Another parent problem thread - i need help.

[ididnotlol]

Firstly, has there ever been something that upset you to tears? no, there has been for me, it was my dog getting authoritus (sp?) in his leg.

 

 

 

Have you ever been blamed for this thing, even if it was something you could not help? no, well i have, my own mother blames me for my dogs authoritus (sp?), this upsets me.

 

 

 

My mother thinks she's perfect, yet she is far from it, i dont know if this is teen angst or anything, but being blamed for my dogs authoritus, and being accused of stealing, and altogether being steriotyped as the root of freaking evil, really really pisses me off.

 

My mother does nothing when my brother bullies me (especially about my hearing difficulties...)

 

And my dad is just as big of an [wagon], he stands by and lets this happen to earn extra freaking points with my mother.

 

 

 

I never understood why they treat me like the devil, I dont do drugs, nor do i deal them, im not an alchaholic, and i get top grades at school, and im not in a gang.

 

 

 

So, whats so wrong about me that makes me seem s feaking evil, and why do people expect me to act like an angel when all they have ever done is treat me like a devil.

[Riku3220]

how do you get blamed for your dog having arthritis? arthritis is cause by lack of use right? then shouldn't that mean your dog is lazy and should've been taken out for walks more?

[The_Who]

Explain how she's blaming you for a medical condition, then I might be able to offer advice.

[Agunimon979]

Take advantage of the situation and become the "troubled" child for phr33 st0ff.

 

 

 

Also if she doesn't care, stay out late, party, drink beer... have the time of your life.

[Kiriyama]

Have you ever smoked, stole or whatever before?

 

 

 

Sometimes the actions of the past can stick with you.

 

 

 

As for your brother problems...

 

 

 

A swift knee to the balls while no-one is around should set him straight.

[Lenticular_J]

Arthritis can be caused by too much use just as much as it can simply be caused by age.

 

 

 

Maybe your mother's on cocaine. I think of that whenever I play with my extra toe.

[ididnotlol]

To explain how im being blamed for my dogs athiritis, I believe my mothers exact words are: "its you're fault his leg hurts.".

 

 

 

Oh and yes, i realised i can do what i want such a drinking and such, to show how bad i can be, but I would only use that as a last resort, I'd rather try to convince them i can be good.

 

 

 

I have no history of stealing or smoking or drinking ( yet my brother, my mothers little angel, has a history of two of them.)

 

 

 

Edit: actually, about my mother being on cocain, i think you might be on to something, my mother smokes, but recently, i found something in a clear case of hers rolled up in bits of paper...

[Lenticular_J]

That's disturbing, I was merely trying to bring a bit of humor in.

 

 

 

And the fact that I have an extra toe.

[deloriagod]

 

Edit: actually, about my mother being on cocain, i think you might be on to something, my mother smokes, but recently, i found something in a clear case of hers rolled up in bits of paper...

 

 

 

Care to explain what the substance looked like?

[Powman3]

Do you have any other relatives you can stay with? Because your mom sounds [bleep]ing crazy.

 

 

 

Seriously. I wouldn't want to stay with her. She blamed you for your dog's arthritis, which, from what I know (which isn't much), is caused by infection or lack of use in the joints of his legs. Unless you're obviously not telling us something, because it can also can be caused by something happening to the joint, any sort of trauma or whatever.

 

 

 

You're not telling us all the info, mate.

[Italian5kamikaze]

Well if shes on drugs then that explains why she thinks its your fault your dog as arthritis.

[Kenshinjapan]

Do you have any other relatives you can stay with? Because your mom sounds [bleep] crazy.

 

 

 

Seriously. I wouldn't want to stay with her. She blamed you for your dog's arthritis, which, from what I know (which isn't much), is caused by infection or lack of use in the joints of his legs. Unless you're obviously not telling us something, because it can also can be caused by something happening to the joint, any sort of trauma or whatever.

 

 

 

You're not telling us all the info, mate.

 

 

 

No offense dude, but I don't think you should be giving parental advice when you have a thread about your own issues right below this one...

 

 

 

Anyways, stay at home until she does any physical abuse to you. Blaming you for something you didn't do if far from justice to move out of the house.

[silver_wits]

That's disturbing, I was merely trying to bring a bit of humor in.

 

 

 

And the fact that I have an extra toe.

 

and i believed you about the extra toe lent.

[Koo]

Take advantage of the situation and become the "troubled" child for phr33 st0ff.

 

 

 

Also if she doesn't care, stay out late, party, drink beer... have the time of your life.

 

This.

[silver_wits]

ok i'll be serious.

