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After reviewing this thread a 4th time, I've decided no one here agrees with me on what "good" screamo is. Same problem with the "Metal" thread. I've always considered myself a metal head...but after reading that thread I was kinda Here's some screamo I listen to: [yes I realize some their genres are off-shoots, but that's beside the point] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDeWaadmBWA[media] [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0Htjqz0KPY http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQVpITyOdc8 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nqvh_XHFrqw http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1V86VfXxSec http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1aYvZs97dw http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_WrVvvxhlxA http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_h21XWouG0 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KviHyXrO7E0 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-2mRGyEFhaM http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LvNvlhzTS54 ...stuff like that

Yeah, well if you happen to look like any of the male characters from that movie, you will be swimming in 14 year old girls.

Same for guys. You should be equals, there shouldn't be superiority in a relationship. Yeah basically. I'm not gonna lie. I like being idolized...but if it's not mutual, it does get rather annoying. I've actually told girls to step off, cause they get so stalker-y. Definiatly not attractive.

Even if he was my closest friend, if that was the way he was dealing with his [cabbage], I wouldn't support it. Just because he's going through rough times, doesn't mean his ex has to suffer. And it sounds like she's suffering a hell of a lot. I'd rather do what looks like the right thing and try to get him and whoever is screwing her over to stop than sympathize when it's not going to help anyone in any way. Being supportive doesn't mean egg him on. It means guide him to the "right" path. I doubt poking fun at him and telling him he's being a bad person is going to make him act like a better person. This is an advice thread. Not a point out whats wrong with him and turn him loose on the world....thread. If you don't like the way someone's acting, advise them to change, and suggest a few things. Being negative towards a person who's already feeling negative doesn't help [unless it leads to some sort of epephiny in rare cases]

Why HELLO there. [i find it odd that [i]every[/i] cheesy pick up line I've ever heard popped into my mind directly after i picked up my jaw]

Good luck! And there's no shame in dodging a bullet. That's not fear of rejection. It's called being sober. And the 13 year old? That's common sense. The physical escalation thing? Tell the girl your interested in hooking up with that you go crazy for girls that make the first move. It might not work every time but when it does...HELL YEAH.

id go with the former baby. make it rain :thumbup: Point ShadowFaxPZ What would I do with $25? Take a chick to a movie and nice long car ride B)

More guys should realize this. Pronto. If anyone wants proof of this, go read my posts in the relationship advice thread. Protip: don't be me. Same bro. Women aren't complicated. They just don't like needy. And they will find an alternative, moral obligations not withstanding.

:thumbsup: Good stuff As for those commenting on Maleficus's situation, things seem very ugly, and I'm sure he doesn't appreciate your sarcastic criticisms. Dude's dealin' witha lot of crap. We got to be here for support. And give him advice. my advice to Maleficus at this point is find something more constructive to surround yourself with, and get the hell away from your ex and all of her arising problems. Back away from her. Back away from her life. Get the hell out. Find something better to do with yourself. Keep talkin' to the new chick, maybe even make a few new friends to make sure your time is properly occupied.

The [bleep]? Seriously. Kids would buy and trade with each other for them. Some kid stole these golden bullet shaped ones off some guys souped up jeep and people were offering to buy him his lunch for that week for the pair. In the end it was just a phase, like pokemon cards and pogs. I vouch for this. Stealing those things off cars/bikes was huge in my area. my buddy pimped his bike out with light up disco balls he got off of some chick's SUV. Fun times :thumbup: As for myself, I used to cut my parent's curtains. That's what they get for leaving scissors within reach of a 3 year old

So you're basically suggesting that he use her as a [bleep] buddy when he knows he doesn't like her. Great advice It's not using her. Obviously he cares about her, otherwise this question wouldn't have even been posted. He would have known right off the bat what was the right decision. I'm actually encouraging him to try to have a relationship which is quite the opposite of a [bleep] buddy. But thanks for the input :thumbup:

I agree that the dating world is an atrocity, but my fear of ending up alone is strong enough that it motivates me through all of the crap.

