January 8, 200818 yr After a month of dating my gf (this month is the 18th month of our relationship) she said she couldn't hang out with me because it was a "girls night out". I was like cool, w/e. At like midnight she came to my house with her friend drunk. I was like w/e, girls are weird like that. About 9 months later I found out the "girls night out" was a party at an ex-boyfriends house. It just so happens she talked and drank with two of her ex-boyfriends. I was PISSED. I don't know if I'm mad anymore or not. But for the rest of eternity the phrase "girls night out" will always be a hypocritical statement and an excuse to make me feel like a tool. Whenever she says shes going to hang out with her friends I get mad. And I guess its because of that. But w/e. Maybe I'll grow up one day. I dont blame you, girls love to play the guilt card. Its depressing. Pretty much my girlfriend pisses me off to a point where i want to shoot myself. Shes controlling, like, i post a pic of me of facebook and people say i look good, she starts to get depressed. And then tell me not to. >.< She can go out with guy friends and i cant go out with girlfriends? One of these days im going to have to dump her. Thats going to be fun. :|
January 8, 200818 yr I knew Zonorhc was going to post a wild reply to this. :XD: No, I haven;t, seeing as I haven't had a date yet. But I haven't given up hope (really I haven't).
January 8, 200818 yr Haha. You have no idea how tempted I have been for the past 9 months to do that. Every time I get mad I think I should do that. The great thing is it solves both situations, the cruise and the party with the ex's. Because my ex lives 5 states away (thats another story altogether :-$ ) and I would have to fly out and I would be gone for a week. But she definitely wouldn't see it as 'equal' because 1 month is a lot different than 18 months. :roll: . But then I remember I'm bigger than that. Besides, leading people on is my pet peeve. And I could almost guarantee that my ex would fall for me again. I couldn't do that to her. I'm too nice of a guy. But the plus side... revenge :twisted: . One part of me thinks this would be good for our relationship and another tells me it wouldn't be. Haha, I wouldn't be able to stand that. I'm a firm believer of treating others how you'd like to be treated. That is - if my gf does something that annoys me, and I know that if I had done the same in reverse that it would annoy her, I won't stand for it. :P This is all assuming that your gf shares the same basic principles that you do, ie, that it's not right to do something to someone when you know the same would piss you off. My opinion? If you know she'd feel the same, say so. If she disagrees, go out there and do it. If she gets mad, throw the example of her 'girl's night out' in her face. If she can't stand it, dump her. :) .
January 8, 200818 yr Meh. I eat all my girlfriends, one way or another. :lol: I've never really been that mad at my gf, especially not that mad :shock: We can breath in space, they just don't want us to escape
January 8, 200818 yr Wow Secret Window much? :anxious: I don't really have any elaborate stories.. then again I'm sure I'll think of one as soon as I log off and go to bed :P - 99 fletching | 99 thieving | 99 construction | 99 herblore | 99 smithing | 99 woodcutting - - 99 runecrafting - 99 prayer - 125 combat - 95 farming - - Blog - DeviantART - Book Reviews & Blog
January 8, 200818 yr Meh. I eat all my girlfriends, one way or another. =D> Haha That made me Chuckle
January 8, 200818 yr I don't think I could ever get mad at my current girlfriend, everything she does is perfect. A friend to all is a friend to none.
