I just need some advice..

[edicius]

:( I don't know what to do.

 

 

 

I'm starting basketball this monday.

 

 

 

I don't really want to do it that much, but part of me thinks that I'll regret it. My mom already went through the hassel of doing the paper work and all that and is excited for me to start it. I don't want to do it for the following reasons:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

-I'm not that interested in even playing anymore.

 

 

 

-I don't want to stay after school everyday theres not a game until 6 for something I'm not that interested in.

 

 

 

-I don't like anybody trying out with me.

 

 

 

-I won't get to see a few of my friends, including one of my best friends, and the only time I see her is after school.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm just worried, b/c whenever I don't talk/see my friends that often our friendship starts to fade. And with basketball in the way... I don't know, I don't want to loose her or become anyless friends with her then I am now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If I get a schedule change to get put in her and alot of my other friend's lunch period then that would work out nice I guess.. but that'd mean I have to get my spanish class changed to fourth period or something.. I don't even know if she has a fourth period spanish class.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm just feeling incredibly stressed about alot right now and need some help about what I should do

 

 

 

:cry:

[Futurama]

sod it.

 

 

 

obviously the cons outweight the pros, and if its something you dont wanna do you shouldnt be forced into doing it. :)

[insane]

Your mom is going through all this hassle because she wants you to be happy, and thinks this will contribute.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If this won't make you happy, then I'm guessing she will be fine with you not doing it.

[F_M_N_T]

I quit hockey this year, and my dad was REALLY disapointed. I told him i wanted to ski, even though ive loved hockey for 8 years. After a while, you realize, its the same old stuff over again, and you just want to do something new. My dad understood and now hes behind me in whatever i want to do with skiing.

[BlueLancer]

I read it to the end, and my initial thoughts were "dump the basketball" even if your mother went through the "trouble". She seems to care about you a lot anyways, so she will understand if you tell her you're not even that interested in playing basketball.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It's your life and definitely once you're older than 10 you can make your own decisions about what you like to do in your free time and what you don't.

[Nadril]

Yeah, just explain to her. I'm sure she just cares for your hapiness.

[darkmage099]

Just tell her what you want. Make arrangements to see your friends after school like almost everyday?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

With me, I just missed hockey registrations so I'll miss the whole year. I'm quite pissed off. Their website said registration was still going on but apparantly not. Yeah, I'm pissed.

[indy500fan]

She will probably be happy with all the money that she saves also, equipment can be expensive. Not to mention the time she will save, from not having to go to the games.

[greenslime89]

I'm not that interested in even playing anymore.

 

 

 

-I don't want to stay after school everyday theres not a game until 6 for something I'm not that interested in.

 

 

 

-I don't like anybody trying out with me.

 

 

 

-I won't get to see a few of my friends, including one of my best friends, and the only time I see her is after school.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reasons why you should go:

 

 

 

- You're mum has obviously gone to alot of trouble to get you into this club, you owe it to her to go.

 

 

 

-Okay so maybe you don't enjoy it, but if you talk to the people there you might make some more friends.

 

 

 

-It will build your character - my sister's friend's brother took up golf recently - our school is quite good with after school clubs and has a golf club of its own. He has made his mum pay ÃÆââ¬Å¡Ãâã20 for a half hour lesson (individual) because he begged and shouted at her till she agreed to it. He isn't going to make any friends because he's taking individual lessons and because his mum doesn't force him to do anything, he won't keep the game up for long. You are lucky. You have a mum who cares for you - I was forced to go to different things when I was small, and I have very little trouble talking to people who don't know me. While the boy described above goes to a room at lunch alone because he doesn't want to talk to people.

 

 

 

And if you don't want to miss out on socialising with your friends, ask for a compromise: Go to the basket ball for one week then have a week off with your friends.

 

 

 

Hope this helped.

[edicius]

Thanks alot. :)

 

 

 

It made me think about alot though, try-outs are this week and if I really cannot stand it, I'll quit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If it's okay and I end up making a few friends, I'll stay and switch lunch periods.. I still need to find out if I can.

