She's not showing you a lack of respect, she's finding it damn hard to assimilate into her new life and you're not making it any easier. No matter how she copes with it, by being annoying at times or whatever, it fundamentally cannot have been easy for her moving over here and trying to start a new life with an already established family. What would she have to do to make you like her? Because if it's do everything you want her to do then that's unreasonable. If you have issues with some of her actions then talk to her, calmly and respectfully like a man. If you start some petty [bleep] for tat thing when she does something you don't like then this clearly won't work. It doesn't take a genius to see that this is hard for you, and some issues like you've described are perfectly understandable. But try to see it from her point of view, and if she's being petty then rise above it. The way you're portraying yourself here is as some spoilt brat around the house who wants to have a [bleep] to try and get some sympathy. That's no way for a man to behave. Exactly. Respect isn't something that just happens. You need to make the first step. You clearly dislike her and show it, I doubt she will make any effort to respect you if this continues. Likewise, it's very difficult for people to blatantly disrespect people who always treat them with respect. You make the first move, she will reciprocate. And if she doesn't, your dad will certainly notice and it will only serve to make her look bad and your case more sympathetic.