January 8, 200818 yr Author @Goddess [hide]Wow what a convenient article, today is my boyfriend and I's anniversary (big one, nothing like months etc) He never asked to have the day off work or swap it with someone when he's only had unlimited amount of months to figure something out. So, he starts work today at 3pm. He tells me he's going to come see me at 10am (how nice, the guy even wants to have a late night to play computer games with the boys and sleep in on our anniversary), then rings me at 20 past 10 and says he's late. He pretty much told me last night he's not going to take me to lunch or dinner or anything like that. And if he doesn't even turn up with a bunch of flowers, he'll be getting the door closed on his face and told to go home. Especially, considering he told me about 3 months ago he had something big planned for 9am this morning. Well, unfortunately for him I have a good memory on times and dates and It's way past 9am and he has nothing planned at all :evil: He's either going to pull something out of his [wagon] at the last minute, or go home with the door slammed in his face. He's done nothing for me ALL year, he bought me a necklace but that's only because it was Christmas. He never got me anything for my 21st and when he bought my new motorbike gear, turned around and told me it wasn't mine, he only bought it so I could use it. So I threw the [bleep] kit in his car boot and sent him home. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I love him but he is the worlds STINGIEST BOYFRIEND! I'll come back after he's gone to work and let you know if he made up for it or not :( [/hide] I'm sorry :cry: . I guess I don't know the positive qualities of him, so my opinion of him wouldn't be accurate. From the way you make it sound, he isn't very thoughtful, but like I said I dont know. @plec [hide] I'd feel the exact same way! I'm sorry but that really sucks. What are you going to do/have already done? Are you still with her? Yea I'm still with her. I have no idea what to do. Talking is out the window because she doesn't think she did anything wrong. She told me she wish she could take it back, but thats only because it upsets me and not because she thinks its wrong. She didn't cheat on me, but the problem is she lied to me but she doesn't think she did. Anyways. Whenever I hear the phrase "girls night out" by anyone it pisses me off and gets me in a bad mood. For the most part I try to not let it effect my relationship with my g/f. Like I said, I found out about this 9 months after it happened. But what made it worse was that a week before she was on a week long cruise and when she came back she told me that she "danced" with some boys on the cruise. I really didn't care, I was just glad that she was back because I missed her. Later I found out that "dancing" meant "grinding". Yeehaw!! I still find it hard to trust her. Even though its been 9 months since then. When ever I hear dance music I wonder if that was the song that she grinded with that boy to. Needless to say, dancing, cruises, and "girls night out" all piss me off.[/hide] That's tough to hear...I would be to spiteful and angry to continue to date her. I guess I really dont know how much you love her. Even though you forgave her, she did it again. That would definitely be the last string for me. :x . @Goddess [hide]Well could have been better but it's better than anything else he's done so I'll give him credit for trying. 1. He was late but at least he still turned up. 2. He bought me orange roses because they're my favourite colour, only my favourite colour isn't orange, it's yellow but at least he got the rose part right. 3. Two of them died but I'm willing to put the blame down to the heat. 4. He pulled a necklace out of his pocket, but it was the necklace I threw at him that he gave me for Christmas. 5. We never went out for lunch, even after I suggested it 3 times but I ended up making ham and cheese toasted sandwiches. 6. I only made those toasted sandwiches coz he picked up my brothers guitar and started playing "Nothing else matters" by Metallica and singing it to me. 7. He bought me a card about having sex which he thought was hilarious and I didn't but at least he wrote something sweet on the inside. -- Overall he survived the door slammed in his face, I'm left a little disappointed but what can you do? I love him for trying *sigh* I can never stay mad at him :x @ Plectrum I can see how you would be mad. See, I'm a jealous person and I would hate it if my boyfriend had a guyÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s night out and 2 of his ex's were there. On the other hand, all my friends are nearly all male and there's at least 4 of them that consist of being ex's and I hate jealous people, even though I am one myself. I would go nuts at my boyfriend if he told me I couldn't go out and have a beer with 2 of my ex's (which we're all still good friends). Kind of selfish but what can ya do? I go absolutely nuts at him if he goes out with a female friend of his that I haven't met yet, I am as jealous as you get. He's almost cheated on me twice and that doesn't help the situation but being the walking contradiction I am, would tell him where to shove it if he told me I couldn't go out to see one of my guy friends. I let him read stuff on my phone whenever he feels like it, give him my email password etc and let him meet all of my male friends though. If he would just stop lying and introduce me to his female friends, I wouldn't mind or have a problem with it. We aren't exactly stable but we love each other too much to get rid of the other, so we kind of just really put up with each others crap. To be honest, I know noone would put up with my crap and he knows noone else would put up with him either :P At least he did something...although it was a feeble attempt. I cant believe he did not take the hint (of lunch)! I guess this goes to show you haven't trained him :P ! Anyway, hope all goes well... [/hide] On a side note, if that was me, I would have showered you with love and praise cleverly disguised in a way that would make you smile. Smile I could never get angry at my g/f, if I had one. Trust for me is huge, but I can forgive me and just want to make people happy. That's all. Man, it's not that easy. Some men can be clueless when it comes to this stuff. Wow Secret Window much? :anxious: I don't really have any elaborate stories.. then again I'm sure I'll think of one as soon as I log off and go to bed :P You being the Johnny Depp fan that you are... Trix.--quit WoW as of 12/07Thank you 4be2jue for the wonderful sig and avatar!