Adam, the "right" thing for you to do would be end it now. But where's the fun in that? You still have an entire summer to explore this relationship. and who knows? Maybe she'll gain some intellect from being around you more often. The long distance thing sucks, but maybe you'll actually want to try it if you give her a chance now. In your position, I'd continue to date her through the summer, and see how it progresses. If after three months you still can't stand talking to her, then you're moving to a "long distance" anyway, and it won't matter much. I think you're pre-emptively worrying about all of this. and I agree entirely with Promise...love has very little to do with the brain. Have a heart [and your junk gets a vote, too]

It probably wasn't any sort of "personal attack"...but if you've been on the otehr end of it, it sure as hell feels like it. And no amount of teary expanations can truly justify her actions. Sure, she may had waning feelings. But she made no attempt to stop that fact. Never brought it to his attention. Never gave him any sort of warning. And if she really gave a crap as to how he felt, she wouldn't go around sleeping with his 'friends' right after breaking his heart. THAT's what's wrong with this picture. [probably where the "selfishly lost her virginity" was derived from, from the other post] You can't stop your affections from waning. You can't force yourself to love someone (i.e. she couldn't force her affections to stop waning and continue to love Maleficus). Yes she should have spoken to him if she knew what was going on at the time.. but maybe she didn't. I don't know her and I don't have a thorough understanding of what was happening, but you don't always know what your feelings are and how they're changing. Sometimes you won't have that thorough understanding until later when you can reflect on everything that happened. Perhaps she just wasn't really in a position to tell him how she was feeling. I don't know.. just kind of playing devil's advocate here. And I still don't see anything terribly wrong with the situation. I do think she was an idiot for having sex with his friend, but for reasons other than the fact that she had just broken up with Maleficus. My reasons would be that she was an idiot because she clearly had strong opinions on sex before which lead me to believe that she was heavily encouraged into having sex (which is backed up by the fact that she cut the sex short), and also because they had only been "dating" for a week or whatever it was. But those all boil down to MY personal opinions and views on sex rather than her doing something wrong to Maleficus. Maybe that makes me an insensitive person, idk.. My ex certainly thought I was insensitive for starting another relationship right after I broke up with him.. but I see no point in remaining single or w/e just for the sake of it. If you have feelings for someone and no more feelings for your ex, I think you should be with the new person rather than sit around and wait for x amount of time to pass "just because." She did have opinions against it, but this "friend" is a manipulative bastard and likely heavily forced it on her and she just accepted it. Also, ladies and gentlemen, karmas a beautiful, beautiful [bleep]. A friend texted me a few things, she just said this over twitter to someone: "I've been having the worst tummy aches ever for the past couple days and i've been bleeding a lot." "isnt my period because that just ended like 2 weeks ago and ive been bled so much ive actually passed out a few times. im scared " Question: If she goes to the doctors office, since i guess shes planning to, will they be able to tell what happened to her? She'll pretty much become solitary when her parents find out. I hate when that happens. [bleep] finially gets whats coming to her, and then you feel bad for her, and cave and feel worried about her, etc. I do the same bull crap. I really wish I didn't. it would make getting her out of my life so much easier... [why the hell are all of my recent posts about myself?] Don't worry about her. Obviously she's mature enough to have sex, she's responsible enoguh to make her own decisions and handle any subsequent consequences. And yes, the doctors will be able to clearly tell that she has had sex, and assuming that is the problem, they will probably tell her parents.

Be mad at your "friend," not your ex-girlfriend. She's right, she can't help who she has feelings for. Would you have preferred that she stayed with you when she had no more affection for you and was attracted to someone else? I honestly don't see anything wrong with her getting together with someone else right away. I was in a similar situation once. She said her affections for you had been waning for quite some time and clearly her affections for your friend had been growing. It doesn't make sense for her to break up with you and then be single for a few weeks just for the sake of it when she clearly likes someone else and has liked him for a while. But your "friend" was completely out of line for trying to steal your girlfriend when she was with you... No true friend would do that. Now suddenly changing her morals/whatever and having sex with him right away was silly.. but that's her business, her fault. Not worth getting upset over imo. It's not like she cheated on you or anything. So I definitely don't see that as an attack against you. It's totally her decision so while you could be disappointed in her, there's no reason to be MAD at her. I understand that you're hurting but I think most of the pain/anger just comes from losing someone that you love. It's hard but you will make it through. It probably wasn't any sort of "personal attack"...but if you've been on the otehr end of it, it sure as hell feels like it. And no amount of teary expanations can truly justify her actions. Sure, she may had waning feelings. But she made no attempt to stop that fact. Never brought it to his attention. Never gave him any sort of warning. And if she really gave a crap as to how he felt, she wouldn't go around sleeping with his 'friends' right after breaking his heart. THAT's what's wrong with this picture. [probably where the "selfishly lost her virginity" was derived from, from the other post]

Quick question, how do you know this...? He told me right after he told me about his burning bush

I can't decide which of his feats was more impressive 1) flipping off a bunch of gang members 2) throwing a puppy at a bunch of gang members 3) stealing a bulldozer The fact that he did all three in one fell swoop makes him a man of legend.

