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[fgfuyfyuiuy0]

Well, today my Grandpa died. I got off work and my Uncle was the one to tell me. No one else knew. IT SUCKED! I walked around with a stupid smile on my face acting all happy when my grandpa died. My Uncle finally just told everyone. It felt wierd keeping something like that.

 

 

 

I am pretty sad. My grandpa survived a lot of near-death experiences. First, in WWII, he was in a bomber plane. Another U.S Bomber was overhead and accidentally dropped a bomb onto my grandpa's plane. Being 20 and fresh into the military, my grandpa was ordered to help the other men for attacking a town. While walking, the bomb hit the plane and the explosion sent my grandpa firing out of the plane like a missle down to the town below. My grandpa was unconcious, but awoke free falling. He opened his parachute and landed in a village. He was the only one to survive.

 

 

 

The villagers chased my grampa with torches, guns, knives, and pitchforks. My grandpa got ahead of them and knocked on a door. It was a nursing home and they took him in. 3 days later he was sent from the nursing home to 9 camps over a period of time. One hated Americans so much that he was locked in a cell with little food and water for a long time.

 

 

 

Second time, he got Cancer. He got Chemo and after awhile his cancer was gone.

 

 

 

Third time, about 3 yrs. ago, he was driving down I-80 and crashed. He flipped 6-8 times, and landed in a ditch. He lived!

 

 

 

Fourth time, cancer again. Over came it once again.

 

 

 

But sadly, the Fifth time he didn't make it. He passed away peacefully in a unconcisousness sleep, which he fell into while taking a nap. My Uncle was there and happened to see his dad die.

 

 

 

I am pretty sad. My Grandpa, who I hate because he is a druggy, alcoholic slob, has had so many near-death experiences and lived. He left my Dad as a kid and he has no friends. He eats at our house like every night and expects us to LOVE him because he thinks that grandkids should love their grandparents automatically, even when their grandparents don't put in any effort or anything. The thing is, the grandpa I actually LOVE ends up dying. Cruel, ain't it?

 

 

 

I just hope my grandpa doesn't feel anymore pain and may he R.I.P.

[IGoddessI]

I'm sorry to hear that, you must feel pretty down. I remember when I lost my grandpa and how I felt so I have some idea on how you're feeling at the moment. If you would like to talk about it, feel free to message me for my msn.

 

 

 

Times like this people handle the hurt in different ways, some may pretend nothing happened, some may suffer depression, some may want to talk about it, some may not etc.

 

 

 

I feel for you and I am here for you if you need to talk, I don't want to talk about it on the forum with you because I think it's personal and some people can be really cruel.

 

 

 

But on that note if you feel that talking about it with many people will help you, I'm all for it.

 

 

 

- Mel

[fgfuyfyuiuy0]

I'm sorry to hear that, you must feel pretty down. I remember when I lost my grandpa and how I felt so I have some idea on how you're feeling at the moment. If you would like to talk about it, feel free to message me for my msn.

 

 

 

Times like this people handle the hurt in different ways, some may pretend nothing happened, some may suffer depression, some may want to talk about it, some may not etc.

 

 

 

I feel for you and I am here for you if you need to talk, I don't want to talk about it on the forum with you because I think it's personal and some people can be really cruel.

 

 

 

But on that note if you feel that talking about it with many people will help you, I'm all for it.

 

 

 

- Mel

 

 

 

Thanks. I've been trying not to cry because right now I am the shoulder to cry on. I might cry sometime. Depends on what I think at the moment.

[hellbellz]

Hey man, just trust me on this. Your grandfather might have used drugs, and drank, but without him, you wouldn't be alive right now, would you?

 

 

 

I hate how my mother drinks. I just can't stand it when she used to come home drunk. But I still love my mom, and you should love 'em too.

 

 

 

(I'm not sure about that relationship. In the last paragraph, you say you love and hate him?)

 

 

 

If you're about to cry, just do it. At my friend's funeral, I didn't cry at all, and tried not to. I saw a picture and started pouring down tears. Just let it out.

 

 

 

Sorry to hear about your loss. :(

[biggy08755]

Hey man, just trust me on this. Your grandfather might have used drugs, and drank, but without him, you wouldn't be alive right now, would you?

 

 

 

I hate how my mother drinks. I just can't stand it when she used to come home drunk. But I still love my mom, and you should love 'em too.

 

 

 

(I'm not sure about that relationship. In the last paragraph, you say you love and hate him?)

 

 

 

If you're about to cry, just do it. At my friend's funeral, I didn't cry at all, and tried not to. I saw a picture and started pouring down tears. Just let it out.

