The problem is the most of the people asking for advice here already know what they want, and have shown they aren't committed to the relationship anyway. Sure, I could have told furah to "work on it", but he made it quite clear that he's tried and it didn't work. When one party is unwilling to make the change that the other party requires, that's the sign of a broken relationship. Sure, you can keep trying to "work on it", but if there's a fundamental gap that can't be bridged things are not going to improve. I honestly feel (and I'm sure this will offend some people) but in general, if you have to ask for advice on relationships beyond "how to I talk to girls" on here, your relationship already has serious problems.