for the most part, yeah. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule, but the vast majority of my peers who had drug habits had serious issues in their personal lives in addition to their drug habits.
having a drug habit is indicative of much larger maturity issues too. But if I were to date someone who developed a drug habit while we were dating, that would have to be after they decided to do so despite knowing exactly how I felt about it and how I would react if they did so...hence breaking up.
Why is that a bit drastic? A drug habit is a drastic thing....if my girlfriend developed a drug habit I'd break up with her and not think twice about it.
That(breaking up) should definitely be an option. Depends how strongly he feels about it. I'd say it's not worth bringing up though unless he feels that he might break up over it.
I do think asking someone about their background is a cheap way out of an argument though. Half the time it's just so you can say "oh, you're religious, that explains it" and then just discount everything they say, even if they're making a good point.
I give rpg grief because he says one thing and does another. LL hasn't done that..as long as he's clear about not making a commitment to women, there's nothing "technically" wrong with what he's doing (admittedly I wouldn't do it myself)
Never said it wasn't. But saying that isn't natural or that it's purely a societal construct is illogical.
also: http://www2.macleans.ca/2014/01/09/how-marriage-can-save-your-life/
Darn. I guess that overwhelming feeling of joy I experience whenever I hold a baby must just be because the media told me to have kids. In fact, they're doing such a good job that western civilization has the lowest birth rates in history!
If you think societal programming is all that makes people want kids you're out to lunch. The desire to reproduce is one of the strongest biological impulses we have.
I got a beta invite and have been playing this a little over the past few days, so I thought I'd give it a bump. I did technically sign some NDA so I won't say much other than that it's been pretty enjoyable so far and I'm looking forward to it coming out, I'll probably subscribe for a month at least.
You're already letting your feelings control your actions. You can keep doing it, but it's not going to get easier...it's going to get harder.
How you have the conversation doesn't really matter...the important thing is that you have it. Or else get used to being used, which is essentially what's happening