed and hugged goodnight. At the age of 6 my bedroom was a granny flat, I had my own shower, bath, study, kitchen, fridge, tv, had barbie convertibles and doll houses in every corner. I quite happily admit, I was the biggest spoiled brat in town. If I wanted a new dress, I got it, if I wanted the latest toy, I got it, if I wanted special pancakes for breakfast, I got it. I was daddies little princess.

 

 

 

It wasn't until we found out that my brother was greatly but not entirely deaf that all those things stopped. We just thought he was a bad/ignorant kid until he was around the age of 5. We sold everything we had to pay for my brothers operation. Bye bye beach house, bye bye granny flat, bye bye nice dresses, barbie convertibles, doll houses, everything and we were broke to the point that my dad nearly had to declare bankruptcy to get my brothers hearing back/ special tutors and everything.

 

 

 

I then learned that one day you can everything, the next day you could have nothing! So naturally being the spoilt brat I was, didn't understand why things had to be different. When dad said no, I would throw tantrums, I told him I hated him and all sorts of bad stuff. Over time I learned I had to work for my money. I would rake all the mangoes, leaves, clean the bathroom, do the washing and made a crap load of pocket money.

 

 

 

I won't explain things that happened during that period of time with my mum but things got really bad and I moved to Adelaide on my own. I was 16 years old, worked 2 full time jobs, had to learn how to apply for a house, lived in an old run down unit, taught myself to cook, went to the corner store at night time to buy marked down bread most weeks to live. I was broke, cold, lonely and finally learnt how good I actually had it and snapped out of brat syndrome.

 

 

 

I came home, went to university, never held a job title ranked below management of some sort, now own my own business at 22 and probably will never have to work again by the age of 30.

 

 

 

I learned that it's not until you have nothing, that you can handle everything.

 

 

 

~ End brat story lol

[warri0r45]

Is there a difference between being spoiled and acting spoiled?

 

Do you think someone can be spoiled but not act spoiled?

 

 

 

I consider myself to be spoiled. Compared to the average 14 yr old, I have a lot more stuff than I need. My family isn't wealthy, I'd say were lower-middle class, but I've always been spoiled by my mom and dad. Eventhough I'm spoiled, I don't think I act spoiled. I always try to make use of everything I have, so as not to appear ungrateful. So yes, I do think you can be spoiled, but not act spoiled. Thats not to say that there arn't kids who are spoiled and act it. I just don't consider myself one of them.

 

 

 

Yeah, there is an obvious difference. Being spoiled is a condition you are either in or not. Acting spoiled is an attitude. By any measure, I'm a spoiled person (similar to Nadril parents are paying for education), but I'm not the kind of person to act spoiled at all.

 

 

 

The way I see it, acting spoiled is necessarily preceded by being spoiled (poor people dont act spoiled) but acting spoiled doesn't invariably follow from being spoiled (privileged people arent always brats).

[rushrock]

I've never actually gotten an allowance or been paid to do housework. I either did the chores or I was banned from internet/tv/friends...I've had my whole pc removed from my room because I refused to mow the lawn.

 

 

 

And your parents give you an allowance and pay for you to go out with your friends, but you don't consider yourself at least a bit spoiled? If I want to go to the movies, I open limewire, because it's like $10 to just buy the damn ticket, let alone food and other stuff, and none of my friends work there anymore either...

 

No, housework/chores are different. I'm told to do those daily, in fact, I'd say by far I do the most out of all my siblings. I meant I get paid to do extra things, usually taking up my entire day, by my dad. Various yard work assignments. And why would you refuse a chore? I don't really see a point in that.

 

 

 

No, I don't consider myself spoiled. I go out with my friends, and I'll occasionally need to ask for some money, and my parents don't mind giving me some sometimes. You know, for meals. I get a meal by myself, one less to cook for, and they don't mind giving me money for a ticket once in a while too. That's not to say I rely solely upon them. It's usually me that's spending my own money.

[Albel]

Im not in the least bit. My family is in the middle class, but we do ok. I was spoiled till i was like 6?

 

Thats when i got diabites and i figured out that life is not always fun. Ever scence then i have been very modest. Only time i do ask for stuff is my birthday and christmas, and even then its not a lot. The only thing i want from my parents is help for college(coming up next year) and help with my diabites, (stuff i need cost a lot of money), and guidence through my life.

 

-Haseo

[Randox]

I am spoiled just in the fact I get to drive my parents cars without paying for gas or insurance. And there nice cars too (acura, infinity, a 15 year old AMG Mercedies) <-not all at once. Only 2 at a time. Aside from that I don't pay for food, or the power, or any bills. Life's good. I definatly won't enjoy this standard of living once I move away from home, and I will miss it, and I shall work hard to make enough money so that I can enjoy this standard of living, and my children can enjoy this standard of living. And by doing so I will be repaying my parents in a way, by doing what they did, and with any luck my children will be able to afford this standard of living for their kids (if not better).

[redhaloguy]

I don't seem spoiled. I have to save up forever for something I want. My xbox 360 took forever to get.

 

 

 

I do random chores and don't get paid but I do get random money for movies, And stuff I might need. Food, Clothes etc.

[jjrox32]

I'm sort of borderline. Both me and my siblings are extremely spoiled in some ways, but not in others. For example, my entire tuition is paid for by my parents (high school), along with all sporting equipment. They just get us these things.

 

 

 

On the other hand, if it's not sports equipment or school related, I pay for it out of my own pocket. Xbox 360's, Wii's, a computer, games, headphones, etc. all come out of my own savings.