Taking responsibility Fixing things scratching/belching/farting without care working sweating high fives beer [not lite] cigars tuxedos speed boats racing foot ball fishing weight lifting eating huge sandwhiches paying bills paying for dates beards really muddy work boots short nails short hair ...all of these things contribute to overall manliness

This to the furthest extent. I understand your upset, and will enjoy ranting about this stuff for a while. But your best off dropping it, and letting it rot in the corner of your mind until it disappears forever. You keep mentioning "close friends" and 'BEST friends'. This implies that you are in an environment of a very close-knit group. Tat's all fine and dandy, but by the sound of things, hell is breaking out and the dynamics of that group that everyone seems to have some strong connection to is falling apart. If that group is to retain anybody's will to stick around, you and everyone else are going to have to forget about alot of this highschool-cliche drama crap. I say this from personal experience. We both got the short end of the stick, but I think you and I are handling it a tad differently. You're already moving on with new interests and progressing, but similar to me, you seem to have a lot of rage left. I'm finding myself in and out of rages, but they've become much much less frequent. As for the group dynamics...it sounds like you're just booting your ex and and your other 'friend'. For me, it's a little different. A few of us are moving out to college much further away, and the few that remain I have no interest in being around anymore [mainly my ex]. I'm off in search of a new social group to fit into. And seeing as how this is the begining of my college years, I'm cutting it close. Muggi makes Frats look like a great idea. But, I'm not gonna join one. Not yet anyway. I'm gonna see how freshman year pans out social wise. I'll be joining damn near everything, and hang around campus doing whatever. I got my fingers crossed, and with any stroke of luck I'll even meet the right girl for me. Cause I'm gettin' really sick of looking day in and day out with no results. [Yes, there were a few girls in the past few weeks or so...but due to a multitude of complications, nothing is working in my favor.] Sorry...I ended up making that more about myself than I intended ^^;

EDIT: nvevermind, my connection is just bad

Same. I'd be SOOOO screwed right now without it.

Ah, maleficus. We now share something in common :P chicks man... [bleep] that [bleep]. Get yourself a new one. As it seems like you're already in the process of doing. Which is great :thumbup:. For some reason girls just give into the "bad" guy. On a more manipulative level, this isn't the first time I've seen a relationship progression go from "I have a boy friend" -> "I'll help you get over your ex" -> "OOPS we had sex" -> "Want to date?". There's something about the "I need help getting over my ex" angle that really seems to make highschool age girls jump in bed. I just don't get how so many of them fall for such stupid crap. I got your virtual back, buddy :D We're here for ya

It's the memories. If it was feelings you wouldn't need to be reminded of her to feel them, you're just remembering how you used to feel. Agreed. I actually kind of remember this water polo girl from your earlier posts :lol:. As for my self, I'm teetering on giving up dating virgins. It's not the lack of sex...it's the lack of sexual tension. it's like they're too innocent. Half the time I feel like I'm just hanging out with a friend. Unfortunatly the alternative 'round these parts is something of a [bleep]tier variety. And that definatly doesn't hold my interest very long. :/

Could OP post 3 youtube links [embedding prefered] of "real" screamo and then 3 of "post-hardcore" so we can argue some more?

Dan goes 2-3 times a week? Not bad :thumbup: I agree with tripsis, but as his friend you should literally slap him in the face next time he's just chillin' on his Xbox and his girl is feelin' lonesome. He needs to get his ass in gear. And you have the knowledge to prevent his relationship from falling apart. What would I do? First, I'd hang out with him. When he leans over to turn the woman-shield [aka Xbox 360] on, slap him in the face. When he stares at me in confusion, I'd say "we need to talk". Followed immidiatly by everything his girlfriend has ever told me [you]. If he doesn't realize something is up after that...he doesn't deserve her. ...on the flip side of that...2-3 times a day without orgasm? How do you ladies do it? I'm not saying I have a perfect track record of causing such a miracle...but I always feel so bad when the girl can't finish, or is unsatisfied. And it's usually pretty clearly obvious. Lent: What happened to that chick you were diggin' on that you wanted to "actually" date?