January 12, 200719 yr Author Although i don't agree with arranged marriage, i would never go calling it barbaric... Love is one of those freedoms people ideally should have, but if a culture finds arranged marriage as a way to do things, who are we to say its wrong? What if a culture practices human sacrifice? You won't say it's wrong? :: Guess the Movie Contest Champion: pfilc23 ::
January 12, 200719 yr Author But sometimes it's purely logical. I mean, you're a seventeen year old girl who's family can't afford food anymore, but a rich-as-hell guy takes an interest in you. Should you let your family die? You kinda need to brush up on arranged marriages dude. That is what we call 'gold digging' which belongs in a different thread. :: Guess the Movie Contest Champion: pfilc23 ::
January 12, 200719 yr But sometimes it's purely logical. I mean, you're a seventeen year old girl who's family can't afford food anymore, but a rich-as-hell guy takes an interest in you. Should you let your family die? You kinda need to brush up on arranged marriages dude. That is what we call 'gold digging' which belongs in a different thread. Fine, edit "Your parents are going to make you marry this guy so they can afford food" Besides, arranged marriage isn't barbaric. Your parents know who you're going to marry thoroughly, and you probably do too. 'Arranged' doesn't mean 'unknown'
January 12, 200719 yr Although i don't agree with arranged marriage, i would never go calling it barbaric... Love is one of those freedoms people ideally should have, but if a culture finds arranged marriage as a way to do things, who are we to say its wrong? What if a culture practices human sacrifice? You won't say it's wrong? Sacrifice does not equal to being married to someone you dont want to be. I find sacrifice wrong just because i dont agree with killing a person when your not being directly attacked. Sig by IkuraiYour Guide to Posting! Behave or I will send my Moose mounted Beaver launchers at you!
January 12, 200719 yr I think what you need to take into consideration is that there isn't "the one". If there isn't "the one", it would mean that theoretically you could learn to be with anyone for the rest of your life. So you'd spend the rest of your life living with someone you don't love? I'm just playing devil's advocate. But my point stands. You don't just "love" someone. You learn to love someone. Love isn't the butterflies you get in your stomach when you see someone. That's infatuation. So theoretically, you could learn to love the person you are in an arranged marriage with.
January 12, 200719 yr Author Although i don't agree with arranged marriage, i would never go calling it barbaric... Love is one of those freedoms people ideally should have, but if a culture finds arranged marriage as a way to do things, who are we to say its wrong? What if a culture practices human sacrifice? You won't say it's wrong? Sacrifice does not equal to being married to someone you dont want to be. I find sacrifice wrong just because i dont agree with killing a person when your not being directly attacked. It's THEIR culture lol :: Guess the Movie Contest Champion: pfilc23 ::
January 12, 200719 yr Author I'm just playing devil's advocate. But my point stands. You don't just "love" someone. You learn to love someone. Love isn't the butterflies you get in your stomach when you see someone. That's infatuation. So theoretically, you could learn to love the person you are in an arranged marriage with. I know man, just trying to spark some arguments myself But infatuation freely leads to love. That's why I said it grows, not forced. :: Guess the Movie Contest Champion: pfilc23 ::
January 12, 200719 yr Although i don't agree with arranged marriage, i would never go calling it barbaric... Love is one of those freedoms people ideally should have, but if a culture finds arranged marriage as a way to do things, who are we to say its wrong? What if a culture practices human sacrifice? You won't say it's wrong? Sacrifice does not equal to being married to someone you dont want to be. I find sacrifice wrong just because i dont agree with killing a person when your not being directly attacked. It's THEIR culture lol Their's a clear difference. Arranged marriage doesn't equal lack of life.
January 12, 200719 yr Author Although i don't agree with arranged marriage, i would never go calling it barbaric... Love is one of those freedoms people ideally should have, but if a culture finds arranged marriage as a way to do things, who are we to say its wrong? What if a culture practices human sacrifice? You won't say it's wrong? Sacrifice does not equal to being married to someone you dont want to be. I find sacrifice wrong just because i dont agree with killing a person when your not being directly attacked. It's THEIR culture lol Their's a clear difference. Arranged marriage doesn't equal lack of life. Depends on what 'life' means to you :: Guess the Movie Contest Champion: pfilc23 ::
January 12, 200719 yr Although i don't agree with arranged marriage, i would never go calling it barbaric... Love is one of those freedoms people ideally should have, but if a culture finds arranged marriage as a way to do things, who are we to say its wrong? What if a culture practices human sacrifice? You won't say it's wrong? Sacrifice does not equal to being married to someone you dont want to be. I find sacrifice wrong just because i dont agree with killing a person when your not being directly attacked. It's THEIR culture lol Their's a clear difference. Arranged marriage doesn't equal lack of life. Not to mention Sacrifice is more of a religious thing, not a cultural thing. But i cnat go into more detail because of the ban. Sig by IkuraiYour Guide to Posting! Behave or I will send my Moose mounted Beaver launchers at you!
January 12, 200719 yr Although i don't agree with arranged marriage, i would never go calling it barbaric... Love is one of those freedoms people ideally should have, but if a culture finds arranged marriage as a way to do things, who are we to say its wrong? What if a culture practices human sacrifice? You won't say it's wrong? Sacrifice does not equal to being married to someone you dont want to be. I find sacrifice wrong just because i dont agree with killing a person when your not being directly attacked. It's THEIR culture lol Their's a clear difference. Arranged marriage doesn't equal lack of life. Depends on what 'life' means to you Do you know any married couples? Are they chained to their spouse?