January 8, 200818 yr Usually, my boyfriends only last a few months (hey I'm only 14) so there is never really time to have any major arguments. I do remember one time, I went to the cinema with all my friends, boys and girls, I invited him along and he said he couldn't make it, we had been going out a month or so. I was like okay yeah, so I was seriously pissed off when I found him at the cinema with a bunch of his friends, who I were friends with to. If he had of said, I am already going with some friends, it would of been okay, another time, but he lied. He so got dumped right then and there in front of all his mates, so he could never deny any of it, and walked away. Total embarrassment always works best.
January 8, 200818 yr if i were to be a cannibal i wouldnt boil them, id like, BBQ or smoke them. come on now 1980 Berlinetta with a 350, bored, mild cam, intake carb, headers, exhaust
January 8, 200818 yr In general I am pretty even-keeled. I don't experience either great rage or great affection. Emotions seem... abstract I suppose to me. I like it in a way and hate it in the other. Consiquentially I have never really been angry at my fiance. (We've been together for a little under 4.25 years now so that really is saying something) Sometimes like a blumbering moron I am able to really tick her off and we occasionally get the pleasure of sorting through a problem... but since both of us are committed to finding a solution that works in some sence it really is a good thing because at the end of a conflict we are closer together then when it started. "He is no fool who gives up that which he can not keep to gain that which he can not lose."--Jim Elliot "You must picture me alone in that room in Magdalen, night after night, feeling, whenever my mind lifted even for a second from my work, the steady, unrelenting approach of Him whom I so earnestly desired not to meet. That which I greatly feared had at last come upon me. In the Trinity Term of 1929 I gave in, and admitted that God was God, and knelt and prayed: perhaps, that night, the most dejected and reluctant convert in all England. I did not then see what is now the most shining and obvious thing; the Divine humility which will accept a convert even on such terms. The Prodical Son at least walked home on his own two feet. But who can duly adore that love which will open the high gates to a prodigal who is brought in kicking, struggling, resentful, and darting his eyes in every direction for a chance of escape? The words compelle intrare, compel them to come in, have been so abused by wicked men that we shudder at them; but, properly understood, they plumb the depth of the Divine mercy. The hardness of God is kinder than the softness of men, and His compulsion is our liberation."--C.S.Lewis
January 9, 200818 yr About 9 months later I found out the "girls night out" was a party at an ex-boyfriends house. It just so happens she talked and drank with two of her ex-boyfriends. I was PISSED. I don't know if I'm mad anymore or not. But for the rest of eternity the phrase "girls night out" will always be a hypocritical statement and an excuse to make me feel like a tool. Whenever she says shes going to hang out with her friends I get mad. And I guess its because of that. But w/e. Maybe I'll grow up one day. I would have dumped her. Life is too short to be dating people you can't trust. Too many people out there to be wasting time with the wrong person.
January 9, 200818 yr once my girlfriend kicked me in the crikes because I was hanging out with five of my friends, three of which were girls that I've been friends with since kindergarden. I couldn't really get revenge because I was cringing in pain on the ground.
January 9, 200818 yr ^ yeah. she apologized and said that she just felt jealous. She was crying and me having a conscious couldn't stay mad at her.
January 9, 200818 yr After a month of dating my gf (this month is the 18th month of our relationship) she said she couldn't hang out with me because it was a "girls night out". I was like cool, w/e. At like midnight she came to my house with her friend drunk. I was like w/e, girls are weird like that. About 9 months later I found out the "girls night out" was a party at an ex-boyfriends house. It just so happens she talked and drank with two of her ex-boyfriends. I was PISSED. I don't know if I'm mad anymore or not. But for the rest of eternity the phrase "girls night out" will always be a hypocritical statement and an excuse to make me feel like a tool. Whenever she says shes going to hang out with her friends I get mad. And I guess its because of that. But w/e. Maybe I'll grow up one day. Its your own insecuritys that are making u feel like that... like you said she Drank and Talked to her ex-boyfriend!! So what i talk to my ex's all the time it makes no difference because it would never go further than that. I know my girlfriend and i love her dearly. Fair enough she lied about it being a girls night out but apart from that she has done nothing wrong u should forgive and forget because trust me the best times you spend together and the times actually spent apart... for example going to a party and not even saying a word to each other all night because you know she is coming home with you and that ull have her all to your self then... A relationship is NOTHING without trust... OT: I got mad when my girlfriend tried to fry chicken and cheese together :s and called it chicken in cheese sauce i meen wtf is that!! \ apart from that we get on really well all the time ^^ -Levi