[deloriagod]

I quit hockey this year, and my dad was REALLY disapointed. I told him i wanted to ski, even though ive loved hockey for 8 years. After a while, you realize, its the same old stuff over again, and you just want to do something new. My dad understood and now hes behind me in whatever i want to do with skiing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My dad is a sport fanatic.. He always had me playing sports as a kid and couldn't understand why I hated them so much as I got into middle/high school. He keeps getting mad at me because I'll play a sport for a while then quit. I mostly played the sports just to keep him happy but I couldn't do it anymore and felt a strong social life was far better than spending my evenings playing sports with a bunch of people I didn't care for (I'm not big into hanging out with the jocks..). After I quit pretty much all sports my dad wasn't too happy with me but I'm enjoying school and such a lot more. He wants me to be happy, but he also wants me to try to get a free ride through college (I'm not good enough to do that..). Ah well, just a few more years and I'm outta here!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

@edicius: It seems you've made up your mind but I'll tell you anyways. Playing sports is no fun if you don't want to be there. I didn't want to play basketball in 8th grade so I faked injuries to get myself out of practicing (mostly running drills). I thought about trying out for the basketball team this year (10th grade) but decided I'd risk losing too many friendships if I devoted that much time to a sport I don't care much for. And as far as losing a close friend if you go out for a sport, I know how you feel. My gf and I kind of drift apart if we don't spend a lot of time together (I actually see her almost every day of the week, except we usually don't get together on Sundays..).

[kido14]

Didn't you pretty much answer your own question..?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You just gave like 5 reasons you don't want to do it, and you gave one reason you should do it, but it's only because your mom wants you to.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sounds like a real tough decision..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you don't want to play don't.

[Fadfdfd]

Didn't you pretty much answer your own question..?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You just gave like 5 reasons you don't want to do it, and you gave one reason you should do it, but it's only because your mom wants you to.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sounds like a real tough decision..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you don't want to play don't.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thank you for your productive post. :)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why don't you play, (if you want to though, and by your post you acted like you didn't want to) and invite her to some games, and hang out with her some other time.. go to the movies? Something like that?

[edicius]

Part of me thinks that I'll regret not joining it. :?

[wild_goat_14]

 

 

 

@edicius: It seems you've made up your mind but I'll tell you anyways. Playing sports is no fun if you don't want to be there. I didn't want to play basketball in 8th grade so I faked injuries to get myself out of practicing (mostly running drills).

 

 

 

Ok...for you to get my post here is some info about meh injury.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I broke my ankle on August 23rd.

 

 

 

It was supposed to take 6 weeks to heal, which my 1st practice was exactly 6 weeks away, on October 2nd.

 

 

 

During the 2nd practice, my ankle started hurting.

 

 

 

I missed 5 practices after that.

 

 

 

Ive been to 3 since i came back...but my ankle started hurting again today and now i dont know if i can play all year :?

 

 

 

Oh ya, my 1st game is on november 2nd.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

....my life is the oppisite of yours. Im in 8th grade now on the basketball team and WANT to practice but i AM really injured so idk if im gonna get to play much more because my parents might not let meh. :cry:

[Make7upu101]

I did the same thing sort of. I would say do what other people have already told you to do. Talk to your mom and quit. Be strong about it though if you decide that you really want to quit, otherwise she may talk you into doing something you don't want to do.

[deloriagod]

 

 

 

 

@edicius: It seems you've made up your mind but I'll tell you anyways. Playing sports is no fun if you don't want to be there. I didn't want to play basketball in 8th grade so I faked injuries to get myself out of practicing (mostly running drills).

 

 

 

Ok...for you to get my post here is some info about meh injury.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I broke my ankle on August 23rd.

 

 

 

It was supposed to take 6 weeks to heal, which my 1st practice was exactly 6 weeks away, on October 2nd.

 

 

 

During the 2nd practice, my ankle started hurting.

 

 

 

I missed 5 practices after that.

 

 

 

Ive been to 3 since i came back...but my ankle started hurting again today and now i dont know if i can play all year :?

 

 

 

Oh ya, my 1st game is on november 2nd.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

....my life is the oppisite of yours. Im in 8th grade now on the basketball team and WANT to practice but i AM really injured so idk if im gonna get to play much more because my parents might not let meh. :cry:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ouch, that sucks. I didn't want to play because my dad always pushed me too hard when it came to sports. I spent an entire summer playing golf (not hardly seeing my friends) and didn't make the team my freshman year. After that I figured it's a lot better to have a good social life than to work my a* off and not get anywhere (though that's pretty much life..). Hope your ankle feels better soon! :