January 12, 200719 yr What would do you do if I said [insert your religion] is barbaric? It was :) but like I said, this tends more to CULTURE rather than religion, so knock it off where are you from? 90% of marriages are performed in a church or other place of religion. matrimony is even a holy sacrament of the catholic church. that means that 90% of this topic is about religion.
January 12, 200719 yr Besides, arranged marriage isn't barbaric. Your parents know who you're going to marry thoroughly, and you probably do too. 'Arranged' doesn't mean 'unknown'There are a lot of cultures where: 1. Only your parents know who you will marry 2. They chose when where and how it happens 3. You have no choice in the matter - do it or die (litterally) Most generally stick to 1 and 2; 3 tends to lean towards being disowned if you refuse.
January 12, 200719 yr I'm just playing devil's advocate. But my point stands. You don't just "love" someone. You learn to love someone. Love isn't the butterflies you get in your stomach when you see someone. That's infatuation. So theoretically, you could learn to love the person you are in an arranged marriage with. I know man, just trying to spark some arguments myself But infatuation freely leads to love. Infatuation leads to selfish actions. Love is selfless. That's why I said it grows, not forced. Love cannot be forced. If love came out of an arranged marriage, it was not forced love. The conditions through which the love grew may have been forced, but the love was not.
January 12, 200719 yr Forced marriage is pretty much taking away freedom. Not that some of them don't work out well, but I'm sure that the majority are not happy marriages that society loves. It is taking away the freedom to choose who to spend your life with, your options with your time, not to mention the reasons that parents would want to force their children into marriage. The code in my sig should say 1032 not 0132.
January 12, 200719 yr Besides, arranged marriage isn't barbaric. Your parents know who you're going to marry thoroughly, and you probably do too. 'Arranged' doesn't mean 'unknown'There are a lot of cultures where: 1. Only your parents know who you will marry 2. They chose when where and how it happens 3. You have no choice in the matter - do it or die (litterally) Most generally stick to 1 and 2; 3 tends to lean towards being disowned if you refuse. Okay, I can understand why people would be against extreme-hardcore-doordie marriages, but their are compromises being made. Here's a pretty neat read for arranged marriages(it's pro) http://www.equalitytoday.org/edition3/marriage.html
January 12, 200719 yr Author where are you from? 90% of marriages are performed in a church or other place of religion. matrimony is even a holy sacrament of the catholic church. that means that 90% of this topic is about religion. Pray tell, what exactly is the official religion in China? AFAIK, they practice(d) arranged marriage and they're secular. Arranged marriage is/was used to improve interrelationships with other families. Where's the religious part? Give me a quote from the Bible, Qu'ran, Vedas, or any holy book and I'll bite my tongue. The ideal 'match' is of someone who's the same religious sect, but religion is just one component, not the whole. :: Guess the Movie Contest Champion: pfilc23 ::
January 12, 200719 yr Author Infatuation leads to selfish actions. Love is selfless. Love cannot be forced. If love came out of an arranged marriage, it was not forced love. The conditions through which the love grew may have been forced, but the love was not. No, from experience, infatuation led to love. Love can be forced if you try. If I give you a volleyball to be alone with enough time, you'll grow to love it because humans crave companionship. :: Guess the Movie Contest Champion: pfilc23 ::
January 12, 200719 yr Author Do you know any married couples? Are they chained to their spouse? I don't know what you're trying to get to, but I think that one of the main ideas behind marriage is being 'chained' to them. The part that I'm questioning is whether it was done willfully or not :: Guess the Movie Contest Champion: pfilc23 ::
January 12, 200719 yr An old lady on the subway told me a few years back "Marry for money, have affairs if you want love" :-s
January 12, 200719 yr where are you from? 90% of marriages are performed in a church or other place of religion. matrimony is even a holy sacrament of the catholic church. that means that 90% of this topic is about religion. Pray tell, what exactly is the official religion in China? AFAIK, they practice(d) arranged marriage and they're secular. Arranged marriage is/was used to improve interrelationships with other families. Where's the religious part? Give me a quote from the Bible, Qu'ran, Vedas, or any holy book and I'll bite my tongue. The ideal 'match' is of someone who's the same religious sect, but religion is just one component, not the whole. i dont know what you're trying to prove, but i have never been to a wedding that didn't involve a passage from the bible or a religious ceremony. yes there may be some cultures where marriage has no affiliation with religion, i never argued with that, but for the most part, this is a religious topic.
January 12, 200719 yr Do you know any married couples? Are they chained to their spouse? I don't know what you're trying to get to, but I think that one of the main ideas behind marriage is being 'chained' to them. The part that I'm questioning is whether it was done willfully or not No, you asked 'Depends how you define life' You can have a life without your spouse.
January 12, 200719 yr Author i dont know what you're trying to prove, but i have never been to a wedding that didn't involve a passage from the bible or a religious ceremony. yes there may be some cultures where marriage has no affiliation with religion, i never argued with that, but for the most part, this is a religious topic. MARRIAGE is religious. ARRANGING marriage is up to the culture. Damn man. No, you asked 'Depends how you define life' You can have a life without your spouse. lol. Yeah dude, it's called divorce :: Guess the Movie Contest Champion: pfilc23 ::
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