January 9, 200818 yr I read about that story in the newspaper and to be honest it was pretty disturbing. I just thought he cooked her because he was angry in some sick kind of way, I didn't know he was actually a cannibal aswell :uhh: On a different note I did get kinda angry with my ex-girlfriend in that she hardly ever spoke around me and acted shy all the time but whenever she was around other boys she would be laughing and joking all the time. I guess I was kind of jealous at the time but things didn't look good between us anyways which was probably why she ended it. OT: I got mad when my girlfriend tried to fry chicken and cheese together :s and called it chicken in cheese sauce i meen wtf is that!! apart from that we get on really well all the time ^^ That part made me laugh : chicken in cheese sauce, randomness for the win :XD:
January 10, 200818 yr After a month of dating my gf (this month is the 18th month of our relationship) she said she couldn't hang out with me because it was a "girls night out". I was like cool, w/e. At like midnight she came to my house with her friend drunk. I was like w/e, girls are weird like that. About 9 months later I found out the "girls night out" was a party at an ex-boyfriends house. It just so happens she talked and drank with two of her ex-boyfriends. I was PISSED. I don't know if I'm mad anymore or not. But for the rest of eternity the phrase "girls night out" will always be a hypocritical statement and an excuse to make me feel like a tool. Whenever she says shes going to hang out with her friends I get mad. And I guess its because of that. But w/e. Maybe I'll grow up one day. Its your own insecuritys that are making u feel like that... like you said she Drank and Talked to her ex-boyfriend!! So what i talk to my ex's all the time it makes no difference because it would never go further than that. I know my girlfriend and i love her dearly. Fair enough she lied about it being a girls night out but apart from that she has done nothing wrong u should forgive and forget because trust me the best times you spend together and the times actually spent apart... for example going to a party and not even saying a word to each other all night because you know she is coming home with you and that ull have her all to your self then... A relationship is NOTHING without trust... OT: I got mad when my girlfriend tried to fry chicken and cheese together :s and called it chicken in cheese sauce i meen wtf is that!! \ apart from that we get on really well all the time ^^ -Levi Not every relationship is the same chief. Yes I realize my feelings come from my insecurities, but that doesn't change my principles and belief system. Regardless of how messed up my emotions make my head is not an excuse to disregard situations that bother me. @ your party comment: I don't want a part-time girlfriend. Full-time for me. And anyone in a relationship realizes trust is everything. But not the only thing. If you don't share common principles your relationship has a greater chance of not lasting.
January 10, 200818 yr After a month of dating my gf (this month is the 18th month of our relationship) she said she couldn't hang out with me because it was a "girls night out". I was like cool, w/e. At like midnight she came to my house with her friend drunk. I was like w/e, girls are weird like that. About 9 months later I found out the "girls night out" was a party at an ex-boyfriends house. It just so happens she talked and drank with two of her ex-boyfriends. I was PISSED. I don't know if I'm mad anymore or not. But for the rest of eternity the phrase "girls night out" will always be a hypocritical statement and an excuse to make me feel like a tool. Whenever she says shes going to hang out with her friends I get mad. And I guess its because of that. But w/e. Maybe I'll grow up one day. Its your own insecuritys that are making u feel like that... like you said she Drank and Talked to her ex-boyfriend!! So what i talk to my ex's all the time it makes no difference because it would never go further than that. I know my girlfriend and i love her dearly. Fair enough she lied about it being a girls night out but apart from that she has done nothing wrong u should forgive and forget because trust me the best times you spend together and the times actually spent apart... for example going to a party and not even saying a word to each other all night because you know she is coming home with you and that ull have her all to your self then... A relationship is NOTHING without trust... OT: I got mad when my girlfriend tried to fry chicken and cheese together :s and called it chicken in cheese sauce i meen wtf is that!! \ apart from that we get on really well all the time ^^ -Levi Not every relationship is the same chief. Yes I realize my feelings come from my insecurities, but that doesn't change my principles and belief system. Regardless of how messed up my emotions make my head is not an excuse to disregard situations that bother me. @ your party comment: I don't want a part-time girlfriend. Full-time for me. And anyone in a relationship realizes trust is everything. But not the only thing. If you don't share common principles your relationship has a greater chance of not lasting. It's not insecurity. His girlfriend lied about being at an ex-boyfriends house to him. Every good relationship is built on trust when it comes down to it, absolute fact; if you can't share every secret you have with a long term partner and tell them anything then something's wrong. I talk to my ex's too and I have no problem with my girlfriend talking to hers, i'm even friends with a couple of them and actually met them through her, but one of the worst things you can do it lie about seeing an ex, honestly. If you're lying to them about where you are, then what are you hiding?
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