 

 

 

Sorry to hear about your loss. :(

 

 

 

He was talking about another grandpa that was the alcohol and drug user. Or thats what it sounded like

[knives669]

I understand how you feel. :( My grandfather died on March 26 of this year, and it was so hard for all of us. He had Alzheimer's and was in and out of nursing homes for a couple of years.

 

 

 

Until me and my siblings were born, he was a very mean person apparently. He did what he wanted to do, never respected anyone, and when we were born, he changed. He was a very nice man in my eyes and he always loved us.

 

 

 

He had Alzheimer's for a very long time. He worked very hard to remember all of us and not to make us feel bad about his condition. But, all we could do was sit there and watch as he got worse and worse. I happened to be the last person he forgot. ^_^

 

 

 

His health steadily declined and one day, we got a call from the nursing home he was in. They told us to come up there. It was an hour away and we went up there immediately. They told us that his pulse was steadily falling and that he wouldn't make it through the night. But he did. He made it through that night, and the through the next day. He opened his eyes and looked at us, but didn't speak.

 

 

 

We were up there for 2 days. My entire family including my boyfriend and my brother's girlfriend. Every time I looked at him, I would cry. I wondered if he was in pain, or what was going on in his mind. I wondered if he even knew we were there. He would cough, he would reach out at nothing... sometimes his eyes would wander as though he were looking at something we couldn't see.

 

 

 

On the second day, we got very hungry and decided to go to get something to eat. Me, my mom, my dad, my brother, his girlfriend, and my boyfriend went out to get something. My little sister and grandmother stayed with my grandfather. Just after we ordered our drinks, my sister called. I could hear my grandmother yelling and she told me that my grandfather was gone. We left immediately and went back. I often feel bad that I wasn't there with him.

 

 

 

Everyone cried after he died, but I didn't. I knew that his pain was over and that his mind had returned to him. And that's the thing you have to focus on. Death is just another part of life. It will be hard on your family for awhile, but things will eventually get better. They always do, trust me. If you feel as though you need anyone to talk to, you can PM me, or add me on MSN. I'd be perfectly happy to talk to you if you just feel as though you need someone. I wish you and your family the best.

[warri0r45]

Hmm, that sucks mate. Sorry to hear about your loss. I could write something more profound or comforting but, as wierd as it sounds, no one close to me has died within my lifetime (18); never been to a funeral. Guess that'll change one day... Again, death is just another part of life. From what you told us, it seems he was a very lucky guy and therefore had more of a chnace to be part of your life. :)

[assassin_696]

It sounds like your grandpa had a very busy, challenging life. I'm sure he'll be grateful of the peaceful rest :)

[Kevin_]

Many people aren't that lucky to survive all of that and still have the pleassure of dying in their sleep. And like assasin said i'm sure he'll be grateful of the peaceful rest.

[Led-Zeppelin]

Yeah, I remember when my Poppa died about seven years ago now. I was 13, and being all tough I didn't cry at all the days up until his funeral. And after the service as we were coming outside, it just hit me like a brick [cabbage] house, and I bawled for ages. Was good to get it out aye.

[Bubsa]

Think of it this way pal, your Grandpa was one hell of a guy. He fought for our freedom and if that wasn't enough, he defied the odds and kept on going where others have not have been able to. He died, in what I think, is the best possible way. It's safe to say you can happily celebrate the life and the person he was, that includes the good and the bad.

 

 

 

R.I.P. and make sure that all his admirable qualities may live on through you.

[The Dark Lord]

My grandfather worked on a prisoner transport ship for the US during WWII and his ship was caught up in the Battle of Sicily. He said it scared the living [cabbage] out of him and he thought he was going to die.

 

 

 

He died due to cancer in 2006 at the age of 82.

[fgfuyfyuiuy0]

Hey man, just trust me on this. Your grandfather might have used drugs, and drank, but without him, you wouldn't be alive right now, would you?

 

 

 

I hate how my mother drinks. I just can't stand it when she used to come home drunk. But I still love my mom, and you should love 'em too.

 

 

 

(I'm not sure about that relationship. In the last paragraph, you say you love and hate him?)

 

 

 

If you're about to cry, just do it. At my friend's funeral, I didn't cry at all, and tried not to. I saw a picture and started pouring down tears. Just let it out.

 

 

 

Sorry to hear about your loss. :(

 

 

 

He was talking about another grandpa that was the alcohol and drug user. Or thats what it sounded like

 

 

 

Yeah. My grandpa, who I don't like, is still alive. I do appreciate him for his part in having my Dad because I wouldn't be here, but I just don't like him.

 

 

 

Yeah. I'm glad for the time I spent with my grandpa. He was a great man and I appreciate him. He fought for what was right and beat all odds of dying. I love him so much and I am happy to know he doesn't feel anymore pain. I actually have his diary of when he was fighting in WWII and when his bomber exploded. My dad's going to write a book about him and the life we shared with him. My Uncle is typing out the part of the explosion and all the camps and giving them out to people at the funeral.