 

 

 

look... you just said taht your mom prefers your bro.. who you said had a history.

 

at this time.. its all completely up to you. if you want you can act out... get her in trouble...

 

or you can just sit tight until you turn old enough to leave home.

 

just sit there and think of your options.

 

and decide which one will leave you with the least regrets.

 

 

 

remember.. if you leave home now.. you might not be able to play runescape as often. :roll:

 

and you need to imagine what life would be like without your parents.. sure.. there's good stuff...

 

but focus on the bad things.

 

you might draw a worse guardian

[angryjoe]

Get a grip tbh.

[Koo]

Get a grip tbh.

And this.

[reaper88888]

If your family treats you like this for no reason, go ahead and give them reason, while getting back at your brother at the same time. Castrate your brother while he sleeps.

[Agunimon979]

You've got a bad family, this is the perfect time to become a rebel. Go out and have the time of your life. Your parents don't care when you get home. Stay out late. Go to parties (but play it safe). Hang out with friends. Get out of the house as much as possible. Alot of kids don't get that chance and have very overprotective parents like me and I can't do anything like that.

 

 

 

Or run away to canada. Srsly.

[Powman3]

Do you have any other relatives you can stay with? Because your mom sounds [bleep] crazy.

 

 

 

Seriously. I wouldn't want to stay with her. She blamed you for your dog's arthritis, which, from what I know (which isn't much), is caused by infection or lack of use in the joints of his legs. Unless you're obviously not telling us something, because it can also can be caused by something happening to the joint, any sort of trauma or whatever.

 

 

 

You're not telling us all the info, mate.

 

 

 

No offense dude, but I don't think you should be giving parental advice when you have a thread about your own issues right below this one...

 

 

 

Anyways, stay at home until she does any physical abuse to you. Blaming you for something you didn't do if far from justice to move out of the house.

 

 

 

I wasn't giving him PARENTAL advice. He asked just for advice. And I gave it to him. I can pull away from my own problems to help him with his.

 

 

 

You, my friend, need to lay off, seriously.

 

 

 

I do not agree with Agun. I seriously recommend you find someone else to live with if you don't like living in your current household. At least if you are of age to do so.

[re4p3r1]

ahh parents they get mad when you do nothing and get mad when you do something

 

this is what i do when i cant stand my parents

 

[hide=re4p3r1's life changing secret]go into your room, lock the doors, and turn the music to the highest it'll go[/hide]

[bloodyhatchetbear]

First of all, if you can describe the substance thingy, please do.

 

 

 

Secondly, arthritis is caused by numerous things, but hardly ever caused by someone other than the creature that has it. It's mainly due to old age, and joints wearing out.

 

 

 

Thirdly, if it really is getting bad, call someone you trust, or the authorities, or both. If it was drugs that you found, get your mother some help. It may mean you would have to go into a foster home, but sometimes you need to make choices in your life. This seems to be a very important one. Just figure out exactly what it was that was in that case!

[Zierro]

I have multiple theories:

 

 

 

1.) This was just made up. It sounds like your mother is too irrational to be real. No offense if it really is true, I'm just saying it's possible and it's been done before.

 

 

 

2.) Your mother just doesn't like you. This sounds really depressing, but if it's the case action must be taken or else she will only keep on hurting you. Tell another family member, outside your immediate family, about it. I wouldn't call an official expert though - torn apart families can be really tragic.

 

 

 

3.) You are making a molehill out of an anthill. Your mother might have been joking about the dog's leg, you might be leaving out a vital detail, or you might just be pessimistic and don't look at all the nice things your mom did for you. Sometimes I will think my parents are complete monsters, but then the next day I'll realize how much they sacrifice just to make me happy.

[bloodyhatchetbear]

I wouldn't call an official expert though - torn apart families can be really tragic.

 

 

 

 

I'm going to have to disagree with you on this small point. If there are drugs involved, or physical abuse, sometimes it's best for a child to be taken out of that situation. I've known people who have been brought up in that kind of environment, it's not pretty. They really would have been better off if the state had stepped in.

 

 

 

There are some people in this world who just weren't meant to be parents.

 

 

 

EDIT: Also, a mother not "liking" a child can be considered a form of abuse. It's called emotional abuse. By saying things like that, it can leave a child scarred for life.

[Zierro]

It depends. If everyone in his family are extremely abusive to him then yes, he should get an expert. But if they are nice to him, I doubt breaking up the family and ruining the lives of his siblings too would be such a nice idea.

 

 

 

If you are in an extreme situation, then be my guest. If not, then only tell someone like a grandparent or uncle.