Drazhor Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 Okay, i talked with a few of my friends and one who is her best mate said she NEVER smoked at all and surprised she is doing it now. And they all honestly think its just to impress some guy she likes....wierd way to impress somebody, ain't it ;) Might actually turn it into a retorical thread now that it's getting sorted out :lol: Visit my blog! Click the madness for more madness! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoMoreDead Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 Okay, i talked with a few of my friends and one who is her best mate said she NEVER smoked at all and surprised she is doing it now. Okay, today, whle out with my friends, I found out that my Ex girlfriend has started smoking; this is because she done it right infront of me. I'm not quite following. Is she smoking regularly, only in front of the guy, only in front of you, or not at all? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drazhor Posted January 4, 2009 Author Share Posted January 4, 2009 She started smoking recently, and said she had been doing it since before i met her, but secretly done it while we wer going out and then started again after we broke up. But when i talked to one of her best friends, she said that she NEVER ever smoked before now, so she was lying bout that :lol: Its that she is now smoking, today would be the first day I've seen her smoking infront of me cause i haven't been with her a lot for a few weeks as she's been off with the guy she's trying to impress Visit my blog! Click the madness for more madness! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evil_mumm_ra Posted January 4, 2009 Share Posted January 4, 2009 i only spend about $400 on cigarettes a year. $5 a pack here in wisconsin, about a pack and a half a week, sometimes 2 packs a week. so maybe a bit more than $400 depending on how much i actually smoke. just have her not smoke by you. i don't smoke by people that i know don't like me smoking, it's common courtesy. [hide=WOO TEXT! updated Jan 19, 2009 (last quote)] And Evil you mad bastard. You are definately bringing TET back up to it's glory. No doubt about it. Keep it going champ.24,485th to 99 defence on 7-23-08I always forget you're 20 too. I always think you're 25 or something. o.oYa think that I'm insane, Its not sane... its not saneobligitory devart link: http://evil-mumm-ra.deviantart.com/Pogonophobia is the fear of beards.She isn't naked so it's legal.I'm a porn star.[/hide] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RichieMcD Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Okay, i talked with a few of my friends and one who is her best mate said she NEVER smoked at all and surprised she is doing it now. And they all honestly think its just to impress some guy she likes....wierd way to impress somebody, ain't it ;) Might think it's weird, but IMO (being a smoker) it's much easier being with a girl who is a smoker, no going outside on your own for a smoke, not slying around to have a smoke. It's much easier to have someone to smoke with than having to do it on your own, most likely to their own disapproval of it. Also, not in a stereotypical fashion, but most of my friends who are girls who smoke tend to be "easier", seems to be they're just slightly more up for stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giordano Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 If it's because you fear for her personal health since you care about her that much, then tell her that. If she doesn't care and won't take your feelings into account, then she's giving you a very good reason not to care about her. Zierro has hit Common Sense!!! DING DING DING! Please select your prize... "The cry of the poor is not always just, but if you never hear it you'll never know what justice is." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deloriagod Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Might actually turn it into a retorical thread now that it's getting sorted out :lol: Getting sorted out? It was honestly a problem? I think someone needs to grow up and realize you can't control everyones' lives. Internet Marketing For Newbies Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happysniff Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Might actually turn it into a retorical thread now that it's getting sorted out :lol: Getting sorted out? It was honestly a problem? I think someone needs to grow up and realize you can't control everyones' lives. Calm the farm maet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tim Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 not much ye' can do. except tell her not to smoke around you (in which if a mate does to me I take it and stamp on it). best to let her corrode her own body, she wont go very far in life if she's starting at 15 thats for sure. (plans funeral) Popoto.~<3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 It's her choice what to do with her life. You have no right to make any decisions for her. Not only that, she's not even your GIRLFRIEND, she is your EX GIRLFRIEND. You do however have the right to tell her what you think and walk away if it's too much for you to handle. Smoking is YOUR problem not her problem. She's fine with smoking and you're not. Therefore the problem belongs to you, so own it, don't pass it. If you can't deal with it then don't be around her. The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 *jumps on thread band wagon* Firstly this eems like it would be more appropriate in the relationship thread, but anyway. Bottom line is you can't control what she does, it's her choice in the end. Since she's your ex, the only influence you have over her is adverse to what you want. If I were you, I'd tell her it bugged the hell outta ya. But in all honesty it wouldn't help anything. Maybe she's trying to help you get over her. :shrug:. Either way, you might as well just ignore it all. Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AdamMonkey0 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Probably you should talk to her about it. Let here choose what she would like to do. Most likely, she'll say no. Then maybe it would be a good idea to tell her that you respect her discission and that you give up on her (on helping her with smoking wise). Also, the nicotine might make it hard. The sad thing with the addictive quality is that its hard to quit, so I'm not sure if that should or shouldn't play a role :? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drazhor Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 Okay, this threads gettting to be a bit...wierd... So lock this please haha Visit my blog! Click the madness for more madness! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agunimon979 Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 not much ye' can do. except tell her not to smoke around you (in which if a mate does to me I take it and stamp on it). best to let her corrode her own body, she wont go very far in life if she's starting at 15 thats for sure. (plans funeral) :wall: That's all I can say... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deloriagod Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Okay, this threads gettting to be a bit...wierd... So lock this please haha It's getting weird? No, you're just not getting the responses you wanted. You were hoping we'd have some awesome way to throw bogus facts at some teenage girl to stop her from smoking. And you got the exact opposite. Internet Marketing For Newbies Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shazarabbit Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 It's all to do with peer pressure. You have no say over what she is doing to herself, all you can do is be there for her and try to encourage her to take better care of her body and stop smoking. Proud Tip.It Moderator December 07 - October 2009Proud TETAU Member 2006 - 2007 <3"I had a standing agreement with god. I'd agree to believe in him, barely, so long as he let me sleep in on Sundays." - Rose Hathaway[ Posting & You ] [ Forum Rules ] [ Next Tetau Event ] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deloriagod Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 It's all to do with peer pressure. You have no say over what she is doing to herself, all you can do is be there for her and try to encourage her to take better care of her body and stop smoking. Peer pressure really doesn't work unless someone is very insecure about themselves that they feel they need to change to gain social acceptance. I had a friend who constantly told me to quit smoking and threw out all those "facts" about the negatives of smoking. All it ever did was annoy me, but I kept smoking. The only reason I really quit was because my gf doesn't like it. If this guys ex quits because she feels she needs to be accepted by her then she's got a long lifetime of being manipulated ahead of her. Internet Marketing For Newbies Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginger_Warrior Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Above all else, if this girl wants to move away from this guy and their past together, and her smoking is clearly upsetting him, it might just reinforce the idea that smoking is giving her the kind of reaction she wants from him. Therefore, him waving his arms around shouting, "Thou shalt not smoke, sinner!" isn't going to get her to stop, and just places him in more difficulty because it removes cards from the table later. Even if you take away the whole, "It's her body, she can do what she wants with it" aspect, it's definitely a bad move to pursue this, given his unfortunate position with her. | Favourite Game Music | Last.fm | HYT Friend Chat Rules | Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purfishx Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I saw the "Ex" and was like... why the [bleep] do you care...? Anyways, as said before, it's her life, her body so she can do anything she wants with it even it pisses you off. Sigs by: Soa | Gold_Tiger10 | Harrinator1 | Guthix121 | robo | Elmo | Thru | Yaff2 Avatars by: Lit0ua | Unoalexi | Gold Tiger . Hello friend, Senajitkaushik was epic, Good luck bro. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drazhor Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 i did say to lock the thread, didn't I? -.^ Visit my blog! Click the madness for more madness! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zierro Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Peer pressure really doesn't work unless someone is very insecure about themselves that they feel they need to change to gain social acceptance. That looks like a Webster definition of the word "teenager" to me. :P i did say to lock the thread, didn't I? -.^ What is the point of that? If you just wanted advice without the side effect of Tip.It'ers discussing things about the thread (in Off-Topic) then I don't think this was the right place to come to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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