[dsavi]

My condolances.

 

 

 

I can't imagine my grandpa dieing. I don't want to either.

[monkeypie10]

Both my grandparents died before my parents were even married. My Dad was in the Iraq - Iran war (Iraq side). He got shot in the pinky. His pinky sticks out like an arc and he cant move it. He also got shot on the palm. His palm has like over-lapped skin - wierd.

[IGoddessI]

My long-term boyfriend who was apparently going to purpose to me called it quits last night out of the blue if you want to eat a tub of icecream with me, we can be sad together.

 

 

 

It's like since I stayed with him through his discharge in the army, when he had risky surgery, stayed by his side the months he couldn't get out of bed, helped him choose a new life path to walk down career wise, gotten him in there, he's decided....."Well...Thanks for the ride, now that I'm all better, I don't need you".

 

 

 

Ouch.

 

 

 

I'm sad too :( Up for that icecream?

[Kiriyama]

Well at least he died peacefully, instead of a long, drawn out, painful death. Sorry if that sounded Harsh.

 

 

 

Anyway its hard when a relative dies, you never really get over it, you just have to try get on with life.

[TotalTalker]

Oh im sorry to hear that. May he R.I.P. Its better for him to go in a peacful way though, keep strong.

[____]

My long-term boyfriend who was apparently going to purpose to me called it quits last night out of the blue if you want to eat a tub of icecream with me, we can be sad together.

 

 

 

It's like since I stayed with him through his discharge in the army, when he had risky surgery, stayed by his side the months he couldn't get out of bed, helped him choose a new life path to walk down career wise, gotten him in there, he's decided....."Well...Thanks for the ride, now that I'm all better, I don't need you".

 

 

 

Ouch.

 

 

 

I'm sad too :( Up for that icecream?

That's harsh. And he seemed like a rather alright bloke too :(

[highlanders]

You talk of near-death experiences, did he ever tell to you what he saw?

 

Either that, or you are using that term without knowing its meaning.

[knives669]

My long-term boyfriend who was apparently going to purpose to me called it quits last night out of the blue if you want to eat a tub of icecream with me, we can be sad together.

 

 

 

It's like since I stayed with him through his discharge in the army, when he had risky surgery, stayed by his side the months he couldn't get out of bed, helped him choose a new life path to walk down career wise, gotten him in there, he's decided....."Well...Thanks for the ride, now that I'm all better, I don't need you".

 

 

 

Ouch.

 

 

 

I'm sad too :( Up for that icecream?

 

 

 

:( I'm so sorry. :(

 

 

 

Hugs and ice cream for everyone. :(

[Sumpta]

Sorry your grandfather died. He sounds like a good man with a strong character. I'm sure you'll cherish his memory. He passed away quietly after a full life, it seems.

 

 

 

And so sorry for you as well, Goddess. It's weird how misfortune can get people together, but have them drift apart as well. A friend of mine went through something similar. Her ex told her he'd come to associate her with all the bad things that had happened to him and that now he was feeling better, he felt the relationship had become too tainted with misfortune instead of happiness. So he shook off all of the bad memories, including her. Very harsh, I hope you'll work it out for the best somehow.

[IGoddessI]

Sorry your grandfather died. He sounds like a good man with a strong character. I'm sure you'll cherish his memory. He passed away quietly after a full life, it seems.

 

 

 

And so sorry for you as well, Goddess. It's weird how misfortune can get people together, but have them drift apart as well. A friend of mine went through something similar. Her ex told her he'd come to associate her with all the bad things that had happened to him and that now he was feeling better, he felt the relationship had become too tainted with misfortune instead of happiness. So he shook off all of the bad memories, including her. Very harsh, I hope you'll work it out for the best somehow.

 

 

 

Yeah it even got to the point where he may have had to have spent his life in a wheel chair and I still would've married him.

 

 

 

Goes to show doesn't it? I thought it was real :(

[Ambassadar]

Sounds like you have a grandfather to be proud of. Cherish his memory. Live a life that would make him proud and make sure to take the time to mourn. If you bottle it up it will just follow you around and eventually come out even if it is years from now. If you need to just go somewhere by yourself where you won't be disturbed and just let it all out. There is no shame at all in mourning a loved one.

 

 

 

My mom died a couple of years ago and I was much the same way you are. At first I felt numb. Then I played it off and it didn't seem real. Then I went through trying to hold it back and put on the smiling face for everyone. Eventually you can't hold it back any longer and it will come out. It is better to just go on and let it out at the time. Mourning is something that needs to be done and not pushed away.